₦airaland Forum

khia:
I know you are yellow because of that picture you posted when you were 2buff. EEEEW!!
Stalking you, I think not, stop fantasizing.

Which one?

khia:
Stay off of my mentions yellow boy.

How will you know I'm yellow if you're not stalking me?

I don't want you!
Leave me alone!

IKBARUTEN11:
Her life is already in shatters. Masturbations kills physically, spiritually, economically etc
Her chances of staying 2 long in the house is already thin, i wish her earliest exit 4rm d house

So what is she supposed to do?
Judger

Get a hobby.
Your spouse is not your hubby.
You don't always have to be talking. Silence is great too.

It is not your spouse's job to keep you happy or entertained. Only you can make yourself happy.

When you both DO get together to do something and make each other happy, that would be seen as a gift... Not an expectation.

GET A HOBBY.

ChiefThot:
Even though any nigerian female with internet knows that this is a sex trafficing ad, it won't still stop some foolsih ones from contacting this guy.
This is why I don't pity nigerian sex slaves when they start given their sob stories online.

Bitch...you knew what you were getting into. Quit playing.

Yup. This dude sounds like the type to get them eating shit and sucking off dogs in no time

tiredoflife:
If as a man u try to protect a maid
The woman will accuse u of sleeping with the maid

What kind of weak fucker would see a child being abused or a young woman being bullied and will cross hands and say you don't want to be accused of sleeping with her.

That is the most pathetic shit I've hear all day.

I cannot watch someone doing this to a child all in the name of maid and I will be standing there looking. In fact she will know better than to even try such in my presence and/or my house.

The edict I will give the bitch is simple, what you do to that child...I will do to YOU. Be ready to take what you give to someone weaker than you, from someone stronger than you. Her bullshit arguments mean nothing to me after I have given her those words. Nonsense!

I don't understand what kind of bitch men this world is creating these days.

iTroll:
No, no, you've got it all.mixed up.

In the beginning, IG was purely an app made for sharing important memories with the world in form of video and pictures. Its function was to expand and improve on Facebook style and idea of memory sharing.

In the same vein, Snapchat was just an photo/video filter app. You make videos/pictures, filter them and people will rate it on how good and creative your filtering is. They had innocent beginnings.

But over time, these "models" and prostitute corrupted the whole thing.

So what have you now said that is different from what I said?
Abi you just wan correct your manager this morning?

ukaface:
stop body shaming
Just cos she's not thick doesn't mean you should call her names that are uncalled for.

Help me understand something.
Is it only women that people should not body shame?
Because women have said some cruel things about men within my earshot before that makes me pity the man those verbal bullets are shot at.

And ofcourse everyone just laughs at him.
So help me understand why women should not get the same treatment... If you are a fair person.

These fetishes usually arise from a lack (and yearning) of that thing in the person's life prior to them developing a fixation to said thing.

The only person that will fetishize beating is someone who did not chop enough BEAT when they were growing up.
And who else does this apply to than white people?
In their society, parents cannot physically discipline their children without jail.
The child will be acting out but you can't enter their yansh with belt or cane.

The bible was not joking when it said Spare the rod and spoil the child.
If you like build laws against corporal punishment and come up with new age mumbo jumbo to subvert the bible because you are claiming modern science, something inside that child-turned-adult will end up craving it and developing a fixation/fetish out of it as a result.

All I will say is, marry the 3rd one at your own risk.
She feels no desire to level up professionally because she has chosen to rely on her attractiveness to carry her through life. Religious has nothing to do with it.

Be prepared to take on a leech for life and someone who feels that her given you sex is all you should be happy to get from her.

The money thing only works on hungry, wretched female creatures.

Women who are doing alright for themselves require more from you.

White girls

The mere fact that you are a black man will make them fetishize the opportunity to be bleeped by you.

Tell her straight up that food in your house has finished that anytime she is coming she should bring food for you.

Mean it.

Tadeknkeepcalm:
The more important question is why do black people hate themselves?

This.
Black people whine too much.
Look at Nigeria.
It has all it needs to be the best country in the world and a true wakanda.

Can you tell me why it isn't?
Can you tell me why the operational system allows for one woman to steal 23 BILLION USD and then bounce?

Black people keep shitting themselves and killing themselves, then cry and wait for white people to come save them.
This sort of behavior attracts disrespect. Black people are all mouth no action, unless that action is in support of further foolishness.

I can understand a person from another race looking at black people and disrespecting them, when they don't even respect themselves.
No single country run by black people is successful, not even those that are not colonies.

