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agabaI23:
I know an Irish girl who does not play with nigerian dishes. She was not dating any Nigerian for your information. She even knows how to prepare some herself.

4play geddit?

Such sapience. I know an Irish girl = anecdote

Oh, even  Tpiah get suitors?      

@Ibkaye

You never even reach puberty. Gerrout of here!

stillwater:
My point is women should not make apologies the way they deem it fit to act in situations like this.

That's not a point.

ElRazur:
You want scientific evidence?

Again one can argue that this is due to "fear of johnny foreigner" approach that have become synonymous with certain aspect of their culture here. How many food of international origin have cross appeal in the British menu? You can count everyone of em on one hand - Chinese and Indian.

On a more serious note, saying our food lacks cross appeal is a bit short-sighted and not in anyway a fact.

You are contradicting yourself. You inadvertently acknowledged that very few such dishes had cross-cultural appeal; Chinese and Indian. Nigerian food is quite clearly not one of them.

You know non-Nigerians who devour Nigerian food, I don't know any, not even those who want to be polite.

A fact? The burden of proof is on you to establish the existence of something. If there is such appeal, demonstrate it, and don't tell me your anecdotal experience which isn't universal.

stillwater:
I do. Ages? I don't need an extended period of time to make up my mind.

Make up your mind wetin, you are wasting time trying to create an impression for your man. Silly little games.

ThiefOfHearts:
2 years. who waits that long?  why would she make him wait that long. Obviously he wasnt that into him. You're friend;s a slowpoke 4Play. Why blame the girl

Not blaming the girl. The waiting game can be counter-productive because even players can wait forever. Don't you have suitors who have been chasing you for years?

stillwater:
For 2yrs? Your illustration has no substance to me. It doesn't take that long for my mind to be made up.

I used it to show that your point about patience is irrelevant because even the coldest and most calculating of men can wait for a very long time.

Badriyyah:
Hmmmm, I can't speak for all women, so here it goes. I know when a guy wants more from me. It's pretty obvious most of the time. "I'll think about it" was for secondary school. If i'm not interested I let him know, if I am interested I won't let him GO.

Couldn't have said it better.

Does anyone know how old Stillwater is?

stillwater:
It goes both ways. Only puerile men lack the PATIENCE to wait (more like high school boys with itching testosterone). These immature characters have been exhibited here already.

Look at this naif. I have already told this story before on NL, a friend of mine waited 2 years while his girl was playing all the games in the world for the simple reason he had many other booty calls.

Your games are best suited for players. You will learn eventually. A young IyaKadijat in the making.  

IyaKadijat:
LOL! You got jokes! Well that and the fact that he was so nice with his money  

He spent a lot of dough before I even laid down with him-I didn't know that was the TRAP at the time, lol! Naija men are truly different, o! LOL!

Did you also play hard to get with him?

Stillwater still dey lie to herself  

This una games sef. Some do it so they can maximise the dates the man takes them out for or some other pathetic reason like not wanting to seem ''easy'' .

They don't know a philandering man has a lot of patience and is best suited to navigate through these games because he has had a lot of practice.

Where is the ''strong independent black woman'' when you needed her?

@TOH

She's a Nigerian woman, thank you very much.   Who said I have anything against our women?

IyaKadijat:
Thank you Uche! If you leave it to these people I should go crawl in a hole and die somewhere, lol! This whole thread was started because I went on my 1st date in 8 years-you'd think I'd be applauded for that, geesh!

I'm clapping for you right now! We are not saying you should crawl into a hole but focus on your self-dignity.

This whole sorry spectacle is not good for the interest of you daughter either.

stillwater:
I claim not to give an immediate answer so that I can make up my mind. I told you before you can call it whatever you feel. And it's a secret pleasure making guys uppity for a while.  

. . . when it comes to instances such as this. Neither do the ones who agree at the spur of the moment are guaranteed some happily ever after tale you are trying to imply.

It's not about the immediacy of the answer. We presume you will tell the men you are not interested in instantly.

The question is how do you deal with the ones you are interested in? To allow your decision linger shows you have an interest.

At what point will you stop this absurd lie and admit that part of the ''delay'' is to help shape the man's perception of you?

davidylan:
Easier said than done . . . you dont just forget about someone who's been a part of your life that intimately for 8yrs. She can put up a bold face here . . . what happens when she goes back home and starts to think about the past?
Her daughter is basically like a chain that will keep her connected to the man for the rest of her life.

It's not easy but she needs to focus on how she's been used. No point in going sentimental over 8 years of shared ''bliss'' when it was 8 years of deception.

