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As I waited in the departure lounge of a local airport, I noticed there were many children about but it was understandable since it was summer holiday. One other thing I noticed was the way most of the children were dressed. Most of them, especially the girls, were dressed in bum shorts, halter necks, cut off jeans, etc. The clothes in themselves weren't the issue per se; it was the overall look of the children that had me bothered.
That was definitely not the first time I noticed it.
A few months before, I had taken my kids to a birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been anight club for kids. Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress code. I noticed my
daughter glancing around her,
probably wondering, "What in God's world are these other children wearing?" Or something like that. Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season - these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 13. 4-6 year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner.
They could have given Beyonce a run for her money. They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while Their PARENTS CHEERED them on. The boys had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing dlawless break dance. Those who danced like actual children where shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave.
As we left, we went to an eatery where I bought them ice cream and gently explained to them the concept of decency and dancing with decorum.

Another time, at a game arcade for kids, I ran into a lady who had made-up her kids' faces like they were mannequins for Tara or Mac beauty products.
Their skirts were so tight, that running up
and down the slide was uncomfortable for them.
So the question is, why are we sexualizing our kids? Why does
your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick? Why does she
have to be hot or sexy? Should your 8 year old son go around with
a comb in his hair and his pants sagged almost to his ankles? If
your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should
she be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she wears 2 rings
and 12 bangles at 6, why won't she pierce a second ear hole at 17
and her bellybutton at 19? Why won't your son pierce his own ear
at 15? Are you setting your children up to be immodest and
indecent? What trend are you starting them on? That all these are
fashionable or trendy doesn't mean it's ok. Some parents even
dress their children like this to church. Church! What are you
teaching the child? What happened to children wearing dresses to
church? Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well
covered and still look good. In this age, when children are being
abused, is it wise to make your child an object of anyone's sexual
attention?
When I hear some children belt out sexually explicit lyrics, I ask
myself how they became exposed to this songs! As a parent, you
can't play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to
pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O,
etc with your children.
Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend to become sexually active early.
Is that your goal as a parent? Being a Parent involves sacrifice.
You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are. Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter
that she's just a intimacy gadget and her body is for squeezing. It teaches
the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges. These music introduces them to a degrading pop culture.
Our children have their lives ahead of them, let's set them on the right path by teaching them to dress decently.



Written by oluseye igbafe.

This woman is going to give you high bp.
Mark my words.

I would have told you to leave her but unfortunately I have a thing against divorce.
If she cannot empathise with you now, goodness knows how she'll behave when things are rough for you.
she's the same one that will berate you if your big term projects go wrong.

My take: Try to ignore her and do what you think is best for you both. She'll appreciate it in the long run. If she leaves because her 'financial needs' are not being met then good riddance.

teamplayey:
Please any news?
Has she been buried?

No she hasn't.

There was a press conference on Thursday attended by certain popular Nigerian dignitaries concerning the case.

the autopsy report everyone was hoping would come out by weekend has yet to be released.

Investigations are still 'pending'

Things are happening and the crowd has been shushed.

The world can be a cold sad place.

A very good idea. You'll be surprised such marriages where the spouses attributes are clearly spelt out and where the parents do the choosing would actually be more satisfying an last longer than the other marriages there.

China is such an interesting place.

Or a little child who for some inexplicable reason 'knows' things she ought not to know.
As soon as my niece was able to walk she would go to the toilet herself (not potty, adult toliet) and struggle to climb it. When she could finally use it she would even flush. She knows to wake from sleep and not wet the bed. She graduated from breastmilk to adult food, no cerelac or any of that stuff. The one that was bought for her was given away. Her elder sister had to be taught all those things.

And no she didn't learn from observation, her elder sister still wets the bed and I daresay a toddler doesn't know what a lavatory is talk less of using it. She refused her potty outright despite watching her elder sister use it.

Also she learned to eat by herself first and button her clothes first. Little little things like that. It makes me wonder.

The aje boys facial expressions

#Modified for the sake of Peace

Orimili:
I haven't mentioned that since years ago. Unfortunately, that will come up in conversation at some point, and I'm not going to lie about it.

At what point will 'I am a virgin' come up in a conversation if not when things are getting hot and heavy

From the conversation you've been having here u sound kind d of like a depressed apologist or something. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I kind of know the feeling. Who cares about the current trend of taking someone out? Do your own thing! All these girls not picking your calls don't you have thier house address? Why not pay them a visit?

Personally I think you haven't found the girl that tickles your fancy that's why you are letting these girls go. If you see a girl u like and she stops picking your calls you don't give up like that. You go after her. You visit. You bring a movie or lunch with you. Or better yet invite her over for lunch. You send messages and emoticons once in a while. You do SOMETHING.


