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danielicon:
Land for sale @2.5 mil slightly negotiable












Rightful property of danielicon

N2.5 for this 50"x100"?

Na N800k I get.
U get C of O?

This is true.

vague:
Aunty you are a learner put high blood pressure drugs or anti-depressants in his food and see if viagra can even save him!

Pls this is not funny in the least. You are advocating murder. The man will die. It's not funny or clever at all.

yoksy:
I've not really reached d point of being suicidal cos I know my future is bright n d baby in my womb is more of a comforter to me. am married for close to two yrs now my hubby has not been very healthy for close to a yr now, we just leave like roommates hardly any sexual activity but it was a blow to my face wen I came back from church on Sunday n saw a pill of Viagra 100 on my matrimonial bed n wen I checked his phone I saw his chat wit a girl inviting her to his guest house n denying he is married. after confronting his there was no remorse not even an explanation he is just pretending to b nice ( meanwhile am heavily pregnant but he cares less I care for my pregnancy n buy my babies stuff [size=18pt]he sometimes even tell me he is not responsible for my pregnancy[/size]) please I need candid advice on wat to do. thanks.

.And everybody ignored this to have a go at the man.


This is a VERY SERIOUS accusation and not one to be taken lightly at all.

If there is anything I have learned on nairaland it's to always listen to both sides of the story. A man has a broken leg and is supposedly in pains but goes out of his way to buy viagra to have an affair. That means he can't get it up by himself. That means he is going out of his way to cheat on his woman. This is not some random infidelity. This is Malice. An act of vengeance. Something went wrong.


Op what actually happened between you two?

PresVA:
A gentleman should be a loving husband and a caring dad!

So single men can't be gentlemen?
See where your priorities lie.

SAMBARRY:
5minsmadness here's your answer

This your post is not authentic since you didn't mention Tony Gaskins.

Timbuktou:
5Mins, that your gentleman characteristics get as e be o. Doesn't sound like proper man to me.

Elucidate sir.

An0nimus:
link to thread please

https://www.nairaland.com/2729627/dear-guys-nothing-prove#39912976

G'morning.

Brandnew2:
You don't know.

Perhaps I dont. Pls enlighten me.

bronzegoddess:
Could this possibly mean every nigerian man is wrong?

Are you saying you have gone thru every nigerian man?

Brandnew2:
I guess you don't know Fela lives on.

In his music, sure. In his son(s)? Maybe. But physically? Sorry dude. the man's gone.

Brandnew2:
I have a question for you OP. Is Fela Kuti a gentleman?

No he wasnt.
He's dead by the way.

bronzegoddess:
Ayam yet to meet a nigerian gentleman. Is like they are scarce

Then you have been mixing with the wrong type of men.

The first prerequisite for being a true gentleman lies in knowing how to be a man. A gentle dude is just a wuss. A gentleman is someone with a solid foundation of manhood, who has gone on to refine and culture himself and his understanding of the world beyond the minimum requirements needed to function in society. "Being a man" entails things like knowing yourself and having confidence in whatever that is, knowing your beliefs and ideals and sticking by them, bearing up well under pressure whether emotional or physical, not whining or shying away from hard work, and having the gumption to do the things that need doing, pleasant and unpleasant alike.

Being a gentleman comes into play when you incorporate such traits into how you handle the world around you, extending your sensibilities beyond yourself and becoming a man not just of strength, but of respect, grace, compassion and understanding.

A man respects himself, and a gentleman extends that respect to those around him, regardless of whether they can see it, others treat them with it, or whether they deserve it in the first place. A gentleman is cordial to a fault and by acting so brings others up to his level. A gentleman does not condescend, and never stoops to physical or verbal violence until there is absolutely no other option left. He treats others better than he expects to be treated, and doesn't become offended when his gestures are turned down or not appreciated. By the same turn, his self-respect ensures he won't continue to subject himself to anyone who demonstrates that they aren't willing to return the fundamental respect he gives them.

When it comes to his ideals and worldview, a man has the confidence to put stock in his own conclusions and to stand by them. A gentleman grounds those views not only in studied observation and self-education, but in compassion and moral reflection. He has the humility to understand that he may be mistaken or ignorant of certain factors, and thus won't presume to aggressively impose his views onto others or condescend to those who don't share them. A gentleman thoughtfully states the strength of his opinions when appropriate but refrains from proclaiming absolute truths. He is open to debate and dissent, and has the respect for others and confidence in the validity of his own arguments to not need to resort to ad hominem attacks. He is sensible enough to surround himself with a broad spectrum of views, but to only entangle himself with those who share at least his fundamental values.


