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Velocitron:
You'll have to tell her it's making you uncomfortable and she should maintain some distance, make it very clear. Stay away when she's around. Don't let someone put you in trouble o!

You have a nice smile.
Stronger, faster, braver... Do you watch Winnie the Pooh?

So lemme get this straight.

To cancel an abomination, you committed another abomination.

[size=20pt]You ldiot [/size]

This is a story of why a woman had sex with her son.Read it and comment if the condition worth it.

^^^wrong structure of words.

You can use any of the three below instead.

If the condition was worth it.

OR

If the condition warranted it.

OR

If the condition justified it.

You are welcome.

This is sexual harrassment














You lucky son of a gun

. Somebody got his feelings hurt this morning

Cute mom

On a serious note;
Who is the WHO to play god and tell women when to stop breastfeeding their children? Not up to two generations ago our mothers used to breastfeed thier kids until well into 7yrs (although they took other foods to supplement), so in the eyes of history it's really nothing new. That baby girl wil be more healthy than most others her age.
















Damn, she looks good at 52
Could breastfeeding be the secret?

Very embarrassing but true topic.

How do guys tell girls that they smell down there.

I will admit I have lost one relationship to this

Phema:
It is not our fault.
It is because of


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bukatyne:
Nope

Pick another incidence, place, etc.

Then it's not u then.
My mistake.

bukatyne:
Meaning?

Sure you have the wrong person.

Good morning

Good morning.
The book on sex mom gave u as a teenager was hardcover.

bukatyne:
This is getting intereting

You could have picked Dave from my siggy

Tell me one unique incidence So I can make a guess

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True.
Didn't see that.
Hard Cover sex book

bukatyne:
Hahaha

Are you a spirit?

You have the ability to know everyone

Hello bros (and no, don't know you)

So How do I know who you are

Sis.
Sister.

Don't call.
How's Dave?

bukatyne:
@5mins...

You like This kind of threads sha

@Cococandy: I remember when I was around 14... my mum always gave me marriage books to read... for whatever reasons, I do not know

Unfortunately, she bought one and just gave me to read without reading it first.

O gal, that book had one whole chapter on sex and even take home assignment .

Na So I read and learnt that variety is the spice of sex.

Needless to say, I picked up the phrase

One day, she read the book and felt it was over my head and told me never to read it again...I told her I glanced through it and all was well till...

One beautiful day, we were gisting with my younger sis and I said variety is the spice of...my mom gave me a withering look and said 'spice of'.... I thought hard and said 'spice of life '

That was How I was delivered that day

You know I've been suspecting for a while...
Reading thru your experiences and posts kept striking a familiar chord.
This your last post did the trick.

Bukatyne.
I know who you are.
Hi Sis.

cococandy:
I do appreciate that they looked out for us the way they knew how to. My whole point is you can be sexually free without being irresponsible. It has to be seen as something to be done and enjoyed in the right way with proper protection. Not something to feel bad about.

You and coogar have kind of cemented my point. Most of you believe women aren't created to be sexual. And the ladies have believed it too.

And we still wonder why?

Yes you,coogar and others like you are to blame for this catastrophe. You're here saying a lady does not need orgasm as a priority, coogar is saying we are only made as vessels for men to reach orgasm and our parents helped us believe that being a woman has everything to do keeping your sexuality in check because chastity is a virtue only women should primarily possess, YET you want us to take the responsibility for not achieving orgasm? Really? The blame is all on yous not us. So pls.....

And yes, Having an orgasm is a priority to me in addition to the other pleasures that life offers.
Why should I limit myself?

See ya mouth.
Can you live your life without sexual release? Why on earth do you think my own life should be ok without it? Nna park very pls well in one tight corner. After you said all those nice things about sex being give and take and helping your partner get there, you're spoiling it with that line.
If orgasm is not a priority why have sex then?
Only to make babies? That's so Puritan. Bleh

*On the other issues, being cautioned about bringing a pregnant lady home is no way the same thing as being made to believe you've been defiled by the intercourse or your value as a person is reduced by number of times a man has penetrated you. Don't act like you don't know.

Anyway I was not fighting with you. I even agreed with the other parts of your post. So where's the fight?

I won't ask about your gf.

Wow.

I guess I was wrong.

Having an orgasm is your priority in life.

Who would have thought

Cococandy i have learnt something new about you today.

Nice thread.

crackhaus:


It's all gimmicks.
The real problem is that some of these NL females just hate that we don't type things they like more often, the alternative is to go aggressive by calling us misogynists and sexists.

Truth.

cococandy:
Who are the ladies?
Quote me if you want to address my post.

