₦airaland Forum

RindeFoods:
Baba,kom help me protest 😁😀😀.
Na why I run to you be that😎😎,£££ is needed for Xmas!!

Lol.....

U can report to the MP representing the area of work post code ...u can even ask for an anonymous tackle if u are afraid they will victimize you....

Princezibk:
Who told you I’m a single mother I have also castigated them when I was younger but while growing mentally and socially, I see I was wrong . What will you say about a happily married man lying that he has a broken home, sweet talking an innocent young woman into relationship or marriage then boom she gets pregnant 🤰. Later kata kata burst and she decided not to abort ? Or A gullible sweet soul lady falling for a serial universal baby daddy ? I have witnessed many , so not all single mothers are harlots or useless as you presumed. Thanks ☺️

Bros u dey irritate me..... U know why??... U dey try paint women wey dey spread legs outside marriage as victims.....

U cannot meet a man and refuse to do ur home work about him...then spread legs and claim he deceived you..why are u fvcking outside marriage in the first place??

All of them na slut hiding under being deceived.........besides...the decision to keep the baby is hers....it's her body...abortion is a very good option.....

sharone21:
This kind of relationship or marriage is NOT for SELFISH and IMMATURE persons like you..... When will you fully understand YOURSELF.

I am not one of those u will use immature and selfish to invalidate my choice....
...... U don't want a broke man, u don't want a short man, u don't want a bald man with ur personal reasons....it's ur choice....are u immature and selfish for ur choice??

If a man states his choice u start playing the selfish and maturity card....it's a stale move madam...

Come back and comment when ur own son brings home a single mother of 3 kids ... Let's see who's selfish and immature....
.una sabi manipulate other women's sons, but when e reach una own ....una go remember say young single girls without kids full nigeria

Princezibk:
What do you mean by broken arrow ? But an unmarried / non single mother can get married to a serial baby daddy/divorced man/polygamous man 😏😏 Stop branding single mom please,,, it’s most of you men that ruin them .

Majority of the single mother are far better, charismatic, pleasant to be with than non single ladies 💯💯💯

What is this one saying.....?See this Single mother giving bad advice to other women's son..... Majority indeed.....

If they are that pleasant to be with, the man that got them pregnant will be with them loving them... u women always want to come here and paint pictures that single mothers are victims... Shiorr....we know better. ....

Even single mothers don't want their own son to marry single mothers like them......If ur son carry single mother of three kids come house ..I know u will be the first to refused....So stop capping....u just dey disguise...

Xpol:
you're wickedly wicked haba. Lol

There are many factors that make a woman single mother. It can happen to your sister or mine. In this case are we going to wish they remain single for life? No

The major problem with most single mother is that they'll deceive you with good characters til you marry them finish and start seeing shege banza.

Forget the factor baba.....single mothers have no real love to give .....all their niceness and pvssy whey them give you is just a survival move to make you pay for their baggages... U will foreverly be in a love triangle, rectangle or pentagon depending on the number of kids because the affection they will dish out to u is dependent on weda u can pay for their kids expense and theirs as well.....

..I know there are few men that have good experience with them...but the overwhelming number of men that regret associating with them is enough to tag them a no-go area

single mother don't even want their son and male family member to marry another single mother

Beuberry:
Evil advocate!

Shiorr....we sabi u women..... Una sabi give other people son bad advice..... If he reach ur son and brothers turn.... una know how to tell them to Jappaa from single mothers and high body count women...

RindeFoods:
I came in as a band 5 worker. However,band 4 salary £23,999 will be paid till I acquired my Pin,it took the board 6months to process my PIN during this time I was paid £1,100 monthly.it was tough and I complained but no serious reponse, I contacted an African snr colleague who said I should just go low and move whenever I feel like, When PIN arrived, there's still a shortage in the payment aside what's on the offer.

