₦airaland Forum

lady25:
Right here is a perfect description of the op's husband (ladies beware). If I can't play with my husband then who? Marriage isn't a slave trade affair. My husband should be my brother, friend, father, etc.
@ op don't call ur husband names. Calling him 'ode' no be joke o

You are contradicting yourself.

She should have noticed his usual mien during courtship. So she cannot expect anything different. Why say "I do" when you cannot live with a strict man?

If your fiance wants respect and you have a problem with it you should not marry him. Simple. If you can respect your elder brother or boss it should not be a big deal to treat your older husband with respect. He is not your mate.

diva90:
Well when you catch your own wife having an affair, you better cry too and clean your eyes because you dare not assault her

She wouldn't even dare. She's not like you.

Why would it be an issue for you to show respect? Did we Nigerians not grow up respecting our older family members? It should not be difficult to show such respect to your husband who is not your mate.

From all you have written, it is obvious that you want a husband whom you can jokingly "yab" or play roughly with. But this man is not ready for such "games". Give him what he wants. Some people cannot stand little games like rubbing their heads or beating them on the shoulder or calling them goat or refusing to greet in the morning. To them, it is just too childish and disrespectful.

Such people don't start acting hard suddenly. You must have overlooked this during courtship. Better adjust. This is not relationship. This is marriage we are talking about.

No woman can try that with me. Even if you catch me in bed with another woman, the worst you can do is cry. You dare not assault me.

Those that said he was not important learned their lessons the hard way.

This man is a force to reckon with. I don't like him but I respect his political skills. GEJ dismissed him but ended up congratulating PMB after losing woefully. The hangover of that loss still rattles wailers and IPOB miscreants more than a year after.

It is for pilgrimage. Not just Hajj.

Sorry bro. There is nothing you can do to stop her unless you want to physically restrain her from hanging out. That would be wrong.

All you can do is tell her how sad this makes you. That you cannot spend anyhow just for show off. Then go on with your normal life. She may change...or not. But you cannot force her to your will.

If she's old enough, go ahead.

DropShot:
The title of this thread is misleading.

You're right.

Bayelsa, Delta and Rugged Rivers state.

US no wan pay ransom.

What a vivid narration! Glad this has never happened to me. I for just blast her for phone. I make sure a babe is really into me before asking her on a date. And then I call to double check before I set out.

Creative piece. Thumbs up bro.

Well, colorism would be an overstatement in this case as what is at play is simply preference and not outright hostile prejudice. This preference of skin tone almost only comes up when matters of attraction and beauty are discussed. I don't think it is serious enough to be a real threat to darkskin ladies.

I just find it curious that a lady would be deemed beautiful because of her skin tone. Simplistic, to say the least. Probably evidence of a serious hangover from colonialism.

Whatever happened to shape, size and proportion of facial features and delicate curves? Those are the real markers of human beauty. (IMO)

I have seen many fair chicks with strong unladylike jaws, arms, gait and cheekbones referred to as beautiful. I strongly suspect that if said ladies were dark, the same observers would call them ugly. So you see the conceit. Skin colour should not be a parameter for beauty. Any such preference is not colorism but certainly borders on it.

mercichoco:
...Just yesterday I remembered his birthday, I sent him a beautiful artistic portrait of him plus a very expensive package. He was moved, then he started apologizing. I was happy to forgive him but happier because I did that which I couldn't do four years ago.

Hmmm. Only yesterday, you remembered his birthday, engaged an artist to produce (and possibly frame) a portrait and still delivered it along with an "expensive" package.

Salt and sugar.

Mr Konfused. First of all, congratulations.

Just marry the pregnant babe jejely and enjoy your marriage. A woman who doesn't nag frequently is a rare treat from heaven. You said she's contented with whatever amount you spend on her. Baba, are you really trying to rationalize leaving such a woman?

The main difference between A and B is education. This can be acquired even at her age. Na small thing. Pick lady A. With the right education and exposure you will end up with a peaceable, educated and reasonable wife who makes life easy for you at home. Bro, this is what men are praying for and you want to gamble? Ha!