Anyway the first step to solving a problem is identifying it. Whether you people chose to see it or not, the way Africans make ladies feel dirty about being sexual will always get in the way of true sexual freedom for them. It actually goes beyond parents not just talking to their kids about sex.

We have a slut-shaming culture that portrays any sexually active (unmarried) lady as filthy. Do you grow up like that,get married and suddenly change overnight into an unabashed unshackled sexual being? Fat chance.

We view the virgin as better than the one who isn't. Growing up, I used to be warned not to let any man 'defile' me until marriage.
A thought I held onto for long believing that having sex defiles me. A.K.A makes me unclean.
There are nice arguments for these kind of teachings. E.g protects against unwanted pregs and STDs, helps academic focus etc. those are things they tried to protect us from because they meant well (I guess) but then we should also know what the downsides are. Which includes raising sexually repressed females. You know, sow orange, reap orange.

I'm insisting it affects females because growing up, I didn't see anyone drumming into the boys ears to keep their virginity or be damned. Or telling them that sex before marriage defiles them.
When raised like that,It takes an epiphany to stop associating sexual acts with guilt. Enough to be free and inhibited.


@bold, I agree. That's why ladies need to start realizing the mental barriers keeping them from achieving sexual peak. I've realized mine early enough and broken free from that mental cage.


I also agree with the rest of your post.

Honestly my post wasn't directed at you. I saw some ladies mention sexual repression/African mentality and I went "ugh!". If I want to address you I will. You should know that about me by now.


Having said that^^^^ Everything is not fight. I see Stillfire snidely mentioning me and gearing up for a fight. I'm not up to it right now.


Having an orgasm should not be your priority in life.
Your parents did well to drum the evils of early sexual encounters into your ears and look how well you turned out(pls keep your head from swelling if u can). There are many ladies out there who got thrown out of school following early pregnancies and many more who have had thier wombs destroyed from early unsafe abortions. Surely you won't place those same predicaments on the same scale as your education and honour simply because u want to experience orgasm?

Also I would be hard pressed to believe the lovingingly delivered sexual cautions your parents gave u had the same dubious effect as a German brain washing technique and rendered u Sexually incompetent for life.
Come on, so your brother was never cautioned about bringing a pregnant lady home. If your answer is yes then you guys had a very strange upbringing.


The main problem I find with most ladies is that they take responsibility for nothing. Nothing at all. It's never thier fault. They always have somebody to blame. That is total immaturity in my books. And it could be a reason why they never achieve as much as their male counterparts.

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My first girlfriend was circumcised. I had seen other vaginas before but never gone round to first base(church things before I became corrupt ). She never had an orgasm but since she was my first she kept encouraging me by making silly noises. Now I may have been a virgin but I knew she was faking it. And it pissed me off. So when we broke up I did some research(both practical and theoretical). I actually took it as a challenge . We reunited a year later and I tried it out. The genuine sexual noises weren't what convinced me I had been successful , it was the juices that flowed out of her(not pee) and the sexuaI seizures she had. We had to change the sheets repeatedly. So you see, I don't need statistics to check if there is a center of gravity or clit-stimulation or all that jazz. I know because I have seen. It isn't faith for me. It's fact.[/size]

This is not something I feel comfortable talking about anyway. I'll stop here unless there are reasonable questions.

Kk.

1. The ladies have turned this thread into a "blame the parents/African mentality thread". If you don't own your problems you will never be able to solve them. Nobody is stopping you from having an orgasm. Even victims of rape sometimes experience orgasms so the "blame the mind/africa/parents is a cheap cop-out.


2. Having said this, it is the duty of the unselfish man to ensure that his lady achieves an orgasm at least once during thier sexual relationship. It doesn't have to be about you all the time. You put your dick in, drill as hard as you can until you pop, and then collapse in a sweaty heap beside your lady who is desperately wanting more but resigns herself to fate. It should be a thing of pride for a man to bring his mate to orgasm at least once.

A lady achieves orgasm following prolonged sexual stimulation. This mostly involves the fingers and the Penis together but can also be achieved by using either of those body parts alone. And no its not like in the porn movies when the man keeps on drilling and drilling for hours, your woman will eventually get bored and her vagina will dry up and she may actually start to experience pain. Instead you keep her distracted by stimulating other exotic zones as you drill away. Such areas include the nose, earlobes, bweasts, nippIes, bellybutton, back of the knees, inner thighs and toes. Keep the focus on her, not on you. Not only will this let her enjoy sex more and eventually orgasm, by keeping the focus off yourself you tend to last longer.

