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Is this the same Pslm23 from the IVF thread? Oh, so sorry about this. God will help you recover. . I have followed your struggles and was hoping you will succeed. Let time do its job.

Good girl, don't worry it will all passover. The most important thing is that you have and will learn the hard way how right your parents are. Now is time for you to close your legs and focus on life. Forget the BF. Odds are he has run away. This is why I told you not to contact him, so that they can talk to him. You will most likely not hear from him again. I hope reality is dawning on how stupid you were. The guy is no longer your bf. This is why your parents said no dating. Your mind is tOo young to grasp reality. Is it that your pareknts don't show you enough love that you are so desperate for the love from a stranger? What exactly is your problem? Anyway, keep us updated.

Very good. And please threaten them with drastic actions. That is the only language they understand. It seems their political positions are more important than Nigerian's. N5,000 just doest make any sense at all. I now see why all these awards were given to members of NASS recently. Honestly, they should ban awards and things that seem to come with inducements from members of NASS till they leave office. I smell undercover bribes

madu97: did u guys already address this issue to a girl yesterday?i didnt know that. well what was her decision mybe it cud help me out. okay so my bf has been callin n txtn me to come over but i havent replied bcus im scared i might tell him im pregnant on accident or something worse will happen. n now he sent a mean txt tellin me i am good for nothing and dat he knos im ignorin him on purpose because im cheatin on him. shud i reply back n tell him im not cheatin? wat if he asks y i have been ignorin him, wat excuse do i use? my younger brother noticed dat ive been depressed n cryin lately n he went n told my parents n now my parents keep questionin me askin wats wrong, i told dem noting but i kno they r still suspicious. does any1 have n excuse i can tell them also atleast till i figure out wat im gona do? n i think i need to reduce how i get on this forum becus i thnk my parents told my siblins 2 b watchin me n i dont want them 2 know abt this. omg, wat do i do?

What is this boyfriends background? What can you tell us about all you know about him? Stay away from him for now till you resolve issues with your parents through your aunty and her older boyfriend. Don't call, text or cry. Be brave and ask your aunty and her boyfriend to come and see you. That it is important because you have something to tell them.

madu97: her boyfriend is in his 30s, i think like 33, so mayb she wont b to quick to report my bf since her bf is also older.

Oh ok, fantastic idea. You are a very smart girl.

obowunmi: If this teacher is NOT a good person, he has an obligation to report this case to ACS (children services) and the police.

1. Your boyfriend will be arrested.
2. Your parents might be arrested too..
3. You will be removed from your home and put in foster care because it shows that your parents cannot take care of you by allowing your "ra,pi,st" to ra,,pe you under their care.

Tell your parents or siblings first before telling a teacher.

A fe ko sofun awon obi e. On so gbo gbo eleyi. O fe ko salo ni? Die die la ma tan lati so otito. Chill. . Omode leleyi. O shi ma ma ronu bi adiye. Abi ewo ni ti e pelu nkan to ma shele si molester?

madu97: okay so i think i have a teacher in mind that i can confide in, my world history teacher mr.busch is really nice and understanding. but wat if he asks who is responsible? do i hv to tell him abt my bf? wat if wen he tells my parents abt this he tells them abt my bf?

You don't have to tell the guidance counsellor who is responsible. Just tell him that you need him to help you break the news to them. They will handle it from there. I don't think your parents will blow it up as much as you are afraid they will. If they do, people will know that this upstanding family has someone like you in it. Don't tell the counsellor about being beaten before either. . At least that ensures you have potential financial support and future baby sitters if you all agree to keep the baby. If you say they beat you, they can deny it and you have no proof. Also they are allowed to discipline their child, only the state can determine when it reaches the abusive stage. Since you have now realised you are incapable of making sound decisions at this point in your life, let your parents make the decision henceforth. Close your legs after this and face your books.

Ok, I thought of a solution for you. Do you have a favorite teacher? Or a guidiance counselor in school you can talk to. Break the news to the teacher and tell them you are afraid to tell your parents because they are too strict and mean. They will call your parents into school and have a long, hard talk with them. Nigerian's don't like disgrace so they will try to deal with this as quietly as possible. Just make sure the teacher is not Nigerian. Also have the teacher let them know that she will be following up on your case. Your parents will be reluctant to beat you. Try a white teacher.LOL

You think your parents are mean because they want the best for you, you think they are mean because your friends parents let them smoke, smoke weed, go to parties and mess up their future. Think about this, if you weren't rebelious and foolsih will you be where you are right now? If you listened to them will you have a man? You think of yourself as a woman, get this into your brain, you are a CHILD, who has no business being with a man. Your parents will not kill you, your dad will not kill anyone. They said that to keep you in line. No man will be foolish enough to kill himself for a dumb, and shameful child like you. What do you know about love? From Justin Beiber? By the time you realise that you have been brain washed, and made the most foolish mistake of your life, you will realise that you are not in love anymore. How are you sure you are this BF's first victim? Am sure if your parents do investigations he is probably a registered sex offender. Don't run away. Sit your mum down and tell her. She will tell your dad and they won't beat, starve or kill you. These are Nigerian's that suffered to give you a good life, they won't mess up their own lives because you chose to be silly. Goodluck.