You sound like you are defeated even before you start. Don't. Even the polio guy that lives down my street has two girlfriends.

pet4ril:
Tell him in peace that you don't buy the idea of sharing your spare key with a stranger and if he seems not cooperating, approach the gal and collect your key from her

Wait o


You believe that story

^^^^^
°the man no get liver at all!
See guilty conscience in action

Mindfulness:
You're very welcome.

@bold

You ALREADY are ALONE else you would not seek advice from strangers online but confide in your mate.

The reason why you are unable to cope with break up well is that you BELIEVE that a relationship will make you feel better BUT this isn't the case obviously. I am not telling you to break up, all I am saying is that you need to find ways to be HAPPY and JOYFUL regardless the circumstances you find yourself in, in your relationship(s). See, the problem is that your unhappiness and inability to find happiness within yourself infects your relationships with men. You need to find PLEASURE, HAPPINESS and JOY within yourself and then you will experience it in relationships. I promise you.

I wish you all the best.

Nice.

Op it will be easier to find a needle in a haystack than to make sense out of your story. if the above story is true then mehhn you are hopelessly lost

tpiah11:
didnt read further, but i'm sure others will, and can offer you whatever advice you're here for.

Style007:
Nna eh this story tire me oh

Timbuktou:
I gave up at this point. OP, good luck to you abeg.

Why all of una dey run na

Dyt:
Why you mad?



Ewuro4 has blessed you both on our behalf
Hbd to him
Make sure he doesn't go work oo
[size=18pt]Lock him up and finish it off[/size]
40 is a long time journey
Wishing you both a more blissful marriage

No party?
Abeg I like mogbomoya o

U see, over there they have good preservation methods.

That first one actually looks like a good idea.

Loooooool @man [size=18pt]tries[/size] to marry a cobra

Na wa o.
The definition of beauty must have changed since my time.

Who are they

16. Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

I HIGHLY doubt this.

teamplayey:
*** seems to me, the Nigerian-factor is very much in play here.
RIP, Hestia. God know best. His ways are not our ways. We really would like to know what happened but if we get only one wish to ask, it's that you do rest in peace.
And also for that reason, dear friend: we hope that you did not commit suicide

Amen.

Me I no fit talk again o. After the events of the last few days it's better to hold one's peace until further notice.

But these men are in a disappointing minority compared to the rest of the male feminists I, and many other women, have encountered: [size=18pt]men who use the term “feminist” as either bait or an alter-ego, assuming that their opt-in respect for women will entitle them to legions of adoring lovers – really the most anti-feminist act of all.[/size]

cc
you-know-who

virginboy1:
Nice one, thanks a lot.

More reason I created this thread. I appreciate.

You have been given good advice already.

If you notice, nairaland dwells a lot on the negatives of things. Bad news draws more traffic which means more money for the site. It thrives on shocking news, e-wars and unending arguments. Without this nairaland will be hard pressed to move forward. I will advice you log off for a while and look at the people around you. Realize what you want and go for it. Marriage comes as a natural inclination, a natural yearning. It isn't meant to be forced on anyone.

When you see the person that "completes you", you'll be the one yearning for marriage. I believe you are still a young chap and have a lot of experiences to gather in life. Don't worry so much about it.

If it will help I can give you a link to one of my old topics(see link below). But i still say the best way to overcome this attitude is to stop reading all these negative articles on marriage that abound on nairaland, strive to attain your goals, make healthy friendly relationships with the opposite sex and marriage will come along naturally.

Good luck.


https://www.nairaland.com/1896915/good-marriages-not-make-good#26189229

knowme:
The husband does not work with LUTH but Lasuth so you can confirm that your source does not know anything about the story

. The topic says LUTH, the sources say LUTH. Whether he works at LUTH or lasuth doesn't change the logic of thought.

You folks here are so eager to defend your colleague one begins to wonder.

If she committed suicide then where did the ugly rumour of domestic violence come out from?

Everybody that Knew this girl right from 500lt knew her to be CHEERFUL, kind and caring. Even her patients will attest to that. In school she was always the first to make u laugh, outgoing and a free spirited person. So it's a mega shock to hear she was depressed talk less of psychotic even to the point if suicide! Not hestia! A depressed person will show signs of withdrawal, unexplained absence from work, unexplained absence from activities, bags around her eyes from insomnia or too much sleep, weight loss and depressed mood. Someone would have noticed!

Well, you guys had just better be careful cos all of us are watching.

One word.

OVEREXCITEMENT.

You finally got what you had been dreaming about for a long time and you were so excited that you lost your erection.

It is a common occurrence.