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Yomieluv:
This is why I don't get too much famzy with my inlaws.

So I can act when needed.


I remember when my MIL wants to act funny,I blocked her calls from my phone,since then she returns to default setting..

I dont see how this correlates to the issues on this thread. When you even marry self wey you don start to display??
Hope you won't mind your wife blocking your mother's calls too!!

arabianights:
Was in the bulk room of a first generation bank and crowd was quite bad ( yet they say no money ).There were some igbo men that had come to deposit quite an amount of money and had been conversing loudly in their dialect not caring that they were been a nuisance.
All of a sudden a white man comes in and the teller receives his cash whilst ignoring the hisses and insults of customers.

The igbo men, trust them started insulting the man and went ahead to add more in their dialect,the white man then,calmly turnsto them and responded to them in IGBO language then went on to add a few more sentences... the whole bulk room kept shut out of shock of course.I turned to him in amazement to ask him on how he learnt igbo and he smiled and responded to me fluently in HAUSA.

Apparently, he had been there before every one else but the account number was wrong and he was told he couldnt make calls in the banking hall, he then went out to make a call and wait for the right account number.On his return,hE went straight to the teller as she had assured him that when he returned ,he wouldnt have to join the queue again.The teller should have explained to all instead of ignoring customers.

Any way my point is that these white men are smatter than us, they learn our languages so as to enable themselves settle in and do business whilst most of us go to their countries and come back the same people we were when we left if not worse.

What a mentality!!
What scale are you using to measure him as being smarter?

They are smarter than you and all the peeps who agree with you, not us. Is it not the white man's language I've also learnt that I'm using to type? Is English my language?
So what are you saying?
If I am opportune to go to a foreign country today where the odds are in my favor, won't I do better than some of the country's own citizens too?
You better free yourself from this mental slaverish attitude!!

lulufaj:
The great teacher is gone.He taught with all he had. He made many of us love O and G...when i was told of his death while operating yesterday,I couldn't but shed tears. A very humble yet great man he was. "Captaaaaaain" was the nickname we gave him. Rip Sir .

Who came to give you such news when you were operating??
Na wa for una o!!

commitcrime:
For those commenting above. Smh



I guess because you don't know him

He was a father to many Esp his students He was strict Doesn't condone victimization which is the norm in oau health sciences.
It hurts that pple like that die when the evil ones re still breathing

I tell you! Just like my dear Prof of --------- died suddenly too. He too saved many from the clutches of victimisation.
And the sadists are thriving and growing fat.

So Okun boys followed Ebira boys to take hard drugs?
Don't they know most rural Ebiras are well cooked in jazz and they use snake fangs as pacifiers for their babies.
Its no wonder they survived while the Okun guys died!!

Others are learning where Ebiras are concerned!!

Chanchit:
This style weh Tiwa wear me no likey at all, it just made me remember when I was still small that I would wear my mum's buba on a shirt before sleeping because of cold.

Awww!! Mother's love

Sigo86:
Sorry OP... I quitted my factory Job last year september... Bt av not got another job... i've no regret @all cos any1 dat has experienced factory work 4once won't blame me 4my action.... 2yrs nd 6months in d factory no be beans @all.

No mind the OP.

You are still being impatient by crying wolf so soon. You left your former position 4 weeks ago and you're here with skyhigh regrets? You never ready!!

You seem the complacent type who finds familiar grounds comfortable. Instead of putting in more efforts, you talk about appreciating peanuts and not being in a hurry to achieve your dreams.
Your type will be sweet to enslave....

kulobyno:
I understand your pain. Wowo girls are always agressive

Also why ogres like you would be analysing peoples looks online, hiding behind anonimity and typing rubbish with your leprous fingers.
MBE!!

kulobyno:
Why are you pained. they posted the pictures so people could comment and that's what I did.

Why are you also pained that I gave you a knock for your stupid comment?

kulobyno:
Oga fine pass madam, pikin fine pass oga and madam. Congrats to them

Them ask you

Adaowerri111:
She is not ripe enough to mother a child, she should learn mothercare from Mercy johnson

Because you live with them, abii. Aproko!!