[b]A man understands that life sometimes involves hard work and suffering: mental, emotional, physical, professional, and social, and that whining or avoiding it are to be looked down upon. A gentleman learns how to bear up under the demands life places on him with grace and style, and to extend that competent handling of the world to the good times. A gentleman not only does what needs doing in life, but goes above and beyond the call of duty for the sake of others and his own betterment. He opens doors for people, picks up the check, organizes the event, drives the girl who he isn't even interested in home, helps out strangers, and ignores any protests the first several times until he's absolutely sure someone doesn't wish to accept his overtures of courtesy. He constantly is trying to improve his mind, spirit, body, and standing, and wishes to help others do the same if they're at all open to it. A gentlemen is a man in constant pursuit of improving the lives of himself and those around him through courtesy, thoughtfulness, depth, and action.[/b]

gsalvatore:
Thread for WUSSIES...

As a man you are not suppose to show any sign of weakness. Nobody said it was easy....digesting the content of this thread is as good as messing up your psyche.


its simple...

'' STANDING ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET, LIVING BY YOU CODE OF HONOR AND DUTY, AN BEING A ROCK FOR THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.''

Eggsactly.

TV01:
Omo, that thread serves and continues to serve it's purpose. Some female input is not a bad thing and the querulous ones have been summarily dispatched . And hen-pecked husbands are probably served best and to be encouraged by the thread, no?


TV

^{...hear you on the "prove yourself" thread. Yes men do have to prove themselves, to themselves and at times othe rmen. But no, they don't have to prove themselves to women...and most certainly not be defined or validated from a female perspective...}

There's a sort of 'feminisation' of the male folk this new age generation of women want to achieve. I don't know how to put it eloquently. Like they are desperately trying to make us 'soft'. It's either they are forcing it down our throats through "equal rights/feminism" or they are trying subtle methods like telling us we don't have to act tough like in that thread. Like I said, I've got a lot on my mind now so I don't know how to put it eloquently. Like they are forcing us to accept thier definition of us. And some wussy males are already supporting the idea. Irritates me no end.

TV01:
https://www.nairaland.com/1582623/boys-night-out-discussions/

Perhaps?


TV

That una thread that has been infiltrated by women and hen-pecked husbands


#najokeideyo

joseph1832:
To you validation are like incentives. To me, its not!. Never forget, in Nigeria today, money is the highest motivating factor, not kind words. Any incentives that doesn't add a penny to my pocket goes through my right ear, and comes out via the left.

Dude, amidst all what you said you must learn to be very practical in your analysis, THIS IS NIGERIA People tend to work harder when the pay is better than work harder when they're given just kind words of encouragement.

God bless you bro!
People as usual trying to twist words.

The men have said it all on the first page of this thread.

Sorry op but this your topic is for the beta males, those westernized wimps that are in touch with their emotions and "feminine side"


A real man doesnt need all this psychological mumbo jumbo to know that he is a man. He needs no validation from anyone other than himself.

[size=5pt]See all them females falling over themselves to commiserate with the post. We dont need your validation!Thank you![/size]

hahn:
So, while they died for their god, their god couldn't even bother showing up to rescue them and take advantage of the opportunity to prove it exists. Good riddance to bad rubbish. 11 less dumb people in the world to worry about

And you still found something mean and sarcastic to say about this? When will your eyes be opened to see you are fighting on the side of evil in an army you don't even know you have been enlisted in?

At several steps on their path to death by beheading and crucifixion last month, 11 indigenous Christian workers near Aleppo, Syria, had the option to leave the area and live. The 12-year-old son of a ministry team leader also could have spared his life by denying Christ.

The indigenous missionaries were not required to stay at their ministry base in a village near Aleppo, Syria; rather, the ministry director who trained them had entreated them to leave. As the Islamic State (ISIS), other rebel groups and Syrian government forces turned Aleppo into a war zone of carnage and destruction, ISIS took over several outlying villages. The Syrian ministry workers in those villages chose to stay in order to provide aid in the name of Christ to survivors.

"I asked them to leave, but I gave them the freedom to choose," said the ministry director, his voice tremulous as he recalled their horrific deaths. "As their leader, I should have insisted that they leave."

