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Ujoan:
And if you understood English you'd also know I meant the OP . . . since you are his mouthpiece, obviously eliciting empathy on his behalf. Olodo

I hate seeing nonsense, it assaults my sensibilities, that's why I've dedicated my time and energy to fight it on this thread

You guys think being insensitive is something to be proud of. I can only feel sorrow for the children you are raising. . . .

I don't have any pity to waste on OP because the don't deserve it . . . both him and his brother.

Someone asked him if the search is for ritual purpose . . who knows. The things we hear these days. Maybe they asked him to donate one of his sons and w2ho better to bring than the bastard he abandoned.

Now I fear for the poor boy . . . May God save and protect him

Ujoan:
The only person showing cowardice here is you . . . and I already addressed the guy directly and CALLED HIM TO ORDER.

Now you are crying bully? Who first started throwing insults around and calling people vultures I guess you never thought you will meet your match.

YES I AM A BULLY . . . and very proud I'm able to BULLY a man.

And yes, I'm OLD . . . age is a thing to embrace and be proud of. I am a PROUD OLD WIFE and MOTHER!


Go and die . . . .

Ujoan:
I've used you as a point of contact nah . . . at least now I've mentioned someone.

Empathy?? Thats'w what you expect? No, you are not getting any . . . not from me

Like I said from my fist comment, I'm carrying out my civic duty by calling you to order . . .

And you don't have to degenerate to lies to prove your point. I didn't attack anyone who showed him sympathy . . . just those tryint to justify his attitude. Do you not understand simple English.

I've got my eyes on you now so even if you don't quote, I will quote you

Ujoan:
That's how one of you went to quote a comment I made in an unrelated thread to try and attack me . . . . Unfortunately I'm not one of those weak and insecure people that can be easily intimidated by e-attacks. I can do this all day Mister . . . can you

Ujoan:
Yes you are a coward by intentionally avoiding to quote anyone. You think you can just throw general insults about and go free because you were didn't quote anybody?

I intentionally decided to call you to order because your snide comments are demeaning to say the least. Why can't you be the man you claim to be and address people directly?

Mumu

Ujoan:
Do you not know what the quote button is used for? Why can't you be specific in addressing issues instead of barking around like a mad DOG

I can't seem to find where anyone was wished evil, or where anyone was trying to justify any wish they made I wonder if you are referring to my prayer for your daughters to pass through what Chioma passed through; then it shouldn't be 'evil' to you nah . . . after all what OP did was the right thing, which is why I wished same for y'all. I expect to be THANKED!

Throwing irrelevant comments about to generate likes is really cowardly . . . we are all saying the same thing. LET EVERY MAN REAP WHAT HE SOWS!!!

kaziblake:
I'm not lying

kaziblake:
I just saw the gibberish you wrote and in your mind you think you made sense?
Yes!i know the chioma and I asked her some things stylishly and I can confirmed right now that she is the one.

RiloKiley:
Thanks i guess.
If everyone was a little less galling towards each other we would all be better off.

baby124:
Sorry to say but your father in law has always been a foolish and weak man. Reason why he can have 2 kids outside his marriage and a kid he had outside can break his marriage. I don't blame your MIL for what she did. It may look wicked, but she knew who and what she married which is probably her biggest mistake. Any woman will do anything to preserve her home. Plus as soon as that girl started causing trouble if your FIL had any sense he would have put his foot down and fought to keep his own home. Seems your FIL is a weak man that likes to tell emotional stories and gives excuses which has probably turned your MIL into the witch. Anyone that read your story can tell the man has got some very serious issues.

You think it's cake for your husband to show up and say he has two kids outside during your marriage? What!? You really should be worried about your home if that is the kind of man that raised your husband and your husband is on his side? This is not an insult. I would be. At the end of the day, your MIL was partially right, one of the kids were not his! Obviously this man was fond of following women of very easy virtue. She knew the lazy useless goat she married, who is still in a 1 bedroom. Makes me almost assume she was even the bread winner. Who would have paid for a biological kid that was not her husband's if she didn't take her earlier action.

