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Family › Re: Marital Issues: In Need Of Advice by 5minsmadness: 4:28pm On Mar 26, 2015

Sophyrocks:
Try to see the difference here. A woman contributing financially to a building project is different from a woman buying a car with all her money. What is wrong with putting just her name when she is solely responsible for the payment? it would be different if the husband gave her the money to buy herself the car.

What's the difference if I may ask?

Oh wait, so in essence if the woman doesn't contribute to a building project then the man can put the ownership of the building in his name alone?

Let's be factual.

The whole idea of marriage is oneness. Two people agreeing to be one, United together, what he owns she owns and vice versa. The moment you bring an imbalance into this equation (especially when done by force) it corrodes that unity and things start to fall apart.

I'm not even saying she should put the car ownership as Mr&Mrs but the decent thing to do is to ask hubby first and not think it's her right since she brought all the money for the car after all. That is a recipe for future quarrels. It takes nothing and sows a lot of love if she asks hubby first.

Like someone said, don't start something you can't finish.

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Family › Re: Marital Issues: In Need Of Advice by 5minsmadness: 4:17pm On Mar 26, 2015

zed7:
As for your car, put your name. I've never seen where people register a car with Mr and Mrs.

I have, though you're right, it's not common. But it's only courteous to ask the man first anyway.

Family › Re: Marital Issues: In Need Of Advice by 5minsmadness: 4:14pm On Mar 26, 2015

Sophyrocks:
I am not a feminist. I completely understand the feminist movement and why it has come to stay.

Falls from udala tree

Family › Re: Marital Issues: In Need Of Advice by 5minsmadness: 3:58pm On Mar 26, 2015

Sophyrocks:
No contribution from him. you are the one buying that car. Why shouldnt it be in your name?

Women! SMH.

Because it might bring quarrel to the house.
Women are the same people that will advice another woman to make sure her husband puts both his and her names on a plot of land that he buys even if the woman didn't contribute a penny and now you have no qualms about her putting the car in her name only?

Smh!

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Family › Re: HILARIOUS Picture Of A Nigerian Baby Trying To Take It By Force Frm A White Dude by 5minsmadness: 10:02am On Mar 26, 2015

Black baby whispering into white baby's ear:
"my mommy's bweasts are bigger than yours."

grin

Romance › Re: The Hot Romance That Almost Killed Me In Delta...must Read by 5minsmadness: 9:31am On Mar 26, 2015

Bros na job dem job you sooo cheesy

Romance › Re: The Hot Romance That Almost Killed Me In Delta...must Read by 5minsmadness: 9:21am On Mar 26, 2015

newmuzik:
You this plagiarist..... Shameless piss of a misruled country. So what do you gain in copying and pasting my intellectual property. bad belle like you. SMH.... I pray you find a job soon

Don't mind him.
Am visiting your blog with a friend right now cos of what he did.

Family › Re: Please Who Can Tell Me The Name Of This Subject? by 5minsmadness: 3:12pm On Mar 25, 2015

Wtf is this huh

NYSC › Re: Nysc 2015 Batch A by 5minsmadness: 3:04pm On Mar 25, 2015

kingphilip:
commot here shey here resemble where children de play

oya no vex go play for outside

I no blame you
Bloody corper cheesy

Do finish send me ya CV
Whether I go consider employ you for my bank cool

NYSC › Re: Nysc 2015 Batch A by 5minsmadness: 2:19pm On Mar 25, 2015

kingphilip:
I knew u can my guy

BTW some 5minsmadness is allowed u fit use that time deal with anybody

who call me?
angry

Health › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:37pm On Mar 25, 2015

5. Go do something more interesting instead!

Ideally, what would you rather be doing with time you've wasted on p0rn? facing your academics? Perfecting playing a musical instrument? Socializing? Even watching TV can feel more productive. Time isn't infinite, so rather than spending time worrying about porn viewing or feeling guilty, start focusing on what you really want to do with your time. Suppose someone spent 40 hours viewing repetitive porn (and porn is repetitive). How good would they become if they used those 40 hours to cook or read or write? How fit would you be if you ran for those hours or took extra reading classes? How informed would you be if you viewed the History Channel on dstv for that time? What we put into our heads is just as important as the diet we give our bodies.

Health › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:34pm On Mar 25, 2015

4. Use your imagination to help yourself

It's often been said that the largest sexual organ is the brain. If you feel genuinely sexy, then rather than dulling your imagination by passively watching porn, learn to fantasize. You'll spend much less time doing this and can 'direct your own porn' within your mind. You'll find this ultimately more satisfying, but strangely less compulsive than viewing porn. Why is this?

Addiction relies on 'unpredictable rewards'. That means that we feel compelled to keep doing something if its rewards are unreliable; so videogame machines, even email, can be addictive because they don't always give us something worthwhile. (1) If you always win in your videogames, they would be, strangely, un-addictive! So it is with porn; some images do it for you and some don't. Your own fantasy can be consistently rewarding and therefore less addictive, saving you time and energy.

