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Hmm... I think I'm logical in my dealings so it depends. So you gave me a cheap ring coz its love that matters? I hope you won't mind if I don't use it after that night? It's the love that matters rii? If you won't mind then I guess I'll consider... But then again, to get married, one must be financially stable ie, have a steady source of income(doesn't matter how much) so, if you do have a source of income, what's your excuse 4 getting me something that'll wash out in a month?

If you don't believe you must give me a ring to prove anything then don't! Carry on with marriage rights without it after all its not our culture.

So yes, I care 4 the type of ring. It must be worth something or none at all...

Darteyyyy: Nyamin!!!! You call cooking trivia? You forget say na food make Esau sell eim birthright.

Lol! Trivia ke? I guess my question is, what is with a woman cooking 4 the home? Instead. Of maybe a chef that can do it better. No1 is saying erry1 should go hungry.

Why place one's happiness and base of marriage on cooking? When you think of things you'll realise that its just crazy... Food is food, doesn't matter who cooks it as long as it enters people's belle.

#myopinion.

Benez: Since u think u av too much to handle, don't u equally think that ur man needs a second wife to reduce ur load of responsibilities. Will that solve the problem?

I am now beginning to know why the rise in divorce cases.

Look how bitter you sound over how a stranger chose to run her home. She even seems happy sef n while you're all squeezed up... #justsaying


Not all households must operate the same way.

Acidosis: and while the wife is doing all these, the husband would be asleep, right?

The way some women describe the role of the woman ehn, one would think the man is useless in the home.

How about you give us a list of what men do without exaggeration? That'll be nice....

iroc: There is everything wrong staying alone my dear, shallow men dont have regard for girls like that, they look at them as not responsible, pls go back to your parent.

A girls life should be based on what men think now?

Kowaciate pls... Your post is yasad...

Smh...

Funny or weird enough, mama told me nothing... Years n years went by b4 papa gave us the most awkward prayer sermons ever.... He's like: fornication is when a man puts his pen.s in a woman(lmao) when they're not married. And once she gets preggy that's the end of her. There was stammering inbetween sef...

Parents can be weird about this stuff... Like they don't do.

This has been a puzzle to me... Why men would base a marriage on something as trivial as cooking. I mean she has it all but can't cook n it's a no no. I guess its tradition or something...

If you eat food prepared by wife n the one prepared by chef, what's the difference? Just wondering...

Calabash @ work

Op u really need deliverance... The kind done with chains and canes. #nooffence

I guess u should've told him @ the beginning.

All NL guys are bosses on NL... You'll be surprised to see em melt in real life, some might still be magas sef. Lol

Btw, y r u guys acting like guys don't get dumped

jimmy4x: Lmfao.....I'm sooo sorry for laughing o buh d way u are emphasizing this short ehn, I just bursted out laughing....lol
it is well, just like my wife Adaeze003 said, ur children will be fine, don't dump dt girl please, biko.
God bless U
I'm also short buh Ada isn't complaining 5ft7

Lol! This dude...

Hold up... You're 5'7?
*runs 4 dear life*

With good nutrition, u guys will hv taller kids.
Do you seriously wanna raise your legs when its time to kiss your bride??

Extremely stale... See serious comments na...

She should move out of the house!!!(Yes, I'm screaming) no more sex for now!!!(Still screaming btw)

That said, yes people change n bla bla bla but! I've heard of such men and the cycle will continue once she gets pregnant again.

The fact that she has a kid 4 him doesn't mean she must get married to him. Yes I knw this is 9ja n society will look down on her but would she rather be stuck in an unhappy marriage? I guess what to do next depends on the answer to this question. If. Yes then ride on.

But if she is going to give him a second chance then she should hold out on the sex thing n ask the guy to perform the marriage rights. Why? Because she'll never know if he's really serious about marrying her. But then again, the dude no even get money. Sheesh... She's really in a fix.

Go to bed ma'm. Abi u be bat?

Ps don't do the general romance viewers tag again o. It distracts from the thread.

iHustle: I will never marry a non-virgin! Never! No virgin, no party. I can't deal with the mental torture of knowing that other men have ravaged my wife. I just can't.

A virgin who kept her virginity because of the fear of God and respect for her future husband should be greatly praised. Such a woman will not be inclined to cheat on her husband

Every woman should be with the man that disvirgined her (except she was a raped). That's how it's supposed to be. You cannot be giving leftover to other men.

A covenant takes place when a lady loses her virginity to a man. Marrying a woman that has giving out something so special to another man is a complete NO NO for me.

I hope you're not a leftover yourself... #justsaying.

UjSizzle: But why do men think our lives revolve around them? Like a woman can't choose to do a thing for herself without factoring that it could please a man

Gbam! I thought I was the only one thinking in this direction.

Why the hell should guys get to tell girls what makes them special It's just crazy how some of them don't realise we're humans as well, capable of knowing/ deciding what makes us special.