Adaowerri111:
where pikin

In your vag. Go born your own instead of asking jamb question.

iPopAlomo:
My sister's boyfriend is eyeing me... what should I do...

A very confused fellow... you would never measure up to 1/1000000 of my moms... and yes again... my father did her a favour by marrying her... I never claimed she was useless... but she stuck to her responsibility of caring for her children and not considering child care a job...

What a fucking daughter...

Idiotic basta with the mother who brings nothing to the table. Might be a bleeping daughter but sure don't have a 'son' shouting online that his own mother is useless.

Stay there and be typing bullish!t up and down with your leprous fingers. Let me handle you with the lashing your useless folks never bothered to give you.

daretodiffer:
Aren' you silly?

If your mum had no life or nothing worthy to bring to the table, that does not mean that other women do not. How dare you insult several mothers including my mum because of your mum? How dare you try to tell me that a man is doing a favour by marrying me? Who the fvck are you that you think you know better than your parents? Your misogynist self cannot even stand beside most women on this forum in terms of academic achievements, IQ and social intelligence.

Would your father have had you if it weren't for her? What do you even know about life to make that stup.id baseless assumption? Even if a woman is just the housewife, she is still bringing something to the table. You think it is easy to build a home, have kids, cater for them and raise them right. If it were that easy, your dad would have sent her packing after a couple of kids.

He obviously has issues. Don't waste your time trying to educate him.
That his mother is useless according to him, doesn't change the fact that a lot of us are who we are because our mums stood solidly with our dads to give us a good life.
What a son!!

daretodiffer:
Are you trying to say that your mum brought absolutely nothing to the table?

Looooool! Experience is the best teacher....

Mtchew! Does Seun have good customer service?
What about all the requests that go ignored?

He can improve. Thats the fact. Customer service is the future and what distinguishes you from competition....

Beautiful chick....

I don't see her as having that much range...

oh no... Rip sir....

Our dogs really annoyed me today. See how they scattered my precious fish that I aired out everywhere. Total waste of good stuff.
They've eaten my shoes, they've gotten on my nerves in so many different ways. Mtchew!
I have decided they need a firm hand. They are just too undisciplined!!

bummyla:
I Am Not Soliciting For Anyone's sympathy; Just Pray You Don't Get Yourself Into Some Hopeless Situations In Life! It Is Either You Wait Out The Storm Or You Do Something Crazy And Jeopardize Your Destiny! I Chose The Former! http://www.bummyla.com

When Oceanic Bank Was Still Existing, We Were Handling Some Contracts For One Of Their Top Managers. I know A Top Officer Who Ought To Be Around 42 Years Old, Who Cries Everyday Single Day I Get There, Because Of Threats And Verbal Abuse! This Man Is A Departmental Head! So It Could Happens At Any Age And Level! Pray You Don't Find Yourself In That Mess! http://www.bummyla.com

Thank God you mentioned a bank. It is a scene I am all too familiar with. Most bankers are too comfortable with the fat salary and the trips abroad. They would rather weep everyday but they are comforted when they remember their salary. It becomes a vicious cycle till they are sacked and then they have to face the reality they've been running from.

During morning meetings, the supervisors don't fail to remind you that there is no job out there. But I ask, don't people get jobs everyday?

Its well sha. May God help us all....

stanvesco:
d men don talk tire,
I pray 4 a God fearing,people loving,
sensible wife,
i pray 4 u luwiluwi,
kai,
i fit kill my wife with hand if she turns out to be a bad woman

This is just an example of how most Nigerians are inherently abusive. Especially when in 'authority' over them. What makes you think you own your wife's life that you would kill her? Why would you even think of killing someone?

bummyla:
Pray You Don't Find Yourself In A Situation Where It Seems All Hopes Are Lost! Where It Seems Heaven Is Shut Against You! But Thank GOD Something Beautiful Came Out Of It! I Became BORN AGAIN! http://www.bummyla.com

I pray so too but my brother, all hope can never be lost!! That is the vendetta the world wants you and I to believe. But is all hope ever lost?
You were feeding and clothing before going to her, weren't you? You had your certi intact, you could have taught in a school.
Forgive me but it seems you were carried away by the lofty dreams she promised you. And like the manipulator that she was, she kept dangling it before you to keep you in line.