Please.

lekzytaker:
From my dealings with the female folks, I have come to understand certain things about women. Though I do not know the reason why they act like that, sometimes I still find it hard to believe. Personally, I have never been hurt by any lady. Neither have I taken any lady seriously in my life. I am this type of guy that believes in the cultural values of our Fathers. I don't take too much nonsense from these folks.

1.I was chatting with one and she was using an abusive language on me…… I told her to stop, she still continued… I told her to stop it the second time she typed it again. She was like, why am I making this a big deal…. That she was just joking…..bla bla…. Though I have been taking time to study her, to know her true nature……..not the holy holy shit they form to be……. I noticed that she is a saucy girl. Though we still chat..but in my mind I have cut her off…….she cannot be the one…..she sees insult as a norm...it's a joke to her .if I don't drop her now. And she insults me publicly after marriage in front of my friends…..people will say didn't you notice this before marrying her?……..lol
2.Another one was telling me that I did not chat with her properly because I type "Hey" instead of "Hi". ……. I deleted her immediately.
3.Another one was telling me to my face that I was talking shit…….because she sent me some of her pics and I was telling her that it not the type of pics I requested… ..( full pics instead of half pic) you can guess where it ended.

the point I want to make here is that most girls are really cruel and heartless. Though I have cool girls in my life. The ones that value me. And i respect them equally. I do give them gifts from my heart….at will

My experience

1.I have been calling this girl for weeks we talk nice on phone and she responds well. Not every day calling though. Like 3days interval. Then I called her one day like 3 times. She did not pick. Later the same girl was on WhatsApp uploading pics. She did not flash or even indicate that she saw my calls. I chatted her and asked if she did not see my calls. She said she saw it, that she is busy…., well. That was the end for me…..deleted her contact.
2.There was one that I was talking to. I was calling. Texting and even told her my intentions on our first chat. Though she did not give me a direct answer. But her body language was like she has agreed. After many weeks of talks, chats, video calls which were initiated by her mostly. I assumed that she was already serious to me. Then she just changed boom. No more calls, chatting was not flowing as usual. Then I asked what is the problem. That, is this how our relationship would grow. To my surprise lol. She said she does not understand what I meant by relationship. That we have been good friends…...then I reminded her that I made my intentions known at the beginning now. She denied that we ever discussed such. Omo I know say I don enter one chance……... I quickly moved on, no time……...because I don't do emotional dating with girls... I do head dating when dealing with girls.
many others like that. When girls want to be cruel they act cold. And you will be wondering is it not this babe that was doing like an angel. I conclude that women are more heartless than men.

It's called ghosting. It's generally to be expected in this generation. Try not to take it seriously.

Until you have true exclusivity with someone, assume nothing.

zionmde:
Social media is d reason
Facebook, Instagram, nairaland, fake lives, wanting to be or look like someone u have never met, wanting ur hubby or wife to be like someone else u see regularly on social media. Being carried away by the fake appearances, spending more time chatting with others than talking to ur spouse.

Reason why I will never marry a girl dat posts more dan 5 pictures in a month on social media or someone who is very addicted to chatting with people

This is it right here.

It really also depends on the type of social media.
If it's Facebook? That one is ok.
People can post more than just about themselves on Facebook. You can join groups, share news, videos, articles, etc.
Hardly does anyone I know use facebook for narcissistic reasons anymore.

But IG and snapchat regulars are all thots, because there is nothing to do on ig besides posting how the latest paynt you bought yesterday now makes you look thick.

A man would never do this...

Highest urge he will have is to Bleep, which is only human.
Highest urge for women is to torture.

Some women are evil demented fukcs. You just see it in their face and steer clear.

toni4691:
Please my brother dont go to America to marry a nurse . If you ever try it , you would be making the greatest mistake of your life .

Six months after you married her , she will start disrespecting you and crisis will start .

Note , stay in your job . Many opportunities are here in Nigeria .

All the best

This is pessimistic.
If you are in a highly sought field like Tech, there will be no problem.

It's if you are in some "general manager" or "generalist" type thing and you think levels is the same when you come here....that is when you will meet problem.

If you have a specific, targeted, specialized professional occupation that operates the same no matter where in the world you are, like tech/IT, you should not have a problem. And that is why I cautioned OP about ego. In a specialized field you can still have some ego tho, but on some generalist or "manager" thing, just zero your mind say you dey start from lower than you came in. But it's alright, play cards right and you will rise much higher than you came in in no time.

As to the other concern about "Nurse stories"....
The most import thing to watch out for is bringing "Naija man" misbehavior to Yankee.
If your wife is working and still handling house matters, your own is not to sit down and be looking at her. Make your presence felt. There is no thing like "only woman does that". That behavior os the primary thing I would say you watch out for, before you watch out for "nurse".

