mistacoco2:
Hello guys,

For some days now I have been on a serious dilemma whether to resign from my federal government job that pays me above N200k for my current position and migrate to the UK or stay in naija and set up a business to augment my salary. I will be 34 years next year, I feel traveling to the uk for studies next year September will delay my chances of getting married, as I have planned not exceeding 34 years without getting married.

I belong to the school of thought that believes can make it in Nigeria despite all odds. However, considering the economic realities of the country, I have recently contemplating of japa and maybe get a Nigerian lady for marriage after my studies.

Please I earnestly need matured advice from you guys to know how to start the coming year.

You can make that 200k in two days in the UK.
Once you are someone who is a stickler to the rules (you do not harass women or underaged girls, you are prudent, you love the quiet life), then you will do well in the UK.
Also, don't put time limit on things like marriage. Work towards it bit let it come when it will come. Anything other than that would make you desperate and then you are bound to make mistakes.

If she earns more than you, then you suck it up and increase your hustle as she has worked hard to get to where she is. You too work hard to get to where you want to be.
Abi she should leave the job to massage your miniscule ego?

Yes, it is her body. It is good she carries him along, but it is never 'by force' that he be the one to give her go ahead to do it.

Most times, women lock up because they are married to irresponsible men who do not care for them. You can't continue popping out babies with such men who don't deserve to be fathers.

Hello guys,

A couple of years back, there was this pressed powder a friend introduced me to. It was so nice for me especially when used together with foundation.
However, I can't remember the name. I however remember it is in a bright yellow case.
Who knows this powder please?

Smh.

Sha don't go and deceive one innocent girl into everlasting tears and sorrow.

Shior. Running round in circles...
You banned forex for the products that can be produced in Nigeria but where is the electricity for mass production? Where are the safe roads for distribution? Safe farms from unknown gunmen?

Na una ban, na una unban. Will prices ever go back?

This isn't alligator, first of all. Do you even know what you ate?

In addition to what I have said earlier, ladies due diligence is a must. We don't entrust our school certificates to strangers on the road, but at the mention of marriage most will entrust their lives (which is way more important) to one atutupopoyo that has no serious ambition in life.

Date. Date. Date. As a single. That is how you become smarter and know exactly what you want in a marriage. Some husbands are only meant to be boyfriends for the moment (have fun with them and vamoose). They are not meant for anything permanent.
That is why the so-called bad girls make smarter choices. They understand the psychology of these naija men.

Igbos are even trying. They will do small diligence before marriage. Others will meet and say 'we love each other and have decided to marre'.
This is Nigeria where women do not have it good. Do your diligence.

preshpraiz:
It's 2.47 am here but I can't sleep, I hardly sleep these days.

My whole world is crumbling.
I have been a regular guest here for awhile now but had to register this morning, I need somewhere to pour out my heart, somewhere to dump my frustrations.

I came from a good, not so rich home but my parents were so hardworking.I had a good moral upbringing, went to tertiary institution and graduated with good grades.

While in school, I never had a boy friend though I had a lot of "chykers", never went clubbing, didn't socialize much.

Few months to the end of my NYSC, I met my husband. We got talking and boom, I fell in love with him. He is my ideal man....he doesn't drink nor smoke, gentle and soft spoken.

He wasn't earning much but it didn't bother me. I believe in working hard and growing with my man.

Now my regrets...
* The "angel" I married has refused to get a job after losing the last one during COVID 19.

He said he can never work in a private company again. His target is multinationals.

I encouraged him to pick up a job with private company while hoping for a bigger fish at least to support in taking care of the needs at home but he said no.

I'm left with taking care of our 3 kids, feeding, school fees and virtually every need at home. All he does is press phone, gamble and sleep.

Now our rent is due, no money.
I married as a virgin, married for love and not money, work my ass off, doing so many side hustle to shoulder the expenses at home. I'm tired. I regret all these.