They stayed because they believed they were called to share Christ with those caught in the crossfire, he said.

"Every time we talked to them," the director said, "they were always saying, 'We want to stay here—this is what God has told us to do. This is what we want to do.' They just wanted to stay and share the gospel."

Those who chose to stay could have scattered and hid in other areas, as their surviving family members did. On a visit to the surviving relatives in hiding, the ministry director learned of the cruel executions.

The relatives said ISIS militants on Aug. 7 captured the Christian workers in a village whose name is withheld for security reasons. On Aug. 28, the militants asked if they had renounced Islam for Christianity. When the Christians said that they had, the rebels asked if they wanted to return to Islam. The Christians said they would never renounce Christ.

The 41-year-old team leader, his young son and two ministry members in their 20s were questioned at one village site where ISIS militants had summoned a crowd. The team leader presided over nine house churches he had helped to establish. His son was two months away from his 13th birthday.

"All were badly brutalized and then crucified," the ministry leader said. "They were left on their crosses for two days. No one was allowed to remove them."

The martyrs died beside signs the ISIS militants had put up identifying them as "infidels."

Eight other ministry team members, including two women, were taken to another site in the village that day (Aug. 28) and were asked the same questions before a crowd. The women, ages 29 and 33, tried to tell the ISIS militants they were only sharing the peace and love of Christ and asked what they had done wrong to deserve the abuse. The Islamic extremists then publicly raped the women, who continued to pray during the ordeal, leading the ISIS militants to beat them all the more furiously.

As the two women and the six men knelt before they were beheaded, they were all praying.

"Villagers said some were praying in the name of Jesus, others said some were praying the Lord's prayer, and others said some of them lifted their heads to commend their spirits to Jesus," the ministry director said. "One of the women looked up and seemed to be almost smiling as she said, 'Jesus!'"

After they were beheaded, their bodies were hung on crosses, the ministry director said, his voice breaking. He had trained all of the workers for their evangelistic ministry, and he had baptized the team leader and some of the others.

Hundreds of former Muslims in Syrian villages are in danger of being captured and killed by ISIS, which is fighting to establish a caliphate in which apostasy is punishable by death. The underground church in the region has mushroomed since June 2014, when ISIS began terrorizing those who do not swear allegiance to its caliphate, both non-Muslims and Muslims. Consequently, the potential for large-scale executions has grown along with the gains in ISIS-controlled territory.

The ministry assisted by Christian Aid Mission is providing resources and trying to find ways to evacuate these families by other routes.

Many of the ministry's teams also remain in Syria. Christian Aid Mission assists those who do not or cannot leave with the means to survive.

Even those who leave, however, may encounter ISIS militants and other criminals in refugee camps, said the leader of another ministry that Christian Aid Mission assists. He spoke of a Muslim from northern Syria who, like all men in areas that ISIS takes over, was coerced into joining the caliphate or being killed.

Recruited into ISIS, he fled the country after his brother was killed in the fighting. Disillusioned with ISIS but still adhering to Islam and its teaching that Christians and Jews are unclean "pigs," he went to Amman, Jordan, as he had learned that relatives there were receiving aid from Christians.

The Muslim, whose name is withheld for security reasons, went to a Christian meeting with the intention of killing the aid workers gathered there. Something kept him from following through on his plan, though, and that night he saw Jesus in a dream, the ministry director said.

"The next day he came back and said, 'I came to kill you, but last night I saw Jesus, and I want to know what are you teaching—who is this One who held me up from killing you?'" the director said. "He received Christ with tears, and today he's actually helping in the church, helping out other people. We're praying for lots of such Sauls to change to Pauls."

The sorrow of the ministry team leader who lost 11 workers and one of their children last month has been deep, but he takes heart that their faithfulness could help change the hearts of persecutors.

"They kept on praying loudly and sharing Jesus until their last breath," he said. "They did this in front of the villagers as a testimony for others."

He asked for prayer for surviving family members and for himself.

"These things have been very hard on me," he said. "What wrong did those people do to deserve to die? What is happening is more and more people are being saved. The ministry is growing and growing—in the past we used to pray to have one person from a Muslim background come to the Lord. Now there are so many we can barely handle all the work among them."

