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It’s like Prophet has told this one that she must land bobo before 2020 but yesterday they now gave her grace till january month end .

From the way you laid down your rules, I can sense your temperament. I also suspect that you yourself cannot meet up with the all requirements of a man who would tick all the boxes you listed here.

Don’t forget to work on yourself. Be desirable too and be friendly.

Omo. Eye don see tins for Nairaland o.

See women making excuses for bad behaviour.

If a man had smashed his wife’s phone in that manner, we would have seen women here crying about toxic abusive marriages.

Nonsense and ingredients.

This husband is behaving like a learner, trying to be understanding in a way that tells her you are weak and that you are not to be taken seriously. A normal human being listens to explanation and decides the truth based on your tendencies.

I don’t need to tell you that you are living with an unreasonable woman. Na you carry your hand choose this kind wife. Nobody can help you cos most of us avoid getting married to women like her.

Imagine!

Going for service with your pistol and your bible. No peace of mind.

Hope the shooter would be properly labelled as a terrorist. Not a lone wolf or some other nonsense appellation.

Guys, may we not make the mistake of marrying a babe who should have just been a one night stand.

Which kind wahala be dis?

You know how to collect feeding money but refuse to let a man see his son. Next thing you cause trouble and enter prison in Dubai. Na wa. Psycho women dey this country.

philip0906:
Na mumu girl lol

She think say life revolve around nairaland (or maybe she thinks she's completely anonymous) Person wey no get level for real world. Na here she dey form Don Corleon

I just dey laugh am...You know that feeling when your neighbour who drives a camry tiny light comes on nairaland to lie about driving a bentley...I no dey petty else, I for open her nyash for here

Ah! Bro, abeg o Pardon her.

Sorry. You don’t deserve this kind of treatment. No excuse. This is clearly associated with childbirth. I’m sure the doctor explained it. Nobody could have seen it coming.

Thank God you have support from your parents. Glad the symptoms are gone. Surround yourself with positivity.

My advice depends on if he understood that it occurs in women AFTER childbirth. If he was informed properly and he still chose to abandon you, if you were my sister, I’d advice you to leave him.

philip0906:
Oh now I am no more "carrying your matter for head" by quoting you first...now I don't have mind

I could have called you a clown but it's clear You're trying too hard smallie...Just easy on yourself. You're small fry for even the weakest of men.

I have no idea why you want to put up a tough stance on a faceless forum when you are a total subject to a niggah in the real world.

Just shut it and move on

Bruh! Why you do her like that?

She’s lying about your sex drive being the reason.

The first reason is the truth. She no love you.

It’s a hard thing to face so early in a relationship especially when you thought you had found your missing rib. Sorry bro. It doesn’t mean you are not loveable. She just doesn’t think you are the one for her.

Move on.

This is why a man should be with a woman who loves him more.

mascot345:
Hello my people. I currently earn 320k every month but I give my girl friend 10k for her upkeep every month . I am an engineer. I don't really know if I am being stingy with her. We love each other. She doesn't complain. She shools in a federal university. Her school fees is just 40k but I don't want to pay it. She has never asked me for it. I want to start paying for her bills from her 400level. She is in 300level now. She is very pretty and intelligent.

I also give my two sisters 5k each every month. And my parents 10k every month.

How much do you give to your wife or girlfriend every month? Let's just share idea and learn

You just placed your girlfriend and your parents on equal footing and your sister, even lower.

Your story is a lie. Pure fiction.

MariaAngeles:
Careful with your words yeah ?
You can share your opinion without insults.
No man has the right to lay his filthy hands on a woman, talk more of the mother of your children ( and right in front of them).
Believe me, they're never going to forget that!

Labelling him a woman beater is not just an insult but a vile attempt to smear his name just because the argument was not going the way you wished it would.


Also, for avoidance of doubt, no partner has the right to abuse the other whether physically or not. If you do so, you must be prepared for the consequences (violent or passive aggressive) depending on the nature of your partner.

Looking within his party wouldn’t be a bad idea.

I mean, he sneakily supported the opposition and ultimately handed the state over to the much hated “abôki” party.

An unexpectedly coherent topic from you. Wow. The year is really coming to an end.

MariaAngeles:
Woman beater like you ! Who knows sef ? You even worse pass op husband.
We know una type; bitter and angry lots who think the world owes them.

Your comment reeks of deliberate foolishness.

The guy clearly told you he has never laid a finger on a woman before but would make an example of you for daring him. Yet you just had to label him. This is why we don’t believe you women when you cry out. You often take the opportunity to label people indiscriminately. Someone has not even raised his voice at you but he is a woman beater.

The OP is living with someone that has kept his anger in check for too long and one day (in her own words) he snapped.

Why?

I suspect the words were not the trigger here, but the tone with which she uttered those words. For example, I could say to you “Wow! That’s such a wise thing to do!” And you’d feel so insulted and humiliated by my tone. While that doesn’t give him the right (in my books) to hit her, it is a valid cause for a reaction from him. And it is not something that started on Christmas Day. It had been building up.

People react in different ways. Your guy there just said he is not violent to women, but he’d make an exception in your case just because of the manner of your response. This is why couples should not seek to hurt their partners deeply. If you keep hitting that nerve, you don’t know what you’d unearth.

If you take this as me giving an excuse for violence against women, I wouldn’t be bothered. I grew up regarding and treating females as literal equals and only learned to be a chivalrous in my teen years. So I am not inclined to view violence against women as a “thing” cos humans have been violent against other humans from the beginning. Call me woman beater; it makes no real sense to me cause there are no such specially touted labels as “men beaters”.

I suspect she met the guy after you. She must be lying.

