₦airaland Forum

olas24u:
;only diplomats can explain the retalitary sanctions and its implication. All I know is that it's an hybrid war, with main actors on the sidelines.

With all due respect that's nonsense! That's like saying the sanctions on Iran can only be known by government officials.....Hogwash!

olas24u:
Are you a diplomat?

No but very close to 2 of them actually.

Tradegood:
You fit born?
You never answer me.

Abi Sperm donor don finish?

No but I fit pay someone wey go born. Same way woman fit pay someone to donate sperm, so I ask you what exactly does a woman bring to the table when pregnancy is removed from the equation?

I'M SORRY BUT I'VE GOT SOME BAD NEWS! Compare the Nigerian society to that of those in South Africa, USA, England, France etc, you'll discover that what we've seen so far is childsplay, what is coming is too big for my mouth to say!

With great power, comes even greater responsibilities. With great advancements comes even greater temptation, kids ages 10 are now having their own mobile phones, most are on social media, some even have Tik Tok. Meanwhile parents are working more hours, they are constantly stressed and depressed, many hardly see their kids for more than 2 hours during weekdays, so what did we think would happen?

You can't eat your cake and have it, wither do your best and pray to God that your kids turn out okay or sacrifice by monitoring them left, right, up and down but also praying that you didn't miss anything. All in all, na by the grace of God kids nowadays remain mentally and physically stable, I'm afraid the WORST IS YET TO COME!

Tradegood:
Who ask you to marry? If you marry, you no marry, wetin concern person?

See as e dey use surrogacy disturb my eye, you don forget orphans. Just adopt straight so that woman go commot for the equation!

You still dey live inside bedroom.
Go check wetin women dey discuss now concerning marriage.

Make we pray say na mouth them dey.

Dey allow Red Demon Piller dey deceive you say woman dey wait for your money o.

Hope say you take School seriously because these women dey go school wella, dey graduate.

Our men on Nairaland must do same. Otherwise....!!! Hm.

Love go still win them women sha but you see money...Issa pity.
That was the easiest trick in the book before.

It is going to get better between men and women.

Marriage between man and woman go increase.

As for you o, step aside!!
The Train is Marching on.

Na you dey fool yourself, na you talk am say man no fit carry pregnancy hence woman brings something to the table, I then asked you wshat of surrogacy. Why does a man need to marry if he can get a child through surrogacy or arrangement? Na you dey follow yourself argue, simple question no be fight

Excuzeme:
Some Sanctions, just like this one, are "Symbolic"!
It is like when joe Biden called President Putin a War Criminal, the next question is: Can yu then go and arrest the War Criminal?

But then, most people think Sanctions is just about getting Visa to travel to a country?

Sanction do affect your relationship with other countries, it affects your financial transactions, it affects whether your Plane can over-fly the Sanctioning country, it affects, you could be on a No-Fly list or Transition across a Country.
Even other Countries can use it as an excuse to deny you your rights.

What Russia just did, is to tell America that they also have the "Authority" to issue Sanctions like America, how effective the Sanction is, is another story entirely.

Ask yourself why do so many countries fear American sanctions? The answer is simple, American sanctions are not singular but multi facet. American ban is as good as U.N ban, is as good as European ban and so on. Russia sanctioning Kamala, even tho it is symbolic, I still fail to see what it actually enforces. Kamala no dey spend Russian currency, she no get Russian assets, so what exactly?

Tradegood:
You dey do agidi.
Na still woman dey do surrogate.

You fit born pikin?
You fit do surrogate?

You never answer me.

Even if you use technology, na still woman make-up you go copy.

You fit born pikin?
Man fit born pikin?

Answer me Red dem.onic Piller!

That is what she brings to the table.

No go date man o.
GOD hate that sin well well.
No let Red De.mon Piller deceive you into that cursed lifestyle!


**Don't get me wrong.
In the home,
GOD is first.
Man is next in authority after GOD. He must love his wife and PROVIDE.
Woman is next, after HER husband in authority, she must submit to him.
Then the kids.

Before all other family member.
Na so Bible order the authority IN A HOME!

You must take your responsibility as a man seriously and provide for your house.

Any other thing na balderdash or you just no ready for marriage. Except you no want peace!

But na my money I go pay, a woman wey I paid to born pikin no different from wife? Must I marry? Abi which kind rubbish you dey yarn? Society don advance pass all this one, if na preganncy be woman's only asset in a marriage then why should men get married?

I get money, I pay you, you born pikin.....SHIKENA!

Tradegood:
Woman dey bring money
They work.
They are Bosses and CEOs.
No surrogates.

You fit born pikin??
No dey dance round and round.

