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The guy probably married a widow, thinking he can take advantage. Climb social ladder and inherit her wealth all through a marriage that is not legal. HINT:All her documents are in the name of her kids" Why will she want to give her husbands property to another man's child? It seems the use for this woman has come to an end. Kindly tell her she is no longer useful to you and move on with your life. I will not advise that you have a child outside, this your second wife will chase you away, and destroy you. There, you will lose everything. Just discuss with her and come to a mutual agreement. Also, having a child outside wedlock or an "arrangement" is usually the worst decision you can ever make. Kind of like setting yourself up for big issues in the future. That child you are looking for deserves the best possible opportunity you can give it. Your son also deserves a semi stable home. Although I doubt he will ever get treated fairly no matter who you marry. As you are selfish, so is everyone else. Goodluck to you. In the process of looking for what you want, try to be clean about it. End relationships like the mature person you are before jumping on another one. So you don't burn bridges and you and future wifey are not stripped of all possesions by madam widow.

I also doubt that wife number 1 was sleeping with your uncle. Are you sure about this or you are one of those people that act on rumours. Maybe your uncle has been helping your family out and you suspect they are sleeping together because they are close.  . If you have conclusive evidence then no qualms. I also sense you doubt the paternity of your son. I hope you have not abandoned him because of your suspicions. Have you done DNA? You seem very impulsive

I dont see this topic in the article . OP again with his sensational stories.

Kudo's to you, you did the best you could. I find it hard to believe that you, a total stranger could run around for mother and child. But the husband's sister was no where to be found. But at the boys death, had money to hire taxi to come and pick up the corpse and bury. hmm. God will bless you. Just take it as evidence of the cycle of life. He can suffer no more. My blood group is O too, and we are universal donors but not too many people have O blood types. Maybe you could have advertised on NL. But that is all over now. Such is the futility of life, and the problems the Nigerians face because of our acceptance of corruption.

What a mess. First go and divorce wife 1 correctly and legally, if you cannot continue with that marriage. Second, divorce wife number 2 through traditional means. And then take your time with number 3. I really dont see why you are jumping up and down. You have a son from wife number 1 right? Have you taken the time to talk to wife number 2 on how important kids are to you in a marriage? Have you both gone to see different doctors to get different opinions on her case? Take it easy man. Stop having plan b's in marriage. You are not in a relationship anymore, you are married. Leave those small girls alone. And divorce your 2 wives first, before jumping to number 3. Quite friankly i think you will keep marrying and divorcing because marriage is child's play to you. Wife 3 will be too stubborn and then on to wife 4. Before you become 2baba, take am easy.

IfeLuvely:
2mch thanks for asking, we got married  .  And the baby will be here soon, as tiring as it is,

So how come you are planning to travel for a program when your marriage is so young. Also with a small baby. for a first time mother i advise you stay where you can get a lot of help. Except if the whole family is relocating then its all good. I think its a bit too soon. But your life, your decision. Good luck, and good to hear it all worked out, as risky as it was.

People should learn to think of tomorrow and not today. How will your kids look at you years down the line. At some point in time we all become less active and unable to earn the same amount of income or yansh properly. It is this same family we create today that is our backup plan. Then what will happen after destroying this. Do we go back to that same family we have rubbished? Will you be happy if same is done to your son/daughter? Your wife/husband is someone else's son/daughter, please let us be reasonable and think more. People should be responsible for their actions. When you decide to become a family man/woman, act accordingly and respect yourself and your family. If you dont respect your husband/wife, dont expect outsiders to respect him/her.   . I dont understand why people are determined to tear down what can be an empire and something to be proud of for generations, just for 5 minutes of pleasure. The energy and money that you use on all these activities if invested in your family will reap uncountable benefits. If a sex addict will keep you faithful, marry a sex addict. Whatever you cannot do without and will keep you faithful, make sure your spouse has the attribute.

[quote author=alj_harem link=topic=773867.msg9268090#msg9268090 date=1317654198]thank you

so if you know all this why not tell you southern brothers and sisters to stop insulting and blaming the hausa/fulani and kanuri of northern Nigeria for the woos of Nigeria today

if there is riot in the north whether it done by us or not you people are quick to blame us

why?

i guess this is a wake up call for Northerners[/quote]

arsenefc:
Yeah, I hope it happens, Again.



Remember Biafra. I am hoping and praying for another Biafra. I am sick of the lazy, dirty, stupiddddd Ibos. They need to be wiped off Naija's map.

wow, this is quite extreme and unnecessary. Why hate anyone?

Trees are good for the environment, and help prevent soil erosion which is a big problem in Nigeria. I support this.

ak47mann:
dream on fake news carried by yoruba I.N.C.E.S.T. na2day
abt bianca you can download her pix from the net and self-service urself silly we no you have been fantasizing her both in dream and reality but your dream ends on your broken laptop or PC.

