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Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 11:01am On Jan 02, 2011 |
LoveKing: Seriously who is this not-so-smart ode? @Topic You will not understand now. Have your kids(esp female ones) and watch them grow into teenagers, you will definitely understand why your dad did that |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 1:15pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
So guys have forgotten women have different meaning to every word. Ask them what privacy means.If you have ever traveled via bus with a woman onboard and close to ur seat, you don die. It will be as if u in a call center. Second-hand smokers are like that situation. Any problems healthwise? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by ARareGem(f): 1:39pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
At OP, fathers will always be fathers. I sometimes don't like my dad's parenting method, but the truth is I will do the same thing with my kids and I'm sure they will also not like it. Yet the cycle goes on. But I'm sure you have gotten over the issue by now. Words of wisdom, delete suspicious texts That's what I do. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 1:48pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
pmond:Which bloody dirty linen is that? Is nairaland not anonymous anymore? Happy new year to you too! |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 1:52pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
omo_to_dun:Baba-Suwe? Hehe. . Now that's some funny ish. . |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 1:55pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
jennykadry:Seriously,when i saw that post all i could do was wonder how some people's brains work. . And everybody always says i will understand when i grow up. That's probably true,but im not growing up/having kids anytime soon,so until then nko? ferdiii:Are you asking me whether i have any heatlth problems? If so,what does that have to do with anything? If not,why the question? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by abrahym(m): 2:00pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
Abi na the dad wan marry em pikin? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by GeorgeD1(m): 2:38pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
so if the dad no wan marry im pickin he should allow her to go wayward? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by roymary: 3:37pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
Your Dad should also go through your Nairaland Posts to know better. Would be shellacking when we Guys are done with you, then you would give your Dad some credit. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by banom(m): 4:37pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
@ Topic, Should a dad buy his daughter a phone ? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 4:41pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
banom:He's not the one who bought it for me. roymary:I dont think he knows Nairaland even exists. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by GeorgeD1(m): 6:13pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
Atreides: don't be too sure about that, atreides! |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Pennywise(m): 6:17pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
^^^ He maybe on NL |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Feraz(m): 7:57pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
^^lwkmd! Nice contributions y'all got there. This reminds me of some years back while in sec school, my mum asked me if i had a gf. Sounded somehow cos she's the churchy type so i didn't expect her to say something like that. He's just trying to be protective of his daughter (duh!!! Something you've heard like million times) |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by 2sleek2NV(m): 8:25pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
Girlfriend, this is not the western world where a 1yr old child can call 911 and get his/her parent arrested. we are all trying to go western forgetting that we have our own way of life. * @ 16 1/7th year old, how did you get the money to buy the phone since your dad did not buy it for you? *how do you get funds to buy your airtime, (d way u sound,ur eye don tear finish) *you are not close to mum any particular reason? irrespective of our ages, i believe we all need a sense of check and balance to guide in our daily life. you mentioned somewhere in your post that the next day your dad went on like nothing happened, were you expecting he will come to you to apologise or talk about what he saw in your phone? i believe he got all the info and it doesn't change the fact that he trusts you. you are complaining about dad doing it. we will look out for when you have a boyfriend who does same or a husband who does same and you will run to NL to complain (thats is if NL is still in existence then). i will do same to my children if i feel the need to but they wont know i do it. you are still under his roof. live by the rules under the roof. and please remember to keep your phones and diary away from where dad will see them cos he will still browse through thme if he finds them anywhere around. happy new year all |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 9:02pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
@2sleek,i saved up for it. I get an allowance and i save from that. I used to copy notes for people in school for a price. I have a big extended family-someone's always giving me money,or crediting me,or paying my internet subscription or worreva. Like i said,airtime is not my problem. As for me and my mom,even though we butt heads a lot,its not like we're not close or anything-I'm just closer to my dad. We have more in common. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 9:38pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
As long as you are still depending on your parent, there is nothing like privacy. After all if anything happens you run to them . . . |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jan 02, 2011 |
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Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Ranoscky(m): 5:38pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
