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Aonkuuse:
Bro you really need to intervene oo before she will kill him for you people. Men are not speaking out in marriages. But also don't rush in confronting your mother ooo, just talk to her because maybe your father did something that is making her behave like that.

The father did nothing, stop saying shit.



Talking as if you dont know women.

Hamachi:
● 6 things you should never tell everyone ●

I have come to realize that some of the problems we are facing in life all started from, sharing too much information with others, which came back to hurt us.

If you want to live a fulfilled life, here are six things I think, you should never tell people:

● Your deepest fears and insecurities:

These are private matters that should only be shared with someone you trust completely. Telling others can leave you feeling vulnerable and exposed.

● Your financial situation: Money can be a touchy subject, and discussing your finances with others can lead to jealousy, judgment, and unwanted advice.

● Your romantic problems: While it's important to have a support system, airing your romantic problems to everyone can lead to unwanted opinions and gossip.

● Your personal goals: Keep your personal goals to yourself until you have achieved them. Sharing them prematurely can lead to discouragement and criticism.

●Your negative opinions about others: Speaking negatively about others only reflects poorly on yourself. Instead, focus on positivity and building others up.

● Your past mistakes and regrets: Your past mistakes do not define you, and sharing them can lead to unnecessary shame and judgment. Focus on learning from them and moving forward.

Remember, that Trust is a precious gift that should be given with caution, and not everyone deserves access to the sacred spaces of our hearts and minds.

To live a fulfilled life, we must learn to discern those who are worthy of our trust, from those who only seek to betray it.

Very very important.




Thanks smart girl.

manoflove22:
i started dating my girlfriend last year December, we barely see each other because of her strict father,even there was time her father threatened me to leave her daughter.

Even if we got to see it will be in a public place around her house


And this have been for all these while and i try to talk her into it that i can't date a girl i can't spend quality time with her and she never visits me, claiming my place is far


Now last month, there's a girl, a friend to her in my area, i showed interest to her, she questioned me that what about her friend but i told her we are not dating that she is not serious

So this new girl have been showing care,we have been making out together and deep down in me this is all i wanted, a girl that show she cares not a girl we barely see each than calling.



fast forward to yesterday, i don't know what they discussed, my first girlfriend told her that she saw me yesterday and we are still dating, which make my new girlfriend became angry, she called me shouting that I'm a lair that we are dating, to cut the story short i just had to assured and told her if by any chance she see my first girlfriend she should told her not to call me again.


This evening my first girlfriend called me and told me we should end it that her friend told her all i told her

Incredibly, i never expected my new girlfriend to tell her such but just a simple assurance

Now the issue here is hope i haven't caused a fight between two friends and i love my first girlfriend

Any advise cos to go out tomorrow is a issues for me

What a demented fellow, you don't just know what you want.

obembet:
Morocco to spain, something wey aboki fit do, if someone can trek from Lagos to Kano just to celebrate Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, Morocco to spain no go hard

Expecially if na Ijaw man, they can swim

Are u from ijaw tribe?

plaindealer:
Fun and entertainment go shift from Lagos to Abuja, no more dulling in Abuja...


Asiwaju's reign = Love, Peace, Happiness and Prosperity for Nigeria and Nigerians..


God Bless Asiwaju Tinubu and our great Nation.

.

What about the importation of agberos from lagos to Abuja,

rickyamos:
Is applying and looking for jobs in Nigeria?

Yes, a very big waste of time.



Instead strengthen your relationship.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

"My wife is from a family that place little or no value to marriage"

Why didn't you check her background before getting married to her? That has a way of affecting some people.


I think your wife doesn't love you from the start, she just got married to you because of material benefits.

Herbiodun09:
Isnt this corruption?



If you had applied with several people and then someone that knew someone got the job while you were a better candidate, you would be here crying.


Its corruption when we aint at the benefiting end.


All the best on the job

Una don come, What's corruption here now?

Workch:
Today I got a job offer with a salary of 350k and an official car just because I know a strong person in the company.
I use to work for another company at Ajah, I go to the office once in a week from thr mainland and it's not easy. My salary is 200k and I don't really like the work environment, I am tired of the job and this new job is not far from my house, its in Ikeja. My girlfriend whom I have known since 2011 when I was doing my I.T (WE dated then broke up, she came back last year January) connected me with one of her friends that I use to know back then. This her friend is married to the nephew of the CEO of this company and she works there herself.