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ROFLMAO

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Militants

Argggh, so i just did a pregnancy test, and there were two lines on the stick this was semi planned by my fiance and I by the way. He was moving back to Nigeria, and i didn't want him to leave me in jand just like that, eventhough he has always promised no matter where he is its me n him. So now that im pregnant I kno my parents will be upset and want me to get married as soon as before i start to show, this doesnt leave a lot of time, although we have been saving up for getting married, me personally would like to have the baby before we get married, so NL what will you advice, do it my way (I.e get married after the baby) or do it my parents way (i.e get married in the next 2 -3 months) Please urgent advice needed from mature people. Thanks!!!!!

What happened to this plan if you dont mind me asking. Did the guy run? . You can use google for all your requests. Good luck to you.

Very few boarding schools are what they used to be these days. I would prefer day schools, so that the children can be closely monitored.

[quote author=South-East link=topic=773418.msg9267769#msg9267769 date=1317651031]Who is the loser here?

You fought us and as losers in the war, it is perfectly expected that we will suffer political consequences
You are the winner, yet you are the one now suffering and writing tons of articles about your marginalization all over the damn place. What an irony.[/quote]Click on this link and see the effects of the federal presence you now have

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-773889.0.html

Unreal. This sounds twisted and a bit perverted.

blank:
Pls, try this. Do not laugh at me o. No be me get am.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-595035.0.html

Interesting? So can you enlighten us on this calendar? The vertical 2 digit information i am assuming is the age, but i am confused by the month. Is it the month of conception or the month of birth. . I really dont want to laugh but this calendar is beyond hilarious. Any idea on success rate? Or you got this from an astronomy site.

I have always wondered why people pack into other families homes? There is bound to be conflict, and you will be taken for granted. You living in his house will not force him to marry you. Are your parents homeless? Why move into another person's house when the guy has not married you. I dont understand. Maybe its a womanly thing. . More appaling is that after the first mistake, you decide to be careless with someone else, especially someone living under the parents roof. Nigerian's dont have too much respect for single mother's, so i can imagine their opinion and the things that must have been said to you. Where is this other 12year old by the way. You have time to go and play housewife and inlaw in another person's house, but leave your first child where? . Respect yourself and get your own place and a job. The parents are not entitled to feed you and your child. You and the guy made the mistake so you both must carry the cross. His family dont owe you anything.

I wonder why the first place you came to was Nairaland to seek advice when your son has such an issue. When it comes to sensitive and reproductive body parts do not waste any time. Go to your hospital as soon as possible. Dont let the boy grow up and blame you for his problems in the future. Just go to a teaching hospital. And before you operate on such a place ask for more than one doctors opinion and the best way to go around it. This is not a joking matter.

They are both consenting adults and need the company. On the flip side your friend may be feeling that they are intruding on her privacy by being together. Sometimes when there are clear lines between inlaws it makes issues a bit more manageable and objective. But this union now, both are now her parents as well as inlaw.  . They have already started the relationship. She should tell her spouse. If he is comfortable, they should make the two teenagers tell their children. They deserve a new start and happiness if that is what they have found. . No child wants to believe their parent can find someone else attractive and sleep with them after losing another parent, but life is for the living and it must go on.

jennykadry:
I was expecting to you start with mother but na father you start with? . Don't worry ehn, that na NLD style when the insult don dey pain them, they start involving family members. My maternal Grand ma is still alive, so please add her to the list.

Sharrapppppp diaaaaa anu ofia. May devil mess on ya bald head. bleeping lunatic, [size=14pt]forkable b/a/s/t/a/r/d[/size]. slowpoke, oloriburuku oshi. See his head like what was made from a coconut, azzwipe oshi. C[size=14pt]'mon carry that ya STD infested prick comot for my face and while you are at it,[/size] please use a stick tape to cover ya smell smell an/u/s almost poking out due to ya g/a/y/ action.

Senseless pig, carry ya poverty stricken and sex starved pen?is comot hiaaaa before I forget I am a christian and donate it to red cross. ,D

See me see wahala with my Joystick and you. Take it easy, you are crazy. Dont kill yourself. You sound like a cheap angry rat matter of fact. You say your rantings are paining me, but you are here killing yourself with every response because you know the truth has come to stay. You have serious mental and generational problems synonymous with intimate abuse. hahahaha. .

OP i am sorry, but you know NL, some famous mental cases are meant to be dealt with at once.