Sex, like every other male-female relationship, involves giving yourself and not waiting to receive all the time from the other person. I have had many sophisticated(strictly English speaking) women greet me in thier native language after a tryst. I dare say I don't do anything too special. I just focus more on giving her pleasure than pleasuring myself.

If you have any mature questions on orgasm as it relates to our Nigerian environment you can ask. Orgasms are for every normal healthy female out there and shouldn't be seen as something of a myth.

TV01:
Bro' please. There is always hope. I enjoin you - and other men on this board - to persevere until he is restored to full manhood. Think of it as a labour of love !

Women have absolutely no problem with men ogling them. Their caveats are merely that it should be men they find attractive/like. Otherwise it's considered creepy.

I like the sum of your submissions 5mins. As ever feminists deny biology/natural impulses and society' protective restrictions in an attempt to sieze power. Utter confusion. Which as ever will do a disservice to women generally.

Like I said, if this comes into force, it will be used as a tool to "rank" women and assign "status" to the men who acquire the choice ones .

Bring it on - or get them out. Whatever !


TV

It is the height of self denial.

Physically the sexes are not the same.
Biologically they are not the same.
Mentally not the same.
Psychologically not the same.
Even nature has deemed it fit to give both sexes unique roles.
Yet they are too blinded and discontented to see it.

They keep howling how they want to be like men,
Is it because they are in fact ashamed of being women?

cococandy:


Make up your mind. Is it innocent or a sexual word?

It is an innocent sexual word

cococandy:
@bold, summary of my points.

The rest of your posts agrees with me that it was a gradual process. The breassts didn't become sexualized overnight.
From days when it wasn't sexualized to days when it became slightly sexualized to these days when it has become a taboo topic that even Seun's nairaland censors it. You can't even type breassts without giving someone a hard-on behind their computers.

It is not nature. It is nurture.

Operant conditioning.

The bweasts have always been sexualized.
It is sexuality that has become overly sensationalized in this modern era.


Having said that, for goodness sake oga seun pls reconsider this your censoring. There is nothing wrong with the word B. R. E. A. S. T
It beats my imagination that a forum that is well known for the extreme rudeness and lewdness of most some of its members will still be censoring a word as innocent as the female mammary glands.
Even my autocorrect now spells b.r.e.a.s.t as bweast.

Pls look into this sir.

FrancisTony:
I repeat you're confused.

If not, you would have studied the opinion of women to show yourself approved.

You think women are not moved with what they see? How weird? Some women are attracted to guys with big butt, pink lips, bushy eyebrow, hairy body, flat abs, protruding bulge etc

I'll get you a link where a woman said she masturbateed while ogling a guy with bushy eyebrow.

So, guys should cover all of them, bah? to avoid rape? You are clueless and confuse.

Like I said earlier, women are not moved as easily as men are! The breakdown of testosterone as related to sexual stimuli is very straightforward in the male but complex in the female, hence the reason females are more reserved about sex and not as straightforward in showing thier desire for it than males. It's a biological thing and not a social thing you troll!

FrancisTony:
I repeat you're confused.

If not, you would have studied the opinion of women to show yourself approved.

You think women are not moved with what they see? How weird? Some women are attracted to guys with big butt, pink lips, bushy eyebrow, hairy body, flat abs, protruding bulge etc

I'll get you a link where a woman said she masturbateed while ogling a guy with bushy eyebrow.

So, guys should cover all of them, bah? to avoid rape? You are clueless and confuse.

It is useless trying to reason with you.
I don't know why I bother.
I will ignore you from henceforth.

@cococandy.

Have you read Buchi Emecheta's "The bride price"?
Or the novel " Hawaii"?
Both depict the typical display of female maidens' bweasts in traditional settings and among what we today may arguably call 'primitive tribes'.

In those days the beast of a young female was not just ignored, rather it was seen as a sign of maturity and feminine fertility. Sexuality was not as much of a taboo then as it is today. A young man could see a woman at the stream and compliment her on her beautiful big bweasts and she would accept the compliment without taking offence. In the evenings the men would play with the women and usually such 'plays' involved touching, holding and pulling the bweasts. So it was a sign of sexuaI attraction even then. However if a young man took his 'play' too far the girl or her brothers would show offence. If the family liked the boy they would tell him to stop touching for free and pay her bride price.

In the primitive tribes of the South Pacific,sexuaIity was regarded as a friendly gesture. A male would see a maiden with attractive bweasts and approach and compliment her. If all went well they would have Intercourse even in the presence of others. It was a free-for-all as men could sleep with thier daughters and women with thier brothers. It was this practice the English sailors capitalized on when they came to the Hawaiian Islands before Christianity came and introduced guilt and sin into thier lives.