I hope the parents are monitoring her internet activity. This is why I don't support BB, Android or Iphone for kids. OP, tell your parents. That cheap abortion will cause your death. You have been used, taken advantage of and abused. As soon as you become an adult your boyfriend will chase you away. That is guaranteed. He is sick, and only likes underaged girls. This love won't last past one year. Tell him and also risk death because he will try to cover up his crime. He can't take you to an abortion clinic and you can't get an abortion without parental consent in the US when you are undrr 18

Was it not announced that they should go to the nearest office to get a refund. So why are they camping at the airport. . Why not rebook a flight on a different carrier and go to your agent for a refund?

Another super story. Someone was very busy yesterday. Who wasted time on this.

This is an obvious super story. You seem to live abroad. Tell your parents and they will know what to do. There are two options: The guy will have to marry you by parental consent or risk going to jail for a very long time, and getting a record as a rapist of a minor. Option 2, your parents get you an abortion if they decide you are not ready. At 15 you are still a little kid. And from what I have read, a very stu*pid one. Make hay while the sun shines and tell your parents before your belly starts growing. Odds are your molester will dump you when you reach 18. He like little girls. Your time will soon pass for him. So, you decide. Your life, your decision.

So people are getting killed for girls, not shifting fast enough or taking someone's seat. Is that how cheap life is now? I believe a school and students with zero tolerance for cultists will eradicate cultism. They should catch these guys and let them face the firing squad. They are irrepairably destroyed animals. Instead of SSS wasting their time being body guards they should send special agents to infiltrate university cults. People will be too afraid to join. A waste. RIP to the young, promising guy.Cultism is useless and makes no logical or mental sense. What is the gain? To be a hard guy? And then in future you commit suicide because you realise how a very stupid kid you were when your demons can't stop chasing you. If your life is so cheap to you that you waste it by joining cults, rather join student union and fight for change. You can even go to the NASS and fight physically if you are a hard guy and brave. Instead of killing defenseless kids in the dark. Very cowardly.

She can request the school to put their names on the back of their uniforms. Like Jersey. But how did she do this? What happened to China's 1 child policy? I guess multiple births is the loophole.

Have your husband tell him to calm down so he doesn't get hypertension. But not in front of you or tell him you suggested. You see, our parents become like our kids as they grow older. They listen to us so they don't drive us away or keep their grandkids away.this depends on the kind of spouse you have. Hopefully when you fight, he does not tell his family you are irritated by them. . I suggest you mind your business. The guy is the head of that family and no one will take an insult from you.

Maybe she can come and post the story here. Romance is too childish

Did you get married to a boy still living in his parents house? Are both of you dependent on the parents? If this is true, you better keep quiet and take it since he is feeding you. Either that or you risk having the whole family turn on you with your need to correct a grand father. Keep out of his way if it is too much for you. Am sure your presence or family dependence on him is annoying too. If you don't rely on him for anything, then keep your opinions to yourself. Am sure you have bigger issues to worry about.

Golf will be your biggest mistake. . You will be at the mechanic more than you can afford. Go with a Toyota preferably. Low fuel consumption and low maintenance. I have experienced the horrors of Golf.

shymexx: I saw that on her twitter page.

Its a motherless baby. . Shes giving back to Nigeria. And all Nigerians can do is criticize her. SMH . She is also 100% natural. So they say

all4naija: What you don't get is hike in price, people's wealth to personal and enriching their family with the wealth that belong to the nation. When are we going to learn from our mistakes?! You are placing them where they don't belong. They are corrupt leaders who sucked this country dry!

They are not qualified to handle this plans.

You do realise that electricity is made up of Generation, Distribution and Transmission right . Am not an Engineer, so i cant break it down for you. The thing is electricity is expensive all round. And quite frankly at the end of the day, it may even be only one of these companies that will survive or they may all merge into one. Electricity costs can be regulated or subsidized by the government to a level because they still retain a stake in the Electricity Generation side (the most expensive and unprofitable side).Even the US subsidizes its electricity heavily . Their success depends on their efficiency and competency. Afterall Nigerian's still have an alternative. Generator.

shymexx: So the slag also has a kid named; Ayobami? Whores and children shouldn't mix, who impregnated this slut?

