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Since her daughter is with her weekdays, I think she should give the couple privacy during weekends...

I understand that she might be lonely shaaaa.

jashar:
Sorry to say this. But people that suffer in inter-tribal marriages are usually people that married someone from the west.
I'm not a tribal person, I hate tribal bigotry with a passion. But sadly my folks from the West are not too accommodating of outsiders. Don't know why.

True!!

sunday2012:
how much of it has reflected in the school. Abi u pple don't hav e alumina

Stay there and be asking JAMB questions!

[quote author=mikki123 post=42490777][/quote]Which dull school did you finish from that didn't teach you the dangers of overgeneralisation?

Ewww. Why the heck is she flaunting another man on social media...and so soon too.
Na wa oooo. How do people do this??

ABU has representatives in high and mighty places. If you graduated from ABU, you are simply blessed...

Inter tribal marriage....hmmmn.

misspicy:
I am yet to see where the woman has been accused of all this fallacies you typed here

so you mean,you would collect the money your pregnant wife worked hard even in her pregnant state to work for,just because she has been sharing yours with you? and then go ahead and beat her up with her big protruding tummy because she refused to hand over the money to you? all because you are frustrated, the next person to take out your frustration on is a pregnant woman carrying your own child o?

now I realise some Nigerian men has lost it

I smh and pity the woman that will end up with yoy

#tufiakwa **spits****

I spit with you my dear.
You can't talk on such an abomination and swallow the spit.

#spits

Azil:
A guy once told me he would not marry a woman who cannot financially take care of him. I was going to berate him, then I remembered he is uroboh. Growing up in warri, I saw it's in them to sit home, play draft, drink ogogoro while the woman hustle for the family.

Imagine!!

Excuzeme:
First, let us agree that it is not right for any spouse (male or female) to assault the other spouse.... so, in this regard, the man is wrong.

But then, I can bet 100% that before they got married and after they did...and for a long time, they have been sharing the man's salary!
He pays House rent, NEPA bills,buy sfood in the house, e.t.c...I am sure he even financed a wedding!

So, he lost his job. Pity but the current economic climate means many have lost their job and many more will still do.
So, when he had a job, he assisted his wife to stand on her feet as well ... like most men do, for the 'rainy day".
[b]That is what marriage is all about, one spouse lifts the other spouse up, when he or she is down.

But what does this woman do when she got her own salary in December?
She holds to the money and even said "She wants to use it to go on vacation"!
Just imagine!! Vacation? ..when their are needs for the family and you know your husband is still job-hunting?

Let me ask all of you (and be honest): If it was this man that got his December salary when his wife has no job, no money and nothing to eat.... and he decides he will use it to go on vacation while she starves, what will you call the man? Wicked man, right?

But now, since it is being done by a woman, to her husband, it is acceptable!

You see the "double-standards" and wickedness that wives are subjecting their husbands to?
..and to think their are some men (women's wrapper" who dont think first before commenting, abusing the man?

Well, it will get to a time when men will no longer marry these women, its happening overseas already.
But for the time being, you silly men on Nairaland should use your brain before heaping blame on your fellow man, just because you want Nairaland women to give you "Likes"![/b]

You are so deluded you've even added your own interpretation that the woman wanted to go on vacation with her salary. You are definitely not OK.

naija8080:
You have a very tiny brain...very small like fish brain. That's why no man takes you seriously...keep dumping you. Anumanu!

Sharaaaaap there!
See your wide mouth that you use in eating women's salaries. Dirty pig...

Kulas:
On point!.The man is likely open to d wife and shares all he has with her,may be when d clock turned in negative direction and d man beccome jobless while d woman has a job and started acting funny like most women do.Definetly d man will be annoyed and frustration will set in.

Infidels of the same feather flocking together! By their comments you shall know them....
So you didn't read where they said the man has been collecting her salary all the while.

You just have to look for a way to blame the woman....

naija8080:
Don't be quick to jump to conclusion. I'm sure the man has been sharing his salary the time that he worked with her but she as most women do when they start working especially when the man is temporarily jobless...they start acting up and seeing him as less of a man.

You should be locked up with the man. Longer throat like you waiting for a pregnant woman to go and hustle and then hand over her salary to you....