Health › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:33pm On Mar 25, 2015

3. Gain insight into how p0rn addiction works

Think about when the danger times are. What's different about these times? Are you more likely to be procrastinating from a work project or feeling bored, lonely, unappreciated, or tired? Using p0rn because you are tired and need to 'rest the brain' has the effect of making you much more tired.

Make a plan for when you feel like this that doesn't involve flinging portions of your life away on porn. If you feel tired, close your eyes for twenty minutes and relax, have a bath, or even go for a walk (exercise can often make us feel more energized). Get to know yourself and when you are more likely to be taken in by p0rn's promptings. Plan ahead by telling yourself: "Okay, tonight is the end of a long week and I'll be tired and maybe a bit stressed. I know it's a porn danger time, so I'm going to the school library after work. Then I'll arrange to meet friends." The more you walk away from porn, the easier it becomes to walk away.

Also think about the times when you haven't used porn, even when you had the opportunity. What was different about those times? Really think about that. Because therein lies the solution.

Health › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:31pm On Mar 25, 2015

2. Challenge the porn thoughts
Step two is to challenge the addictive part of your brain that tells you stuff like:

"It's not so bad; plenty of people do it!"

Challenge: You could tell yourself: "Yeah and plenty of people smoke and its bad for their health!" Or: "I don't want to be like all those other people out there doing it!"

"It's okay, you only need do it for a few minutes; just have a look!"

Challenge that with something like: "Yeah sure, look how much time I waste usually. Time i would have spent reading my books or visiting a friend! I know that you won't let me get away lightly! It's all or nothing!"

"Come on, you've had a difficult day. You deserve it!"

Challenge perhaps with: "Yeah and this would make it ten times worse! I need something that is really going to make me feel better about myself."

"Who's going to know? It doesn't matter!"

Challenge with something like: "Well, don't I matter? Because I'm going to know and anyway, others could find out!"

So, whenever you catch yourself trying to justify looking at porn, learn to challenge it. You can do this by first catching what the attempted 'bad thoughts' or tricks of your mind are that try to get you to view p0rn. Write these down, then write really good objections to them.

Health › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:28pm On Mar 25, 2015

@ayorfly

FIVE KEY STEPS TO OVERCOMING PORN ADDICTION

1. Feel the consequences before they happen
Ever notice how, in the moments before you view porn, you are stuck in the moment? How you start to think how you're going to feel after viewing porn? How the excitement clouds out the reality of the exhaustion, disappointment, shame, or disgust you feel afterwards?

Next time you feel tempted, for whatever reason, walk away from the computer or DVD or magazine and sit in another room – just for twenty seconds. Close your eyes and really focus on the memory of the reality of how you feel after a porn viewing session.

Focus in on the tiredness, the self-disgust and disappointment, the feeling of foggy-headedness. Get into the habit of doing this. It's like unmasking a seemingly attractive stranger and discovering the ugly reality. At this point, you may feel conflicted. You may feel like although you know watching the porn isn't good for you, you still need to watch it. It's as if one part of your brain is trying to trick the rest of you.

So:

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Health › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:17pm On Mar 25, 2015

madam ishilove pls wht just happened? where are all my long posts? i dont understand?

Family › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:11pm On Mar 25, 2015

2. Challenge the porn thoughts!
Step two is to challenge the addictive part of your brain that tells you stuff like:

"It's not so bad; plenty of people do it!"

Challenge: You could tell yourself: "Yeah and plenty of people smoke!" Or: "I don't want to be like all those other people out there doing it!"

"It's okay, you only need do it for a few minutes; just have a look!"

Challenge that with something like: "Yeah sure, look how much time I waste usually. Time I would have used reading my books or talking to my friends or resting is what I am using to watch this shit. I know that you won't let me get away lightly! It's all or nothing!"

"Come on, you've had a difficult day. You deserve it!"

Challenge perhaps with: "Yeah and this would make it ten times worse! I need something that is really going to make me feel better about myself."

"Who's going to know? It doesn't matter!"

Challenge with something like: "Well, don't I matter? Because I'm going to know and anyway, others could find out!"

So, whenever you catch yourself trying to justify looking at porn, learn to challenge it. You can do this by first catching what the attempted temptations or whatever bullshit of your mind are that try to get you to view. Write these down, then write really good objections to them.

Family › Re: Please Help Me Stop Watching Porn by 5minsmadness: 1:06pm On Mar 25, 2015

FIVE KEY STEPS TO OVERCOMING PORN ADDICTION

1. Feel the consequences before they happen
Ever notice how, in the moments before you view porn, you are stuck in the moment? How you start thinking about how you're going to feel after viewing porn? How the excitement clouds out the reality of the exhaustion, disappointment, shame, or disgust you feel after viewing it?