Askseek:
@ OP, my 2 cents. My father in law did something similar. In his case there were 2 kids he knew of and could still find their homes. He egged on by my mother in law abandoned these kids and relocated to the US. My mil argued that her husband was drunk and did not know what he was doing, and that he women were of loose morals so how could she be sure her husband was truly responsible. She chased them away and relocated her husband to the US. She joined him a few years later and eventually moved all her sons over. When they were finally settled and "doing well" the urge to right this wrong came over both of them and my fil came back to Nigeria. He was able to find both families. One of them her mother died when she was 6, she was passed from one relation to another, minimal education. She saw him, heard those words "I am your father" and packed her bags to go with him. He was overjoyed, if only he knew. From the day she moved in, every form of happiness walked out the door. My mil who perpetrated such a cruel act to keep her husband to herself lost her marriage. A marriage of 40 years collapsed and ended in divorce. Wemimo relocated to the US, DNA testing proved she is his daughter. She now lives with her father in the one bedroom apartment he once shared with his wife. She sleeps in the bedroom, he on the couch. My mil has 6 sons, at this moment only one still talks to his mother. The rest can't forgive her cruelty and have abandoned her. All six sons barely speak to their father. Wemimo I heard from the family grapevine said she would avenge her mother's death as she believes all her mother's suffering and eventual death stem from being abandoned by her lover, she hates my mil because she sees her as the one who forced her husband to abandon her mother.

The second child in question, David grew up in a home. His mother married and the man accepted David. He was in his final year in Unilag when my fil arrived. You can imagine the pain brought into that home. The young man did not acknowledge him, told him he had a father already. My fil dangled the American Dream like a carrot and this young man kicked him out with all the gifts he brought over. After numerous trips by family members he agreed to have a DNA test done since the issue of paternity was still in question. He turned out not to be my fil biological son and he was so happy not to be my fil son.

Sometimes we should let sleeping dogs lie, that little peace your brother has now. He might just use his own hands to destroy it by reopening this. What happened was horrible and inexcusable. He should leave this alone

RiloKiley:
Civic duty, lol, who is paying you for it?
You think you have made sense by all these words you typed? Where has he specifically mentioned he deserved any award? Where has he shown pride? Because he mentioned money, you don't like money? You wanted him to be poverty stricken? He even admitted his family was at fault and nobody is above mistake, what is you people's problem really

Yes, my comment was tactful. It was a generalized statement to pass a point across without accusing anyone in particular. Enough leeway to let those guilty of attacking the op unnecessarily read and move on without feeling personally affronted. Your quoting me specifically shows you are one of the bitter people sticking their nose in too deep for something that doesn't concern you in any way.




This is the original op's comment.
At first bolded, he starts by greeting you all in a respective manner. He talks about the prowess of nairalanders in helping to solve problems and his hope that his need will be met. How much more polite can you get?

At second bolded, he states the problem clearly. I guess because he mentioned his brother was successful and in the USA while the supposed girlfriend came from a poor family immediately a lot of you became jealous and judgmental (Yes, JEALOUS! You wont admit it but that was your first feeling!)! Should he hide his status again? He is trying to say he can now take good care of the boy if perchance they are still in an abject state of poverty BECAUSE THAT WAS THE WAY HE LEFT THEM. He has not done anything wrong by being successful and he definitely does not sound proud at this point.

At third bolded, Pleadings, apologies, explanations and more pleadings. He mentions money again, something that is apparently wrong to mention on this forum, and a lot of JEALOUSY flares up again. What has he said wrong? He even said he wants to compensate her ALTHOUGH HE KNOWS NO AMOUNT CAN PAY FOR WHAT HAS BEEN DONE TO HER. How do you want him to say it again? Someone is saying he should stop mentioning money, he should stop mentioning money as if "money" is biting him/her!

I dare you to recompose his op to be more acceptable to the general public.