I had an uncle who was being treated unfairly by relatives in Lagos when he went job searching. One of the places was his own sister. She would insult him and denigrate him, though she is a nice person, maybe she had issues then.

Omo, he ran back to my mum one day when the lady went to work. She came back and didn't find him, she had to ask her neighbors for his whereabouts.

Maybe he knew he had a welcoming family to run back to. Which is why everybody might not take that type of decision if their own is otherwise...

For me it's not like I'm judging you. But please as much as possible try to stay away from those who'd rather you believe all is lost. That is how they keep you in their chains. Take care....

Sylver247:
I no get strength to type my own experience cos its too long.




Buh all I can say is that our women shud be careful how they treat extended family members. I dont know why hatred, jealousy and wickedness is always the case when they see extended family. My eldest brothers wife till today doesnt allow the man do anything for our family, not even for my mum. She made sure my sister and I saw hell while staying with her, always stiring hatred in the mind of my brother against us.

I dont know why women are like that, they always start well but later turn into something else when they see the husband family members.

It is not just women. Men also have the tendency, but greater with women.
I would advise everyone to please take care of their own kids than sending them to learn, help or holiday etc. Even if it's dry morsel you are eating in your house, it's better than the richest meal in another man's house. A word is enough for the wise...

Just this morning, my man's mum called me because I'm alone at home presently with him out of town to work and asked that why don't I want a small girl to stay with me? Instead of being lonely.

I was like; Ah, but you know I am rarely at home myself. Im at home weekends only.

Small girl ko, big girl ni. Me that I'm even an introvert. I can never be lonely even if im alone for 1 month.

I have a cleaning woman who comes weekends. That is what I'm comfortable with. Even though I'm planning on changing her, I've gotten another mature lady lined up. Because the first woman is not keeping to the terms we agreed on.

Even the cleaning woman testified I'm the first lady she's working for. She said she can't work for women, they are too wicked. She said she studied me well before agreeing to start the weekly cleaning. Just that I feel she's taking advantage of my magnanimity by not turning up most times and not calling.

I know I'm not the most chatty or the warmest of women. But I can never be wicked or inconsiderate.

God bless my mum. My home was always filled up with children and my mum would treat them just like her own. In fact when I got back from school one time, my mum had a little baby with her and she told me she gave birth to the girl. The way she was acting so lovingly to the baby, I actually believed her and was perplexed, so I'm no longer the only girl. Until the girls mum came to pick her up later in the evening.

euromilion:
Am sorry but,I had no pity on you,at 25 you allowed yrself in such a mess.

Imagine. People are talking of child abuse and a fully grown man is saying this?
@bummyla
I'm not watering down your experience bummyla but you HAD a choice. Some 25 year olds are married so what are you talking about?
If you had pride, you would have gone back to the village and started a farm or something. Upon all the suffering, its not like you got an oil job so what are we saying?

Believe me, I stayed with other family from 10 to 14 and it wasn't funny. That is the age range that should complain of not having a choice....In other words, kids. Not adults.

bummyla:
Wow! My Happened around that time 2006! I have finished serving in NYSC, 2 years plus no job, only temporary jobs that lasted like 3 months and frustration was about setting in. So I remember my Aunty, Aunty Ijeoma, my Mother's only sister in the family of 10. I remembered in 2004, when I lost one of my younger brother, she wept more than everybody that came for the burial! I remembered her saying that my late brother asked her for some help, if she had known, he won't live long, she would have assisted him immediately he asked. So she turned to us and made a promise that whosoever among us that needs her helps shouldn't hesitate to call on her, so I decided in 2006 to take her by her words. Though something kept telling me I will regret this decision, but I couldn't place my hands on what was it.



I called her up, she said no problem, come over to Lagos, we now live in Lekkie, I know people in NPA, Shell Oil Company, Starcomms, Chervon, etc, I will hook you up in days to the best job offer in any of the numerous oil companies in Lagos. I was so excited, with my last money I went shopping for corporate wears for my Oil company job. Oh Poor gullible me!


