₦airaland Forum

Brokeness:
Your gender raised them that way.

No, their mothers and female friends talk them into it.

QuinModah:

You have no business getting a woman pregnant if you are jobless.

Is that what the writer said up there??


If you don't have important thing to say keep mute.

NotAMan:
This marriage is shaking and life-threatening at the same time.

The last employed job I had was in a private firm which I got affected by downsizing.

Pending when I will land a good job, these days, I do house and property agent. I also do menial jobs sometimes just to eck a living. Sometimes it takes long before I seal a deal. The last money I made was just something above 50k which I handed over 80% of the money to her for family upkeep and other expenses. She's pregnant with our first child and misbehave a lot.

And now her mother is sick and she wants to travel and as I don't have the 30k to give to her, only to come back yesterday and saw my boxers burnt in anger. Over 10 boxers? And she's even telling me this is just to warn me against the future and I'm becoming very afraid of her. If I have the money, would I want her not to travel to see her sick mother when i know health issue is a matter of life and death?

Also, she's teaching in a private school and complaining of the school owing salary.

This woman is making me shed tears and becoming afraid of her at the same time. I have never beaten, talk bad or hurt her in anyway and she shouldn't push me.

Now that she has burnt my boxers, who knows what next? I am even afraid of my life.

What should I do?

Burn her pants too.....

Hamachi:
Yes, I am a sex therapist.

Ohhh, that's nice.


Let me ask, Why do slim women hardly get wet during romance and sex ,but chubby/fat women easily get wet??

Zandena:
It is you and your hypocritical Tijjaniyya sect that lost.
Sane Nigerians did not lose anything but rather were saved from Osinbajo's deadly religious bigotry just as you Sanusi!
Why are you not talking about your Tijjaniyya sect's 10 Million children roaming the streets accross the country as their so called leader in Nigeria? Why not speaking against your scholars who have given divinity to themselves in the name of suffism?
And any attempt to return you to Emirship position will be met with brick wall because we sane Nigerians will not allow another disaster and traditional rascality to rein in kano again!
Sanusi be warned!

You're physically and mentally blind that's why you can't see that emir Sanusi have been speaking for the poor kids in the north.

Onowu33:
How goat go take rule animals wen dey sea and zoo? Osibanjo is a weakling he cant rule Nigeria.

Ignorance is your case.....

kestolove95:
If person like obi Pandora can contest for presidency I don't see anything wrong with Doguwa's ambition

Receive sense IJN, Amen.

Biglol008:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, pls I need your advice. I’m married 28 years, no children yet. Newly wedded, I have a problem. I don’t last long on bed. I cum very quickly and it takes a long time like 4 hours for me to get another erection and most times it’s not very hard like my first erection.

I was told the nitric oxide in my body is low. Pls I need help. How do I boost my nitric oxide in my body or if there are any supplements let me buy.

I’m afraid if I don’t do anything now my wife might eventually cheat in the future. I no longer have my morning erection like some guys do. I have exercise, did ginger, garlic, bitter Kola nothing seems to be working.

What can I do to remedy my situation. Pls no talk of hospital health wise I’m very okay. No diabetics or anything no infection pls help me so I can save my marriage and my myself.

My simple advice is, go for exercise, take bananas and groundnut, take tigernuts too, and lastly start taking igboya drink.

Hamachi:

Hmm, that's too bad. I think what you're experiencing is premature ejaculation (PE) not ED.

What's your diet? Hope you're not the type that feeds on junk foods and sodas? Do you engage in working out once in a while? Can you go more than a round? If your diet is a healthy one and you also engage in working out, you might need to visit a doctor or take some herbal products.

What about forèplay or do you just jump into action? You might need to control how excited you are about the act else it will hasten up your ejaculation process. You also need to control your breathing too. Utilize the 'stop-start' technique. I don't recommend the use of 'drugs' because of addiction and damaging side effects.

And lastly, did you meet her a virgin? If she's an 'experienced' lady, you might never be able to satisfy her. If this is the case, the best thing to do is to free her, or else cheating is inevitable. If you've 'worked' on yourself and still no changes, do not go 'extreme lengths' just to satisfy a woman. Most women are poor in bed also.

You are going into sex with the wrong mindset. You are excited, happy, want to satisfy yourself,etc.

Change your mindset, you are there for one purpose alone and that is to satisfy her...anything you do, let that principle guide you...when you are getting too excited or hype, do anything you can to blunt that feeling either by redirecting your thoughts, reduce the speed of thrust, pause, change position, direction, etc.

Continue in this pattern until she comes, then you can get your come.

Once you master it, it become easier and you can gradually add your own excitement.

We can have a session, if you interested. Check my signature for details.

Sorry to ask, Do you have PhD in sexiology?

JeffreyJunior:
Freedom to do illegal things?

Tell me one real freedom Nigerians have that people in the West don't have?

Abeg ask the bush man

Mindlog:
Freedom to do what?

Freedom to steal public money, bribe inec, attack opposition, promote ethnic bigotry etc.

NuraSambo:
Tell that to the IPOB terrorists that have turned your region into a war zone by violently enforcing sit at home; killing, robbing and rapping ibos every monday

You also need to tell the boko harams and bandit that have turned your region into a killing field, and also extorting the locals of their hard earned money and farm products.

AsomStructures:
You made sense but didn't have to result in insult... The op only express a concern that needs clarification

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The guy really asked a dumb question.

TUANKU:
You married your present wife after the loss of your wife so that YOUR DAUGHTER WILL GROW UP WITH MOTHERLY LOVE/CARE... it's obviously not working.
FIRE HER.
Don't listen to woke people and ignore the warning signs until she harms that innocent kid.
The hearts of men.