She got my CV, 3 months ago, waited for a vacancy and made sure that it was not advertised. See, the interview, na only me dey there, the job was kept for me. It was not even an interview, it was a conversation and they were just telling me about the company, no stress. That's the power of knowing somebody, this will not be possible i didn't get a strong referral.

This morning I got my appointment letter. I asked them to give me 1 month to tidy up my account in this current office.
Try and build connections, know somebody that knows somebody that knows somebody. Ask for referrals, it's going to make the whole job hunt easier.

I forgot to ask, date girls that have substance. Don't date girl wey be liability

Exactly brother, I knew this secret long ago that's why I stopped going around spreading CVs, relationship easily get you things instead of just walking around the street looking for jobs.



Relationship is powerful.

DownTime44:
This was what i was scared of seriously. He knows how to blackmail someone. Reason why i can't leave my younger siblings and parents with him. He's a complete burden. I wish i had money to get accommodation for my mum and younger siblings. I sincerely don't want him to live with them again. That's also the reason why i wish he could get something doing and live on his own as a man.

I have a brother like yours too, is just that the difference is that he works and makes money on his own, but the thing is he will spend that money for useless things until it got finished, he won't even remember his family. But the moment you start making your own and you give him little or nothing he will start complaining and be reporting you to everyone, and my mum will be begging me to help him but I refuse. I dealt with him by allowing face the consequences of his actions, so that next time he will be reasonable. And It really worked over time.



You're a man, just let him be ,b4 you'll cause BP for yourself. If your mum want to continue taking care of him leave her, most mothers are like that, they can't watch their children suffer. But you just stay focus and keep grinding, and also praying for your family while you still search for bigger opportunities.

Thank you.

WhiteNRed:
Asari Dokubo is a criminal and excessively greedy.
All he is doing is to see if the contract giving to Tompolo can be giving to him. All na for Job. When Tompolo was given the contract that was how he was crying and complaining everywhere.

He claimed to be fighting for the people, but all the money he made, he took them to Benin Republic and built a university there. Why didnt he build the University in the Niger Delta and encourage the people to attend and provide employments for the people too?

Greedy criminal.

Exactly....... the fat pig is just looking for something from Tinubu.

AntiWailer:
Lol

Ladies need to look before opening legs for these riff raffs


See them supporting nonsense and typing like some one with mental issues.


So u will sit in first class and allow ur wife and child fly economy in the same flight. Lmao

Abeg shut up, if you're not happy as the wife use your money to book first class for yourself.

OLAADEGBU:
My husband always flies first class but makes me and the children sit in economy

Is this right?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12114165/My-husband-flies-class-makes-sit-economy-people-say-divorce-him.html

The most important thing is that he afforded flight ticket for you and the children, despite the hardship. There's nothing wrong with economic class.



Na father him be, stress too much for him head, so allow him enjoy his first class, while you and the children enjoy second class.

DownTime44:
https://www.nairaland.com/7686172/been-restless-having-chat-elder


All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from.


Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him.


I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine.


I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence.


They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice.


My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely.

My only advice for you is to ignore him, and focus on your younger siblings and mum. What might be wrong with that guy is spiritual, and such elder brother will be very envious of their younger siblings ones they succeed, they become a threat to the family.


Pls just kindly leave him alone. Stay focus and keep the hustling spirit going, hold mama tight and your younger siblings. You're the hope in the family.

Jennyclay:
Whether husband or boyfriend, Biko you men should take good care of your wife and girlfriend. It’s your duty to provide for your wife and girlfriend. Don’t be stingy!! Don’t run away from your responsibilities!!

Even the Bible says any man that can’t take good of his wife/girlfriend is more worse than an infidel.

Trying to bend words to suite yourself, bible never said wife/girlfriend but household.

FiftyFifty:
Thank you, Op. Others will stay at their crime-infected, erosion-laden enclave, and pass judgement on places they've never been to. Elrufa'I has always been an achiever, be it at the BPE, FCT Minister, and now Governor.

Ganduje is another silent achiever.

When it comes to infrastructure el rufai is top-notch, but aside that the man is wicked. Majority of that infrastructural development is in the northern part of Kaduna, while the Christian south is left with little or nothing.



Dude is just too sentimental, and also a bigot .

coputa:
So, you want to ask a girl out without any financial responsibility, you want her to pay the bill abi, aren't you the one that posed as a superman in the first place,why not act accordingly.

If a girl actually knows your financial capabilities,she will play along,but some of guys tell them that you are the son of Dangote.

Your generation has failed the men folks 🙃

Who told you the guy in question asked them out? I think you need to read again to understand.