Ewoooo!!
£1,100 ??
I know say witchcraft dey NHS ooooo
So u just forget the money like that.... Haaa... Me no go gree ooooo.........when we nor dey naija

RindeFoods:
OGA, Na NHS oo,it's a big city in England,I told my friend who's a Ghanian, He said I should just look away & move

Wait..im confused.....u mean u will work for hours and they will pay u for lesser hours...?? Or they will use another rate like 8.5£ per hour to calculate your total work hours??

RindeFoods:
Infact, Employer does put a salary on COS and pay another, it happened, we complain, they said they will get back,till today No info.
We jejely flow with them dey use style look for option B.

Naija employers abi??..anything is possible with naija employers because they know u won't enforce ur right because of visa sponsorship to remain in the uk

Poanan:
I don't know what u people think people earn in some visa category. Don't run away from the matter stop misinforming people. Others should learn and do research for themselves. The employer cannot put a salary on cos and pay another. When it is your turn u can do as u wish but misinforming people one thing I made sure I stopped you from doing

... So when did I say an employer can put a salary on cos and pay another....??

U asked me for what where ukvi said 26200 or 10.75 ..I showed u....but now u are just all over the place...
...Relax ..don burst an artery oooo...u read like u are about to cry though......Hey....u still haven't pointed out what I did wrong about the 10.75 or 26200

Poanan:
U are misinforming people. Stop misinforming people of some thing u don't know about.

Lol...reads like u are about to cry..... Pele... I still don't get u though....

Poanan:
Don't isolate one part from another. That same page talks about cases you can be paid less. Do not isolate them.

Lol.....isolate.?? ...na u ask for where ukvi said 26200 or 10.75......now u have shifted goal post....
What did I isolate...?? U jumped into my mention with ur PhD and 26year old condition which is not the op's case and was never part of my comment...so how am I isolating??

Poanan:
What did you say about the salary of 26,200? I brought out a section that says u can be paid between 70 and 90% if the job is on the shortage occupation. bring a section where home office said the minimum salary must be 26200 or refused for health and care visa.

What exactly are u fishing for..cos I'm not getting you...ukvi said 10.75 per hour or 26200

What is wrong about the 10.75 or 26200 that I said??
Then u came in with PhD and 26 years old conditions....saying I am wrong....having a PhD or being 26years old are different sets of conditions or context which is likely not the Ops case....
Again what are u fishing for??...to help the Op or to drag info PhD and 26 year old condition that's not even inline with the op's condition

BluntCrazeMan:
Liars.!!


If the police is serious,, let them publish a document to this effect.

And back the document up by quoting the relevant laws inside it.

All these wishful sayings on the media is total nonsense.

Weda they publish or not ..it doesn't matter.... Always apply this rule to every law that looks like it favour the masses/civilians.... "There is freedom of speech in Nigeria....it's is ur freedom that may not be guaranteed after the speech"

ikeno:
There's nothing wrong with falling in love with a single mother so long she reciprocate the love too.one thing single mother cherish more is their child and if you adore her child the way you adore her she will give you unconditional love

That's the thing about them.... Relationships should be about love and companionship between a man and woman.... But for single mothers it's a complicated love triangle that the survival is dependent on the happiness of the child alone...

It's no longer unconditional ...it's transactional
U are just an available means to an end when dating a single mother...it's almost always not love for them ..it's always a coping/survival mechanism ....

U are the child's father when they need money and u are spoiling the child...wait till when u discipline the child...u will be reminded that the child isn't yours

Poanan:
you can always do your research yourself. advance Dna dont confuse people you can be paid between 70% and 90% if your job appears on the shortage occupation list.

When you can be paid less
You might still be able to apply for a Health and Care Worker visa if your job is eligible but your salary is less than £26,200 or your job’s usual ‘going rate’. You must still be paid at least £10.75 per hour.