My point is, even in tribes where the nippIe was blatantly exposed, it was still seen as a sexuaI object.

FrancisTony:
You are confused.

In mufasa's voice : Wrong! I'm not the one who's confused. You don't even know what sex you are!




You can go with either reply.

FrancisTony:
I am confused.

Let me elucidate.

The female anatomy is made up of certain well defined areas of visual sexual stimuli for the males. These include the hair (surprised?), lips, bweasts and buttocks. These areas provide a sexual trigger for the male that leads to attraction and hopefully copulation. This evolutionary process is not limited to man alone. The female of many species exhibit colourful visual stimuli to aid the process of pairing and copulation and eventual propagation of the species.

The naked ape(man) is the most sexually invested primate in the evolutionary process. The female bweasts of other primates do not develop at all and remain nipp1es until the female is Impregnated and about to give birth. Then the breasts grow out and even then they are not as large and exhibitionist as those of the naked ape(man). A female naked ape can start developing bweasts as early as 11years of age, before she is even menstruating or ready for copulation. Hence the female bweasts and nipp1es are not just mammary glands for milk production , but sexuaI organs as well.




So a female exposing her bweasts and hence her nipples will lead to unnecessary visual Sexual stimulation of the males around her and increases the probability of her being violated.

I hope I have been able to clear the air a little.

Madamkilljoy:
I like the fact that you're intelligent, despite your once in a while 5minsmadness. Your head is there.

Why thank you.
I enjoy a good compliment.

Because the female nipples stimulates increased levels of testosterone and hence sexual arousal in men while the reverse is not the case in women as they biologically do not have enough testosterone to carry out immediate sexual transactions.



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LadyX:
One day a mad man emerged from nowhere (in the middle of a town...guess we didn't see him coz we were gisting) and opened his arms to hug my friend. We ran, he pursued us a little and stopped. To me, we were not provocatively dressed

Maybe it's the *demon* in him that makes him lose control.

Thanks for the explanation. It reminded me of my psychology class.

Like I said, Id. Lack of adequate community behaviour or civilized decorum.

he didnt want to rape you girls, probably saw your friend as someone he would like to hug and simply went for it, not realising he was breaking any social rules by invading your friend's personal space and him being a stranger at that. Toddlers hug strangers all the time. That's the Id.

kenny987:
This is the issue! So now, her appearance is a factor somehow? The attacker is supposedly insane and rather than the rightful authorities being alive to their duties to ensure that such people are not left roaming the streets and constituting a nuisance to fellow citizens, the idiotic police officer finds a way to blame students for their appearance! So someone not in his right senses as claimed, still knows enough to be turned on by 'provocative dresses. but is too insane to approach her nicely and gain her consent? And THAT IS HER FAULT SOMEHOW?

Your post brought me out of hibernation.
Thank you.

In a nutshell,
All human beings are psychologically made up of three parts:
The Id.
The Ego.
And the Superego.


The Id is our basic behavioural instinct. It is the way we behave when we feel we are not bound by any laws. Hence a madman sees food and he takes it regardless of who has it. He doesnt see it as stealing. His natural instincts are activated. He desires it and so he takes it.

The Ego is man's adaptation to his community. The ego controls the Id in that it recognises that there are laws. Hence the ego is hungry, sees food, but knows he has to buy it or at worst beg for food.

The Superego is man's response to civilized society. Pride kicks in here. The Superego controls the ego and id in that the man is hungry, sees the food, but is too proud to beg or wants to wait because he prefers rice to amala.





It is the natural instinct of man to be aroused by provocative dressing. He can act like a gentleman and ignore the Feelings he gets when he sees a provocatively dressed girl. But that is just his ego and Superego keeping him in check.

A 'madman' has no ego or Superego. He has reverted back to his basic instincts of food, sex and survival.
So yes, if he sees a provocatively dressed woman and he is sexually aroused at that point HE WILL ATTACK.


Men are naturally aroused by provocatively dressed women. The only reason they don't attack is because they are not mad.

So yes it 'might' have helped a little if she wasn't provocatively dressed.




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Skytreader
LadyX

ifeoluwa05:
Immature! Besides you don't have to like your own post. Your statement is so primitive and filled with barbaric anger nd foul lang, same applies to ur forth coming waste of comment space reply... So Ignorant smh

People can't 'like' their own posts on nairaland

FrancisTony:
PM kor!

She deserves to know better; that not ALL men are frustrated and so vain about patriarchy.

I think u know she knows already. Saw u following her wonderful display of 'empowerment' in the other thread.

I know the things that turn u on Frances
Send her a pm. C'mon, I'm sure she won't mind. Use your poetic skills