She should've swallowed the s.emen, or take it on her face - and save humanity another waste generation of re.tards.

I dont think she has kids

If you insist, please find a Toyota or Honda. They are more reliable and low maintenance. You can start with a 99 Toyota for instance.

Have you considered the amount it will cost you to take a transport vehicle vs the amount to buy a car and maintain over the next 5 years? I dont support taking a loan for something that does not generate some income. I suggest you get a loan to start a business and use the money from that business to buy a used car instead. . A car depreciates too fast. Maintenance is another issue. If you live in Lagos, transportation is quite good with the emergence of BRT. We all go through tough times and inconveniences which only last for a short while if we are determined. Just work hard and have a goal, you will achieve it. Dont measure your life by how others are living. The less debt you have, the longer your life span. Take debt very wisely, because at the end of the day, a 700k loan can turn to a 1.4m naira debt after interest and late fees

This babe keeps single handedly taking Nigerian's on with their hypocrisy. I like am sha! Nigerian's are too ashamed of her, especially Igbo's. But she wont go away. . Shes an air head, so she can never get it

eGuerrilla: Thanks for providing some perspective here Gbawe.

I always worry about the temperament a commentator who unwaveringly supports the arrogation of so much of our commonwealth in the hands of one individual.

How can anyone on good conscience not be concerned about the sanctity of a BPE-lead privatization exercise, which has demonstrably not only failed to ensure the delivery of good quality service to the general public hitherto, but also set aside much needed reforms which favour greater transparency and less cronyism?

Clearly, @2mch sees little wrong with the elevation of Babangida, Abdulsalami and Tinubu as oligarchs via a process which produced the so-called Oil cabal, even as others of a similar hue have demonstrated absolute control over commodity-prices, much to the detriment of the average Nigerian family.

I am not so sure what running a company has to do with my earlier comment, but certainly recognise that going off a tangent when sound reasoning fails has long been the hallmark of classic neo-liberals.

SMH. I am actually a moderate, but more towards the republican side. My views are very neutral and realistic, i dont pander to unnecessary sentiment and emotion. We are too capitalist as a society for all that. . Give an alternative and how you think is the best way to sell the distribution companies please.

hercules07: I believe the sector should be deregulated, my fear with privatization is that they are about creating regional monopolies, why not just deregulate the sector and let there be many players. The Nigerian companies will definitely rely on foreign guys, but, there should be a plan driven by the regulators to reverse that in a decade or two.

Electricity is mostly run by monopolies though. Because it is capital intensive.

all4naija: Private with no records than planned rip-offs?!

Electricity is very very expensive to run and maintain and requires a high level of efficiency and competency. These guys if they are going there to steal will fail, trust me on that. . When they realize this, the distribution units will be back up for sale.

all4naija: That is the simple reason the country will remain what it is, for the simple reason of people like you. The truth is that there is no nation that is self-sufficient in this area. We are going to see at the end these greedy individual are going to bring in foreigners to run them when they start falling out of place.

Yes, I can be forced to leave my job if I found wanting in the area of corruption. There is no way such a thing can happened in advanced nation, if a leaders is found with corrupt practices and be allowed to purchase government plans which are very important to the nation progress. Jeez! Are you for real?! Or just like to speak shiits for speaking sake?

Dude, i really dont get you. You said anything in the hands of a Nigerian= incompetency. I asked you to give up your job to a foreigner since they have better brains and are more competent that you. But you are accusing me of what? Confronting you with your hypocrisy? Anyway, i dont know about other regions, all i see is that in the SW the people bidding have a history of performance in their companies. This article was put here to put a certain Tinubu in the limelight and discredit him. Hate him all you want, the fact remains he runs his companies well. I am not a fan of the dude by the way.

Gbawe: Guy, come on !!! Are you not just reaching now? "National security"? Are you kidding me? Who will do the job on behalf of the Nigerian bidders? The World-class Nigerian distribution/transmission/generation Companies IBB and Tinubu have been running for the past 4 decades? We don't produce world-class engineering firms in Nigeria. That is not our strength and is unlikely to be for the foreseeable future !!!! We should face reality.

Is it okay for Tinubu et al to win bids and literally sub-contract, which they must, to the foreign Companies with the real technocratic knowledge and capacity to deliver solutions? A lot is lost "in translation" doing that. I don't back the idea of consortium arrangement for the "biggest black nation" on Earth. Let Nigeria enter into arrangement directly as an exponent of National ambition. Do many Nigerians know that Otedola even suggested that the fuel subsidy scam would not exist if Nigeria did not make room for it via creating marketers when they can enter into direct arrangement with refineries abroad?