Quite frankly, if she had strong self-esteem, she will be able to get over this man quicker.

[quote author=St☆rStruck link=topic=268407.msg3820163#msg3820163 date=1241451405]Wow, this spoke to me, I'm going jump into the arms of the next guy who shows the slightest interest in me.[/quote]Spare us your straw man. If you are not interested in a suitor, you tell him straight. For the ones you are interested in, why the games?

Uche2nna:
Why are u guys unneccessarily harsh with Iyakadijat?  

From what I can gather, she has moved on , so no need for all this.

She said she was lied to for 8 years (it happens all the time), how is that strange or is it because it is coming out of Iyakadijat mouth?

Moved on where? Why is she starting these threads if she has actually put all this behind her? Did you get the impression from reading her posts that she has moved on?

IyaKadijat:
Baby daddy can go suck an egg for all I care.

That's the spirit!   The only purpose of your contact with the man must be exclusive to issues concerning your daughter. Any discussion, if at all, beyond that should be quickly terminated by you.

stillwater:
Since you guys have dismissed the playing as BS times without number, shouldn't I have changed my ways by now just to please the average man? *rolls eyes*

Point is I'll act as I deem it fit at any given situation. No apologies given.  In this 21st century a man's perception on how I choose to decide is the least of my concern.

This orgy of self-deception continues.

Effectively, you claim to be playing so that you can make up your mind whether the suitor is good for you. Does your brain work in slow motion? You know that is complete BS.

A man's perception is the least of your concern? Who do you think you are deceiving with such porkies?  

Keep backtracking. The reality is that you play games that are ultimately counter-productive because the games won't help you get a better suitor.

@IyaKadijat

I'm the only one on this thread giving you useful advice. Every morning, when you wake up, remind yourself how weak and pathetic you have been and promise yourself never to be used like that.

The first step is to acknowledge you have a problem, you are obscenely gullible and weak. The next step is to address it by telling this man to piss off.

stillwater:
What game? I'm talking about something innate in me when it comes to making decisions. If people call it playing hard to get, that's their business. Can't be bothered. It's very natural for me not to act spontaneously.

Sometimes, you can't help but admire the way people lie to themselves.    

If you are ''playing'' as you already effectively acknowledged, what purpose does it serve? You are avoiding rushed decisions? Complete bollocks, you women already have a good idea what your decision is. The whole purpose of the game is to influence the man's perceptions of you. You know that's the truth.

Another weak woman bites the dust, pathetic.

ElRazur:
Some will disagree. I know loads of non-Nigerians that stuff their face with Nigerian foods. Especially, the southern,western and eastern food. If you are in London, it is not unusual to see different races eating our food in the eateries and restaurant.

The above is anecdotal evidence. There has been a large Nigerian community in London for decades,yet, you don't see Nigerian dishes being touted widely. When your office does anything, how many ask to go to a Naija joint?

Who is saying we have great food? I guess even a goat will call the grass it eats ''great food''.

The true test of whether your food is great is whether it has cross-cultural appeal. Nigerian food doesn't.

@stillwater

Can you summarise in intelligible words what purpose your game serves?

IyaKadijat:
1 reason-he's the father of my child and he still has my child in his possession-at least until May 21st.

How the hell did such a jerk gain possession of the child?

Maybe some people don't deserve the freedoms that come with living in the West.

@y me

Jenny, na you be amebo no1 as well? How are you?

I don't understand why but hearing all these stories from people whose partners are complete jerks drives me nuts.

I can't possibly fathom why people put up with all that. Is it for fear of being single? We are in the 21st century and this woman lives in the US for God's sake!

All these pathetic soft-hearted masochists make me sick. Give me one bloody reason the OP still has this man in his life.

Pass me the sick bag already.

God, some people make me almost go apoplectic with rage and contempt.

Complete tripe! Does Seun pay you jobless people to fabricate these stories?

5000 na promotion.

I like temptation in the form of you. Who no like that kind temptation?

Tope my love, you don reach 5000 already?

No mind David, na married man yet im still dey talk of temptation

[quote author=~Sauron~ link=topic=247857.msg3812604#msg3812604 date=1241282118]Yes. . . . . .There's class in going 5 seasons without a meaningful title.Bunch of losers.
Arsenal have not won any meaningful title with their kids so what are you talking about?[/quote]All this talk of meaningful titles, have they won a title, a meaningless one never mind the meaningful variety?

Arse-shaving hasn't been immersed in the Gooner cheating culture as yet. Heard Wenger is going to fine him for such un-Arsenal like behaviour.