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macarena:
Thank you every one for the advice.
I got more than I expected.
And most of you were right, my self-esteem is nothing to brag about.

Even though he has hit me severally, yesterday inclusive, I always apologized and rationalized his actions by telling myself I pushed him past his limits.


Thinking about it now, I don't think it was normal for me to leave the house by 5am while it was still dark and hiding somewhere when I knew I could not outrun him, because he insisted on taking my phone without ever giving me again. I didnt realize I was fast turning into those DV women I derided and blamed online.

We are both members of the same church and workers in church also. Don't think I could ever go back.


And @5minsmadness, I am ashamed cos of everything he did and how powerless and violated I felt. He put his finger in me and that place still hurts somewhat, I've never had sèx before. He poured his spèrm on me and rubbed it on my face, taunting me in the process. And I just could not do anything. When I fantasized about finally having sèx in the proper condition, it was never like this.

Bellong made me laugh with his graphic description.


TV01, are you a psychologist?
All your descriptions were so apt.
I never knew it was this bad. When you said I was on my way to becoming damaged, I started crying because its so true.
I've always looked at relationships through Mills and Boon coloured glasses. Passionate fights brought you closer than ever.
Naive me!


I will learn to love and forgive myself though I don't know where to start from. And even though I find it hard, I'll go make friends.
I'll take it one day at a time.

MrsExplorer:
You'd be surprise the kind of composure you can have after you've done something you have no control over or when you are seeking for help

cococandy:
I'm not sure you read her post. If you did, then you have to agree that this is a tasteless comment. What are you really saying? That men can't help but assault people sexually because everything about you is sex?
In another context maybe one can try to see your point. But In this context where sexual assault is indicated, I don't know what meaning you expect readers to draw from this.

pls clarify.

tearoses:
Hmmmmmm
So you are saying that men have no self control when it comes to sex
You mean our daughters and sisters are not safe round a man
So we should be wary of male teachers, male doctors, being stopped by a male policemen on a dark night.....cos all he is thinking about will be sex
Oga 5minsmadness please give men some credit
You are making them sound like depraved animals

Mindfulness:
You move on by taking your mind off him and the 'friendship' and by focusing on different things, people, your life, your future, your dreams.

Distraction is the key. It's hard at the beginnig but it gets easier gradually.

macarena:
He forced it on me.
I can never tell him the true state of how I feel cos he would laugh at me.
I have also asked for forgiveness but the things that happened yesterday felt like we had crossed the rubicon.
I am just too ashamed to face him

At a point he tore my wrapper and panties, did everything to me apart from putting it in. He even forced me to give him a handjob, he's quite big and easily overpowered me.

donbenedict:
Look, why can't u ladies for once throw away you ego and admit a fact in your entire life

whiteroses:
Mines a bit similar.
A very hot guy asked me out. After a couple of date, i was meant to meet him up at 7pm at his yard. I got there at 7:30pm and he started talking down on me and said you know what? Why dont you leave I have my time planned out , you were meant to be here at 7pm.
Immediately he turned me away, i bursted into tears because I feel very insecure about my look at that time i was a bit chubby although i was considered attractive by some.
Everybody knows US weather is drastic and within 20 minutes it already turned dark and I was scared .
As i wept he sat me down and i caught him smiling at my predicament
I got up and left feeling deflated .
This guy dint know that I ride a nice car and my pad is hot.
Oneday, I threw a birthday party and he came as a mogbo moya guest, apparently his friend also told him who my "father" was bla bla bla.
He was acting proud at first but then he talked to me and took advantage of the vibe. We slept on same bed that night and Today he lives with me.
We fell in love naturally and the respect is there but whenever i remember his behaviour when we met, i feel some type of way :/

Dyt:
It don't work for people like that bald headed man

He will say what's this now ehn
What have I done wrong
Why you crying

*he stutters which is my fav part of him*

Idaya ki kini eleyi now
Wwhhat did I do

Well that's the fastest way to bed and heck
Its not all the time


E don bribe me
So I no dey vex again
Thanchu
Da ALU

crackhaus:
https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/clk.gif

knuckbuck:
She's on the phone with her mother at least 4 or 5 times a day. Last year she came back from Nigeria with shady stuff in bottles and plastic container that her mother's pastor gave it to her. We had an argument about it because I questioned why a pastor would give things like that to anybody.

byvan03:
If a lady mentioned that her husband saw something that looks like cheating, I probably would have written an epistle. Yes, I would blame her because your spouse shouldn't be seeing that so called "anything that looks like cheating" in the first place.

Dyt:
Ehn
But I know that's actually his own style

Just that sometimes you expect speed at something's
Not in my bald headed man's case


He should sha send me lunch or gimme a superb weekend treat
Else no uncooked food for 7days


Still angry sha

Dyt:
He didn't come when he was supposed to

Tho he's been apologising but mbanu
Its not his 10th time

Infact I need a break

PaperLace:
You've said it all.
By the way, we have been made to believe it's just Nigerian women that act like this, or maybe she is a Nigerian by birth .

Dyt:

Clown

Lemme jor
You men just annoy someone anyhow making one act like a crazy woman

Dyt:
Rolls eyes

Can I scream and yell at you?
Plsss

dytbabe:
Where did she go before?

missjo:

This section sha

Dyt:
I am an angry woman so I can relate to OPs wife

Sometimes a woman just keeps quiet so as not to be seen as a nag
You def ain't be fair on that woman

byvan03:
I won't oblige you, those that know me know me .

orbis:
Someone who's extremely jealous and if she sees something she feels is cheating, instead of asking to clarify...wham...she'll start to keep face. You'll them have to reassess yourself and look for what might be the issue ....damn

byvan03:
OK, direct your insistence to OP.

missjo:
It seems it's only you, I and sambarry on this thread that read the part where the man has already tried talking to her