Just be begging up and down like almajiri. All this bitches need to get a life.

oikirodah:
Nigerians Anticipate Transformation: Voices Echo Expectations Ahead of Tinubu's May 29th Inauguration



https://ireporteronline.com.ng/blog/nigerians-anticipate-transformation-voices-echo-expectations-ahead-of-tinubus-may-29th-inauguration/
Osigwe Omo-Ikirodah is the Chairman and CEO of Bush Radio Academy.

Source iReporteronline.

High level corruption and tribalism.

manee2:
I really can't give the best advice to my 24-year-old sister struggling with the frustrations of a married professor in his late 40s who wants to have a sexual affair with her.

The lecturer handles two different courses, each having a three-credit load and she is afraid of being failed for not complying with his sexual advances.

Having given many excuses for not meeting up for a date and refusing his gifts, tonight I found her crying after talking to him over the phone and it seems he is upset about the whole situation.

She should set the lecturer up, look for friends that can help out, then deal with the idiot man.

coputa:
Women are wired like that, they are the weaker vessels, they are meant to be taken care of.

That's why a girl child is more expensive to cater for than the male.

Prepare your mind for it, because you can't run away from it, it's a reality you must face in life.man up and stop complaining.

You're talking complete nonsense, how can you be justifying that kind of begging from Nigerian girls, can you encourage your sister to be begging that way?
even almajiris don't beg the way this girls do. And majority of them doing this nonsense are so entitled and dependent, when you ask them out for relationship they'll devour you with billings, while the only thing they offer in return is virgina.

Maize247:
it is only in Ipobic parochial interpretation that FCT is not the same as other states.

Your level of comprehension is very poor, I'll suggest you go back to school.

Samantha124:
Yes..

Lol....... you must be a good cook.

Maize247:
quote the law here and let see it. You are more vast In law than the like of Falana and INEC. Keep giving yourself a fake hope. Your tears will be in premium

As stated earlier, the Constitution provides in Section 134 (2) (a) and (b) that a candidate must (a) have the highest number of votes cast at the election; and (b) have not less than 25% of votes cast in two-third of all the States in the Federation and the FCT before he can be declared as president.


Olodo read and understand before you'll start talking foolishly. All this Tinubu demented followers.

ChinemeremFidel:
My girlfriend always disturb me to visit her and I do avoid it because I really don't want sex for now..
She is the first I will ever have.

So today I decided to visit her,we made out mouth pleasure but I did not have sex because first she was a virgin and secondly she was on her period.

After satisfying each other ,she started crying to squashing one of her principles.
Then me on the other hand have never had sex before so I was really ashamed of what I did...

She called me on the phone and was crying in guilt that I broke her laws and principles...I took the whole blame...

She then broke up with me...
And I really love this girl.

She is beautiful,never asked me for money, smart, intelligent and brave.

I am just confused right now

Make you no go add value to your life, dey there dey talk about woman.

Samantha124:
One nairalander asked that I post about South African foods and I thought since I now have all the time to myself, let me do it now before something comes up.

mariahAngel, food is ready...


1. Samp and beans. You can either choose to eat it as it is, or you can add some lamb or beef stew on the side, even chicken stew... Personally I prefer beef stew because I don't eat lamb.

Samantha all this for me??

Maize247:
So other states results are not important, why not just conduct election in only FCT. Mumu talk

Are you that dumb that you can't understand simple electoral law??


Stop disgracing yourself pls.

Feintline:
Tinubu is going no where.
He knows he didn't win the majority nor the constitutional requirement.

He believes he has acquired so much money and can buy the presidency and the constitution.

Yes he has bought many but he cannot buy the citizens of the new Nigeria. He is heading for a grevious collaspe.

Exactly.





We no go gree o we no go gree

Beebah321:
Fear men. Na wa ooo

Fear women ooo, hmmm

XAUBulls:
That's interesting... Kindly share the link to the video you talked about here. The Internet truly never forgets. Lol.

I watched it on my brothers phone, I think you'll have to check her Instagram page, go for her image and videos, you'll see her display there.

TheSuperX:
Yeah she is a good cook but also into runs, but no be small clients sha, all these girls target rich men/politicians. now that she has become popular Nationwide, you go see the expensive things wey she go dey post.

Exactly......

Buddha3:
Racism doesn't even annoy me as much as tribalism. Especially the kind that exists between Yorubas and Igbos in the same Southern region of Nigeria.

Two very stupid set of people!

Hahahahahahahaha