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Faysuze:
Mine is even worse, he told me he cannot prioritize a relationship right now and does not feel the need to talk every day. But he wants girlfriend benefits and always complaining about I how I don't communicate with him. How does that work? I just walked away, too trashy to deal with.

Dating someone who doesn’t feel the need to communicate often is a draining exercise. That is what the OP’s ex was going through. Maybe introverts should date themselves. Perhaps things would be easier that way.

geraldinai:
I never hid under the excuse of introversion moreover when we were still cool, communication was smooth, spoke on phone, chats and gists daily.
I realized my inadequacies and learnt from the relationship.

Speaking everyday is not the same as seeking to speak with him everyday and communicating that desire to speak with him. A man in love, does not run away from the attention of his woman. You yourself said in your second paragraph that your introversion was an issue.

Why was it an issue?

Cos he was experiencing, first hand, the reality of you wanting, loving and enjoying your own space. As a result, he didn’t feel your need for him. After a while, it would begin to feel like one is forcing you to be more expressive against your own nature. It is draining. When a person gets to the point where they feel drained or burdened with keeping a relationship afloat, they would either snap or withdraw.

Anyway, things would have worked out better with someone who shares your views on communication and is actually attracted to introverts.

Prostitution is a choice. Poverty didn’t choose it for them. The ladies chose it. And they should own it.

Jewessgratitude:
Mumu post.
Not you guys doing the damage? So its you guys that will still marry them.
Karma is a bitch!

People like you end up marrying the worst.

Always bitter.

You must be a proud member of Onugbu FC. Calm your titties.

By the way, “bitch” is a derogatory word for you women. Don’t be too quick to score an own goal.

Women use that statement more.

It is sometimes an underhand plea to let them advance an agenda that needs the fertile soil of patriarchy to flourish. They use it to manipulate men.

Where are the resident Feminists of Nairaland?

Food for thought is served.

He did the right thing for the both of you.

A reticent partner is a whole package of frustration especially to someone who wants to be sure they are communicating well in a relationship.

The truth is you made communication a burden for him. I can imagine your chat threads on WhatsApp. He was not sure what you were thinking while you guys were in the relationship. He was walking in the dark and constantly at risk of assuming wrongly.

You don’t even communicate to yourself. I mean, look how long it took you to realise that the break up was final and that you pushed him away. 1 week! That guy tried.

You need someone who is cool with little communication. You should also learn to discuss and be on the same page with your partner instead of hiding under the excuse of introversion.

You cannot purchase something that is not for sale.


Almost every man pays for sex. Why? Cos women have turned sex into a weapon and a bargaining chip. Now that it is a proven source of livelihood for the bold ones among them, the so called decent ones (who still want to get paid) have wrapped it up in euphemisms to drive their agenda that sex is given by the woman as a special token to a man who takes care of her. Taking care of her in the form of money, trips, dates and gifts.

What’s more? They hoard the commodity to drive prices up, then turn around to claim objectification when they are propositioned for more services.

Now some married men are manipulated into paying for their fundamental conjugal rights, their whole life. And some even deny the fact that they are clients, not boyfriends or husbands, but clients. They only discover the truth about their statuses when a bigger client comes along.

Holiday is over. She’s open for business. Impressive that one of them is no longer hiding as a “good” girl to deceive unsuspecting innocent men.

You don’t regret it, yet you want to stop. Hmmm. Why do you want to stop something that gives you no regret? If a formula works for you, don’t change it.

Do you want to start dating “regular” girls?

Nice story.

He caught them early.

Na so e dey start. Small time, nacking will start.

MylezKayn:
FTC
Why is it peppering Nancy Pelosi that Trump killed a Terrorist who was responsible for the death of Americans such as Ambassador Stephens? Sometimes these Democrats act as though they are on the side of Terrorists rather than USA

Omo! See juvenile argument. You are reasoning like a citizen of a third world country.

Elevate yourself beyond beer parlour gossips and reason like someone worth listening to.

He must be from Ghana. Hediot.

Bekeey, you have not confirmed the truth yet. But let us assume she is a babymama.

Can you handle baby-daddy drama? Whether she likes it or not, her child will always be the link between her and her ex. And when some situations arise, you will be left out of the decision making even though you may be affected by those decisions.

