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ahnie:
phew! Motherhood z a different ball game.my little missy z very strong.i dunno if its teething,but v given her bonababe and her temp drastically reduced.


God please make this teething ish go away. Cos i kant deal mehn.its just so frightening seeing your Los(little ones)going tru such ish.

uwagimboo:
Seriously Sir, am not saying u re a fo0l but u are...
If u know how I feel sir, I will so beat the hell out of you if u were related to me..
I hate men who re wives..
Oga point of correction, u re being married by that man u call a wife..
U re so useless to manhood, how can ur wife be threatening you nd u run down here asking for opinion

If u know how upset I am with this rubbish u call problem, I will so slap you till u start Becoming a man..

veave:
How you love?

It seems very odd that you are begging for sex at home and he is begging for sex outside. There is a serious disconnect somewhere cos that doesn't make sense.

mumtriplet2:
I have made up my mind to leave.
Is it true that one cannot get divorce in Catholic Church even when life is estake?
Am confused.

Fastpace:
This passage u shud read again and again.it says if the unbeliving partner go" u as a believer is not bound to him,and let him go.it is a different issue entirely & it does nt apply to all marriages.it apply to marriage btw a beliver & an unbeliver.in addition it does not say the beliver shud leave.

mumtriplet2:
Tnx everyone for your advice .


My father loves my mum soo much that he agree with whatever she say in other to make her happy.
My father is Educated and civilised.

talk2alabama:
[s]This is what happens when u obey your parents against ur own will[/s]

njokusboy:
Dude, it's better not to give than to give grudgingly.....
Little things like this are best nipped in the bud at their infancy else he'd be trying to cut it down for the rest of his marries life.... Like my dad always says, anything you cannot sustain in a marriage, don't start it....
ND she is even blackmailing him, this is a ticking bomb I tell you, conceding to the wife in an issue such as this is the worst thing a man can possibly do in the scenario....
If she can make an issue out of this, what do you think she'd so when real issues arise?

veave:
Don't fight with her. Just give them money to buy what they want. Trust me. Daiper would be very far from it. Things are real hard. Anyone you give money now would never stop putting you in prayers

Acidosis:
For peace to reign in your house, do what she wants, but don't end it there.



Continue to teach her the principles of love. In many situations, we may not be able to give the same quality/quantity of consumables, etc. as gifts to people. However, telling you to your face that your neighbors baby cannot share the same materials with her baby is unethical. If someone ask me for a phone, wristwatch, laptop, etc., truth is I MAY not buy the exact quality/quantity I use. Not because I look down on whoever is asking, but solely because of financial limitations.

If your wife tells you DO NOT BUY this for financial reasons, then she HAS A point. But if the rationale behind the disagreement dwells on non-financial issues like 'class', then again, you need to teach her principles of love and sacrifice.

Until she learns this, do not allow a young maid come close to your house.


Cheers

CHIMCO:
My neighbours wife put to bed. I am making arrangement on how to pay vist to the child with gifts. My wife also put to bed early this year and Surprisenly, i was at work when my wife called me and informed me that this very neigbour came to visit our child with tubers of yam and diaper(my babe). I was surprised because i wasnt expecting anything from them and i know that they are poor sharing one room. I thanked them. Now they had a new babe and i am planning to pay a visit. My wife asked me what i intend to buy, i told her i want to buy the following: 1 SMA gold 2. Diaper(pampers) 3 detergent(zip big size) and bottles of eve water big sizes. My wife opposed to the above and insist on the following: 1 that it is her sole responsibility to buy things for them, that i should give her the money.( i know she will not buy what i want) 2 she said they uses NAN babe formular and WOW detergent. That i should give them what they use. But the above things i mentioned was what i normally use for my children and i can afford it for them. We are having serious issues on the above now. My wife threatens to seize the items and use it on our children if i buy the ones our children uses. She even alleaged that i have eyes on her on mere alleagation that she talks and laughs with me whenever she is not around and thats the reason i want to buy what our children uses for them. Please i need your candid advice on the above. My wife is also a member of this forum she will also read and learn. Thanks.

sweetilicious:
thank you so much. I learnt from you.

Versailles:
That's great!
I really hope you visit there next year. I think that's the facade. most of them, seem docile and angelic, but can turn to deep demons when tested beyond their capacities.
It is really nice talking to you I must say.
I like Conversations on topics like this, Deep and Meaningful.

Versailles:
Please if i may ask, You are versely conversed in east Asian culture and ways. Have you ever lived in China?

Yes i think her Culture shock would be the various Religions she would be opened ahead to when she travels over there.
Except if She and her Husband decides to the "your religion, your choice" Stuff.
Haha I have seen Various types of women and especially this 21st century chinese women that are worse than Devils themselves. Their Anger is like Hell hath no fury. especially in Cases, which their Husbands were found cheating on them, since they have been faithful on their own part in the Marriage.
Their "Werey" is Worse than the Highest Naija's woman's Werey.
Lol.