OP,

See your doctor and let him talk to you about the possibility of having a 4th child and its sex. They sometimes can refer you to specialist doctors abroad who can help your case. There is nothing strange about your request.

jennykadry:
Lol, ode oshi. Don't worry ehn, I have been called names on this forum. No shaking . Infact I have been banned cos of my trouble making ways a million times and I am shocked that this ID is still going strong, guess Seun knew I had run out of ID's

Now back to the issue at hand. So if men wan come out, you go follow come out? You reach to call boy talk less of men? . Please save your half a gallon of s/p/e/r/m for those useless gurls you collect 20 naira to visit the cafe. Your fluid even when inserted into the down below of a teenager will record ''Error, please check for infection, eliminate any akamu and wash off with normal saline''. . .  please sgop fantasizing about me. I do not hold they keys to your first precipitate.

We know your father has been feeding you with Fluid before your husband came along. Not much can be expected from damaged and destroyed goods. I told you you are a cheap rat. Only cheap rats will talk like you do. No self respecting human being would. Take constructive criticisms (you are a cheap rat) and stop alluding to things you are not. I am sure your husband will agree that he made a mistake marrying you. True talk. Take it easy, and easy on the Fluid fascination, you sound really cheap and stup*id . People respect Chaircover but not you, i wonder why. Small cheap rat.

jennykadry:
STFU dumb shyt . Who cares if you respond? I never get tired of replying small guiness bottle looking puzzzziesss like you . Yes, I am mental, my location has made it clear for years, so na now you know? Slow man-lover.

I live in Yaba left. Swallow it down or choke on it, bleeping reeeetarrrddeeeeee

Since you are so thirsty for spe*rm and bodily fluid, i suggest you go and suck on the various retards that give you the opportunity to have internet.  Mine is too precious for a wild animal like you. Cheap rat. Which married woman will be shouting about Joystick and Fluid? hahahha. so cheap. Who married this thing? Responding to it is even ridiculous. It has showed its true nature. This thing is a fraud.

jennykadry:
Lol, all I asked is for him to defend his answers and he is squirting his seeeeemeeennn on my head. Face front boy, and answer my question. Confused tout. Look at him jumping up and down and masturbati/n/g with my posts. it's been a while hasn't it? Eeyyaaaaa, put your s///pe/rm to good use and stop being a psychotic low lifed b/as/sta/rd.

Onye ara.

You are a cheap rat. See what you are saying. Who will marry such an animal and call it wife. hahahhaha. Cheap monkey full of lies.

jennykadry:
Lol, look at him venting like a woman. Take a deep breathe, I am no threat to you. All I ask is STFU before yoou kill someone with your community high school advise.

You are a mental case, no two words about it. Dont think you can open your cheap mouth to everyone on this site. Some people will respond. Cheap rat.

jennykadry:
^^ Lol, I struck a nerve,D. Suck a dyyk and if it is not enough, get another one and suck on it too. Answer my question and stop being an azzhole. Where have I publicized a million times my profession here?

Shameless piece of trash.

silly lowdown useless trash. I wonder which man will marry such crap like you. What a shame. chai. Animal. With this kind of attitude you run around here with i wonder who keeps you in a cage. I also wonder about all your contradicting know it all stories about what you actually are. Seems a load of bullsh*it. Enough of talking with this dimwit. OP the maximum due to safety of mother and child as advised by Doctors is 4. This is why i said speak with your Doctor and not this toilet washer masquerading as a health care professional.

jennykadry:
First off, I am not a nurse and please quote where I have ''publicized'' it. Seriously show me where I wrote ''jenny is a nurse'' . Have you seen me post in the health section before?I have never hidden the fact that I work in the hospital and I have not publicized a million times my exact profession, so what the bleep are you talking about? Just be quiet when it comes to sensitive issue like this, you know nothing.

You shut the bleep up if you dont know what the bleep you are talking about since you are a toilet washer in the hospital. If you have nothing to add to the discussion then clear off. . The specialist that hangs around hospitals with an opinion. The person that knows it all but rants and raves on this section like a mental patient. Probably works in the mental ward. Who burts out in insults like that? Mentalo

jennykadry:
ROTFLMAO . Who told you it is a maximum of 4? The things I read on this site. People say maximum 5, others said 3, now na 4. Nairaland ''diagnosers'' .

We all know you are a nurse as been publicized, but i know the safety range is 4 CS's. Maximum as advised by Dr's. But this varies by individual. Since you are not a Dr. anyway.

The fact remains that this woman is going to try to get pregnant again. And she can. Because CS is maximum of 4. She has identified a specific need which will make her marriage happier. I wonder why people are coming here to criticize. All well and good, your marriage may not be affected by such issues. But all marriages are different, and so are the individuals. OP the procedure is called microsort. Being that this is going to be your 4th by CS and you are interested in Microsort, i advice you look outside the country for specialist medical assistance. You should talk to your husband and Dr. . What makes you happy cannot be judged by the expectations of others. Some people will come here and advice, but will do worse to keep their marriage if that is what it all depends on.