Like someone rightly said, her love goes to her love-child first, even before you. That is the truth and it is normal.

Can you deal with this?

Some men have no problem dedicating themselves to their wives, selflessly. Some others expect the woman to show them as much love and attention in return. Nothing wrong with both personalities.

The relationship is still fresh. If you found out that she was hiding her baby from you, what would you do? Would you leave her or would you stay and discover other secrets one by one? The ball is in your court.

Tell them.

Times have changed. A test is necessary for every birth.

I used to be an advocate for surreptitious DNA tests but really, why the need for secrets? What can she do if she knows you carried out paternity tests? It only shows that you’re not about to lose your guard around her. and weird as it sounds, she would respect that.

It is becoming a common fact that women prefer to hustle for the love of guys who don’t trust them. If they think they have earned your trust 100%, they would take it for granted.

Poisoning your food should not be taken lightly. That’s a huge allegation. I hope you have briefed your lawyer.

You should resist every adverse attempt on your wellbeing. If you want to go to see your in-laws, make sure you take a friend or brother along. Make sure you tell her people about the poisoning. Then observe their response.

Remember to give your lawyer detailed information. Poison no be spice o.

Hmmm

No be the girl create herself.

But I can’t get past the pilosity. We can’t date.

Jeweltz:
It's hurtful to know guys who keeps bashing women here have not tender any apology on this thread

Apologise for what?

Hmmmm.

Something must kill a man. What a sight to behold. Who will save me from this?

Rubbish talk.

A woman who feels her man is wasting her time should break up with him.

If, going by your analogy, people in relationships are allowed to cheat, then men should not be blamed when they cheat on women who act like they are not ready for marriage.

Everyone is fair game. Na the same women go still cry foul.

I pity some sharp straight guys that would take this info and act on it.

What if you act gay and she invites one of her other gay friends to meet you? And the guy come declare love for you.

You don enter am be dat.

Vortex369:
Do not cancel the marriage. It will affect the health of the baby, your baby. Let the child, your child to come down, first.

That child is most like not his. And even if he’s the father, there is no guarantee the subsequent children will be his.


He should be careful before joining himself to a barefaced liar and an unrepentant cheat.

I don’t think women should be pardoned for cheating. E get why.

Bro nobody concocts and sends such “lies” to an ex girlfriend, hoping her current boyfriend would read it. What kind of convoluted fairy tale is that? Are you doubting your own eyes?

She cheated bro. That is for sure.

Once she gives birth, go for a paternity test.

As for the marriage, if you postpone it, you will be forced to spill the beans to your family and hers. She will deny it, of course, and her people would take sides with her unless you have evidence or even in spite of it. Would you go ahead? Do you think you can still trust her after you are joined as man and wife?

Are you one of those who can forgive infidelity from someone who won’t even tell you the truth after you caught her red handed? The happiness in your marriage is now dependent on trust. Trust is dependent on the truth coming from her own mouth.

My bro, no man deserves to be tied to a woman who lies in the face of evidence of infidelity. An unfaithful pregnant fiancée would most probably be unfaithful after bearing children.

The choice is yours. Open your eyes, man.

You think women would not find a way to come back once they see us spending our money on ourselves?

Help me give your buddy there one Budweiser. She’s a fôol to have set trap for him like that. I mean! See list.

I don’t even understand the reason for her nonsense photo shoot sef. She could just have bought a nice dress to wear on the day. That’s all.

She wanted your friend to take a nice sum out his savings for a simple birthday celebration, so that she can impress friends that don’t even like her.

By now I’m sure a series of philosophical Whatsapp and Instagram statuses would have gone up talking about fake people and dating one’s enemies and other shît. Plus some resolutions to depend on nobody.

You think she stood by you? She probably contributed more hardship to the hard times you faced. What you need is a helper.

Has to be burnt dodo cos I don’t understand why she’s so angry and cussing him out like that. She got paid FFS!

Thunder faya that gyal.

Yansh will finish many people.

Small temptation he couldn’t resist. The guy must be a marlian.

Early this Sunday morning? You are thinking of taking away somebody’s virginity.