Amen. I know she would be Okay.
People like Jason and Farhia (A Japanese guy and a Somalian girl) Although they met in Canada, or the United States i think.
Have done this and they are living very well and both have a Kid now.

Versailles:
Haha.
To be honest even me too, and if i should send to you some pictures personally. i didn't post it up here. That white guy totally looked like he would Devour her any minute. Hehe. I'm minding my business

Wow from that Story you just told me, Since you have heard it from a Life party who is also your Friend, Lol i am shocked.
Like really? Well i think not all of them would have just "small equipments" as God created us in different sizes and shapes. Lol

And It doesn't matter the size of a car but how you drive it?
*Clears throath* Hehe. I don't know.
As different Strokes for Different Folks..
I think he's still a Buddist or even a Communist, as even if he turns to a Christian, His family values are still deeply rooted in that religion. Maybe while he's still here he might go to Church from time to time.

Ujoan:
Heeeey . . . look at that. it has a brain

Versailles:
Lol, no It's not me I was rather putting it "Emphatically"
The stereotypes i kept on mentioning on the Ambw matter was that, For example If you look at the same post, but it was created by someone. you would see most comments Characterizing Asians getting married to blacks/or our naija sisters as not too good, particularly due to highly believed Perceptions of " small sexual organs and stuff". some were even Implying that our sisters here would get married to them because of money.
And i have seen this kind of Marriages work out successfully despite people's comments and all.

Fkforyou:
I wish you and Jin Cheng a happy married life ....

mexynjc:
"DON'T MARRY A WOMAN THAT CANNOT PRAY FOR AT LEAST ONE HOUR STRAIGHT"



Pst E.A Adeboye

shaybebaby:
Nothing is stopping you from posting yours too, let's see who has the stronger yansh!

freecocoa:
It's not fair o, if it's to argue nonsense now you people will mention me, but no one remembers to, when the drama is on, so not fair.

freecocoa:
Why do I always miss the good stuff? Somebody please show me those pics.

MizMyColi:
Whatever GDT' means, I'm sure it has a negative connotation, so I rebuke such.

This is not about my married life. This is not about the people who constitute my private life. Please do well to leave them out of the mix.

This is about personality or should I say personality issues.

Lately, I prefer viewing.
And in the course of my viewing, I have watched you (a respected symbol in my perception) and a group of known canterkerous folks shame a certain moniker.

Why?
Because she's a single mum who happens to have an opinion that 'we' don't agree with, so 'we' shame her, and try to put her in her place, call her a failure for choosing to walk out of a marriage she doesn't believe in anymore, call her ugly, taunt her for being an onlooker in the affairs of her son's life, taunt her child's father like we're privy to all her life's details and what have you?

You even went as far as quoting that irritable and highly obfuscative thing the OP posted and emboldened it, just to drive home a point....when you know that it is not always true.

In this section, somebody cannot post pictures in peace or even talk about challenges they face. Why? Because the likes of Francis will save their not too cool pictures/stories and use it to taunt them the moment they begin to have opinions or comments they do not agree with.

It does not make sense. It is unfair.

There are people who do such here and Heaven knows I will never be seen objecting because they simply lack the capacity to reason or be reasonable, but not you.

This is not to say that I support the females' actions on here in totality.

Coco didn't attack you. I think she likes you. I didn't sense any vitriol.

Chilli jokes around a lot. I didn't think she has a personal vendetta. She probably just reined in on the moment.

Dyt made a comment that I seconded and someone who calls himself a father attacked her, albeit subtly.

You posted pictures of your wife in a bid to assert that she is far better than them, did you expect them to applaud and agree?
Though I consider her smile exceptionally beautiful, you would have thrown same negativity if you were in their shoes. An e-war happened here FCOL.

And you people are supposed to be men o.
Real men know when to walk away.
Real men do not engage in pettiness.
Real men will speak up and stand true to their values even when the women come up with their pettiness.

The actions of Mindy and Shay on this thread, I sense, is borne out of Enough-is-Enough.
I imagine that Mindy doesn't exactly feel good that she stooped to body shaming or ridiculing you, but then, it's probably her way of standing for Shay and letting you guys know that you are not the only ones good at throwing vitriols and mockery.

Two of you, I respect. This should stop please. The pound of flesh has been exerted.

My belief, yours and hers, or anyone's for that matter must not tally. It is improper to be on the offensive or defensive about what a person chooses to believe. It only leads to strife. Ordinarily, I would be more interested in seeking out the things I share in common with those who have different belief from mine. Why dwell on things that breed division? Why engage in unproductive arguments which in itself is a form of violence? Why the need to be seen as right and others as wrong?

You people should please return to your roles in this section that bothers on being light and offering practical solutions to people's issues.

Thank you.

Versailles:
No i'm not the one.
why do you think i'm the one?