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 Nairaland General › Re: Whats'up About This "Live In France" Sloqan? by 5minsmadness: 7:21pm On Dec 01, 2014 |
Well, someone must have started it and before you can say jack Robinson it went viral. We don't take such things serious here in France though. |
| Nairaland General › Re: Men Hardly Give Their Fellow Men A Lift...why?? by 5minsmadness: 6:11pm On Dec 01, 2014 |
Why should they?  |
| Nairaland General › Re: 19 Funny Things That Happens In A Taxi by 5minsmadness: 6:07pm On Dec 01, 2014 |
 No. 11  1 Like |
| Family › Re: 7 Poisonous Beliefs That Make You Desperately Unhappy by 5minsmadness: 4:52pm On Dec 01, 2014 |
Beautiful. Thanks. |
| Family › Re: Fell@tio and cunnil!ngu.s-a Taboo In African Marriages. Where Do We Start? by 5minsmadness: 8:03pm On Nov 30, 2014 |
Too many OVErExciTed women on this thread ...  |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 3:51pm On Nov 30, 2014 |
Serenity22:I didn't say he is justified to do anything anywhere. I am saying that he does not carry the blame alone. If you are a married couple and there are lapses in your relationship you don't leave it to fester and boil, you sint ignore the man for too long, you sort it out immediately. Even if the husband forms romance for his wife at that time some women will still ignore the man in a bid to show stubbornness. If they make it a habit they shouldn't be surprised if the man strays. |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 12:50pm On Nov 30, 2014 |
Serenity22:But he is quarreling with his wife remember? Both of them 'aren't talking' and no one want to admit he/she is at fault. He has to channel that romance energy somewhere and since wifey isn't receptive at that time... And yes, like you said if he was irresponsible in dating, he will be irresponsible in marriage even if his wife is an angel. That is why I say the runsgirl or his wife has never been his problem and will never be, its himYes this holds if he was already previously a womanizer. |
| Family › Re: Ray Rice Reinstated Back Into NFL And Janay Rice Tells Her Story (update) by 5minsmadness: 12:21am On Nov 30, 2014 |
Also, they have been together since they were both teenagers, when Ray Rice never knew he would become something in life. So, this has nothing to do with what she stands to gain from him, it;s more about a rider, who has been through everything with him. Someone who loves him unconditionally. Understands him better than anyone else. And the rock that has always been behind him. |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 12:10am On Nov 30, 2014 |
Opinion on girls who sleep with married men infers that the girl knew the man was married. A girl who sleeps with a married man unknowingly cant be faulted here because she was decieved or just ignorant. But there are girls out there whose specialty are married men. Why? Married men are more responsible. That's just the truth. Married men have put aside boyish things and have this level of romance exuding from their entities. Probably the married man is having issues in his home. he may be in the wrong, he may be in the right but the case in point is, he and wifey are not in the love zone at the moment. Married man has all this romance and allure he wants to give out not to talk of the sexual tension because he hasnt had wild sex with wifey since like forever; and then agnes the new secretary comes in. She's pretty, dresses the kind of smart way wifey used to do when they were dating and she has a new perfume scent every other week. Also she is single. Married man starts to remember the good old days and wants to show his stuff. it usually starts innocently enough, a romantic gesture(meant for his wife), a kind compliment(meant for his wife), an intimate discussion or a joke shared(he and wife are no longer discussing or joking) and the game is set. He thinks he'll stop soon enough, this is just for the thrill of it and she doesnt even mind, in fact she knows he is married so the boundaries are there, or so he thinks. he forgets he is a physical being and sooner or later if he and wifey continue to be at logger heads or if they dont genuinely patch thier differences, adultery happens. Yes it is his fault, he could have been stronger for his wife despite her character. it is also possible that if wifey had paid attention to the tell-tale signs(and they are ALWAYS there) she could have averted the disaster. As for the girl, this married man usually has money, one of a single girl's basic and most important needs. He's not going to be pestering her phone 100 times a day to know how she is, he is not going to be monitoring her left and right to see if she's keeping a boyfriend by the side, not as much as a single guy would anyway. He is not going to demand for sex, most of the time sex is romantic and occurs spontaneously. He's not interested in marrying her so she doesn't have to always behave her Sunday best, she can be as wild as possible with him and this eventually makes her more fun to be around. He is a friends with benefits(money