₦airaland Forum

Aburada:
He is being real and courageous to have revealed his opinion. He didn’t say there is no God.

I have a very strong belief that many of our politicians don’t believe in neither religion nor God. Because how can you believe there’s a superior being up there and be that wicked

Gabby1997:
Firstly your parents deserve the death penalty for birthing 10 kids

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am serious. Watch out.

UyaiIncomparabl:
And na you I wan surprise o.

UyaiIncomparabl:
She tried. I can do more than this for my husband sha. How much are they? I'm planning to surprise someone. Can 20k get them?

Saintmary:
Acidosis rooting for me?

I'm wowed, thanks.

realmatters:
She doesn't have what it takes. I am not going to lower the bar because no lady will do it for me.

1Sharon:
Fatwa envy?

Saintmary:
Try to calm down.

Yes, you've been hurt, lots of people have been hurt too and they survived.
Still, you have the right to decide the kind of woman you want.

I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for eventually but going round hurting people who have done you no wrong will not help you.

Peace.

Biglittlelois:
I just realised or should I say, became aware of something recently, looking at the ratio of comments by females and males, threads created by both genders, you'd see 80% are males, it begs the question, don't they have jobs or something doing outside this place? I mean, are most men really that idle they can't look for something worthwhile to engage themselves in instead of same complaints and rants about women, relationships money all the time? in fact, all nairaland sections are 90% male occupants, very very big shame to you all.

cococandy:
You’d think so. But they aren’t though.

It seems men can’t truly stand the idea of unmarried women. I’m hoping to see more men especially those who think marriage doesn’t benefit them stay single. Honestly many family problems can be avoided if men who think marriage isn’t for them chose not to go that route . But they will not and I wonder why. Maybe there’s a lie in there somewhere

Biglittlelois:
You can start by not existing right now, simply off yourself, that way, you're doing your "foolish" father a huge favour, but before you do that, pray to whatever galaxy you believe in to teleport you to a country of your choice in your next life.

mk3jax:
Been married for 10 years. Have 2 maid in the house that do almost everything yet wife still complains like we all came into this world to perpetually enjoy. By the way 100% of my friends and colleagues have this same problem with their wife. What women say in the public is not what they do. Even when they work, their money belong to them 100% and they will still disrespect the man that is providing for the family.
A man is valued strictly on his ability to provide. They are never loved unconditionally.

danot1030:
When you are due for marriage with this kind of mentality let's see which lady will be ready to cope with you. Should a woman render support? YES but put burden on her

UyaiIncomparabl:
Has your account been hacked?

This is unbelievable.

danot1030:
If am a lady and you proposed this family plan to me I will not stylishly slide away, I will boldly dump you.

MuchAdo:
@OP

You asked too much of her to be honest.

Women are not after rich guys. They just want a man who will/can pay all the bills as much as possible.

She will take care of herself and chip in her own little assistance from time to time unsolicited.

Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

Rubbiish:
Did u just read what u wrote??
If the mother of a man is more safe in the hands of a maid, then such a man is married to a bad woman! If u can't trust your spouse to take care of your parents, that is no marriage! Just 10 days the maid left, mama is gone!

eyinjuege:
Sadly, the agenda that the wife killed Mama will be propagated.
We always want to hold someone responsible when we lose a loved one.
I remember almost 25 years ago when I lost an uncle.
Amazing man, in his early 60s.
He collapsed and went into a coma.
He was found to be in diabetic coma BP was also very high.
They gave them the impression at the hospital that it was too much Maggi that caused this.
The whole family kept spreading the nonsense narrative. His children too believed the nonseýnse and even stopped using Maggi too- they were in their 20s, all in uni.
My aunt was a great cook, a full housewife who made fresh meals everyday and was very much into cooking
That's when people started remembering that she can cut a whole bulb of onion to fry 2 eggs and it's only onions you'll be eating. People will find serious fault in everything and start lashing out at others becasue of their own grief.
Imagine a new widow burdened with the accusation of killing her husband by cooking with too much maggi
My uncle was a tall huge big man whose BMI would definitely fall within the obese group, he didn't get any exercise, had a driver to go everywhere, lived a sedentary lifestyle and was at the pinnacle of his corporate career. He also loved good food, and never joked with his food.
The wife was supposed to force him to exercise or go to the gym, she was supposed to make him control his portions, supposed to do this and that.
Meanwhile, she was also ignorant of all these things too.
The medical professionals at the teaching hospital ignored all his risk factors of obesity, gender, age, and comorbidites and focused on the salt/maggi or maybe that's the only thing we the family chose to hear. As if its the Maggi that caused his diabetes
People tend to forget illnesses come on due to multiple factors, and not just one single one.
Another aunt died of cancer and till date her daughter will not use a microwave. Whoever told them about radiation as a risk factor for cancer obviously didn't know that radiation from microwave does not make the food radioactive and can't cause cancer.

sapoyoro:
pure and total rubbish... we only know and can only infer strictly from what the op told us here.

So how do you then the sisters abandoned the mother.
and saying the the son who has been taking care of the same mother also abandoned the mother is a joke actually taken too far.

if you as a husband can not trust your wife to take care of your mum in your absence or presence then your marriage is a total waste of time.

emmanuelbrown26:
What if he is the only child?

Their is no how I will hv a home and my special parents won't come. So is now an offence for mama to come and stay in his son's house, didn't u read where d op said that on an occasion he had washed wife mother's cloth? Which I don't see myself doing yet the wicked and heartless wife decided to terminate mama's life, if I were op the wicked and heartless wife will rot in jail even if she is my sister she will rot in jail.II don't celeveate mediocrity and I will never do that which people around me knows that, u can't mess with my family like that and go scot free

sapoyoro:
if you can't trust your spouse to be selfless to take care of your mum for as much as 10 days..then such marriage is an hideously hilarious waste of time.

emmanuelbrown26:
No wonder the country is still same way it is bcs we like supporting evil. The wife is wicked and heartless as simple as that.
The wicked wife doesn't care about mama, forget about the way u are painting it.
I do physiotherapist to both young and old, I know that old people can be funny at times but not in this case where doctor has warned them about mama food.
Mama was fine when the maid was around but just one week the maid traveled and the wicked wife took over, mama started having issues and d issues was on doctor's warning
Are u people caused or what?

Kobojunkie:
[s]I am lost. When did they butt in uninvited and who gossips?;

Again, there is nothing like growing up when it comes to having a support system. We all have then. Some have friends, others use family members.... it only becomes an issue when boundaries are not respected by those you go to for support.

I have my own support system - I consult Him through out my day, and there is no growing up and out of it for me. It's a thing of joy for me that I have a support system that I count on.

All of us no get the same brain abeg! Some brains require more support than others. [/s] \

Kobojunkie:
[s] She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and have it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do? [/s]