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1Sharon:
Lol they're coming at me for saying it's not worth 100k...

What some of them do is download apps from Play Store, press some buttons and voila! "Art" work is ready!

Obviously, it is not worth 100k. The rarity of art is what makes it special and costly.

Nigerians have abused this trend. You people should stop drawing and painting your celebs because you want to cash out. Some of them already have more than 50 portraits. If you think they'll display that thing in their rooms, then you're the most deluded person on earth. Stop wasting your time by following an over saturated copy cat trend. Become creative and create a niche for yourself. The world has moved on. Most interior decors these days rarely even use these portraits.

I hope you're rich because you can't be poor and be this selective. With the right money, you can decide the gender of your kids. If the only way you can make her conceive is by grinding her, then you're on your own.

Thatssobeyonce:
Nah actually it's far from that, it's just the familiarity stuff and ntn more.

Okay, dear

PeaceJoyLove:


I wish I was on that thread ...walahi...you go all pack your loads. What the crap are you saying? Hahahaha.

See, you like poverty. Honestly. The standard of living is measured with the same standard everywhere. Listen and listen carefully. Are you cursed too to not live in good areas? The way you build houses in those useless places, is it the same they build abroad? You refuse to demand for a good standard of living, and you are talking about the cost of housing and food. The poorest markets there still give quality. Let me burst your bubble.... most people cannot cook at home in Nigeria cos its crazily expensive. But they go out to eat. Why? Those sellers use rotten tomatoes and other materials which should be destroyed. The cost of quality raw materials food when converted to $ is more expensive in Nigeria. Take it or leave it. Go to Shoprite and check. Stop arguing baselssely. Buying those rotten food which should be destroyed is why our life expectancy rate is 55years for female and men with coconut heads are wirh 53 years. Go and check that of Canada. Also is it the useless way you build homes here? Can you all afford to pay for electricity? You will say govt is bad...but if govt provides it can you really pay? Is it not illegal connections you do in naija here and there. You cannot afford where good houses are built. So dem curse you? Can your salary scale buy you a new car? So, the standard now is "used cars" by oyinbo? Cars with no values suddenly become your best here. And you think you are not paying too much? Most vehicles which are of no value there again is what you pay for and you think it is cheap or wise to do so?

Listen, it is more expensive to do everything here. Cos at the end, your life expectancy says it all. Why do you think such figures are measured? You think you have a cheap way, but those who refused to accept such low standard are not stu pid cos they know you will pay somehow with something else. It seems you do not still know how the wealth of a nation is proportional to the quality of health and accessibility. Health shows wealth. Do you have good health facilities here?

It is far more expensive even for your politicians who go abroad on health ground. They build the tourism of their hosts apart from paying huge sum for their health bills. Is it not too expensive?

The way you look at what is cheap and what is expensive is too shallow. You just look at the prices and not considering the quality and the impact to your health. This is the way poor people think. Try to live a standard life in Nigeria and compare it to that there. Imagine buying a flat now in Ikoyi for $1 million or more. Right in Lagos oooo. Just an apartment. Value that property and compare it with that there. It cannot be more than $200,000. So, you dont know you pay more here? You still dey think you pay less cos you pay less money?

You better upgrade yourself and learn how to measure value and pricing.

On the issue of price of Coke and some other things...you are a bit right. But I can tell you...the coke you drink here is not same as that there. If you want to argue it...bring it on. And listen clearly, despite the quality is, go and check what govt asks them not to pay so people can afford it. You can as well talk about gasoline. Is it not cheaper here? But why? Is it not subsidy? And you think you aren't paying even much more? Govt subsidies it, but who still pay for it? Government? Na you. Why do you think your naira keeps dropping? See eh...go and learn what value is? What is cheap? The dangers and costs of subsidy? So, you do not still know you are actually paying more by paying less for these things that are cheap?

This is the same way your parents acted and foo. lishly opted for subsidy. Theirs was to live for today. They didnt care about us suffering it now. The same you are doing to your children. When will it stop? And politicians are happy cos they always loot more while making things look cheaper, but in the real sense, they are craz.ily expensive. Who pays for the money looted? Government? Continue comparing the cost of coke here and that there, and dont sit down to look at the real cost here after adding hidden costs.