and sex and connections) kind of deal and its a win win for her as long as his wife doesnt find out. And dont worry when its time for her to settle down if he is the nice type he will even buy a big wedding gift for her and exchange secret glances with her once or twice at the reception. Karma? Not to worry because by now she is born again and carries church on her head and prays everyday for her husband. She is the one who funny enough will do all it takes to make sure her husband does not stray from his matrimonial home for whatever reason. Whether karma eventually catches up with her is anyone's guess. The long and short of it is an affair is not rape. There is mutual decision making and consent and therefore both parties are to blame. Neither the married man nor the single girl is arm-twisted into the adulterous relationship and neither are they arm-twisted into maintaining that adulterous relationship. Something is fueling that relationship and as long as that fuel is there the relationship will continue. |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 11:39pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Serenity22:Your thinking is based on the assumption that men cheat for no reason at all; that no excuse is good enough for a man to cheat. Well I'm standing here as the devil's advocate to tell you that there are genuine excuses for men to cheat. If cheating is so rampant among the men in the society its not because they have gone bonkers; there is a reason for it. Single ladies keep going on about if my man cheats i'll do this, If my man cheats I'll do that, why give your man the avenue to cheat in the first place? Why put him under duress, why tempt him in the first place if you care for him so much? A man marries a woman he loves because of her character and her looks. These are the two most important reasons upon which others can be extrapolated from. Knowing this, it then lies on the woman to maintain these two features as much as humanly possible. Nobody is expecting you to be as slim or as pretty as the day you both got married but at least show some effort, that's all a man needs. You get married and immediately cut your hair and stop using make-up and look like mike tyson and somehow expect the man to still have the same level of attraction for you? Or you stop having your bath in the evenings and wear old-woman underwear all around the house and keep the toilet door open while you poo and expect the same level of attraction to be there? How? Or you let yourself go and become the allegorical humpty-dumpty with smelly underarm pits with dirt under your flabby braests and expect hubby to not be tempted to look outside? Hubby is human too! Hubby is still attracted to looks and his flesh still hungers for a semblance of that thing that made you irresistible to him in the first place. You enter the family and stop being polite, exchanging words with hubby at every given opportunity, making yourself an irritation in his home and you expect him to come running home to you? You hassle him everytime for money while telling him he is not measuring up to his peers and should work harder so he can open a boutique for you, and when he does you behave as if the boutique is your right in the first place, the money you make from it you never once share with your hubby, anytime hubby sees you he thinks of how he has been railroaded and doesn't receive any thanks for what he has done for you only criticism and snide remarks of how he should prove his manhood so you can respect him, in fact all traces of the loving and endearing character that attracted hubby to you in the first place is gone and you expect him to not look at the pretty sweet chic at his office who speaks kind and soothing words into his ears, who smells like cool evening spring and sunshine, whose smile lifts off the gloom you placed on hubby before he went to work and you think hubby will not be tempted to cheat? You think these are not valid reasons for cheating? Think again. You had sex with hubby when you were dating three times a week, you were a sexual tiger in bed and all of a sudden after marriage you start quoting to hubby ----sex no be food, try and control yourself? All you can now do is the missionary position because you cant be bothered to spice things up in your bedroom, in fact you now retain sex until hubby has done something special for you then you lie down and spread your legs to give it out as a kind of reward...something he paid your bride price for? Suddenly you remember its your body and you are the one in charge and you selfishly hoard yourself and your pleasurable body from him not minding the sexual tension he is under and then you wonder why he has started visiting porn sites and ogling women outside? You are waiting to catch him cheating on you so you can thump your chest and say all men cheat instead of quickly doing something about it when you see the tell-tale signs? And you claim to love such a man? NO you don't. You are just selfish and your man is in torment. Married men don't just cheat. The women that marry womanizers usually already know the kind of men they have before marrying them and hopefully are ready to deal with the consequences. Women who marry decent men who 'suddenly' become cheats should find out the reason why and try to fix it. And if they want to quit they should quit. They might just be doing the man a favour. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Does "No" Mean "No", When It Comes To Your Wife? by 5minsmadness: 2:42pm On Nov 29, 2014 |