We all know those who have the capacity to carry out what needs to be done. Why does Nigeria need profiteering middlemen? Where would Ghana be today if a crony of Government became National telecom carrier only for it to be reliant completely on the training, manpower, technology modules and expertise of Vodafone in an inefficiently adhoc arrangement?

Dude stop picking a sentence and arguing. These are private companies now and will be more accountable. They have already bid and are going to buy it. Nothing can be done about that, because you cannot prove that they are not qualified to win the bid. If we keep making excuses for corruption and running from our shadow we will not move forward. Something like light is not oil which can just disappear like that, in which you are trying to make a comparison. If the people are not satisfied am sure these private companies will feel the heat. Am done arguing in circles here.

all4naija: All this national security in this area is a crap. It is crappy talk. They exist everywhere in the world. If the government can't manage it any more it should look for competent investor abroad. Nigerian criminals(past leaders) are not just good enough to run this sector. Power distribution in that country is now destined for the worse in the regard to me.

Just imagine with their dictatorial and primitive pomposity would have on these parts of the PHCN? Any slight disagreement about the individual origin of wealth for purchasing the plan would result in hick in price of supply failure. These are primitive individuals with sole aim of pride and being worship!

Sure everything about Nigeria or being Nigerian is bad. Why dont you give up your job and invite a foreigner to take the position then, since you are incompetent and corrupt. Or dont you think our government is a reflection of us? Most of the big foreign companies, how did you think they made it? Competition or government favors/support. Pick your choice. There is corruption all over the world. The worst is in China, where oppression is added to the corruption. Severe oppression. In our eyes they are better, but we see how they treat their Nigerian employees and how they cut corners. We can never get better if we dont try to challenge ourselves and our brains, to become more civilized. The worst dictators have been killed like church rats and their stolen wealth all repossessed. So what is your point? The fact of the matter is the people hold their fate in their hands. No one person can ever rule others for long. Not if you are the Queen of England which is now more of a ceremonial position, imo.

Gbawe: Guy, you blatantly spoke as if his opinion was flawed by asking rhetorically and incongruously whether he has ever "run a Company before". What has that got to do with anything? When, Ghana accepted Vodafone's overture do you think there were no cronies of Government who could have put up an "interesting bid" that would then have been accepted as "the best bid"? It did not happen because those in leadership shunned parochial interest to support what is best for Ghana. The same can happen in Nigeria but probably won't because of how Nigerians perceive issues. Here you talk of "complain, complain no action" and Nigerian youths not being interested in starting Companies. Who do you expect action from?

I must ask you what that talk has to do with the notion of getting world-class Companies to help Nigeria devise solutions to problems that require top-level expertise. This is what Eguerrilla was talking about i.e our leaders, as they alone can do, shunning a need to parochially and selfishly create an Oligarchic class and doing what is meritoriously best for Nigeria !!!! This is simply about our leaders ensuring square pegs are deployed for square holes, for this pivotal stage in our history, instead of ruining things with their usual greed !!! Did we not see OBJ ruin the NIPP scheme with parochial actions such as conceding contracts to a Company that was a front for his daughter? Are we condemned to never learn in Nigeria?

If you appreciate the globalised world we live in, that sees England importing electronics because of the reality of comparative advantage, you will realise that issues are about pragmatically sourcing adequate solutions, wherever it is from, for serious problems preventing Nations from developing optimally.

I don't think many Ghanaians care that a Ghanaian company did not become the national telecom carrier when they are enjoying the very adequate services that is enabling them to e-trade, provide local SME wealth and employment via a greater volume of trade facilitated through the ability to reach Chinese, American, British and German customers with the click of a mouse. I really don't see the relevance of your nationalistic talk here.

So what you are advocating here is that the bids are open to foreign companies. Your case in point here is Ghana. The fact remains that Africa is the only continent stupid enough to put their most important sectors in the hands of foreigners. There is something called National Security. National Security covers electricity, food, water, communication, and mineral resources. When you hand this to foreigners you essentially give them the power to control your government. These people even fly in their own nationals to come and take Nigerian jobs. For us to seem less patriotic and more global, you will prefer to add to the 70% poverty rate you seem so concerned about. Trust me, with that kind of mindset Nigeria will never get out of corruption. Companies especially the foreign ones understand that corruption is key to controlling the government. They are as bad or even worse than Nigerian companies, they even have more resources to bribe. For now these are the people that we have who can buy our assets. I think in the generating companies the FG intends to hold part ownership and sell part ownership to foreign companies. I think young Nigerian's should take the initiative and start coming up with companies that can bid for the generating units. I will rather have someone that can be held by the neck when the country gets better, than someone that is protected by more influential powers, and who contributes minimally to the economy in the way of jobs.