Na wetin I hate for Red Demon Piller body.
Them go see truth like this, lie lie them no go gree.

Other men get sense pass una.

Don't get me wrong.
In the home,
GOD is first.
Man is next in authority after GOD. He must love his wife and PROVIDE.
Woman is next, after HER husband in authority, she must submit to him.
Then the kids.

Before all other family member.
Na so Bible order the authority.

Any other thing ma balderdash.

So the women wey dey do surrogates na wetin? Animals or dummys? Man no fit carry pregnancy but he fit hire person wey fit do am, so what does he need a wife for? If na only pregnancy woman good for, why should he marry?

Tradegood:
Hope say you no go date man for this wan wey you dey like this so?

You fit born pikin?

Woman can bring money.
You fit born pikin?

A man can get a surrogate, he can get a kid from almost anywhere nowadays, he does not need to put a woman for house and expose himself to lifetime of liabilities. same way a woman can go to a sperm bank, so 2 cancelled 2, back to the drawing board!

shaggy007:
Trust me, you will see the result of this very soon.

Then you'll understand a few things about international politics.

Even Israel (US blood ally) is gradually shifting away from US.

What does Russia offer someone like Kamala? Answer this since you know so much about international politics

makavell7:
So oga what does it take to become a nationalist in APC nigeria? To be a shameless dictator and steal a state blind, have enough money to share around so-called stakeholders and have a large army of thugs abi? Pathetic Cretin!!! Tell grandfather Tinubu to come to APC primaries with 8 bullion vans, He would be publicly disgraced!

You're using emotions rather than logic......Nigeria is still a country where people vote based on party rather than the candidate. For someone like Kingsley to win, he needs the backing of a strong party. This is why I'm surprised there are no youth movements. One would think the events at Lekki Toll would galvanize the youths into active politics but alas here we are! Remove sentiments bro and realize na we dey do ourselves, all these old men will continue to dominate because the youths are pathetic!

vannessa7:
I wasn't talking about money, all I said up there are not my words but tried and tested documented and proven ideology, the society definitely includes the government and it's policies shape the future outcome of children, I wasn't talking solely about the situation at hand but responding to your allegations that the society has no stake in a child's upbringing. You will not argue much indeed, see epistle, taking it personal.

Read what I wrote but this time carefully, "IT IS NOT THE JOB OF SOCIETY TO RAISE YOUR KIDS", this does not mean it has no role in it, stop making sh*t up!

This country get problem and the highest is not Buhari, not Tinubu not even the politicians but the religious nutjobs. Insult their fathers, dem no go make sound. Insult their grandparents dem no go make sound, insult their children and their future dem no go make sound. Inflict them with poverty, insecurity and disease; dem no dey shout but make you mistakenly insult their religion or beliefs, ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE!

Even sheeps dey change face when it realizes it is being led to slaughter but Nairalanders? TRAGIC COMEDY

onatisi:
this mistake is even forgivable , but i must confess tinubu has really disappointed many people , for a man who has been planning and scheming for the past 8 years on how to become the president , many people really expected him to come out with his plans and sell himself to the public , he just keeps blabbing all over . he should base his campaign on concrete ideas and policies he intend to carry out if elected , the only plan and policy he has said was the employment of 50million youths into the army and for the govt to be feeing them corn and cassava

Who is Tinubu competing against? He knows Nigerians do not vote based on ideas and boring details. Nigerians vote based on sentiments and sweet sweet ajasa. Tell people you'll bring constant electricity but also lump in something they fear(lost of sim card/phone number), tell them you will lower food prices, tell them you will end insecurity but leave out the details and add a bag of rice and 5000 Naira. The people that vote the most are not on social media, they are not the folks writing paragraphs upon paragraphs. The ones that truly vote, all want to hear one thing, APC, PDP! Tinubu understands the game and APC primary will be the first confirmation of how far ahead this man is compared to the rest of the field when it comes to political machinery. I wish we could give credible youths a chance but none of them have shown any sign of seriousness ad PDP is just deceiving itself.

vannessa7:
That you and all those people that liked your comments actually believe this means we still have a long way to go in this nation. This same belief gave birth to boko haram and criminals in the society, Americans and other developed world know better and that's why they have put a system in place where every child must be treated right, basic education is a must and every child have their basic needs met because they realized that the child that is left to the whims and caprices of an incompetent parent will be the problem of the society in future, even upto how you treat a child and bring him up is well regulated by the government and they have social workers who will take your child from you if you are found lacking in your parental responsibilities, this doesn't mean they don't have social miscreants but it is nothing compared to what we have here. that is one of the reasons why Tupac Shakur and notorious big had to die because they were busy raising a generation of future gangstars through their influence on the kids then, although this is from the grapevine and not confirmed by American government but it made sense that the government might have killed them because they, unlike us always think, project and plan for the future. Until Nigerian government start seeing the future of nigeria in the children and shaping the future from them by making the right policies and providing equal opportunities that enable each child to get to any level they can regardless of who their parents is, we will always have problem because after the rich man has raised his child disdaining the poor man's child, that poor man child will grow up to be a criminal and not allow the rich mans child to live in peace. It's simple logic. Sorry if I sound preachy, I'm actually writing for the general awareness of anyone that comes across this.