This shouldn't be an issue. Why does he feel he needs to pay her for attention and love? There is something wrong with it. He can get her occasional gifts but offering her money for hair, etc is just wrong.

She is a smart lady who knows how entitled some guys feel when they give money to their girls. Now she will see if he can respect and love her when he has no "leverage".

Working graduate hoping to date a student? Hope you are ready to pay for love. If not, kindly date someone who understands what it means to earn a living.

Something is fundamentally wrong. What kind of traumatic experience would fry a man's brains to the point of altering his gender?

Hello Worriedgirl.

Go back and tell him that after giving it much thought you decided that you don't want any romantic relationship with him.

Be polite about it. He did not act on his "feelings" by propositioning you as an undergraduate. I think he deserves a measure of respect for that.

Spell it out in clear terms. Don't expect any favours from now on. You admitted that he favoured you as an undergraduate. Well, you should no longer expect him to go the extra mile for you. You must earn your way in your career. This way, he would be hard pressed to victimize you.

hertz9te:
tell you my tribe to fuel ur hate?..the bible says do not lead your brother into temptation

Kindly reveal your ethnicity if you are proud of your origin.

Don't be afraid to enjoy a taste of your own medicine.

Even though she deserves it please do not beat her up. I know its unfair but you cannot hit back at a woman even when she slaps you. The world is twisted to accept that women should get away with assault.

Try to record her threats. Expose a video to her family showing her threats with you accusing and her defending her abortion and infidelity. Let them see what their daughter really is.

If your new babe wants to leave let her go for her own safety. Crazy women are dangerous. Better to expose their threats to the world early enough.

She'll stalk you for a while before one unfortunate guy will fall for her and rescue you.

dhardline:
Is it just me?

Why is it that any post made by flexygist thats supposed to have a picture doesn't then i have to

now click the link all cause its on fp.Is seun indirectly advising us to visit his blog or maybe just

helping the blog owner? Just curious

Same as one other blogger lianababe or something. Once their posts hit FP, I think they delete the pictures from the thread so people have to click the link to their blogs.

Na tactics to drive traffic to their blogs.

So what happens to your buyer if you have already engraved the old number on the windshield and windows? Would there be transfer of ownership of number plate?

Exactly. Zoning is wrong. It should be about individuals not tribes. We could lose out on a great leader just because his zone is not next in line. Similarly, some great minds could not make the list of ministers because of this "federal character" style of choosing ministers. We should pick leaders based on their qualities rather than their zones.

I don't support the 3 working days proposal though. A reduction in working hours would serve just fine. After office hours, the workers can go and hustle for the afternoon/evening.

Rochas remains one of the great leaders in Nigeria.

Better find out the secret before it's too late.

This is the funniest love story I've ever read. The love dey shack you now.

I must still tell you congratulations. It's not everyday that a guy meets a truly committed partner.

Nairaland babes won't be pleased with this. They have refused to contribute to this thread.

[quote author=OlaNiran107 post=47954200][/quote]In that case, you have done well. Wish you all the best.

Big mistake. Naija babes of nowadays don't care to manage funds especially when a man's money is involved. Dem go use d money buy jewelry finish. After all, they can ask for more from the man.

However, if she shows good sense of judgment in her own financial matters I may open a small account with her.

Bro, okay, you made the mistake of getting a "strange" lady pregnant. That is in the past. I applaud you for not making yet nother mistake by marrying her solely because she is your baby mama. Marriage with the wrong woman can be hell.

However, find ways to send money to the mother of your child and please keep detailed records of every dime paid. Nobody should prevent you from providing for your child.

I think you should be open to your next girlfriend(s) about your child. Don't hide the fact that you are a father. Women particularly hate it when a guy conceals stuff like this in a relationship.

All the best.

Vendoor:
Nice one op, the problem with most ladies is that they lack respect and have too much jealousy in their hearts.

Gbam! Case closed.