₦airaland Forum

spenca:
This one na recipe for cough abeg !

nairalife2013:
my wife is a medical personnel working in a federal establishment. She has made several successful goes at a few companies before deciding to pitch tent with d feds. Apart from her regular job, She airs periodic medical report for africare, she studies round the clock to meet up with the next interview or presentation; she cordinates for unicef and other health-related ngos in areas of rural paediatric and midwifery services . She is not lazy pls. I pity her but she sees it as nothing. Am a surveyor running corporate real estate jobs for various bodies and individuals. We are doingVERY well, my dear. U DONT KNOW THE KIND OF LADY U ARE TALKING ABOUT. LET ALONE KNOWING ME AND MY KIDS. WE PRAY EVERYDAY NOT FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR OTHERS LIKE FEW HERE, AM NOT MENTIONING NAMES PLS. THATZ HOW BLESSED WE ARE AND WOULD CONTINUE TO BE- EVEN AT MY DEPARTURE. I CAN SIT IN MY HOUSE AND SLEEP AND PLAY WITH MY KIDS WITHOUT FEAR OF HOW THEY WILL SURVIVE OR WHAT THEY WILL EAT THE NEXT MANY YEARS. THATZ ALREADY SETTLED. YET I AND MY WIFE ARE STILL WORKING HARD ROUND THE CLOCK, CAUSE ITZ PART OF OUR LIFE, IF NOT FOR US, FOR OTHER MYRIADS OF PEOPLE IN OUR CARE. u dont know what u are saying.

cococandy:
it is not funny

Let me catch you lying again.

cococandy:
Yea. Hail the pyscho.

After you will come to another thread and pretend like you don't support emotional and physical abuse on women when the truth is that you do.

When asked you try whitewash it and make it sound like you don't know what you're rooting for or supporting.
We know all of you
Supporters of abusers are abusers themselves. there's no euphemism for it.

lezz:
97% ? Don't we always have all the fools on nairaland on our side ?


every relationship has its own peculiar baggage and hearts will be broken with or without intent. torture is a relative term to a degree.
I deduce OP has had a bad relationship which made him went a little bit hard in testing his soul mate's fidelity.

but the beautiful part of his story(which is the most predominant) is the bonding and expression of love which this couple has found. THE POSTER NOW CHERISHES HIS WIFE.

it is ironic in life that most couples can only truly bond after a storm and if they do survive it the woman is often cherished by the husband. to be cherished by one's husband is the highest expression and display of love. it is awe inspiring and way higher than love.

ONLY FEW WOMEN EVER GET TO BE CHERISHED BY THEIR HUSBANDS IN LIFE.

Now what i find nauseating is your 97% who have no scruples about insulting a married man but also have the insensitivity to attack his family and innocent wife, calling her all sorts of name just to make their opinion heard. that is an all time low for anyone to descend to.

And those are the people in dire need of your advice

nairalife2013:
I took on the rough skin of a demon when I was single and in search of a True companion. Am a man now. Am home to peace presently. I killed my heart back way then, to keep it alive, like a seedling buried in the soil to die then grow. Chose yur path. I av chosen mind. I knew what I wanted. I always know what I want and how to painstakingly get to it. We all hav our ways, no matter how easy or hard we device them. Most men have the route to the shortcut in their brains and just walk down straight to it. Most dont. They discover thier own shortcut by long wandering, or die trying. Men are the last creatures that will ever grow up. To survive a tumultuous world of marriage and endless misunderstanding inherent in the day to day union with a stranger, he needs a partner that loves him like his own mother. Only calm feminine minds will ever understand this. Narrow and zigzag, Paths of the Outwardly Virtous maid with Rebel's innards, the cool dude sees it from afar and avoid it without a fuse...the collected man doesn't look when others are looking. He knows when to steal a glance and grab the whole image in one stealthy stare. He could go the distance by throwing an invective into an assemblage of viragos...or he could throw a light jab with a dunlop fist for a start, just to tell who amongst them really has the ghoul in her.
I am the man. I know what I want and what I need. I act first and apologize later, for the good of all, including u. Cos I know, like myriads of other ladies, u dont know what u are saying nor what u are doing.

germainediva:
Abeg I nid encouragement.......am tired of ds marriage......been married for 14yrs.......no good sex,no money,full of emotinal abusive...........

innervoice:
Why don't you ask her?

bigmummy7:
u must not wait for ur hubby to start the move, u can make him feel like a man, romance him to the last then he has no option than to give it to you, with time he will be the one pleading for more. with the power of a woman, u can make it work out for both of u, also pray over it.

XtraSmooth404:
Hmmm.. This one pass me. Now I'm scared of getting married

rudebouy:
Am not a marriage counsellor, am not even married sef. But d little I know abt relationships is dat how u feel abt ur marriage is more important dan wot is going on in ur marriage. So pls do not give in to frustration, apathy and hopeless. Rather accept the situation and be hopeful.

Also I think u shd get some or all of Pst. David Ibiyeomie's messages on marriage. He's d pastor of salvation ministries. I advice u get d dvd and mp3s, and try playing the video when he's around so d two of u can watch it togeda. But if he's not interested, I advice u play the mp3 with a device just loud enof and close enof for him to hear, maybe when he's in d lobby and ur washing. Dont make it look like u want him to hear it oh. Just pretend like ur playing it for urself. Its no garanti but if he can listen to some of dose messages, I think he might decide to change.

Maybe u shd give it a try.

semasir:
such a young chap with correct brain...... Wishing her more prosperous years ahead.

cococandy:
@bold totally agree.

At the rest of your post, one still can't understand where you're leaning to.
Do you realize that just half the energy homophobes spend on castigating homosexuality on NL would have been sufficient to do something about preventing the passing of that bill legalizing child marriage? Apparently not.
Now the west are the bad guys even when we have worse going on in our Nigeria.

Sadly that time you speak about when kids can't have a say on who they marry even if she's 6 and he's 45yrs old has already come for Nigerians.
And it came because instead of fighting our own social ills, we were more concerned about what's happening in the west and what two adults do in their own bedroom.
1, Do you feel concerned for the westerners that it may also get to them too? The paedophilia thing? That's why I said worry about yourself first.

4, There's no connection between paedophilia and homosexuality. If there is, then that same connection exists between heterosexuality and paedophilia. Should we then stop men and women having sexual relations with each other because it could lead to some men or women sexually molesting kids of the opposite gender?
3, Are you going to say you don't know that happens in large numbers everyday?
Why haven't you made the connection between heterosexuality and paedophilia since the myriads of occurrences where one person of the opposite gender molested a child?
Why haven't you put up a campaign against heterosexual sex?

See we will be in total agreement if you create another thread to condemn paedophilia instead of attaching it to homosexuality and trying to pass it off as both things of the same class. They are not.
If heterosexuals can molest kids, there's no reason why this should even come up when the so called ills of homosexuality is being analyzed.

If you may, Just watch, The same people who would like to paint homosexuality as bad will be the first to remind you that Mary was 12 when she had Jesus.(meaning that by implication it is not so bad).

5, I can't get around to comparing a relationship where two adult men or women decide to be together and a relationship where one person is forced against her will(or his will as the case may be). There's no comparison there.