Op, pls, take it likely with your dad, he's only doing his job as a father, believe me. Just like others have said, you'll get to know why he's doing that when you become a mother. Meanwhile, I'll like to share somethin with you. . . Do you know that a man was sentenced to jail for 5 good years (in America) just b'cos, he checked on his wife email address? . . .The man said his wife was havin an affair with her X husband, of which the wife denied and called the police, and the outcome was 5years jail sentence (America is something else, can you imagine that?) K, now tell me, would you prefer to be patient with your dad to be over protective on you just like he's doin now (so, when you'r grwon up, you can do whatever) or, would you like your dad to be jailed for 5years just b'cos, he invaded your privacy? (no offense meant tho, just a mere question) |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Genius100: 9:00pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
Listen, young girl, forget about the trust issue you keep harping about. Only a foolish parent will trust a teenager. A teenager is by default irrational, and the parent must be there to guide you. Even if you have not given him any reason to distrust you so far, things can change in an instant with teenagers. So he has to continuously monitor you to make sure everything is going well. Next time, put a password on your phone and you won't have to worry about your dad going through it. However, your dad must do his job. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by GeorgeD1(m): 9:09pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
ranosky, your unwittingly putting ideas into atreides' head! |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 9:12pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
@Genius,yeah. . And the minute i do that it becomes why am i locking my phone? What do i have to hide? He will take it to mean i'm acting suspiciously. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 9:15pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
@Ranosky,of course i dont want my dad to go to jal. If he does who's gonna pay my school fees/clothing allowance etc? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by jpphilips(m): 9:39pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
i'm going to have to disagree with the majority of opinions on here. the same reason mutallab's father went to the FBI when it was already late @2sleek,i saved up for it. I get a school allowance and i save from that. I copy notes for people in school for a price. I have a big extended family-someone's always giving me money,or crediting me,or paying my internet subscription or worreva. Like i said,airtime is not my problem. As for me and my mom,even though we butt heads a lot,its not like we're not close or anything-I'm just closer to my dad. We have more in common. and this automatically equates being independent and self reliant lol kids @OP privacy,trust lol in your parents house? you seriously think that your dad at his age will trust a toddler like you and you seriously think you can be private in another man's domain lol these kids re getting ambitious by the day you were lucky not grounded for a year |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
I think I would rather not go through my daughter's phone at all for obvious reasons A relationship is great when there is trust between both parties. My daughter and I would be great friends and we would virtually talk about everything so there wont be room to snoop around her room or her phone to find out who she gets in contact with and all that. So no a father or mother shouldnt go thru his or her daughter's phone. Its not right if your daughter finds out you have been doing it she might decide to delete text messages or disguise contacts names on the phone. She might decide not to be open to you anymore. I wouldnt want that to happen between my daughter and I |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by tpia1: 9:55pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
^^bros, one of you had better go through your teenage daughter's phone. all that one na long story, no offence. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Atreides(f): 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
@jp philips,nope-that equates being financially responsible and generally trustworthy. @Siena,you're making madd sense. . Ill bet you and your daughter will have a great relationship. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 10:26pm On Jan 03, 2011 |
Hmm, my wife posted with my account, but here's my take on things. Your child's phone is private, no different from her diary. Where would snooping end - should a father go through his daughter's diary too? Read her emails? Steam open her letters? Next, you'll be following her when she goes out, hiding behind bushes, hopping in and out of shop doorways etc. Personally, I wouldn't go through my daughter's phone. If I had any concerns, then I'd simply ask. If I couldn't trust her answers, then that would mean she distrusted me, enough to lie, and become secretive. And her lack of trust must have stemmed from something in our relationship. Snooping through your daughter's phone, will only make her clam up, and hide things from you. A bad child will be bad, regardless if they owned a mobile phone or not. There were rebellious children before mobile phones became widely available. We don't only have rebellious children, we have bad parents, and that's where trust and distrust issues will invariably stem from. Build a good relationship with your daughter, let her know you can trust her, and she can trust you enough, to be able to come to you with any concerns, tell you anything, regardless of how bad things get. You won't go far wrong that way. |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by jude33084(m): 3:58am On Jan 04, 2011 |
it is 4 your own good. i hope say he nor see the love text mssge him friend send to you sha? |
Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Mingler: 5:16am On Jan 04, 2011 |
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Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by Nobody: 7:02am On Jan 04, 2011 |
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Re: Is It Right For A Dad To Go Through His Daughter's Phone? Could He Be Any More Overbearing? by loadsk: 7:40am On Jan 04, 2011 |
Really I don't see anything wrong. One if you have not to hid, text message pic or what have you. If you still under the "surveillance age group" then I strongly believe you still need monitoring. |
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