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She’s a joker.

Dump her àss. Shebi they say marriage is not an achievement? Why TF is she hounding you for it?

Send her àss packing.

You need positive vibes only.

GraGra247:
Did I know I was reasoning with an underaged infant, I wouldn't have replied you. My apologies, I reply no more.

“Underaged” infant? Together in a sentence?

Lol. You see why you need to calm down?

Bro don’t quit. You can do it.

A harsh way to put it.


However I agree with the spirit of your message. You will save more if you are single and not dating, especially if she’s a Nigerian girl of this era.

If you know you struggle from pay check to pay check, avoid dating. Dating is for people who can let go of a part of their earnings for the pleasure of a companion.

Don’t let woman matter disturb you. When her head is correct, she will return. If she doesn’t return then her head is not correct.

QED

This guy doesn’t know how women view housemaids.


You don’t know anything. In fact, if you go on to date this girl, you will discover the true depth of your sister’s feelings.

Better reverse your attentions at least until you get your own place. I suspect that housemaid would be sent packing anyway.

GraGra247:
So people dismissing your advice wounds your ego and therefore everyone must feel the same way as you do. Very petty and pathetic of you.

A 20 year old lady that is well thought from childhood to refuse advances from men will not easily give in to a wealthy responsible man let alone a filthy thug.

The lady wasn't well thought. I maintain my point.

Lol.

Your gra gra shows that you were pained when he dismissed your advice.

Not everyone views abortion from your perspective.

Even you who are talking here; your parents didn’t raise you to become a troll on Nairaland. Have they failed? So calm down.

One other advantage is you can take yourself on trips that would otherwise have been expensive if you had a family. Imagine going on a Mediterranean cruise with your wife and 2 kids compared with being single.

Anyway, that’s why you have to hustle more till you can afford anything you want.

GraGra247:
Your family is Christian and yet failed woefully in the responsibility of teaching your sister till she's strong enough to overcome the deceit of wayward men.

This your comment comes from a place of wounded ego only because he dismissed your advice on abortion. Lol. Calm down. Even you cannot instill flawless religion into your own children. They will choose what to believe when they grow up, except you manipulate them into religious zombies for your purposes.

The OP clearly wrote that she met the thug whenever they sent her on errands. But you must rub the situation in his face just cos he politely didn’t subscribe to your views.

Simple.

Treat her the way you would treat a male staff who resigned from your company that way.

There’s no way I’d let a dishonest person who can go AWOL, come back.

You should have waited till April 1 to post this story.

Lol.

When she is done with you and has learned all she needs for free, she will dump you.

So you pushed him back into the arms of a toxic female and you want out applause?

Nonsense

So the terraforming we saw in Superman is taking place Live!

What a time to be alive.

RIP to the departed.

Lol. I cannot be bothered. I’m only there to drink small alcohol. I eat before going for occasions. Food is just icing on the cake for me.

Some of us carry our own booze to occasions sef.

BadRadio:
when I say shut up, I mean it^

Tell that to your grandfather.

He simply moved on to the next one.

Guys, this is why you should have plan B. Congratulations man.

A king!

BadRadio:
shut up

Ignoramus

BadRadio:
u talk too much

You obviously have problems. A less-than-one-minute read is giving you stress? You should cover your face in shame. Nonsense.

Imagine an educated person asking questions like this after all the sensitisation over the years. This is 2020. We should not be seeing topics like this on Nairaland.

Your genotype is permanent at least for now. You cannot edit it. One of the ways to escape having an SS baby is by aborting the foetus after confirming it’s genotype during pregnancy. It will be debilitating for you and your wife and it is not cheap. Can you sustain that?

Will you in your right senses take this route? You should avoid future complications. What are your options?

A safe option is to adopt a child. I’ll put the risk at 10% cos you guys can still get freaky one night and say “f*ck it” and nack without condom and boom, pregnancy.

The failsafe way is to breakup and get married to AA partners. The risk is 0.000%. Take this option.

Normal thing.

That’s why I laugh when women deny this fact, thinking they can deceive us.

Boys are raised to be providers. Ladies have been systematically raised to be tax collectors and consumers of wealth. Rich or poor, they share that mentality. But it’s the poor ones that exhibit this in the most blatant manner.

They would tell you a real man spends on his woman. A real man this, a real man that. Imagine! A woman telling us what a real man is! Joke of the decade.