Mondisweets:How did you extrapolate this from what I said? Its not the same abeg! |
| Family › Re: Ray Rice Reinstated Back Into NFL And Janay Rice Tells Her Story (update) by 5minsmadness: 11:14am On Nov 29, 2014 |
And for all those of you who were thinking she wa going to divorce and crucify him.... [size=18pt]HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA[/size]!!!!!!!! 1 Like |
| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 8:58am On Nov 29, 2014 |
BuddhaPalm:The way they viewed unclothedness then is NOT the same way we view it now. NOW those things like breasts are hidden and whatever is hidden is more valued. There is a proverb that states : Stolen bread always tastes sweeter. Imagine growing up in a society where all the women went about bare-braested. By the time you would have reached adulthood, seeing braests will not be 'new' again for you. You won't see it as a big deal. Your sense of arousal will be much more dulled than a stranger who wanders into your village from the modern towns where every woman covers her braests only to see naked teenage baests everywhere. In fact, this is what happened with the missionaries and early Christians who came with the white men to conquer Africa. They saw young nubile women all over the place, happily exposing that which thier own women covered jealously. The African men who lived with these bare-braested women were already 'used to it' and saw nothing overly erotic about it. The whitemnen however went on a sex spree. The missionaries gave them clothes so as not to be tempted like thier heathen brothers to fornicate with these uncivilized Africans. Anyone here who has watched the movie/documentary "Hawaii" will understand what I am talking about. The missionaries had to physically fight off the white sailors from sleeping with and raping the young girls. We are now in a modern age where everybody covers up. A woman just cannot come out of her jeep topless and go for a meeting without being regarded as a mad person. We now see the hidden braest and backsides as hidden/forbidden, and the stolen bread is tasting sweeter every day. If it was the norm nobody would blink an eye but it isn't the norm. So girls please dress decently. when its time for sex you can expose your breasts and nipples, wear transparent clothing etc...that's when exposing those things will be appreciated. Not in public pls. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 8:23am On Nov 29, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Christianity is more of NT than OT. Also we are talking on the concept of karma, not retribution. For the examples you gave above the people involved grieved the holy spirit and were punished immediately. Karma is not instantaneous like that. |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 8:19am On Nov 29, 2014 |
On the topic, the op in aportioning blame to the men only, is doing exactly what she is trying to preach against. There is a common saying: It takes two to tango. You cannot blame only one party, the problem will continue. If all married men through some miraculous event stop cheating and stay at home, the loose women out there will still find a way to get into their homes. It all boils down to upbringing and morals. If a person has bad morals and no inner sense of self control then he is bound to stray out of marriage especially when the challenges of sexual incompatibility comes up as it usually does. This is the role spiritual restraint was supposed to play in society but now we have more or less chucked that out the window and now immorality is everywhere and we are paying the consequences. |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 8:04am On Nov 29, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Even this is an adulteration commonly preached by new age Christianity....specifically pentecostals..i.e if you don't live a holy life you wont progress in life, you wont gain prosperity etc. Its much similar to those annoying texts they send...Jesus loves you, now forward this text to 60people or suffer his wrath. True Christianity does not believe in rewards or punishment here on earth. That is why most of the apostles lives were physically wretched. The emphasis is on the afterlife, heaven and hell. |
| Family › Re: Opinion On Girls Who Sleep With Married Men. by 5minsmadness: 7:47am On Nov 29, 2014 |
Just to clarify@crackhaus and ujsizzle; karma is not a christian concept. It is an Asian cultural concept found in Buddhism and Hinduism. Christianity believes mostly that whatever wrong you do on earth you will pay for in the afterlife if you do not repent. |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: MY HUBBY IS AVOIDING ME.....I DO NOT KNOW WHY by 5minsmadness: 9:26pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