You can be paid between 70% and 90% of the usual going rate for your job if your salary is at least £20,960 per year and you meet one of the following criteria:

your job is in a shortage occupation
you’re under 26, studying or a recent graduate, or in professional training
you have a science, technology, engineering or maths (STEM) PhD level qualification that’s relevant to your job (if you have a relevant PhD level qualification in any other subject your salary must be at least £23,580)
you have a postdoctoral position in a scientific role
https://www.gov.uk/health-care-worker-visa/different-salary-requirements

Lol.....what irrelevant stuff are are u posting here, that doesn't even concern the Op's case..... At least try and address people's case based on their specific situation

anyways to yarn is free....

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family. Please advise me.

Broken arrow!!!!
Broken arrow!!!

U don dey waka blindfolded, e remain small make u reach express

luminouz:
You are wasting your time on that wîtch. All the cases I have personally handled this year are Christian men who NEVER beat their wives. Yet, they were all dealt with by their wives. So what she was saying was pure bullshiiit

Women like painting a picture that they are saints and only behave badly as a form of retaliation......but it's all just lies ..how is taking my money and house the only retaliation..they are all just thieves who can't work and make their own money but seize opportunity to take what they don't suffer for......

. Once there is a house that the mortgage has been paid or almost complete...that when they will start calling police over small argument...

overeighteen:
Hahaha brotherly, thank you for looking out for me.
Yeah your suggestion would have been the best option, but getting admission for her programme in Canada would not be easy, I have looked through most schools and its just few schools offering her discipline at masters level (agric) .

Also, the admission requirements and visa process seems to be quite hectic since she will be considered an international student compared to the easy process of UK.

I am trying to get her into UK for a graduate programme, then if I can also get a job in the UK, we spend 2 years working and visiting Canada, so crossing to Canada after her programme will be easier that way than crossing from Nigeria considering the little snag we have in the spousal sponsorship I wrote in my previous thread.

I hope that makes sense...Thanks.

.no it doesn't make sense.....either na UK dey una mind or u are just letting ur wife push u so much that u are not seeing a simpler option .......
U guys have a young marriage....u should be settled in Canada now where u both wont have residency issues....and can both work...

maybe u are not looking well...There are tons of course she can do as masters that's also related to her bachelor's .... ...

Agribusiness
Agricultural Economics
Soil science
Rural development
Food science
Plant biotechnology
Animal science...
Crop science...

..how can u leave for uk where u can't even work immediately .....do u know how hard it is getting a job as a non resident?? Ur guys can't survive on her 20hrs per week ooo....if woman give u stress when u are not providing , marriage go tire you ooo ...

This is funny.....

I'm not understanding why ur wife is thinking of UK for a masters degree? Why can't she do masters in the country where u are a citizen and u both won't have worry of residency

Are u sure this wife is thinking of being with you as much as u are thinking of being with her?

U don wise??
Na so u women dey do too naaa... Seyi recharge card, John sharwarma, Chidi urgent 5k, Mayor spending, and chief.....all in one contact list

lordnkem000:
Abeg help me tell her o, na the mumu wey dey listen dey wonder me. I don see why that girl bf follow another girl, she's not matured at all and truly can't offer anything

She kept saying he demands money from her.....na that part I dey think say she get comma.........why will any guy expect a girl in her early 20s with no money to give him money...

sheeda995:
From your write up, your replies to stupd men on this forum,I can see you are very soft and dumb. How can you allow a lazy idiot to tell you you can't support him? Relationship is mutual benefit,how is he exactly benefiting you? He's an entitled fool, and I'm glad you left the idiot. Never allow a man to treat you like that. You are a queen, a rare gem, the only you on planet Earth, you are valuable. Never allow people or anyone to treat you like that. I will advise you build your self esteem

Lol..... The "u are queen" got me rolling.... Queen of which kingdom..?? Shigbain she nor get..... but U go do well as a motivational speaker oooo

Authur729:
Please can we chat privately if you don't mind

Sigh!!!!!

