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Toks2008:
Don't be dude..

It is clear...Masturbation was never mentioned as a sin in the bible but the ideology of man has made it one....so after going through the bible and trying to understand this from the ideological perspective i have arrived at these;

Fornication is sin
Watching Pornography is sin(Because you will lust after the people in the film and the Bible says lustful look is a sin)
Visual Pornographic induced masturbation is sin(Same as above(
Sexual thought is healthy
masturbating to wade off fornication is not a sin.


The argument is what do you think about when you masturbate? ?the girl next door? a sexual act you have had in the past?...for whatever it is,i do not see how thinking about sex translates to sin else all of us will definitely end up in hell because as i type this, i am thinking about sex.

The problem is the addiction which makes people confuse it for a sin but the truth is that you can be addicted to many sinless acts.

My main aim of creating this thread is to prevent countless people from giving up their salvation because they find themselves masturbating and to tell them not to despair and count themselves unworthy for GOD's kingdom and to encoutrage them to use masturbation to put their body under check rather than explode with passion by raping,molesting or fornicating...that is the aim of this write up.

GOD HELP US ALL.

Amelian:
Am not scared touching his phone.. Its not about fear but respecting each other's privacy. For me , i dont beleive in it.. I love my privacy alot... Likewise him too. For us ,theres no difference in our relationship and in marriage. And we are not living in fool's paradise. We are both aware of what we require from each other..
What works for us.. Might not work for another... Its our choice to be faithful to each other , even in courtship..its a mutual agreement, which works perfectly well for us.. And we are happy with our choice... If no one is faithful when courting? Is it in marriage u will then change mindset and start becoming faithful
Some human beings are not automated machine that can switch from unfaithful during courtship and suddenly switch to faithful during marriage..
Well everyone with his or her own.

eyinjuege:
Some numbers can never be forgotten no matter how hard you try, talk less of when you're still game.

Meaning , if she deletes her number from his phone, he probably still has her number in his heart.

However, he can make a conscious effort never to contact the number.

Fabulocity:
So at no. 7,
If someone dies at the House of Parliament, would they sue the corpse?

byvan03:
I see nothing wrong in sharing bath sponge.

David25:
The key thing is to go for the person you like. Color should not even be an issue here.

OEmiohe:
Last 2 months I got a job after abt 1 years of unending such for a job. But after I got the job I discovered I was pregnant, unforunately I worked as a P.A, when my boss found out I was pregnant she laid me off giving the excuse that She will not be comfortable sending me on errands again knowing I'm pregnant. I got home hurt but decided to move on.

[s]As an act of respect I give my hubby my salary . But to my surprise after a few weeks I asked my hubby for 100 naira to hold while he was abt leaving to work, he refused to give me saying dat I don,t need money on me since I'm at home and there is enough food in the house for the day. I felt so bad n hurt when my little baby of 9 months was tasty dat same day n when I went to the fridge to get water I noticed that there was no single pure water left, I had to boil ordinary water for her to drink.
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Just yesterday my hubby told me he was given a sack letter at work on friday. We are so worried, as we have bills to pay our houserate and so on. I also got a job invite at VI while stay at satellite town . My hubby asked me to go but I don't want to following the Stress of distance and my pregnant status. Pls wat do you think I do. Thanks

CrazyQuinn:

Merryglad:
thanks alot, thanks for not casting blames and throwing stones

Merryglad:
Please people i will go straight to d point, my 18years old younger sister told me on monday morning that she is pregnant, now abortion is out of the queston. The issue right now is how do i tell my mom who has been through thick and thin to raise us up considering the fact that she is a single parent, our father can be said be an absent father. Jesus am so heart broken, the responsibility of an eldest child has come knocking on me, pls nairalanders help me suggest how you think i should tell my mum

Ujoan:
If I made a similar post saying 'Women love MONEY' . . . . I assume you'll be the first to call me a gold-digging LovePeddler. Bunch of hypocrites, you lot.

It's easy for men to make DEMANDS and strut around like they have a choice, not realizing that women have their own needs/dislikes too. We have our own turn-offs too, you know, and just because we accept that nobody is perfect and is willing to accommodate your failings doesn't mean we don't have a choice.

So I'm trudging around a 9-month old baby bump and all you care about is my bald hair or the wrapper on my chest? To hell with your sensibilities, I really don't care. Infact I'll encourage you to look outside if you think you can't stand me looking less than perfect for 9-month of pregnancy.

I pity women who live in fear of being cheated on and live their life trying to avoid that . . . A man who will cheat will cheat irrespective of what you do (as far as you are reasonable in your actions). And remember, women cheat also so it's not really exclusive to men.

I could decide to have a sugar daddy if I think my husband is not providing for the exorbitant lifestyle I think I deserve . . . so really, what's to gain from laying down all these unreasonable ground rules

I pray you never meet a woman like me, you'll learn to be humble . . . no lie!

Allegory:
You forget that these days many love-intoxicated and marriage-obsessed young people lie to the church and even their parents just to get married.

People lie about everything these days. Their real age, their spouses occupation, his real living conditions, they even bring actors as parents in cases where the parents don't support the marriage just to get married in catholic.

freecocoa:
Doubting it doesn't make it untrue my dear.

Catholic Church wey dey wed people anyhow, believe what you want love.

freecocoa:
Duh! I know someone that was wedded at 16 in a Catholic Church with belle on top.

18 is an adult in naija, so why should they ask questions?

@topic, something's not right with this story.

byvan03:
There are men that complain and nag more than some women.

bukatyne:
Your opinion on lack of support here doesn't concur with what you said on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/2729627/dear-guys-nothing-prove/2#39940821

Will be back on the thread

quivah:
this might be right to an extent,, but where's the food and submission..
I think majority of guys will take sex,food,submission over hobby or whatever that is up there.

well, I'm not a guy...just talking based on the general views of guys here..

byvan03:
1) sex

2) respect/appreciation

3) partnership

4) attention

5) friendship

6) food


they all can't want the same thing.

bukatyne:
Welcome to the thread

Women have always heard what men want/ how to be good wives on our side of the divide. Compare the amount of wives/women seminar to that of husbands/men.

This article was written from the POV of a western man/husband.

Wonder what a typical Nigerian's will be like? Perhaps chores, well kept home, obedience, good food, sex, etc.??


Modified to welcome you