Go and learn this. The costs of most subsidized or tax incentives products are not the real costs. And the hidden costs are negative values on our economy. This is why our GDP keeps dragging foot. These negative impacts will always show.

I am happy for Anambra that elected Soludo. This is an economist who knows how to set a nation on motion. Not this present Buhari who is a real destroyer.

Goodluck!

You're obviously a kid. What's the argument about again? That Canada is better than Nigeria or Nigeria is better than Canada? I think you should leave that sort of arguments for nursery pupils cos even an unborn child knows that Nigeria is among the least developed countries in the world. Also, the OP has not come to ask you which is more or least developed. If his concerns are about the most or least developed, he wouldn't even need your opinion in the first place.

If you're unsure about what to type, I would advise you to go back to the original post instead of rambling and masking your perpetual ignorance with insults.

Oh you wish to be on that thread? Really? With your "Canada is better than Nigeria" viewpoints

Good enough we have the same opinion about Buhari but even if you bring 20x Soludos to manage the affairs of Nigeria, you still won't have a significant change in 15 years. Change, whether negative or positive is a process. It just doesn't happen.

Talking about cost of living and poverty line, which is my focus here, America has never and will never be the standard for measuring or determining who is poor and who's not in Nigeria, India, China, Egypt and the rest of the world. Poverty line is simply the estimated minimum level of income needed to secure the necessities of life.

And why are you so bothered about how much Americans pay as tax, rent, school fees, or the cost of Burger in MacDonalds? Do you want to rent an apartment in New York with your Naira earnings? Even MNCs don't pay the same salary in their countries of operation. So why do you desperately compare your earnings with a US resident. Globalization is why, today, someone can work from Nigeria and earn in dollars.

Like I mentioned earlier, what the OP needs right now is direction and guidance from experienced folks. He needs someone to address his fears; unfortunately you haven't done that. I'm not the type to convince people to relocate or not.

I'm also not the type to sit virtually or physically to talk about the costs of flats in Ikoyi or Banana Island without a reasonable purpose. How many Nigerians both home and abroad can comfortably buy a flat in Banana Island? Why then are you so bothered about that? The category of people that can buy such luxury can as well live in any part of the world. So those in that cadre, like Davido, obviously wouldn't need your advice.

When I get to a level where I can conveniently buy a flat in Ikoyi, permanent residency would be among the least of my concerns. I am a realist.

tensazangetsu20:
We actually spend in dollars in Nigeria. How much is your phone, laptop, car even food which is grown here has seen prices ballooned up by over 300 percent between last year and now. Oh and fuel price Is still going to go up too before you know it 300k has the same purchasing power as 50k

Boss, we have trashed these issues a long time ago on investment / business threads. Your phone may be in dollars but certainly not the price of a bottle of coke, a t-shirt, a plate of food at a restaurant, house rent, just to name a few. So long as a larger portion of your earnings are spent on locally produced goods and services, then the average Nigerian in Nigeria will be fine.

PeaceJoyLove:
[s]
What determines your economy? Is it your naira? What dictates rise in prices, I guess it is your naira. If you want to buy any gadget, what dictates the price? All your clothing, na naira dey dictate the price?

So, you dont know that lawyers can even advise you better? Law, medicine and nursing are still future jobs.

Oga, no be dey do you. I am not the one who said you should not have the brain to code na. If you cant, I listed others there. The joke is on you if you dont know why coding is hot cake now. And didnt you see the rest I wrote there if your brain cannot match up with coding? So you cant use google to even help yourself out? Na waoooo.

Why is it that your blood is always hot when you hear coding?

No be dey do you ooo.

You called him inexperienced cos hes 27. Leave him with your girlfriend or wife and we will see who is inexperienced.

If you are contented with N300k, good for you. God forbid bad thing. Chai! See reasoning. This guy can never in his life buy a brand new car oooo. Never. So, in your life, it is used cars oyinbo don condemn you have to use? Dem curse you say make you too no buy house in a very good area? Chai! So, that N300k will do it for you. Are you cursed never to drive tear rubber? Na that N300k go do am?