You people just like having the power to judge and execute. It pleases you to see the 'american big boy' in so much pains because he cannot get to his son. Some are shouting karma as if they haven't done a bad thing in their life. Someone is even wishing him impotency! Thank God the op said his brother has two sons else you all would have been throwing a party at his misfortune! Painting yourselves as saints and pointing fingers at the op who has been amazingly polite and agreeing that yes his brother was at fault, taking all sorts of insults with humility just so he can get the help he wants. I guess that's what massages your egos.
Was his brother the one that threw the girl away? Was it not the sister? Even if it was him can he not be allowed to repent and reunite with his son? Even if his family abandoned her hasn't the op said severally that the fault was theirs and they are willing to correct their mistake?

No empathy at all! You blame the government for everything when you cannot even show pity on yourselves!

One poster is even angry on Chioma's behalf?! Has she asked the Chioma whether she is angry? If she has vital information to the finding of this woman and her son, isn't the normal thing to do to ask chioma WHAT HER OWN OPINION IS ABOUT HER CHILDHOOD LOVER first before passing judgement? How does it concern her? Why is she making the decision of not telling the op? Is she even related to chioma? Shouldn't that be for chioma to decide? How do you know chioma is not looking for Ikechukwu as well? Is she God?
She may not even have any information sef, just trying her best to make the op as miserable as possible. Because he mentioned wealth and USA? Are you people happy with poverty?

Abeg spirit1, you brought this problem to the wrong place, its mostly gloaters and bitter people that populate here, please take the little information you have gotten from the few good advices and move on. By God's grace you shall find succour. Its not a crime to be rich or be from the USA. Ask them if many of them are not fasting and praying to be where you are.

I know many of you will attack me after this post. I don't give a flying Bleep. Immature rubbish bunch of people who would rather watch the man burn to death than raise a hand to help him because he mentioned money. Nonsense!

Yaksson:
Dear Op, I have come to realise that seeking help on this forum is a big WASTE OF TIME.
mainly due to the following reasons:

1. There are many immature individuals who get personal each time they drop comments, hence logic is thrown for emotions.

2. Everyone here wants to voice out an opinion but sadly, wants his/her opinion to be the ONLY right one.

3. The level of judgemental criticism is second to none, they would do your wake, bury you, and dance the burial thanksgiving
even before you are dead.

4. They mock some or all of your listed issues just to point out your mistakes.

5. They end up giving you little or no help at all, even when they give u an advice, its normally a terrible one.

That being said, there are some few matured ones as I have seen very good suggestions, but most of them are well.... just catching fun.
Just be careful the kind of issues you share and be ready to receive the mega bashing of your life.

N.B: Don't quote me pls. I didn't call anybody's name, so read and passover!

Spirit1:
Yes I agree with you. This is not about doing him or his mother a favor. This is about making effort to right a wrong.
No assumptions is being made here, but we all know that a mistake has occurred.
Shit happens in life, but everyone deserves a second chance.

I really appreciate your kind contribution.

kaziblake:
This thread is making me angry..Even if it's the chioma I know i wont tell her anything

kaziblake:
I know a lady in my street bearing chioma with a 23yrs old son born outside wedlock...she told us how the man family rejected her and how she and her new husband suffered to train him in school but if she is the one you guys are talking about,just forget it.
1,Your brother is heartless and I won't show or tell her anything about this post..God has redeem himself in their life and the boy is done with school.

Just forget about him

Karma is a b!tch

crackhaus:
Interesting...

At least someone is being helpful.

Clinton594:
Finally you've just confirmed it's a myth cos 7yrs ago when I was eighteen, I experienced so many rainy mornings without it hitting me

Or maybe you're still 18 and as tender as your brain is, you think that getting drenched by early morning rain is getting hit by konji like a trailer

Clinton594:
I don't think OP is telling the truth sha, I'd wish to experience konji if it's not a myth

hahn:
Na true sha.

Like when she walks around in just panties and bra.

I immediately need to cum

lofty900:
Konji na bastard

sinaj:
Lwkmd! Op u no well o!

hahn:
I am married and I work at home so I get pvssy regularly

MUVA:
Receive Christ in your life bro.

DR1SKLEF:
[color=#0799AD]Smh!

What is conji?[/color]

domopps:
Sorry what's Konji?





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