Heck! What makes a girl special is WHATEVER SHE DECIDES! It could be the hymen, the missing tooth in front of her teeth(aka gap tooth), her mole, her ears or even her sexual exploits! If you aint kul with what a girl sees as special in her you move the hell on! No need to come here and cry about it.

Nuff said

I think you should ve come 4 advise when he was tryna woo u with money or even as u were about accepting his 2 mils buh you didn't. Now, what advise do u think will help? Anyways lemme drop my own.

Call his bluff n return his money in a bag. Don't offer to return it, cash the two mils n take it to his house. Just drop it n run 4 ur life coz he just might have a gun!

Guys be feeling funky yabbing us with their craw craw infested nyanshs ... @ least ours is stretch marks buh una own be like water no dey touch am.

*catwalks out*

dipset01: ..


So how do you become friends then, cos am in a spot nw, there is this chick i met she is really giving me tough time. Am not asking her out. Just want to be her friend and she if we are compatible. Just trying to know her better but she keeps playing hard to get. She gives me her number and pin however whenever I call or ping her she just says fine fine fine. nothing else, she doesnt talk abt her sef. I do all d talking. I talk for 30 mins or more and she never talks. and when I ask open ended question she just says fine. how can i get her to be free. She only listens to me which makes the convo one sided and uncomfortable.

Mehn I dunno o. I chat with people that wanna chat with me. If there's some common ground, it'll be easier tho. You just can't say "sup" everyday. So I think you have to find some common interest or something she's interested in to talk about.

You could also try challenging her to ask you questions or the truth or dare thingy.

You can try teasing her sha(not mocking o). I hv this friend that'll always say "I'm not chyking u o" when I attempt forming . In someway, just let her know you just wanna be her friend coz babes have this idea that all guys that talk to them want something.

If she still doesn't open up, just stop chatting her up 4 a long while. If she notices n chats u up that's fine but if she doesn't just delete n move on.

Not evert1 you like will like you back, #fact

None.
What's worse is while you're busy getting infertile or grabbing a disease, your mates are out there being innovative and making big box.

Appearance does it 4me. Don't wanna gt stuck wif a smiggle that wil get me thinking and angry anytime I see her.

Exibit A! Imagine a gurl saying this about a guys who aren't fine, won't you guys eat her up?
@all the guys who quoted me.

Psychodavidovic: Do we have to be drop dead gorgeous to say the truth ?

No sire but hope you won't mind if the person whose looks you're attracted to doesn't find anything attractive in your's(looks) ?

Obviously it's looks you'll first see, no1 is disputing that but I find it weird that guys are drawn to girls with good looks and take offence to girls who are attracted to good looks. Like 4 instance, when a guy says I want big booty and big bobby or fine face no1 makes a sound but if a girl says I want the TDH you hear comments like "you go tey 4 house" n shii. Just saying...

So, I'm guessing ya'll screaming beauty first are all drop dead gorgeous? It Nl sha, guys must form brad pitt.

^^you go soon tire.

That's one thing with being madly in love with som1, you lose all your senses. #isimgbaka

Op use your head jor.

The worst response is "I love you too" when it's a lie! Its just the greatest deceit(next to self deceit) coz you'll just be swelling up on the inside and smiling sheepishly at that point but when it's over? Those words will hunt u! Lol...

Acidosis: 100% TRUE.

So, what do you propose?

DonTonero: The word Gentle and intelligence has different meaning based on the writers point of view.....and from the writers point of view no man i repeat no man would go for the intelligent woman except the man is 007 and is willing to die young. No man wants a disrespectful woman and intelligence cannot bring about humility or gentleness but being gentle and submissive can actually transform into intelligence because it takes a gentle woman to learn observe and adapt to changes because of her gentility even the gentle dumb will adjust when taught but all this changes lies with the man and how he wants to run his family and as for me an intelligent arrogant woman is HELL NO for me because they have ripped my life severally with their i too know only to regret when its late. God created women to be submissive(this encompasses gentility, intelligent and co) and not intelligent(this brings about arrogance,gender equality and divorce).
NB.... it all depends on the man

I understand your need to train and groom up your wife to your taste. To be some kind on demi god who can do no wrong in her sight and for her to see herself as inferior to you(concerning the gender equality) and yada yada yada. There's really no weakness in that.

But! Say what you know! Saying that intelligent people are arrogant is like saying all dumb people are nice. Makes no sense right?

I'm not speaking as a novice, my mum is an intelligent woman and also a great homemaker. Also, she is submissive. My dad is no 007 but he's the head of the house. So your post is just unrealistic(fallacy of generalisation).

Check out Okonjo Iweala and other great women in Nigeria, they are also happily(as far as we know) married as well.

Now to the most crazy part of your post, women are made to be submissive and not intelligent? but you also acknowledged that being submissive includes intelligence. Are you confused? Lol!

@op, why do we always chose to compare extremes? Anyway, in my opinion, both qualities(amongst others) are needed to run a home.

Flared skirts n dresses will fit coz you don't look too curvy. Use tiny belts @ the waist line to create a pseudo hour glass figure.

You can pair your skirts n skinny jeans with em silk tops.