Walahi! We need good government to turn around the brain of people. Poverty has messed with your brains. Honestly. You see $500 as a good salary. Chineke!!!!

Go and ask your father his salary in those days compared to the salary in the UK. See eh..you need deliverance from poverty. I'm sure you havent left this nation for once.

You need help. [/s]

One of my new year resolutions is to avoid aimless ramblings. Tomorrow is Monday by the way. You need to sleep on time so you can resume early to your 50k job in Obalende.

Good night

PeaceJoyLove:
Those you mentioned on quora are from places where they make $3,000 per month (EU, rich Asuan and ME) in their countries before relocating to Canada. Is it Indians or Nigerians who make less in their homes that will complain of cold and leave? Lol. I read a complain on Twitter, but the fellow hasn't returned. Lol. One was even over quoting rent there and bla bla bla-ing how expensive Canada is one year like that. His friends who even know him there in Canada bursted him that he is a prodigal son who spend too high. Ok...make oga return home, e no gree....yet discouraging others. I guess he made the posts to tell off people at home asking him money. Lol . But that was a wrong call cos his friends bursted him and even said they prefer the cold than the heat without electricity In Naija. Another was one woman and man like that who are in APC or so. Those unserious people. Or is it Fayose's bro who became a driver in the UK? Lol. It shows he has no brain to learn future needed skills. With all the billions in naira he looted during his brother's reign. Lol. Meanwhile boys are making $3k to $6k and above as soon as they land there with good jobs. What you dont know, you dont. Ok?

Oga, it is like you havent breath in good air. Lol. If you think air is what you breath in here, you dont know anything. Just leave the shore of this nation and go breath there, you will understand. Let me not talk too much.

Fine, Canada is cold, but it's ok. Go and check figures and facts well, more Nigerians relocate to Canada than to anywhere in the world. Canada has more programs to integrate migrants into their system. In the US, it is mainly marriage cos most cannot afford to cough out $1million via investment route.

All those doing menial jobs do not have skills for the future. How can you learn digital marketing and become Sule at Walmart's entrance? No way. E no possible. If he gets masters, and learns one of the skills needed, and you say he will do a menial job.....hmmm. How possible? No way. Let the cold hammer him well, with just $1,200 entry level monthly salary, he will be far better off....which I know can be even $35,000 to $65,000 per annum with benefits.

Do not discourage him. His salary is just $526 now monthly. And he hopes to have it increased to $700. How much is that? If he aspires to go higher, let him be. If he decides to pick up those career above, leave him alone. Let him go after his passion. Stop discouraging him. And stop saying what you do not know.

If he has the opportunity of earning $3,000 here which is around N1.7million monthly, then, one may start telling him to think twice. But it's just only N300k. Haba! No so you think it is such a huge salary?

Give him pros and cons, and do not just tell him not to. If you choose to stay here, goodluck. It's your choice. But dont discourage these young guys.

He has a very good brother. He will be happy he has such guy in 5 years. He thinks he is making money and successful now, but he has not stepped out of Naija. Lol.

Anyway, let's end it like this. Just stop discouraging him. If you care, let us know the number of Naijas who has relocated to Canada and returned cos of cold. I guess you said they are all on quora. Right? So, let us know the number of Naijas there.

N300K job is what you call good. Lol. Ok ooo. God will show us the way in this nation. Hmmmm. What a pity? Ordinary $500!!!

Why are you converting his earnings to dollars to drive your points? Do you spend dollars in Nigeria?

By the way, how's 300k a bad salary for an inexperienced 27 year old guy who's just starting life in a company with good prospects in terms of employee advancement, motivation, and career planning?

We don't even know whether this guy is a lawyer and works in the legal department but we are always quick to recommend coding? How many Nigerians abroad are actually coding for a living compared to the population of Nigerians serving Burger in McDonalds?

The young man has detailed his fears. It's left for an experienced folk to address these fears.