#tufia

What is Emeka Ike doing in Lokoja? Its now he is remembering that he is friends with Yahaya abii?
Hr should forget the thought of getting any appointment ooo! Not gonna happen!!

You people saying state of origin changes are so funny. Do you even know what origin means?

Madam, it is time to dust your certificate, and bad as e bad, go and get a teaching job.

One thing my mum told me when I was growing up is that: "we are giving you good education so that you can stand on your own two feet".

Is it until they open their mouth wide to tell you you're unwanted in the shop before you will listen? Is it not better to gain 5 years experience teaching with your small salary than a saleswoman, no salary, unappreciated. At least you can still put on your CV that you spent 5 years teaching when a better opportunity comes up.

The truth is; your husband should have been the one to talk to her. Rather he pushed you to his elder bros to tell you what he couldn't tell you. You should be the one suffering abi? When you are in your husbands house and she is also old enough to be in hers.

There is an issue now of a man who died suddenly. Young, vibrant man o. First day, his brother drove away his car. Now brother and wife of the deceased are tussling over his benefits. The family has barely laid eyes on the child he left behind. His wife was pregnant when he died. No one gives a farthing about her and her baby. They are all just trying to cash in on his death. That is the world we are now in, where greediness is the order of the day.

See, you have to wake up, recognise your circumstance for what it is and take control.

I'm very sure you can't even take 20k in a month from the shop so what are we talking about? Won't it pay you and give you more dignity if you made it teaching?
You also need to give the childbirthing a rest. 3 children in 3 years, haba! Me ne? You can't say God has not tried for you regarding that. It is time to give it a rest and go out and get something doing.

Owobobrown:
the culture aren't borrow same as the language, as an indigene of kabba have heard and read about the migration of my ancestors from ife in search of farmland and game

OK then. If you say so....

olanje:
ogun lakaye osin mole destroy ur ebola vagi, anoufia ewu gambia

Bla bla.
Koni ragba fun Iya e ati iyanla Iya e.

Owobobrown:
am from kabba part of okun, where we have this similar culture with ife, we perform oro festival Sametime with ife, we speak and understand yoruba, we have obas has our traditional leader etc we used to be part of ondo, ekiti and kwara state before the creation of kogi state and we were merge to the igala and ebira to form a new state, Wikipedia can help you more

I saw it on Wikipedia, but there was really no justification.
Being carved out of Ondo and Ekiti explains a little. But the language though. Very, very different from Yoruba. Starting from the Okun greeting.

If its about understanding Yoruba, I learnt the Ebiras and Ogoris also do. And they were carved from Kwara. And share some cultural similarities. But you can hardly call them Yoruba.
Have you actually ever thought that the culture might be borrowed? Because of close contact over generations?

I feel Okun is big enough to be autonomous rather than being subsumed under the Yoruba umbrella.

Owobobrown:
am actually from that area to be precise

So you guys actually consider yourselves to be Yoruba? The language doesn't seem to have any affinity with core Yoruba. So on what ground do you consider yourself to be Yoruba? Is it the culture?

I actually wish to know since you seem reasonable and you're from the place.

olanje:
Ofcos they're not yoruba, they are fulani... Oponu illiterate, Ewu Togo!

Thunder fire the leprous hands you used in typing that. Oponu afofun!
With your mouth just like that of an epileptic goat.

Owobobrown:
they are yoruba

How are they Yoruba? Una like to dey claim sha.

Ijumu isn't Yoruba!

depressedsoul:
yes i can

OK. What type do you think you could do successfully. I alone cannot help we can launch an appeal...
What do you think?

depressedsoul:
I was born and bred in Lagos Nigeria. i am over 30 but swimming in poverty. i attended a university in Ogun state but i dropped out due to the loss of my mother who happened to be my sponsor back then. My father died before i was 4years old so i had no one to fall back on. I am the only child and life has been so cruel to me. I have no job at hand. My fathers family has taken possession of his property at Agege Lagos because they insist my mother had me for another man due to stories i'm hearing for the first time since my parent's demise. The story of my life is so wide, bitter and depressing. The moral of my epistle is that i need a casual job to survive. I am contemplating suicide at the moment and i almost drank sniper insecticide today. This is my last attempt at survival before i do the needful on my existence. Nairalanders please help me find any legal job be it unskilled labour. I have tried and tried but to no avail. Pardon me for been incoherent. I am a depressed soul waiting to see if my life can have a second chance.