I'm not going to bother arguing with you too much because you're not talking about society itself but governmental policies and inactions. Your premise is flawed as you assume the wealthier the parents the more likely the children are morally and ethically sound, this is complete FALLACY! You also mentioned the USA, are you kidding me? The same country that not only has a gun problem but a drug and depression problem as well? That country?

I've been in the USA for close to13 years now and I've had the privilege of working and socializing not only with the grassroots but the CEOS, directors etc. I can say without any doubt that society does not give a flip about your kids. Society will never ever do your job for you, it would rather help you to further break down your child into what the system believes is appropriate for him or her based on skin color, gender etc.

Your premise is flawed as it ignores personal choices, it ignores responsibility and accountability. You can be in Nigeria, USA or australia, if you lack discipline from a solid foundation(parental) then you're already at a disadvantage in the society, this is not about mponey or governemnt, it is about parents acting like parents. Let's get back to the basics!

naturefellow:
but society has a huge influence on them.

BBN, "Freaky freaky", I Am Coming by Naira Marley ft. Bosiswa, morally decadent influencers on Instagram... Add yours!

Influence YES but so does every other society forget 9ja you wan tell me say 9ja bad reach USA in terms of morality? But guess what, we still have children who chose to behave responsibly. This is where parental care comes in, I love my child so much that I cannot depend on society to do what I should have done. Society na jara, fisi, not the main dish!

a2d3rew:
But in our church , pastor will ask us that we will take responsibility for those children's to grow in good way,? And all the church will answer yes we take, and we promise.

In your what? You don talk am church......words are cheap, most people don't do 50% of what the church requires of us.

Before nko shey make e curse am ni? Yeye people, Ooni na father of all, tomorrow Tinubu will come and he too would collect his own prayers, next story pls

MrBrownJay1:
we are still talking about a 10yr old child, right?!?!? do you actually think that this child knew the consequences of what she was doing (at 10yr old)?!?!?



some children turn bad because of the school environment they get into. not all school environment are safe/sane for kids. some school turn children into demons, some children in these school have deviant mindset. many innocent children join cults and start acting recklessly because of the bad influences at school. a school is an environment where children discover good and bad.

Even at 7, many of us knew whenever a kissing scene comes on, we turn our eyes away, even at 7 many of us knew if we should see an unclad grown up we cover our eyes. That was back then in the late 80s and early 90s o wey innocence still reign supreme. Nowadays kids are exposed to the vices 50 times as much as back then. A good parent will teach his or her child the consequences of allowing someone to touch his or her privates, a good parent would use everything from religion to finances, making sure the child understands not only the consequences for bad behaviors but the reward for good behavior. the problem nowadays is that some parents themselves are still not mentally developed, some are still learning how to raise themselves not to talk of children.

Kobojunkie:
If you no get money [s]or you know your worth as an individual, or you are not mentally disciplined[/s], you are not marriage ready.

Fixed!

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is,again, not for everyone!

Unless there's money....Dey talk am finish no dey disguise

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is not for everyone.

Thank God say my mama and papa no meet you dem for no marry because shin shin no dey back then, mama had no job and papa dey work for NEPA. .

martinslaura:
YOU ARE VERY CORRECT. I ALSO GREW UP IN A STRONG GHETTO ZONE IN LAGOS BUT THAT DIDNT INFLUENCE ME RATHER MY PARENTS PUT A TRACK ON MY EVERY MOVE WITH WORDS OF ADVISE AND LOVE.

Exactly, the world we live in now is telling parents to relax, to allow schools/society to train their children. In fact in the USA na school and government dey dictate what is considered proper way of raising a child.

MrBrownJay1:
again, you cant take children out of the society.... society is fukced up today, and unfortunately children are influenced by that same bleeped up society that we live in. today, many of these kids have yeye oloshos as role models, social media, sex in your face at every level etc. many can safeguard their kids from such decadence while others cant. should we therefore not blame this failing society?!

you are right that we as parents have a big part to play, but let us not forget that the minute your child leaves the house, they are confronted by that same society and its decadence...even in that same school that is supposedly there to educate your kids. remember that your child at school is surrounded by other children (fukced up by society etc) who may influence your child, in order for him/her to fit in. you CANT expect a 10yr old child to be mature/wise/strong enough to make the right choice (in this instance).

it takes a strong minded child to stand up to their school peers.