When I see my "unserious" classmates on social media and sometimes offline, I weep. See them living large. I thought all the sacrifices I made way back will pay off now.
I have made up my mind that if he doesn't fix the rent, I will move back to my parent's house.

Kindly feel free to advise or bash me. Tankio

That is life (and men) for you.
When you saw that he was exhibiting these behaviours, first action would have been to halt childbearing (so that your load will be lighter). As it is now, don't make that mistake of a 4th child (because I know such a man will be running around with erect missile, because there is no other work to do than to be offloading surplus akamu).

Then again, stop covering up for him. Stop it at once. Again, do not cover up for him. Do what you can for yourself and children, but he is not your responsibility. Let him keep looking for multinational.

I was like you (good girl and a virgin). But I discovered people like us become preys in the hands of the ones who know how to choose their naiive victims. I was in the midst of money but I was deprived. Looking older, with tears as food and insulted and oppressed by inlaws.

My life turned around when I detached emotionally. I started taking decisions that would favour my life, rather than constraining my life to a guy who doesnt love, or cherish or protect me.

It would do you good to be logical and selfish with these set that betrays. How many of these men truly love and respect us? They only want women for the social relevance that comes with being married, free labour like clean house, cooked food, washed cloths and free nurse for their parents, free sex and free womb to perpetuate their lineages. The day you women tell yourselves the truth is the day you are set free.

These nigs don't give a fvc and why should you?

freeman67:



Be sure the banks email you are sending messages is actually the right one. Then you can add these.

cpd@ cbn.gov.ng, contactcbn@cbn.gov.ng &
contact@fccpc.gov.ng

Okay, thank you very much.

Hello guys,

This is a little off topic. Please what agency can I copy in an email to my bank? I have been trying to get them to resolve an issue, and the last email I sent (which was strongly worded) they didn't acknowledge or respond to it.

I am not active on twitter and also due to privacy, would not be able to resort to social media. Thanks guys.

Jerekre:

Was delisted some years ago, and shareholders paid off

I haven't been paid. Please how do I get my money?

Hello people.

Please what is going on with UnionDAC, I have their shares?

jesmond3945:

Hello Sir, please meet the parents and sit down with them with your own parents as well. Iron this out in a family meeting. Let her parents know that you are not happy with their interference. Their should be boundaries. If they refuse and your wife doesnt accept, then do whatever you think is right. Please, be in the life of your son, thats the most important.

Let him say how they have interfered.
What is paining him is the fact that they reserved Madam's room for her in their house, hence his statement of interference.

He expects that when he asks her to "pack her load and go", she will be wailing like a banshee that has nowhere to go. But they have clipped his wings as wifey has a welcoming family to go to. So his shoulders have come down and he is now dishing out cheap threats which she has also called his bluff.
Not all family will throw away their daughter like the Ekwueme lady for one mannerless thing to come and finish her, as if say nor be 9 months pregnancy her mama also carry her.

You sound very tyrannical, like the biblical Pharoah that will never let God's people go till he learnt a BIG lesson. You really sound over-bloated with a false sense of importance.

No woman would leave a happy home and go and stay with her parents. You can quote me anywhere.
You don't do physical abuse, but what about the psychological abuse? Or any other abuse? Or is it only physical abuse that is there?
What does it take a treat a person right?

If we as Nigerian women ignored YOUR overbearing mothers and sisters, 99% of couples in Nigeria would have found their square root. And for her parents to care less if the marriage broke down or not, it just shows that you are very unpleasant to deal with.

I am a student in the UK, and I am trying to apply for a visa for my mum to visit briefly. Can I use my email to apply for her?

Should I also open an email for her?

Cashmadam:


I save in mutual funds and use my statement for visa application. It is okay to use it. You can mention it in the section for additional information.

Oh great. Thank you so much because I have been lost in deep thoughts all evening...

geolan:


Withdrawing and crediting into your account when you intend applying for February will raise eyebrow. I don’t advise it.