Thatssobeyonce:
Lol this is funny

How do I match you two? I have a feeling you like/love the dude

Thatssobeyonce:
Something like that, i feel we've met before and it's a strong feeling. Buh he said nah, so I just let it slide buh anytime i see him i feel it again

Wow. May be you guys dated in the previous world It is well

basty:
Family Doctor UCH, LASUTH doctors in attendance and you expect compromise?

Most Nigerians are demented. Do you guys think these Dr's will risk soiling their names?

If they know how much some of those consultants are worth financially, they wouldn't utter nonsense.

Besides, knowing how sensitive this case is, I don't see how 10 (consultant) pathologists can all come together to produce a fake result.

How a parent from Dowen can possibly bribe a CMD in a sensitive matter like this is what I don't understand. CMD be like nursery school teacher? (No offence intended)

Dowen is obviously for the rich, but Dowen doesn't even make the list of 20 most expensive schools in Lagos state.

The media has messed up societies and I hope the next generation will be composed of better critical thinkers. In a saner clime, people would be investigating the events that took place prior to the death of that boy, immediately after he died and the events before the autopsy. His medical history would also be investigated and more.

PrinceMajestic:
Make them open the school. Ijaw nation dey wait them. Normally the killers will get served what they deserve. Let us start to kill Lagos students in Delta. Why we dey dull na

Why don't you start by killing the ijaw doctors on the list? and make sure you start from the deceased's family pathologist.

We.yrey.

IamANigerianMan:
And you think, all this pathologist are all lying? It is not possible, this matter is in public domain, these people will not lie but you have made up your mind to believe only your colonial master... Just see yourself, you are only person that have sympathy for the boy. Stop this your emotional sympathy.. you mean all this people would be bribed.

Reduce your mic bros. Once a matter gets to the public, don't bother applying commonsense. Just shut your brain and follow the flow or stay mute.

For me, I am staying mute on the matter. RIP to the boy.

iamL:
We are know that's not true abt african mothers instead the opposite is the case.

How many children celebrate their fathers first before their mothers? How many adults children buys houses, cars etc for their dads first before their mum? How many people out there we tell u they want to make money so they can care for father?

We all know that african mothers are great compared to the male counterparts, this is not abt gender war.

Op should tell us the truth. Is he a liability? Is he an ingrate? Lazy? Has entitlement spirit because he is the first son? How does she treat his younger siblings? Natural stingy Even when he can support?

Women-hatters on this forum will always look for ways to bash women. I keep telling every single lady out there to strive never to marry a Nigerian-bred-man if they don't want to die young.

*Out of this thread*

The essence of the post you quoted is unrelated to gender war, dear.

"We all know African mothers are great"? That's exactly how you guys blackmail people and make excuses for terrific and entitled mothers.

African mothers are "great", so who are the wicked female principals, the wicked landladies, the wicked mother in laws? and headmistress you all talk about?

They're wicked when we encounter them personally but great when we need to preserve the tag "African mothers".

A guy has convincingly told his side of the story but all you could do in return is find fault. Really? Because he's ungrateful, he now deserves a perpetually stingy and self-centred woman? What happened to the usual selfless mothers' love you all talk about? Lol.

You all better start exposing the bad eggs amongst yourselves so the new generation mothers can grow to become better mothers. How can a mother with a six figure salary demands that his son sends monthly stipends from NPower (30k) money? Isn't that witchcraft? The typical African mothers will be running from one prayer mountain to another asking God for breakthrough, making connections, sending food stuff, etc. to the young man.

Nobody deserves what that man is going through. In an ideal nation, that woman could be sued. Giving birth to anyone in Nigeria today is bad enough, failing to take care or preserve the sanctity of a Nigerian born kid today is a sin that deserves no forgiveness from man and God.

Thatssobeyonce:
What if you met someone and you instantly feel you know them and can't remember when or where? Surprisingly you've never bn in the same town until that faithful day?
Does that count?

déjà vu ?

Aidejay:
[s]
That woman wants grandchildren.

simple!

