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They might have passed the Centre if those two guys were not blocking the way, because it seems those iron slabs tripped or shocked her. The guy in white was kicking her feet off the slab.

Mariangeles:
Shey we cannot love our brothers again? Abego!

You can love without making the lives of girlfriends/wives hell.

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
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I just knew they would be female siblings. Always picking issues where there is non...

Some fathers will still ask whether you lack anything at home. As if that is all that matters...mtchew.

Which market can I get fairly used jeans in Benin City. High quality Grade 1 please.

Don't pump her with food o. Teach her to be secure with who she is.

If she was fat, same kids would call her bob-leke (big cheeks), owu bi buredi inu omi (swollen like bread inside water) and other hurtful names. Besides, childhood obesity is not easy to curb once it starts. She is okay as she is, healthwise.

She will soon settle in and make friends. Right now, she is the newest kid and it is not easy because everyone already has a best friend. But let her persevere, with your encouragement and love.

You people still want to blame women for your thoughtless, reckless acts that shorten y'all lifespans.

There is nothing responsible, but the life of irresponsibility that a lot of men live.

A. Which gender is likely to drink and drive after a night of heavy drinking?
B. Who are the ones who do not like visiting the hospital?
C. Who are the ones who drink all sorts of agbo and pop all types of pills?
D. Who are the ones who claim they are polygamous in nature and cannot stay with a single partner, thus sleeping with various sex partners?
E. Who are the ones who take hard spirits, thus endangering liver and kidney?
F. Who are the ones who claim their partner cannot work under a man and they prefer her to open a non-profitable shop, instead of working together as partners for the betterment of the family?
And the list goes on.

The earlier y'all look into the mirror, the better. You are the cause of your problems.

Even my guy, I begged, pleaded, cajoled, prayed, threatened him to stop smoking. He never did. Not until he seriously fell ill and it was discovered those things had started damaging his organs. No be person beg am again. And magically, HBP and all sorts of sickness flew away when he stopped.

The earlier you people face facts, the better.
That is how even Usifo that died on top sugar baby, they wanted to blame the wife. Wife that was on her own, when he was busy funking his daughter's age mate.

In spite of what our bodies go through as women via birthing and nursing and losing blood every month, we still try. And we work our careers on top.

Truth is bitter.

micxwell:
You can, if you know how to burn a CD with a laptop. Just download from Deezer server and burn on an empty CD for her.

Ok thank you so much. I will try.

micxwell:
I guess you have the file now?

No I don’t. I have it on my Apple Music but I wish to get it on CD for my mum to listen to in her car....

I have checked Jumia and Konga but it seems CDs have gone obsolete.

newoffer:
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It takes a week or two for it to fade away. I no be chemist.... u know ur brain is structured to lies.

You know be chemist so why are you deceiving people? Numb skulled liar.

newoffer:
Boil ginger n garlic as tea. This is.not.corona. Let no one.deceive u. It's a nasal blockage thing

You are the deceiver. If you keep lying to yourself about the enemy, how do you defeat it? How come this strange illness started during the pandemic?

Omar09:
Like I said. Slow thoughts. Poor neck. It has to carry an empty skull full of pulse.

I do not wish nor do I wish any of my enemies to be your neck rn.

bla bla bla.

Omar09:
You just missed the message here because you wanted to sound right. I want to ask, what do you think the op(his friend) is arguing about?

He only said, the women who stigmatize other women because they just happened to be SM should stop because that one decided to keep her baby doesn't make her forbidden. But no you just want to show us how slow in thinking you can be.

You are mad. Buzz off.

DNA9:
Few days ago i was with a medical doctor friend of mine who happens to be a gyna. We have been friends way back high school. He schooled in the US and had returned back to Nigeria since 2018. We were somewhat gisting about how Nigerian girls seems to be stigmatising their fellow girls that are single mum's who got pregnant out of wedlock.

He strongly condemned this very silly act by ladies and he further affirmed as a matter of fact to me that, 90% of every Sexually Active lady had at one point or the other aborted an issue before. Some have even done it more than 10 times without any complications or whatsoever. The fact that a particular decided to keep hers doesn't make her a forbidden fruit in the society.

He as well opened to me that it is very abnormal for a sexually active lady not to at some point get pregnant. That if you have a lady you constantly have unsafe sex with and she has never for one day missed her period, then there must be something seriously wrong somewhere. It calls for a quick attention.

In his words "any girl that is fertile and complete [b][/b]will always get pregnant, it's is left for her to decide if she wants to keep it or not"

Any girl old enough to have sex should know how to protect herself. Or is he saying girls should get pregnant just to prove fertility?
There is nothing to prove to anyone. People should go for comprehensive tests if they have concerns.

P.S I don’t judge single mothers, or those that aborted. They will live wth the consequences, not me.

You know you are an orphan. You are supposed to hide your self because you no longer have covering cloth (parents). You should have cut off from that guy but I’m surprised you didn’t. This blind trust of yours finna get you killed.

She is so beautiful...