Let’s hear out others on this

Okay, thank you.

MeineMutter:
Attention
This comment is not meant to derail this thread.
Please if any of NL knows who bears Aremu Tunde Raheem, his Belgian international passport was mistakenly sent to a colleague of mine in Osun State from a source and we have been making all efforts to trace him since November 2022.

Likewise, if we have someone who is with a Bahamas passport, bearing Oluwafemi.T. A., kindly hit me up here so that I can collect the passport from you and also link you to the source where yours could be, if you are not Tunde.

Thanks a lot. I am using this medium as a last resort since all efforts to trace Tunde and someone with the Bahamas passport prove abortive.

Why not create a thread and appeal that it be moved to Front Page?
That would be better than sidling from thread to thread.

Someone might recognise the name if it is on front page.

Hello great people.

Please can mutual funds statement be used to apply for a visit visa to the UK?

Because of low interest in banks, my major money has been in mutual funds for about 1 year now and I need to apply for visit visa in February. Do I withdraw the mutual funds and credit it into my bank account?

IkpemhiTG:
Hmmm glad to see this topic. Who can tell me the real picture of life in the uk. My wife just got a job there an emergency technician. Annual salary is £27k. Am a website designer self employed. What are the chances we might make a better living over there in uk. and what are the chances we might not. We will be having a baby soon just to let you know.

I would appreciate an experienced mind to contribute. Thanks

The job is a very good pay, and if you move together with you and her working, you guys will be very comfortable.
But a few factors may also decide how comfortable you guys are like is the job in London (as London is more expensive than other parts of the UK).
Also childcare, because the child must always be monitored, if she has to work, you have to be available to take care of the child.

Deensham:


Exercise a little patience, the new year just began.

okay, thank you...

I am yet to get my interest payment from IBTC MMF. They usually pay me every quarter, but I'm yet to get the one for December ending. Do I send them a mail?

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TheKingsmann1:
you're talking nonsense...
You reason like a dumb fellow..
Go school you no gree now see the way you reason, uneducated fellow

Gedifok. Bush boy.
If really you are educated, why not attack my argument instead? Why insult me?
But then you have nothing to say. So you resort to cheap blackmail.

You people always want to cage women while running around with raging hormones. I knew it was a man that would post this...

Some of you men and your half-baked stories. What happened prior to the fight? What your wife did is bad, but you can’t bite someone and then start dictating how they should react.
From your wife’s actions, at that moment she was at a point of whatever wants to happen let it happen. If the marriage scatters, so be it.

From experience, so many men use their wives and children to play politics. They will insist that it is their own person coming for Omugwo and then this person comes, and holds a sleeping baby 24/7, watching the wife slave away and dictating what they want to eat. That is how one came to a new mother’s house and promptly moved into the matrimonial bedroom, with the consent of the man.
A woman’s mum will never watch on and allow her child to be so stressed. She will definitely help.

Such men will even gang up against their wives, or be looking on like limp vegetable while the wife is being oppressed. They don’t want to offend their mothers and sisters, but they don’t give a damn about how their wife feels while being oppressed.

When the new mum is then pushed to the wall, she will react of course.

Why are you putting blame on her unmarried friend? Even you too as a friend, what are you doing in the couple’s affairs?
So if you are blaming the friend for influencing her, you also have influenced or are influencing your friend.
You can’t just come here with half baked stories, looking for a soft target.

What did your “friend” do you his wife?

Mrxawe:
See as this two idiots just siddon dey look all through like say nothing concern them.

They even blocked the road sef. These people wouldn’t have gone to that side if they weren’t on the road.

They might have passed the Centre if those two guys were not blocking the way, because it seems those iron slabs tripped or shocked her. The guy in white was kicking her feet off the slab.

Mariangeles:


Shey we cannot love our brothers again? Abego!

You can love without making the lives of girlfriends/wives hell.