I got to Lagos Lekki, became my aunty's houseboy! Initially I did not complain, it was a little price to pay for an oil company job. I had dreams! I wake up 4 am in the morning, crumb the floor, cook breakfast, lunch and dinner, wash her dog and brush it teeth, wash her car, sweep the compound and any other chores she would assign me.


But when It was obvious she wasn't going to help me, I start going to cyber cafe to submit my CV and became her enemy. I never knew there was something like psychological Abuse till then.

Everyday my aunty will send to my phone from her office up to 20 SMS telling me will never amount to something in life because: I stammer and stutter, fat, dark, tall and ugly

And as an applicant every alert that comes in, rises your hope for job, but imagine getting in a day for one year SMS telling you: How worthless you are, how fat, smelling, dark and ugly you are After sometimes, I started believing her that I was Ugly, dark and fat, no white man will want to work with me. I will be giving them nightmares!

I couldn't go back home, because It means I had given up! I came to Lagos for a good job and A good Job I will get! My Aunty Abuse led me to Christ. I became Born Again


Because at this stage only GOD could help me.

And She did not like it at all.

For 6 months she stopped giving me food systematically. First she changed her house girls like 8 times till she got Franca who she could use against me. Franca claimed I tried to rape her. Thank GOD none of my cousins bought her stories, so it died down.


They started warming my food with the dog's pot and serving me sometimes with the old dog's plate, so I stopped collecting food from them.


I was always the last to eat, I have to wait till everyone finish eating before I eat, if I dare to eat before anyone, Franca will report me, at the age of 25 my Aunty will ask me to Knee down, close my eyes and rise my hands up! If I refuse she will call all my pastors and report me, and for the sake of peace my pastors will ask me to obey. I will knee down, close my eyes and raise up my hands while Franca will be clapping and singing around me in circle "Olodo! Olodo!!! Ode!!!! Ode!!!"


I had no other Choice but to endure! As if the punishment was not enough, she started asking me to lay down at any little provocative! Once she asked Franca to climb on my head while I was on the floor! And I gave a Black Eye souvenir and a licking nose to remember never to mess with a broken young man!


After she started saying saying if I don't cry and wail for her forgiveness, she will never forgive for what she chooses to say I had done! So I became a professional actor - Who cries on cue I could have won an Oscar for my Weeping and Wailing in her house!

The painful part my parents did not believe me, so I stopped telling them of my painful ordeal in the hands of my aunty! aunty Ijeoma


If my aunty catches my watching movies, or sleeping during the day time, she will ask me to crumb all the interlocking stones in her compound! Life was a living hell! But I refuse to give up.


I sold all my clothes to eat in my wealthy aunty's house, where her dogs only eats Tantalizers


Before then, she got me and interview with one Indian man in Apapa-A Plastic company, that was before I started selling off my clothes, belts, shoes to eat, she advised me to wear one of my not too good shirt for the interview, which sounds odd! So I didn't take her advise! I wore my best Pink Shirt, Tie and Suit for the Interview! I needed to create a perfect first impression - That was what we were taught!

When I was called in, to see the India man, obviously, he was expecting to see a shabbily dressed young man, which he voiced out! He was really mad at me, he started screaming "Boy Who do you think You Are! Dressed up Like This? You Are A Monkey! Who Gave You This Suit And Tie! Get Out Of Here"

I immediately started take off my suit, tie and my pink shirt, I knelt before him pleading for forgiveness and for a chance or opportunity to serve in his company, he call the security and I was thrown out!

I felt like committing suicide that day!

To cut the long story short! I got a job without her help, moved out of her house. One day I came to work to find my aunty in the reception room waiting to see my boss, according to her to let her know whom she had employed: A Thief And An Armed Robber


But That was the last straw! I made my point very clear to her that if she ever in her lifetime try me again, I will make her regret the day she was born! I drove the point in and she understood the message very well. http://www.bummyla.com

How could you say you didn't have a choice? At 25?
You fuk up! Even those pastors self!!

redcliff:
Dont mind the man child. Atleast everyone has experienced this once in their lifetime. Atleast once!

As a young child!
An adult should know better, common!!

God saved your friend ooo that they were not visiting the branch. Because they usually blast out those trap doors and your friend was trapped inside.