OP go and part one red sea and give her children of israel. You'll be surprised when she starts showering your bouncing babies with all sorts.

apart from that increase your hustle don't see her as a stumbling block but rather motivation once you overcome your financial issues these things become trivial instantly! [/s]

We.yrey.

Thatssobeyonce:
But she didn't, I'll forever have a soft spot for mothers

Good but don't force or blackmail others to show (fake) love to undeserving mothers.

A lot of people come out today to celebrate mother's Day just cos everybody is doing it. Many of them with no real connection whatsoever with their mothers, not even a memory of a great time. Many of these people have been blackmailed by the publics and this has further heightened the rascality and entitlement of some African mothers.

NOETHNICITY:
But the wife can't take the place of his mother no matter how much he loves her

Sure and his mother can't take the place of the mother of his children. Mama should go and meet her husband and leave the young man alone to build his life.

Thatssobeyonce:
My mom died when i was a kid, i grew up wishing to have a mom no matter how nasty or bad she was. I just wanted a MUM, what u have and dislike is someone else's biggest wish in this life so sort things out with ur mom. She'll listen

If your mother had dumped you by the road side or dump hill immediately after birth like some "GREAT MUMS" do, you wouldn't even be alive to type this.

Be grateful for life but stop wishing nonsense upon yourself.

NOETHNICITY:
[s]Better be careful. Mother's curse are as potent as anything. Secondly, yoruba women are some how. I pity you if you trust any yoruba person.
Third, you must at all cost make peace with ur mum. They are like ur god on earth[/s]

Do you realize that his wife is also a mother?

Gunayo:
Yours is even better. Mine don't support financially while growing up and don't want me to marry. Your mum might not be doing the right thing but thank God for having a mother that wish you well. Don't listen to all those asking you to distance yourself from her. No matter what, your mother is still your mother and no woman can take her place. I pray that things get better between the two of you and you will not miss it maritally.

Yours don't support you financially, but when your fiancée decides to act like your mother, you call her names and curse her generation, right?

Now is the time to correct your mother but you're acting all defensive?

You people are hypocrites.

If the OP had used "My Father's Wife", instead of "My Mother", some of the senseless comments we have on this thread, especially from overly emotional touts, wouldn't have suffice at all.

At the mention of "Mother", some of you lose your senses to the dogs, but at the mention of "Female", "Lady, "Woman", "Girlfriend", "Wife", or "Fiancee", y'all remember your various red pill groups

Dem no dey give sense for maternity ward or antenatal. If you don't have sense as a girlfriend, you won't have sense as a mother. If you can't give your man money, you will starve and curse your child someday when he fails to meet your financial or career expectations.

Olam09:
The conclusion of your write up is darn funny, but i wanted to ask if she's your biological mother?

Oh so you people don't believe that OP's mother can be this wicked? Same gender you all curse everyday and insult for being selfish, self-centred, money conscious, always waiting for the man to do everything, etc.?


Everything OP has mentioned are the qualities of the average money conscious Nigerian slay queen. There are no surprises here. Abi the slay queens you people curse here everyday don't give birth?

You entered into a relationship you probably shouldn't have because, at that time, you were down and desperate. Even if that lady had told you that she's got 15 kids with 12 men, you still would have married because of your situation. What you can do now is to accept and embrace the reality of the decision you made sometime ago. One of the realities you have to embrace is that those kids aren't yours. Good enough, your woman has apologized and even ready to reverse her decisions for your sake. Her type is, indeed, rare.

You guys should resolve your issues and, more importantly, take charge of your home. A lady with two kids from different men has obviously made mistakes in the past. She would make more mistakes if you refuse to take charge of your home.

Interesting.

rooftops:
Hahahaha.. nice one ...but I still feel it is coincidence

Everything no be coincidence. There are people with mystical powers for seeing things and events before they happen. While most don't have the powers to reverse or alter these events, a few does.

The only mistake we make is that we expect them to see everything and whenever they don't, we begin to criticize and query the powers they never gave themselves in the first place.