Unless the woman was sent by hell itself, of which the chances of that are low, if you treat her the way you would also like to be treated you will be fine.

hesilo:
Thanks again. This certainly is a good advice

No yawa. Where is she based? And what specific field of IT are you?

Feel free to DM me.

hesilo:
I really don't think that's what she wants tho. She's actually is the person who wants me to come over and has more encouraging words that i would get a job quicker since I'm in IT. I still get your point tho my only fear is going there to get a job where i will have to put in more effort to count. I already have gotten to a supervisory position here and would be heading for a higher position in no time, otherwise i would be considering her advice without a second thought

Bro, I suggest you drop high ego and title-seeking initially for now when you get here. There will be room for that later. Your major target is to learn, because you WILL have a lot to learn here.

Here, very few people in IT work for the same company for very long, and that's at the choice of the IT worker e.g better pay elsewhere. It's a good field to be.

For you, before burdening yourself with excessive work responsibility that comes with leadership (aka title), come in as a normal IT guy first and acclimatize yourself to *everything* first. It's a lot to take in moving to a different country and you will need to experience how things are here from different perspectives to properly understand how to lead in this environment.

In very short time, If you truly are a leader, you will rise quick with whatever company you choose to settle in. These companies are always on the lookout for true leaders.

Most Women are incapable of loving a man she cannot leech from somehow. That kind of love is not in their majority system. Only men can and are expected to love like that.

But I will say that as an IT professional, you can do far better out where she is, if you are willing to update your skills. #400k in Naija will look like swear for you if you make the transition. The US is the best place to be a tech worker when you consider income vs expenses.

The more important question is, what is your estimation of this woman's ability to stay the course when things are not going well? Is she the your that gets frustrated at every opportunity or is she the type that is always calm and in fact encourages others?

I think it would be a good move to transition to her end.
But WHILE YOU WAIT in Naija for processing, do not twiddle your thumbs! I don't know what field you are in IT, but get yourself some Solid cloud certifications like AWS, Azure, Google. These will help in your job search. Everyone in any kind of tech field wil l benefit from those things right now.

Also, 2 more questions can help me give you a more strategic response: Where is she based? And what specific field of IT are you?

Depend. If it's just him, Then he would have to try and beat both of us at the same time.

If he has back up, then we will need backup i.e police.

Required

Bloody racist white nationalist in the White house responsible for all the anti-immigration policies.
https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2019/11/12/stephen-millers-affinity-white-nationalism-revealed-leaked-emails

Very stable genius

Someone7:
Trump isolating himself with these policies. Does the man think? Who advises him?

Stephen Miller. A well known inhumane white supremacist.

netpro:
Due to poor response and management, Trump has to bear the blame for the deaths of over 130,000 Americans.

Trump will be voted out come November.

He's just throwing tantrums before he leaves

Bump

Humans are naturally value-seeking. It's called survival.
Value is primarily extracted from existence by sweat.

At some point, humans discovered the wisdom in trade.
Trade is an exchange of value between 2 or more humans.
Trade is the primary way large healthy economies are built.

Unfortunately, there are other types of humans who try to beat the system of trade.
They scheme to generate value for themselves, without any sweat or value of their own.

Existence cannot be (legally) manipulated to extract anything from it without sweat.
So the next best thing for these sorts of humans is to manipulate other humans for their sweat (slavery) and/or their value (419).
All with little or nothing to exchange for equivalent sweat/value.

This type of human is called a bum.

Anyone who is against signing a prenup when attempting to marry another human being that has built up considerable more value than they have.... is a bum!

This may not be a huge issue in Nigeria with its fair, common-sense laws regarding these things (though this is changing). In western societies, marriage combined with divorce is a bait-and-switch, legally enforced manipulation tactic judiciously employed by bums to oppress other human beings and extract value (and sometimes continued future value) from their victims.

If you have hustled, and built and are bringing so much value into a marriage, yet the other person has just been gypsying through life and has brought little to no value into said marriage, do yourself an epic favor by having them sign a prenup so as to protect the value you are bringing into the union in the event of a future split.

If the other person is not a 419er, they will understand!
And if they are not bums themselves and/or are also bringing considerable value in, they will even be happy you brought it up and will probably want you to sign one too.

Left to 2Buff, I would say make sure you don't marry a bum. But if you must, make sure they sign a prenup.

NairalandSARS:
Maybe she is more successful.

Watch the video and hear the complaints.
Seems she abused the powers that US gave her....as per standard when you go and marry some unknown entity from naij.

A funny caricature of real life stories.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXYZyWsIX6g