Exactly.......




Fire the evil wife.

CondenseMilk:
RIP to your first queen.


Your story is same with some Nigerian movie back then.

Let me write the scene of such movie.. I pray it never be your portion. Amen

First the girl will be accused of being a w. by her step mom, maybe because she no get belle for you.

Then afterwards the girl will be sent out to nowhere.

She will hustle on her own through thick and thin , possible r*pe, school and all that.

Then finally she will get a degree, good job and a husband.

Then she will look for her dad and maybe meets him as a gateman, driver or cleaner in her working place or company.

Then you both will hug each other and cry.

Then she will forgive you and clean you up.


Movie ends.

Movie producer I hail o.....

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

From your post here I can testify you're foolish weakling, how do you sit in the house and watch this kind of thing happen in your presence.



Only God know the kind of men we're having this days. You better cut that woman serious warning or else she'll leave your house. She's there to spoil your family, don't be deceived by that shit called love, if she love you she'll love your daughter too.

Undercoverfbi:
Having sex in a car will make the car spoil.

Hahahahahahahaha



Seriously?

phemmyfour:
She didn't create herself

She has right to compete in any sport of her choice just like Caster Semenya

He should f****king give it back, he's a man and should look for Male race tournament and compete there.



Confused transgender people, you think you can change what God created.

MrBrownJay1:
dont worry bro, by the time you receive ENOUGH fines/citations for your uncivilzed actions, you will quickly learn and start to behave like a civilized person.

Exactly

shaybebaby:
Will she get the same in return?

I bet you she will get more than that in return.

Evestar200:
Na all these girls dey make men dey talk rubbish about women.

They won't respect themselves by using their money to get what they want.

I don't pity them when men insult them but I get angry when these same men generalized it like is all women that do this fucking shit.

It can not be all women my dear, is just that majority of Nigerian girls do it, so don't feel insulted.

Marvellsmart:
I just found out last night that my husbandto be is gay. Like he is into men. I stumbled upon his phone yesterday night
and saw his chats with his best friend, the supposed best friend that returned from South Africa because of our wedding next week.

We have planned our wedding next Saturday, everything is set. We have dated for four years and never for once did I suspect that he was into men.

In the chat, he was professing love to his best friend. Telling him how he has missed him and his pen!s.

How he had enjoyed last night with him, I even saw my fiance nπdes in their Whatsapp.

I am losing it, please help me. I went to his house for the weekend, on Saturday, he had left me and returned late at night without knowing he was going to have s.ex with his best friend. I just left the house this morning without him knowing cause he is a banker and he leaves home early. I left his door open, packed all my properties and haven't talked to him

He has been calling me since but I am not taking his calls. I couldn't concentrate at work today.

What should I do?

Please help me
love this man so much, he has been a blessing, and I am pregnant for him, but then, why this??

Should I cancel the wedding?
Should I confront him?
I'm confused
I want to run mad.

You should be thanking God you find out early.




Just forget that marriage and run from that danger called husband.

helinues:
This is very interesting

At least Pdp have agreed that Tinubu will be sworn in on May 29.

Good step from Pdp

Take not of the key word "temporal"

Whyzaid:
I think with learned in-laws, the wife's problem is half solved; but you see those illiterate in-laws that follow tradition like something else will frustrate the hell out of the wife. My opinion though

What about illiterate wife, with illiterate parents and friends??



Is a two way thing my dear.

Mrwhite09:
im tired of taking ginger, garlic and lemon

Also engage in exercise too......

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

Few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labeled a ritualist and all sorts of name due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

God knows any wife that dare raise hand on my mother will receive the beating of her life and will leave my house.


Divorce that woman asap.

Cooolme:
Please I want to know if I'm over spending or it's just the way things are in Nigeria as a whole.
I'm a student and very cautious of my finances, even with that I spend like 35-40k weekly excluding car fueling.
Omo things are bad oh, I remember my 100 level days (2018/2019) when 5k could carry you for a week even without foodstuffs.
Over to you, how much do you spend a week?

25 million weekly....

Iamgrey5:
We don't have the money.

You must be joking

Originalsly:
Hmmmm..... then I guess such thoughts are somewhere in my mind ..... I never took any such thoughts out .... will search for them.

They're not in your heart, they just slide-in and slide-out if you resist them. And most times they're stimulated by situations around you.


So don't bother searching, you won't see anything.

turmacs:
I can't feed that dog ohhh abeg. You need to see this thing. I've told him to kill the dog or sell it and I think I'll keep pestering him about it till he gives in... Make I no come end up as dog food one day.

Telling him to kill the dog is pure wickedness, instead I'll advise you try and get use to the dog. Dogs are very good at home, especially for security reasons.


Somebody like me wont listen to you sef, instead we look for another place to f****ck.

Originalsly:
Really?? I always thought it was natural to feel good when you see good things happen to people around you .... and to bear in mind that a few will be envious.

It's a natural thing bro, those kind of thoughts come to mind unconsciously, in napoleon hills book, think and grow rich, he called that kind of thoughts auto-suggestion. They automatically shift thought to your mind without your permission, but we as humans have control over them, so we don't let such negative thoughts rule over us by taking them out of our mind .

frozen70:
😂
Actually no man wants to be in such situations
But at times, shits happens and you find yourself in that situation

Of course she is over burden and her loyalty can't be measured because of stress factor and probably pride will not allow the man to appreciate her

It does happen and only few men understands what it means to have such a woman as a helper

Exactly, only few men like me.