This mentality of ladies being on the receiving side, has given rise to some men who treat their women like commodities purchased at Shoprite. It is reactionary and one can hardly fault them since their women only want to slay and offer sexual entertainment with little or no practical support. This is why guys keep asking them, “what are you bringing to the table?” Imagine after chopping his money without contributing any tangible thing, you want to be rubbing shoulders with him. Beauty is not a substitute for wealth. You will be treated a little better than a trophy in a glazed cabinet. Polished and prized but still a possession with limited freedom.

Bad bad advice everywhere.

Guys, this is a new year o. Let us be morally upright at least for the first 3 weeks na. haba!



OP, Let me tell you one thing. There is no gentle way to reject a woman’s advances. If you like, tell her “no” with the car keys of a Benz, she will still cry and guilt-trip you.

Tell her straight. If you don’t, then you’re encouraging her.

strungup79:
No your words are not meant to heal or help me get back up cos a good relationship is not only dependent on finance. Your words are and designed to make the receiver seek revenge rather than reconciliation. I have received a lot of encouragement here and know I will be back on my feet. I seek not control, if not i would have dominated my wife from the word go. I seek a relationship which from your utterances you know nothing about.

Well said sir!

That funmisticqueen is trying so hard to rile you up for reasons which I suspect are largely related to the way she grew up.

I am a businessman too. I know how it feels to do all the “right” things and get the wrong results financially. When dry times come, I diversify my business since I can provide excellent service in a number of other disciplines. These services are not capital intensive.

Also, I seek out old clients and ask for referral. There are some of my clients who believe so much in me and treat me like I’m the best in my field, in the whole world. I go above and beyond for these people and they come through for me. They have bigger circles of influence and they plug me in cos they know I will do my best. I don’t know if this strategy will work for you as it has worked for me but it’s what I can offer.

I wish you the best this new year.

CarlsJaz567:
Sure, it was a bad decision, but if you are without means of income for over 2 years, and the strain of it is already starting to affect your home, you can't stay selfish. After all, I have been supported all along - I couldn't just remain static, hoping things would change! I have moved on since then and I've made progress in other areas of life. Life has its Pros and Cons, you know. The bottom line is that you can't take your wife for granted, even if she's been helpful all along!

Some people are afraid of making some decisions because of fear of failure. Well, they won't exactly fail, but they may also not achieve any significant success either!

Hmmm.

Sir, I pray I for this wisdom to reduce matters to the barest basics and take right but hard decisions, regardless of my ego. Your experience has just opened my eyes to something I never wanted to see. It has also shown me that friendship can still do the job when love or money wanes.

The OP is experiencing one of the greatest fears of a Nigerian man. I hope his wife’s recent behaviour is only a reaction to the way he treated her in the past and not her true colours shining through. Cos if this is who she really is, the ugliness will multiply once he decides to eat the humble pie and play second fiddle.

May we not jam problems that would utterly break us.

Youngpo413:
and I will gladly add a carton of CUBAN CIGAR!

Respect!

AmuDimpka:
The greatest thing a man might find it hard to forgive is a cheating wife

I stand with the man

Well said sir. Well said.

First of all, Thunder faya the woman who wrote this story.

That done, I’d love to salute the young man for refusing to be joined in Holy Matrimony with someone who betrayed his trust, and kept quiet about it, planning to sneak into the marriage with such a vile secret. He has done well. Money is not his problem that’s why he didn’t call the engagement off much sooner.

Let the entire clan behold the hôe they were billing the young man for. Is she worth the yams and kegs of palm wine? You people should be grateful the guy still went ahead with the arrangement up to this point. You can at least entertain yourselves with the gifts. New year party is in full swing wherever the guy is. I wish I could send him a bottle of fine wine to celebrate the new year.



A king!

Akinbahm:
They would come for your neck now but all the same take 5 bro....

Brotherly.

Omar09:
Sir sense will not kee you, you hear?

I hear sir

E say no abusive language please

Guy, you know you deserve insult because you put hot coals on your lap, it burned you but you’re still hoping it won’t burn you too much.

Shebi you’ve had slight romance with her? Why not go the whole 9 yards? Complete your mission and touch down and let us hear word. Nonsense.

All these fake mentors forming innocent big brother with sexually lose and active girls. Like farmer feeding the big turkey he will eat at Christmas.

I wonder if your wife knows that you have been giving this girl money. You can fool us but you cannot foôl yourself. If you love your wife, you will remove this unnecessary temptation from your life, straight!

Two definitions.

1. A broke guy is one who doesn’t have the amount of money needed for a particular purchase or service, at a given time. That way, many men are broke at certain points in their lives.

That is the old definition though.

The prevalent but honest truth these days is,

2. A broke guy is a man who habitually resists the manipulative inducement to waste money on a hungry, indigent girl who has standards she herself cannot afford, without the financial input of a man.