When your child knows the consequences of wayward or inappropriate actions that child is more than likely to consider those consequences before acting reckless. We live in a world where parents are now taught to act like a friend rather than acting like parents. We can't control society, we can't keep every bad thing away but when we remember the consequences and REWARDS for good behavior, most times our brain is reset back to proper working condition. All I'm saying is that most times if a parent does his or her best to train the child properly, the child usually turns out decent, I'm a living testimony of that despite growing up in Mushin.

Kobojunkie:
1. Counselors aren't magicians who can help you repair irreparable damages already caused your marriage, and counselors cannot help you both resolve issues you aren't ready to resolve as a couple. Counselors serve instead as mediators to help guide both couples towards the best fit path or next step in their relationship. If a couple believes it has to be divorce, the counselor can only help them in achieving that without all the abuse.

2. Couples who are not able to afford a mediator in the marriage have no one to blame for that.

The solutions applied by counselors are industry-tested conflict resolution solutions to help partners safely resolve issues in a way that best benefits the parties involved.

Just sad when you think about it, the proposed solution works only for those financially buoyant.......Seems the world only caters to certain people....shame!

GloriousGbola:
Spoken like a true illiterate

You are a parent in the is and you don't know PBS? Paw patrol? Da vinci kids? Super why? Sesame street?
You are an even greater failure as a parent than the people you are lambasting

You are the typical illiterate who is too mentally lazy to actually filter and understand what his children are exposed to

Please tell me what are your children watching for entertainment and education?

It's obvious you are mentally challenged, those reading your comments should have you committed as no stable human being can reason the way you do....PEACE!

MrBrownJay1:
this is not an Nigerian/African issue, it is a world issue! the above madness happens all over the world, not just in Nigeria.

So why would we expect society to be any better? Why leave something as serious as the upbringing of a child to the society. Why not treat the society as screw ups and saefguard your child or at least try to? I repeat as a parent, I accept the responsibility of training my child, knowing how wicked the world is and how corrupt other children can be, I'll put every possible measure to ensure my child has a fighting chance of being a decent person, afterall don't we have doctors, CEOS etc who made it out of the ghetto? ENOUGH EXCUSES MY FRIEND!

GloriousGbola:
You are a prime example of what I am referring to. You are living in a failed society so you don't even.know that in proper societies there are media exclusively for children

Who do you think Disney movies are for?
Sesame street?
Paw patrol?
Number Jack's?
We don't talk about Bruno songs?
The lorax?
The despicable me movies?

You grew with Davido and wizkid as entertainment. No wonder you are already a mess

Una go just dey type rubbish, see this ignoramus! When I was growing up, Davido and Wizkid did not exist! Furthermroe, I live and work in the USA and believe me wetin una dey see for 9ja na comedy compared to what goes on here. You dey mention Disney but if I analyze the numerous ways where children are exposed to homosexuality and other vices in Disney movies you go shout Allahuakbar!

Educate yourself bro, stop assuming things and argue based on facts not sentiments!

olu77:
Maybe it's the collective job of society to ensure that rules and regulations are adhere to. It's probably the job of society to regulate public consumptions that could have destructive effect on the society at large.

I can not completely blame the parents of this girl, we all went through these foundational schools and we know that untrained kids will corrupt trained ones and kids generally pretend around their upright parents.

Many parents abusing this girl's parent have worst kids acting like saint at home the day they will discover that is when they will know that training a kid is a collective responsibility. School environment is where kids learn from both their teachers and their mates

Where I fault the parent is relying on society/school to train your child for you. There's no way in hell that an attentive parent would allow her child to go to Dubai without proper controls in place. This is international travel with covid and everything, HOW? Na so 9ja schools dey reliable?

hoctre20:
and that’s because u chose to follow the right society, been unfortunate ❓ Lol. There are right society and the vice versa too so the society too fails, because we. Create the vice versa too. I dare u not to do with the society and tell me more. And I can boastly tell u there is higher chance ur wards or kids get messed up to how u were brought up because the bad society has taken an upper hand now.

Society can go screw itself, as a parent the buck stops with me. I own responsibility and do not rely on others to train my child for me. The tv, the computers and the phones all have parental control, I will never allow 48 hours to go by without checking on my child via heart to heart talk. I make conscious effort to not only be a parent but to be an educated one, if society likes make it turn to jungle, I move my kid to a betetr one or limit society's influence on my child, I don't wait for society to raise my child for me.....MAN UP!