This is not fraud nor scam. if you really want to know how real my story is kindly send me a private message.

HI, dear. Whatever you do, please do not commit suicide. Also, do not believe what wicked relatives are saying. As long as there is life, there is hope.
Can you do business?

Hi ima30

I can understand where you're coming from. Somehow.

But I think there is more to this than meets the eye. If your guy's brother/wife had not sold you out, I don't think she would have the guts to behave this way. Note I am not 100% sure, but there's a good chance that is what is happening.

I have an example of a lady who has a grown nanny. She has allowed this nanny to see the ins and out of the whole family and as a result, the nanny has no regard for whosoever her mistress doesn't regard.

Or as some people have suggested, she is sleeping with one of the main stakeholders in that family (I hope it's not the patriarch o).

I suggest you keep to your side of the house, which shouldn't be too hard if you are someone like me. I no sabi do neighbourly gist when there are books to be read, interesting things to be browsed, shows to be seen or thoughts to be pondered.

I quite understand that what you can't condone in marriage shouldn't be condoned now but I will ask you to just be on your own and allow events play out. A mouth that is closed, no fly can enter.
Command your quiet respect. Thank God the house is big enough without your paths crossing. personally, I cannot even stay in a family house.

Wish I had more time to talk but I'm caught up in some stuff.

Ndo.

crackhouse:
Which bank is that?. Hope it's not marketing job because that is the only thing they can offer. Anyway u guys should keep applying until they make up their mind to unveil the name.

Most likely marketing. And contract too.

CaroLyner:
lol stingy girl

If na you nko? Nigerians too dey beg!!

Triplets are a sign of purity, ke? What manner of subjectively senseless report is this?
Hian!!

BTW, congrats to the new mum.

chigoizie7:
Get a good attorney and sue me then. ezi

Sue? Like a jabber-mouthed, scatter brained fellow like you is worth it. What you need is a hefty koboko to shift your brain back to working order. Maybe that way you would learn the spelling for hepatitis too.

chigoizie7:
Not just that bros, the fear of being thrown into a bush is the beginning of taking care of your health while pregnant(antenatal and all that). I have been privileged to stay in a teaching hospital were 95 percent(assumption) of all mortality rate as regards to baby and mother is out of the neglect of either the mother or the doctors(students).


Could u imagine a woman who is pregnant and has never been to a hospital until 8moths? She only came to hospital when she encountered chicken pox,not just chicken pox but a chicken pox that she has tried to treat for more than 2weeks with one kind concoction and when she could not, she was rushed to the hospital when it was critical, she died with the baby.


Another woman who has 5kids and pregnant for the 6th, whose husband is based abroad and comfortably financially stable died of hypertaities(not sure of spelling), she has never been to a hospital till 7months, her reasons is that,"that is not her 1st time of child birth that nothing de happen". Her Blood sister even confirmed that her sister s so stingy even when d hubby sends enuff money for her, she was stingy that she could not go to the hospital, she also died with the baby.

Another case is that a woman's BP is so high that her baby needs to be evacuated @ 7 months + but she refused, her reasons is that her pastor said that she will give birth the normal old tradition way. more over, that no member of her family will has given birth tru surgery and that she wouldn't be the 1st despite all the doctors warnings and persuasion, she died that night with the baby.



Another case is were a woman has already given birth to 6 girls and pregnant for the 7th, she died because,on the 7th pregnancy, her womb ruptured and the doctors ordered that d child be evacuated together with the womb so as to save the mothers life, the husband refused and the woman didn't say a word other than to support the hubby, on the basis that she will still give birth to a boy. @ some point,when it was getting late,she became unconcius, she was rushed to th theatre, lo and behold a dead baby boy was evacuated, the woman died, it was learnt that she never visited a hospital all tru the pregnancy.



And so many other cases, my 2weeks @ a teaching hospital opened my eye, I can never go to any teaching hospital ever again, and I can not suggest for any one I know to be taken there, because they use human being for practicals. Btw, my cousin's baby died after 1week out of neglect from the doctors.



So, if your village has such tradition, plz give me one reason why u should risk your life while pregnant, even all your family members will make sure u don't end up dead with a baby as they will care for u to the best of their abilities.








Long epistle, lol

Long epistle upon nonsensical talk. Mtchew!