You guys are not compatible, better a broken relationship than a broken marriage.
Your sister will never forget that your GF spoke to her mum roughly. Your GF will never forget what your mum did. And your mum will never forget what your GF did. So in between a disgruntled mama, a hotheaded gf and a disappointed sister, there will never be peace, it will be a Fuji house of commotion.

I don’t want to analyze the situation in itself that brought this hostility. But know now that this...will never work.

Luckydubby7:
. 51 persons had die of Lassa fever in bauchi state between January till date. Only covid419 u guys know because u guys are cashing out.

Ok o. I hope you don’t learn the hard way. If I had any cashing out, you think I’d be here? Lol.

Luckydubby7:
. For northern massive death, this is not the first time it happened over there.
It always like that almost every year.
For Italy? Stop using that as case studied pls, Ebola killed a lot Africans including Nigeria between 2014 to 2015, how many Italians or US did Ebola killed? Nigeria version of covid19 get k-Leg. Shine ur eye.

It is affecting Nigerians! It is not a foreign disease.

southniyikaye:
The thing is, I have never gone to search for a job in my life, while in school, I was into photography so I used that to sustain myself.

After school, I worked in a construction company and I later had my own company and had almost ten employees. Well last year I lost everything and reality dawned on me.

I have too kids and a beautiful wife to take care of.

Now to the main koko. Am 6.2ft tall and faaaaat but now, the fat Don turn fitted when hunger Wan kill me so I set out to job hunt.

After series of trials and interviews, job no enter o. Least I forget, I fresh small, OK I resemble butty pickin.

Begged family to raise me to start over, found none. Close friends nko, shishi dem no fit raise me and sincerely I didn't blame anybody after all no be dem cause my wahala.

So I set out to do menial jobs, the ones I could find was bricklaying or packing of block. Anytime I get there, their response is always, SHEY I THINK SAY U FIT DO THIS KIN WORK? YOU THIS BUTTY PICKIN
OR I SABI THE KIN WORK WEY YOU FIT DO.

TRIED series of places, it was the same response until one Man decided to give me a trial.
First job was to carry sand from point A to point B. I almost fainted but was doing strong man cos all eyes were on me.

Secondly I was asked to bring cement now this is the funny part. One very tiny guy called levels was the one bringing the cement, not more than 5.6ft tall, as in tiny o, so seeing him, I believed it will be an easy task and I tried to carry 50kg bag all by myself, I couldn't even raise it to chest level when I scatter for ground and everyone burst out laughing. Tried severally to no avail until someone helped me.

Now after mixing, it was time to serve the bricklayers. Worked from 8 till 12 and I was already having Back ache and Head ache. Infact all my body was aching and I told them I can't continue. They should give whatever they feel like giving me until they told me if I didn't finish with them till evening, no kobo for me.

I Sha manage work till 7:30pm and they paid me 1700 instead of 1500 just to pity my condition.
I was bedridden for almost three days after

But you can carry 110kg woman if she says come and do. Lazy Nigerian yoot.

Just kidding ni o. I pray you breakthrough this current rough patch. Amin.

TheSourcerer:
you can abuse o

Why are you all up in my posts? Do I know you?

Luckydubby7:
. Abi oo my dear He want to spoil business for some u guys benefiting from covid19. But what gain to the detriment of ur country men businesses, jobs and even health as only disease available now is covid419

So the hundreds dying in the northern part of the country fell from the skies? And those who were in the coffins that filled up Italy? And the refrigerated trucks used as makeshift morgues in the US? The sudden death spike since February is all a scam? Well done sir.

The stupid AIT man should be imprisoned. After surviving, he is speaking carelessly making others to fall victim. How many times will it be said that people react to COVID in different ways?

I wonder how some guys will be having raw sex with random girls. Maybe you have life duplicates locked in your boxes.

TheSourcerer:
will you suck my balls and tickle my butthole? I love sucha nasties

I wish I can lay my hands on you. I will squeeze those sorry things you call balls until I hear ‘pop’ and jam my pestle down your butthole. Idiotic closet gay.

TheSourcerer:
Once again NONE OF YOU BUSSINESS ,





Lol you sound pained tho like weed took someone's papa's attention from them ,

Mtchew. If you had your head on right, you would see what I wrote wella.

TheSourcerer:
STFU , someone in your ansenstral gene must have smoked sometime in their life , could be even your parents in school , now re-read your comment. Think as you do

Of course, what do I expect from a deranged stone head. All you people know is smoke, behave like the mad people you are aiming to be, and act aggressively. You are a classic case of why people should be discouraged from smoking.

jeff1607:
can a responsible man smoke in front of his parents or kids ?


can a responsible woman smoke when she is pregnant or hoping to better formed offsprings?


since smoking ain't a big deal


what some Peeps don't know is even when stop smoking and you get intimate with someone ,your breath smells like burnt firewood or paper. it's disgusting

Very disgusting. They would rather spend time in the backyard smoking than bonding with family and their kids.

Anyone who smokes weed is irresponsible. I have seen the effect first hand and I hate the lackadaisical attitude it breeds and the dangerous way of living it causes. Drug users are more likely to end up with HIV and other STIs.