slimmingcare:And the day you have your way with her they will call you a marriage rapist! Nobody will talk to the woman to understand o, no! 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Does "No" Mean "No", When It Comes To Your Wife? by 5minsmadness: 9:21pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
Many of these women have lower libido than their husbands. So anytime the man asks for sex and the woman refuses and the man insists, it automatically turns to rape?? Very soon they will say 99% of marriages have experienced rape. Mumu whites always looking for needle in haystacks! This world should end abeg! |
| Family › Re: Does "No" Mean "No", When It Comes To Your Wife? by 5minsmadness: 9:19pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
But why will woman refuse sex to the husband she married na? |
| Family › Re: Should Couples Do This? by 5minsmadness: 9:17pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
This has been discussed before. Some people are not too comfortable sleeping with others, even their loved ones. Some people like to sleep with the lights on while others sleep with the lights off. Most husbands are chased from their matrimonial beds when the new baby arrives and never come back. The reasons are numerous. |
| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 9:11pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
Some people here are allowing emotion becloud thier judgment. Nobody is saying provocative dressing justifies rape. What we are saying is if you as a girl dresses provocatively you are more likely to attract sexual attention than a girl who dresses decently. The more sexual attention you attract the more likely you are going to get raped. Its not rocket science. Rape can never be justified. It can be avoided though. |
| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 9:03pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
BuddhaPalm:Abeg direct me to the thread where u guys r discussing this plssssss |
| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 2:17pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
VickyyB:Pls lets be honest abeg. Which of them dressing like this ALL THE TIME is most likely going to get raped? |
| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 2:03pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
Who is more likely to be raped among these women? Note that both have their hands and legs exposed.
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| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 1:51pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
Seun:This is the long and short of the matter. A man is more easily sexually aroused than a woman. This is just the plain truth. It is the ability to control this sexual urge that makes us gentlemen and others rapists. A woman who dresses provocatively will arouse a man's sexual desires. That's how our system works. A woman who dresses provocatively is more likely to enter a situation where she will tempt a rapist than a decently dressed girl. If you wear bra and pant and enter the market don't cry if you get sexually harrassed. If you dress with miniskirt and exposed breasts and go to allnight service don't shout if you get raped. You dress as you want to be addressed. If you dress like a bitch you will most likely get treated like one. If you dress decently you will most likely be respected. |
| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 11:33am On Nov 28, 2014 |
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| Crime › Re: Does Indecent Dressing Justify Rape? by 5minsmadness: 11:04am On Nov 28, 2014 |
Does indecent dressing justify rape? As in, if a girl dresses provocatively and she gets raped should the rapist be allowed to go free? The answer is no. Does indecent dressing increase a girl's chances of being raped? Yes it does. Should girls avoid indecent dressing to prevent being sexually harassed and possibly raped? Yes they should. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
| Romance › Re: MAGA-ism the worst disease guys suffer from all over the world(GUYS ONLY) by 5minsmadness: 2:43pm On Nov 26, 2014 |
williaam:  The guy dey form knight-in-shining armour |
| Family › Re: Do You Talk To Yourself? by 5minsmadness(op): 6:37am On Nov 26, 2014 |
babyosisi:Nothing of the sort ma'm. No Bluetooth device, no earpiece, nada. Dude was yammerin to his imaginary friend as if there was no tomorrow. |
| Romance › Re: MAGA-ism the worst disease guys suffer from all over the world(GUYS ONLY) by 5minsmadness: 8:29am On Nov 25, 2014 |
There is a thin line between being Magaproof and being stingy. If the girl is nice and doesn't make unnecessary demands you can buy something for her once in a while. But if she starts taking advantage of that and tells you to buy her human hair, magaism don start be dat. |
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