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cococandy:
Where's 5minsmadness.?

Carry your concern for the U.S. and come here o.
You've been so worried that from encouraging homosexuals US will one day make children legally allowed to have sex.

What about your own country?
Do you have any words for them?

onatisi:
point out in my post where I said god created men to cheat?? U guys just comment on what u want to see without thinking about what u read . I said god created men to love sex.

Nonso23:
See eh .. I will be honest.

I don't have the required strength to troll right now.
Give me some time. Let me go-an recuperate for a while.
Just set your alarm for 6:00pm and mention me. I will gladly oblige you the session.

onatisi:
I never knew the romance and family section is as interesting as this .I am enjoying this section .

MarvellousGod:
Exactly, you have said it all...

Even if my husband cheats 100times (God forbid), I can never ever cheat back.. where's my self worth? Mehn, I can't stoop too low.. opening my legs for another man?? Geezz, so disgusting. .. I will gain more pains from doing that.. Then, talk about my relationship with God...

There are other ways to get happiness asides cheating back biko...

FrancisTony:
I was never lost, I needed a moment of nothingness, which I got and it never lasted more than a month.

You insult? I want to see a day you'll throw insults apart from soft jabs.

Moana:
I don't need a wife

FrancisTony:
Daily? Blasphemy! I only made some points on few threads about gayism and I don't care who accepts my opinion.

Who am I to judge? I'm sinner. All have sinned and fallen short of His glory.
An imperfect man should be judging another imperfect one.

Okay, I accept that I've erred but I still stand with the cliche, "Live and Let Live".

John3:16, For God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son and whoever believe in him shall not perish but have an everlasting life.

Anyway, can we forget the gay thingy?
I'm sexually flawless without blemish and it shouldn't be my concern.

Moana:
I hope your spouse will be a careful player as well

FrancisTony:
When? I can remember insulting white men not bible.


Even Jesus supported Mary Magdalene the prostitute.

In the old testament - Leviticus - punishment placed on homosexuality and prostitution is the same, yet Jesus supported Mary Magdalene.

Bible made it known that Jesus is the way, truth and light? So? I'm following his footsteps.

Hypocrite

jaybee3:
I think your attempt at downplaying the significance of a cheating partner is apt but you've failed to consider how the act of cheating in it's entirety reverberates around the foundation that a successful marriage should stand on. In other words, the ripple effect of cheating

Yes cheating to us Men at most times is simply defined as sharing ones body.

These are some of the direct impact of cheating in a relationship:

The obvious STI's
Finance
Trust Issues (both Present and future)
Increase of anxiety on the receiving partner
Emotional Imbalance and in turn cloudiness of judgement when it comes to real issues

damiso:
Awww am blushing thank you.

VintageCocktail:
No it is not,The post is filled with self deceits, self denials, lack of self-control and rambling of someone with low self esteem.
Philandering makes you a weak man that can't be trusted even by your peers.

If you can't keep your word sworn in front of a gathering of friends, relatives and well wishers then you are not a trustworthy person that can be held at their own words.


You don't cheat on people you love......

FrancisTony:
Okay!

95% of married men cheat? That's your statistics, anyway.
Well, I haven't seen any trace of cheating in all married men around me.

Since I've heard few news about men that cheat, I'll say they are not up that 95%. like you ascribed

Maybe, about 40%...

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

Amya:
Coming from a pseudo-feminist, it shouldn't be all that alarming.

I was reading a thread yesterday about a young women who tried to commit suicide because she found out her supposedly perfect husband was cheating on her. If she were my kid Sis, I'd have dashed her free slap for that stupidity. This same lady was just justifying her husband's actions when after an argument he pushed her so her hard she banged her head on the edge of a glass table (in the risk of a permanent head injury). This same lady condoned and even justified her husband hating her OWN mother for the flimsy reason that she made some strong recommendations while they were planning their wedding. And suddenly she finds out her husband had a plethora of runs girls at his beck and call, and she overdosed on pills! You've got to be kidding me!

Now, I know my opinion on cheating males is going to be hugely unpopular amongst the female folks in the house (especially the married ones who for some reason think their life's happiness is tied to their spouse's fidelity). I'm also not making excuse for the male folks for cheating, I'm just trying to be realistic about this society. For some reason, men cheat. Most men infact. The sooner women realise this, the happier marriages will be. Sex is not love. To men especially (and me too) sex is just a function that can stand on it's own independent of love and even affection. It's like eating.

Don't be 100% sure that your husband is not cheating or will not cheat on you. That will be living in a fools paradise my dear. It has nothing to do with how pure or holy you were growing up. let's lower our expectations as far as marriage is concerned, and I bet you you'll have a happier and fulfilled marriage.

Or you can always choose not to get married. Divorce is also an option.

Yeah, Yeah I know about the bringing another woman into the house or infecting HIV to the poor innocent wife. Yeah let's hope your husband is sensible enough to not commit to these ladies and he's not stupid enough to not use protection.

freecocoa:
She's supposed to have a part in it? I know you didn't ask me but I'll assume it's just a civil conversation, so you won't mind if I cut in.

A man who will cheat, will cheat because he decided to, he made a choice.

SexyCeline:
May God deliver us from irresponsible men. Amen

bestestgirl:
It will be so easy to say "Op forgive him, OP think of your children, OP Men are not worth the stress" but the truth is that, when you are hurting and in such deep pain, those cliches actually mean nothing. Don't take any concrete decisions now OP, you need to just concentrate on getting thru this period of deep emotional distress, first of all you have to surround yourself with your friends so that you don't overthink. finally, pray for your husband, just call out his name and say things like "you are blessed, you are favoured, you will live and not die", it really helps to pray for the person you are trying to forgive.

thorpido:
Op,sorry about your situation.A lot of women ask themselves what they did wrong when things like this happen.You didn't do anything wrong.A MAN THAT WILL CHEAT WILL CHEAT.

I will like to say that you shouldn't monitor your husband but you should close-mark him.It is easy for a man to stray if he feels he is not closely watched.Women who say they don't touch their husband's phone,it is to your disadvantage.My wife uses my phone to browse and sometimes flip through pictures.It is good for me cause it helps me to caution myself.I be human being too.

Please consider your children and your family.Your life is not worth taking because of a cheating husband.
Take your time to heal and ask yourself if you can forgive your hubby.Let him do a health screening so you are sure he has a clean bill of health.

2. can they quickly conclude on the campaign whey they can walk bare-chested?, we know y'all have good points here

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

Feraz:
I never knew you to be interested in stuff like these. . .though always enjoy your contributions in the family section. . .

Bifwoli:
He should perhaps apply to join the plumbers union(they always show their crack while working underneath the kitchen sink)....that way he'll have a good excuse of showing his crack.

Chillisauce:
This one resemble 5minsmadness

nowwhat:
As far as doing pleasant things for me before we were married, not really. If we ate out, I paid, never really had a dating period, pretty much moved in together right away...
Oh well, I guess I just needed to get my feelings out... There's always hope right?!

Doveheart:
Thank you for your prumpt response, The wife actually does not see it as false accussation, she actually accused the husband of atempted child ritual-one of thier child and, infidelity because she stumbled on a phone flirty but harmless conversation of her husband and her female friend.