See this one...

overeighteen:
Thank you so much for providing your input, the real issue here is that my parents did not like my wife because they wanted me to marry their friends daughter whom I didn't feel a thing for, I really don't know how to explain this to cic and if they would even understand and not stress me.
I tried to pacify them as best as I could but they were not ready to bulge, its such an unfortunate situation.

The 2nd option you gave is something I have also thought about but the wedding was a small court wedding followed by an equally small church wedding, we didnt even have intro or engagement.

It's good a church wedding was involved as Church weddings always have pastors and church venue, and church members u didn't invite, which gives ur wedding an element of originality if u have pictures to show....

.u also have registry document to combine with your church wedding.... So I don't think u will have too much issues with CIC if u tell the truth..... Oyinbo knows not everyone are in good terms with their parents

U can back up with pre wedding photos, .what's app chat since u were dating....proof of money exchange and so on....

deyplay:
any feminists in their husband house is not a true feminist or married a feminist husband. A man can't be traditional, and yiu will now be claiming feminist under his tent. Carry your feminism to your husband house

It's extreme feminist that have problem with men..... Equality is not an issue...even men want it these days expecting their wife to bring 50/50 to the table

overeighteen:
Hi everyone, I need some good advice.

Can someone who has some experience about this educate me on how to handle this area ? I am a little worried that stating that my parents did not attend the wedding will be a red flag and I am not sure how to handle that.

Thank you for your time.

U can either say the but u have to add a very believable reason why ur parents were not there but that they have their blessing.... reasons include location of the wedding as the bride's village was hundreds of miles away, or Dad was sick at the time (with proof if u can provide) .....CIC uses this question to determine if ur wedding is wash wash arrangee and start stressing u for more evidence if they feel something is off....


Or just lie: if u had a fairly big wedding, pictures will show that ur wedding wasn't an arangee parole with wedding invitations....besides they can't tell who your parents was anyways in the pictures...

lordnkem000:
That is what you are telling yourself or that is what he told you? I noticed something in your statement, you never said he didn't love you or that he told you to leave, it is your pride to fight for what you love that is disturbing you. Funny thing is, you made life easy for that man because you failed to prove him wrong

They had different expectations.....Nigga wants more ....she doesn't have more to give...what's there to prove??

There are many feminist in their husband's house, loving him and caring for their home as a team ...... Na your no do your own feminist with sense....


Pele...U be blonde naaaa....u go dey alright....

Prettygirl200:
That was why I let him go, I don't want that constant reminder of him telling me that am with him for what I will gain, he's the type that always wanted a supportive lady he always tells me that and it seems all the ladies who usually fall for him are always in that category so I just felt I shouldnt be there, that's why I just broke up myself. I want him to be happy and if being with that lady makes him happy who am I to do otherwise.

U go dey alright.....
U are in ur prime....men still dey rush you....

Johnycastro18:
"According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional...."

No man would want to continually date a liability....

If the above statement from him is true,
Then you self, you no try

She no try kee? Be like u nor get most naija women thinking.....Women don't ever believe they no try in their relationship........ To them, once they say yes to dating u ...that's 20% contributing to your life...having sex with you is 80% ....their contribution is complete.....

No thanks to men that worship women ...most naija women are used to relationship that men do all the work to keep the relationship going....

they want to get spoiled, want u to contribute to their life and progress, open shop for them if they are not productive, if they have no education, u should pay, while their own contribution is sex they also want to enjoy but make u feel like their doing u a favor by "giving" u the sex .....

What's worse is that they also make u feel the sex is a bigger contribution than all your efforts.....

That's why once a man comes along that wants more, like the op's boyfriend.. They can't function in such relationship cos such relationship will be too much stress for them..

Prettygirl200:
Thanks for the encouragement.

.....u both have different expectations....
He wants a lady thats more investing in a relationship...but you want to do little or nothing, which some men don't mind..
.
....there's no crime here..... Break up is fine instead cheating on or hurting each other.....

Single life is bae..no one to demand and stress you for anything.....