Next time you feel tempted, for whatever reason, walk away from the computer or DVD or magazine and sit in another room – just for twenty seconds. Close your eyes and really focus on the memory of the reality of how you feel after a porn viewing session.

Focus in on the tiredness, the self-disgust and disappointment, the feeling of foggy-headedness. Get into the habit of doing this. It's like unmasking a seemingly attractive stranger and discovering the ugly reality. At this point, you may feel conflicted, as if you know you dont want to watch the born but you feel you have to. It's as if one part of your brain is trying to trick the rest of you.

So:

Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Families Refuse To Remove Tags On New LED Television by 5minsmadness: 12:23am On Mar 25, 2015

iyaayi:
Am so so guilty, for me it's just laziness, but I will try to remove the tags having read this post

Why? What's wrong with leaving it on? undecided

Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Families Refuse To Remove Tags On New LED Television by 5minsmadness: 10:03pm On Mar 24, 2015

Guilty

Christianity Etc › Re: Could This Be An Evidence That We Aint Alone In The Universe? by 5minsmadness: 12:57pm On Mar 24, 2015

cupid1:
well thanks, going to check it out right now. Been looking for something to read for a long time.
P.S: if everyone on nairaland could be as civil and open minded as you and i, them there would be no E-wars . #Just_saying

Lol, My broda, the insult thing one naira land tire me, hence am always on guard to repel or ignore any bullsh1t.

Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by 5minsmadness: 12:49pm On Mar 24, 2015

delishpot:
All this vex ontop say? . Na wa o. Frustration full naija o.

The truth of the matter is that when we read all the atrocities committed by a selected minority of the men folk and then some specific ladies come here and start ranting as if all men are guilty of the same things it pisses us off.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Could This Be An Evidence That We Aint Alone In The Universe? by 5minsmadness: 9:07am On Mar 24, 2015

cupid1:
lol...Bro, i type my name and surname, and it brings up my facebook and twitter account. Funny how i haven't seen anything even remotely related to the book- not even an author or a date the book was published. Books which have been read by many people always get a place on google. There are books written before 1960 like moby dick by herman melville which still have a place on the internet. So it's either your memory is a bit foggy or you're lying about the book just to buttress a point

My bad. Thought you were trying to be a smart-ass with your previous comment. I made a mistake with the title. It's ALIEN ANIMALS.

Christianity Etc › Re: Could This Be An Evidence That We Aint Alone In The Universe? by 5minsmadness: 1:09am On Mar 24, 2015

cupid1:
LOL...Bro, don't gimme that shite unless you were born before the year 1962. You could have just said "some of us were born before the internet BECAME READILY AVAILABLE". I searched google, and nothing turned up. If such a book really existed, i darn well know the internet would have a record of it

Type your name and surname on Google. Anything show up? If no then you don't exist.

Stop making Google your god.

Family › Re: Maybe Am Naive And Obsess by 5minsmadness: 5:44pm On Mar 23, 2015

Op sorry oh. Kpele.
Is this the first time you are having a broken heart?

Don't worry, it will get better OK?

All those people above me forming boss, "you are not a real man" group, the same thing has happened to each and every one of them.
They too have learned their lesson.

I remember when I was a soldier, I travelled from Kwara to port Harcourt all cos of some babe who didn't appreciate it.

I was naive then.

I am hardened now.

Get hardened bro.

Pick yourself up and get hardened.
. The ladies, they don't like the nice guys.

They want domination. A man who will treat them like they are an afterthought. A man who acts with confidence and damns the consequences.

Man up bro.

MAN UP.

Family › Re: He Did Something An Adult Wouldn't Do by 5minsmadness: 5:18pm On Mar 23, 2015

Awwww nice
Will recount my own experience later

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Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by 5minsmadness: 5:12pm On Mar 23, 2015

Owliver:
Rose2014 pls come read oh.

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Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by 5minsmadness: 5:10pm On Mar 23, 2015

allanphash7:
And u dnt even bother throwing back 3 punch and a kick?

Aye e ti baje

Why? So they will call him a beast?

"Any man that hits a woman for any reason is a beast ".

Romance › Re: Help!!! He Is Turned On By Ladies with Stretch Marks !!! by 5minsmadness: 9:31am On Mar 23, 2015

Iamsynord:
A friend of mine that i met recently can die for ladies with stretch marks and asked me if I could get him a lady with stretch marks.l was able to get him one and was rewarded handsomely but the relationship didn't work out
. This guy is stinking rich and is well educated with a degree in Sociology.. His current girlfriend .mehn ..all covered in stretch marks and he loves her like his life.
My people is this normal ,can a man be turned on or love women with stretch marks?? How can I help my friend from this awkward behaviour??

I CAN RELATE!

op wetin consain you? Abi you no wan make stretch mark ladies get pueno from dem boys again? angry

Mind ya work o!

#teamsexystretchmarks cheesy

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