Anyway, girls like this should be converted to free Konji reliever. Nothing more.

Breda Well said.

Who are the surgeons that create stuff like this? No sense of style. No sense of proportion. Just pack something like pillow.

Abeyjide:
get details before concluding on matters. that land is for goverment hospital but saraki used his position to convert it to personal property.

The renaming of the university nko? Bro this is witch-hunt, pure and simple.

This governor is Ihedioha 2.0

Moneystopnonsen:
Guy don't kill urself over a lash gone bad, she is just a gf. You never can tell what she does behind ur back.
Na who dem catch be thief

Faithfulness is mostly encouraged in marriage, because you are meant to know the dangers it will pose if u indulge in it, not just loosing the trust of your spouse but will also affect your kids if it leads to a separation or may be divorce.

So brace up gee, na nack u nack, u no kee person.

My advice is, if you are sure she loves you so so much, go and break up with her.
Tell her with an emotion laden face, that you want to quit the relationship because, had it been you were in her shoes you will do the same.
Whyne her with stories of how she has been the best ever and can't be replaced in all ramifications, u sabi her weak spot na, then give her a tight hug and pretend sob and tell her u will miss her, then go and never ever call her, or chat with her. If she loves u dearly in 48hrs she will be back by herself. But if she no love u my dear sorry. U just gave her a reason to justify her further hoe ability

Bro you are the best. Enshi this is what you need to do if you still want her. Even if she’s reading this, it will still work on her. Na woman.

Anyway, I think I understand how you became weak and fell for the girl who tempted you in your moment of weakness. You were on medication then you took alcohol. Can I blame you? Can I judge you?

All the best bro. If you think she’s the rude type, please don’t go begging, don’t let her rubbish you.

MedicH:
Lol me thinking you are trying to make peace reign or maybe pacify the bitter bereaved. The bolded though lol like buying a lion cub as pet forgetting it will grow definitely.

100% correct sir!

Where is that Sultan now? He should come and see something.

Next thing we will hear is they are not practicing Islam. Okay.

TemmyT002:
Someone said she is trying to get asylum abroad by saying she is getting death threats.

Death threats indeed. People do crazy stuff for recognition.

The legislation that criminalised homosexuality is not going anywhere any time soon. It was one of the few moments in history where both ruling and opposition parties and both of the major religions agreed without contrary argument.

This shows either of two things: hypocrisy or a collective cultural statement. I think it is the latter.

It is no news that many of our cultures do not have specific historical terms describing gay people or homosexuality. I do not think it was totally alien to our forefathers (as human beings are curious by design) but it was definitely done in utter secrecy for it not to have mattered enough to be labelled as either a sin or an accepted practice.

The LGBT community are formidable by arguing from the angle of imperfection, throwing your “religion” or “hypocrisy” in your face to buttress their stance. They need to show you the monster in you so that they can appear less condemnable. This tactic is effective in societies that seek to be politically correct. Fortunately, this is Nigeria.

I have never seen the love between a man and his woman as unconditional. Whenever I think of unconditional love, I think father and child, mother and child, Grandparents and grandchildren.

Unconditional love is the love that seeks to forgive even before forgiveness is asked.

Asking this from your spouse is like asking for something you yourself may not possess.

Romantic love is very conditional and it is beautiful too, and that’s okay.

naptu2:
In case the very strange language that was used in the first post seems strange and confusing (is that English Language? ), all that he is trying to say is that Zakzakky is being tried by the Kaduna State Government, not by the Federal Government, therefore, it is that Kaduna State Government that will decide if it wants to release him or not. That's no longer within the power of the Federal Government.

That is what it means to be a federal republic.

Regardless of the charges, the Kaduna State Government are trampling on his rights. Their governor is a stubborn man.

This baba

Experience is the best teacher.

You detest something the men had no control over? You might as well detest short people or dark skin or small-breasted women.

Detest? Nonsense talk.

Give them strong warning. They can either have sense and state what they want or f*ck off. They are harassing you sexually and you’re smiling. Don’t smile with them. Well, that’s one possible reason.

Or

They probably want to get comfortable with you and condition you guys to start giving them stuff without having sex. If you are attracted to them sexually, tell them boldly the same way they are bold enough to harass you.

Either way, chase them away. Unless you really want a piece of that.

You’re on the right path.

If you show love, they will start misbehaving. It’s better this way. When you are ready, just pick the one with better specs (character, body shape, face) and rescue her from spinsterhood before she becomes bitter and comes to Nairaland to disturb us.

Good job man.

Jewessgratitude:
Are you done describing your mother and sisters? You may now leave. You this apology of a man. Tufia!
Woman wrapper everywhere.

See what I mean? Uncouth tendencies seeping out.



Like I said, any guy who mistakenly dates you in your present mental state is unfortunate, to put it nicely.

Not even a Marlian would settle for this level of loony.

Guys guys guys why na?

You can’t be pricing market after you have consumed the goods.

Jewessgratitude:
Ahaaa... So you still remember in details how I was born? Hahahaaa...so you really had to cram this and still recognized that it was I who said it, when I can't even remember you or ever coming across your moniker. And here you are satirizing yourself like you too don't have plans of doing same. You're the more toxic one. Very awkward of you.
Abeg shift!

Of course I remember incredible bullshit. Who would forget something like that?

Anyway, I would never soil myself by sliding into your grimy DM. That’s not how I roll. I wonder if those guys engaged you here before taking it private. They should have seen the messed up situation they were about to plunge themselves into.

I feel sorry for anyone who would date you in your present emotional/mental state. It would be one heck of daily chore trying to guide you out of your delusions into the real world.

Those guys don’t realise their good luck. They dodged a bullet.