Who

the hell

Cares?!

fem29:
Na u sabi. Me I sha know I cannot fall in love with a broke guy. That's what you do in uni, cos he is studying and he has all the potential and you guys are growing together. But when you are 32 and he is broke that is whole different kettle of fish.

Choi
Facts of life
Chop knuckle

fem29:
Well me ayam different, I'm not bout that life. Sex is very emotional to me and I cannot sleep with someone for money and God will never put me in the position where I have to consider such, amen. But to think about it, it IS easier to fall in love with someone who is rich . [size=14pt]Money makes things smoootherrr[/size]

End of discussion.

You just nullified your whole hollywood '"emotional' blah blah 'cry after doing it'" crap.

dinachi:
Lesbianism and feminism seem to go hand in hand.

Look at it this way.

Nature has designed it in such a way that when a man makes love to a woman he subdues her. He overpowers her and penetrates her. He invades her person and rocks her soul. This is nature for you and does not change even in the woman-on-top position. Whatever position is taken theman still penetrates and it is the woman that is invaded.

Now the issue with feminists (real feminists/feminism and not the politically correct definition we all see on wikipedia and know is false else we wouldnt be so riled up against it)is that they take everything that gives men the upper hand and convert it to an evil act. The man is invading the woman and so it becomes repugnant to them. Even though the man does it out of love and gives sweet sensations to the woman, it matters not to them and falls completely out of thier radar. thier need to be "like men" to prevent themselves from being dominated makes it impossible for the "real feminists" to enjoy sex.

So they become lesbians. they dominate thier fellow women and feel the better for it. The fact that the sales of dildoes(artificial joysticks) rose very sharply during the modern era indicates they simply replaced natural dicckk for artificial dicck but they are still getting subdued just the same. On the long run women, even lesbians, cant live without de diickk.

Kimoni:
Shndy, I think you should read this and digest it...

There is no advice anyone here can give you that will surpass that of another woman who made the same mistake and somehow survived it. And good enough, she has been very detailed about how she regained the trust of her husband.

Like she said, the way some guys handle betrayal, you will think they just lost their mother. As outsiders and women who will never take the same route, we may never understand what goes on in their mind and how it plays out. I know some resort to drinking, drugs, hoarding, aggressiveness but cheating is almost strange to me but that won't make me deny it can happen.

Anyways, have a deep conversation with your husband and if possible, have him make a solemn promise to you that it is all over. Let him realise his attitude is also breaking you [s]especially in this delicate situation of yours.[/s] Wishing your friend the very best.

Shndy follow the two advices above except for the striken out part (sorry kimoni). He DOES NOT want to hear anything concerning the baby or your pregnancy now. Mentioning it to make him feel guilty or whatever will backfire very very badly.
Take this from a man's perspective pls. Thanks.

Yomieluv how is your wife doing?

Apart from the paracetamol I want to believe the doc gave her folic acid and something for the vomiting. If she vomits to the point of being so weak she cannot stand up and move around then maybe you should consult the doctor again.

Like others have told you on this thread na so e dey be. This phase will pass. Other phases will come.

Goodluck.

curtains:
am interested pls. can u recommend the priest n parish he is in

Mother of the Redeemer catholic church, at airport junction. Any priest will do but you can ask for the youth priest there.

herald9:

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curtains:
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thank u all for ur comments. I appreciate.
but u all keep telling me to go for a test n pimpchi telling me to fu*k him well.... This happened on wed or Thursday I don't know, then on Friday night he had the got n effontry to ask for se$. [size=18pt]If u see d luv making ehn it was hot[/size] so f**kin him well is not a problem. But never the less I will still go for a test

I hv passed that stage in my xtian life where I will want to seek for retaliation. I will never do that. I hv forgiven him but can never forget n don't know if I can carry on with this marriage. If I divorce him then I will never get married again but to focus on my children n give them the best I can. I have been on suicidal mood since today....I need help pls... Pls does any one know of a counsellor or therapy I can get here in warri....

@bolded hmmmm someone reaping the benefits...

Pls dear don't commit suicide. Over what? Abi u no be confam wafi babe? Na dis kain tin wan make u menstruate? Kpatakpata u leave the house for a while to clear your head. Men are silly like this sometimes. Take it easy, ok?

All the good psychologists I know have left warri else I would have referred u to the psychiatrist at Central warri. Very good relationship counselor. Also Dr Slater would have helped too but he has left the place.

Dunno if u r interested in seeing a priest.