Dedemworld:
But the real Governor doesn't have more power and connections to send common CSP to jail abi na Deputy wan use him power and connection send Brig General to court martial...... u re the real joker here. Do u think the Gov himself can even give a team of OP MESA working under the instruction of GOC order and obeyed What u don't know is that Security operative are more loyal to their superior alone more than any other person, but the real bosses individually has politicize everything In the name of favour and ambition after leaving the office. If not GOV can't even give a Lieutenant order and be obeyed when he (Lieutenant) was sent by the order of his superior... they have to arrange it from up themselves..

Since we want to talk about illegality, I hope you know that a Governor can also acquire as much as 1,000 AK 47 rifles and none can arrest him as a sitting governor?

Offpointng:
Weytin fash wan do?? he can do nothing

Oga leave military talk for military folks. if fash was the governor and something like this occur, Fashola cannot do shit to the Brigadier Gen. that Brigadier Gen is probably a Garrison commander or holding a high post and you think Defense HQ would bend to sanction him cuz a governor reported him?? a mere Sergent in the army pointed a gun with a threat to shoot Borno state deputy governor and up till now that Sergent has not been arrested or court marshalled it's now a General to a Governor?? You stubborn as a Governor or you no stubborn, there are powers that be and there are powers than what you have. if Fashola fvck up, they'll render his motorcade n security personnel useless and na sorry hin go chop after weeks of investigation

You're very funny.


Please don't ever underestimate the powers of a state governor. Your military men are currently running helter skelter because of a militia created by a state governor. Many state governors have dealt with Mr president in their own way. Amotekun is a case in point.

Go and read about the power tussle between Wike and the entire military in Rivers state, not just the Brigadier General. Nobody respects your military anymore, they're now all filthy, with many deeply involved in politics, oil bunkering in Port Harcourt, etc. Go and read several reports from Wike about the Military, he's never said anything good about them. He's called them thieves, oil bunkers, etc. And what can they do? Absolutely nothing as far as Rivers state is concerned! Let the general speak ill of Wike and let's see whether he won't regret his statement.

When it comes to a Nigerian state, nobody is greater than the Governor. None.

A particular state governor in the north central singlehandedly imported thousands of military gear and ammunitions and nobody could stop him. There's also another report of how former Ogun state governor, Amosun, bought thousands of ammunitions in preparation for the last election and nobody could question or stop him. That's how powerful they are.

Don't confuse peace with timidity or being toothless. The fact that certain governors prefer peace doesn't mean they're toothless. If the deputy governor of Lagos at that point decides to shut down that road on the basis of threat to lives of Lagosians, the law is there to back him up. Your general would either choose to sleep there with his convoy or return home. The governor owns the road technically and there's nothing anyone can do.

In fact, if you know how much of Lagos' funds goes to the military every month, you won't type this nonsense about rendering a motorcade useless. You think military forces around the world love bad reports? Same military that hasn't recovered from Endsars?

Can't be Fashola.

Your zomb.ies have been singing your praises for 6 years now. You've no problems Baba daura!

The public won't launch any war against the menace some of these Alfas are constituting around the country. They only remember the "negativity" of religion when Adeboye or Oyedepo buys a new private jet.

Finemannerman:
I had to create a new moniker so as to maintain anonymity.

Had it raw on 21/12/2021.
She is supposed to see her period between 29-30th of every month. Today’s 5th of a new month and she hasn’t seen it yet.

She said she feels fatigue, frequent urination, yellowish urine, and breast heaviness.
So today, we did test using P-Test kit at home and the two tests we had showed negative. To confirm well well, I took her to a clinic for lab test, and the result still came out negative.

So experts here, what could be wrong ? She’s yet to see her period. And pregnant tests say negative.
Your feedbacks pls

There lies your mistake. She can't see her period 29-30th of every month. It is impossible. May be you're trying to say that she has a 29 day cycle or she's been calculating wrongly, which is why you're having this issue.

The other symptom you mentioned like someone has pointed out are mere PMS and maybe dehydration. If lab result shows negative 5 days after her the due date, take it as a final verdict.

By the way, even if her period was due on the 29th, having it raw on the 21st of the same month won't lead to pregnancy for someone with a cycle length of at least 24 days. It is technically impossible to achieve pregnancy under the conditions you have stated.