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Enjoyment1:
There is this beautiful Angel I used to date when I was in School. We dated for over 11 years in all. She was in the then Polytechnic of Calabar and later went to Akwa Poly to do her HND, while I schooled in UNICAL. After our school days, she left for NYSC. When she returned, she started behaving funny. On several occasions, I asked her if there was any problem, she said No!. She started calling me less, and was always in a hurry to drop my calls. I persuaded her to at least open up on any error, issue or offence I must have committed. She still emphasized that there was nothing. On the 1st of February, 2009, she sent me a text telling me that she has seen her husband, and that I should help her thank God (please note that, we have concluded arrangement from both family ends on immediate marriage once I am able to get a job).

Since I could'not get a job immediately, she decided to move on with Plan B, as I later discovered from her sister. To make it more painful, the same period I got a job, they have printed their wedding cards and have even gone ahead with their traditional wedding. The new guy works in a bank, and I learnt they both live in one estate in Lagos. I tried persuading her before the issue of wedding came, to let me know my stand, as it was becoming obvious she was double-dating, but she maintained her stand that all was well. Now they are fully married, and now permanently resides with her husband in Lagos.

The reason for this posting is that, she called and was begging for forgiveness. She said,my not forgiving her, is the reason why she cannot conceive after her February, 2009 wedding. Really, I find it very hard to forgive her after holding me captive for over 11 years (as the case now seems). Today, GOD has really been faithful to me. I work in the Hospitality unit of a company in Abuja, and now live very comfortable.

Apart from forgiving her, which I don't have a choice because of GOD, how do I over come this situation. Where do I start from again. Can I really love again?. I am ready for marriage today, but where is the girl that stood by me for 11 years?. Can I ever find a suitable replacement for her, because she was really beautiful, both in appearance, character, and in everything?. She really led me to Christ. I knew GOD whole-heartedly because of her. Will there ever be any woman again like her out there?. 

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Enjoyment1:
Many fail to remove the log on their eyes, but seeing that of Ibori. Who is a saint here amongst those castigating Ibori? Those small malpractices they do in their various offices, are they not the same with that of Ibori in the sight of GOD? Small sin and Big sin are both the same before GOD.

Let GOD and the works of men, judge every man's action. The law of Karma, will ever take its toll on every man, so we need not judge or call people names.
Do not forget that, if you point a finger at any man, the rest faces you. Stop judging!.

Enjoyment1:
Let people leave Ibori alone. Monkey no fine, but him mama like am. His people would have nailed him if he had stolen as the Obasanjos of this world. Even the Odidlis, the El-Rufais and even the Ribadus are walking the street free. Do you know the number of people the stolen money that Ibori has been accused off,has helped in paying people salaries. Do you know that thesame Ibori (directly or indirectly) has employees to the tune of 4,500 receiving salaries. For every single person he pays salary, you can multiply the number of mouths he gets to feed.

If not for the prayers of these people, he would have been caught a long time ago, but for the fact that, he invested a greater chunk of that money locally, that is why his people are not bothered about his status.

If dem born Saint El-Rufai well, let him appear in any public place in Abuja, and lets see what will happen to him. Even Saint Ribadu knows his hands are not clean. We are still waiting! .

Enjoyment1:
Many fail to remove the log on their eyes, but seeing that of Ibori. Who is a saint here amongst those castigating Ibori? Those small malpractices they do in their various offices, are they not the same with that of Ibori in the sight of GOD? Small sin and Big sin are both the same before GOD.

Let GOD and the works of men, judge every man's action. The law of Karma, will ever take its toll on every man, so we need not judge or call people names.
Do not forget that, if you point a finger at any man, the rest faces you. Stop judging!.

Enjoyment1:
In as much as Ibori is the sacred cow today, how many Nigerians will come out today and say they have never committed one fraud or the other. A lot of Nigerians abroad especially in UK today, check their travelling documents, or what they presented at the embassy for visa, then we all will know who to cast the first stone on Ibori.
Yes Ibori is a thief, no doubt, but have you removed that shame that you daily hide from your eyes, before looking at that of Ibori.
That is how you all praised El-Rufai , and gave him so many awards, today he has ran away (even with all your awards) and has failed to come and defend N32 billion naira missing under his tenure. It is his own tenure, that a 3 year old child has a land in Abuja . What a fraud. God knows how many that we dont have knowledge about.
I weep for my dear country.

Abeg, na person wey dem catch, na him be thief!.

pro01:
I agree with the bolded parts. Indeed, the idea of "gradual process" in the fight against corruption does not hold water. There will never be sufficient political will to bring about an institutionalization of processes - no society has ever 'gradually' evolved to a state of development. Development is almost always ignited by a revolution, not an evolution. The USA and other Western/developed societies went through the phase of massive corruption and underdevelopment that we are in now, true, but they transcended that phase through the revolutionary efforts of both the masses and a courageous set of selfless leaders. In the case of Nigeria, since there is an acute shortage of courageous leaders that are willing to commit 'class suicide' by selflessly fighting corruption and institutionalizing good governance, the masses SHOULD AS A MATTER OF NECESSITY take the bull by the horns and force a peoples' revolution. ONLY this can root out corruption and set us on the path of development. All this 'gradual process' nonsense would never work; at least not in our life time. We can only talk of 'gradual process' to development AFTER the institutionalization of systems and process has been instituted. Examples like Singapore and Malaysia readily come to mind: how many years of "gradual process" did it take them to achieve First World status and virtually eradicate corruption? Less than a decade. Only the lazy, timid and gullible Nigerian masses would accept "gradual process" and prefer to wallow in their suffering.

monkeyleg:
@sammy107,

I wouldnt bother myself with the likes of ChidiChris, he is a cetified Ibori Harlot. He is always full of this nonsense.

Flakky26:
FOR FEMALE - PROF DORA AKUNYULI AND PST (MRS) NIKE ADEYEMI (DAY STAR CHRISTIAN CENTER).

FOR MALE - PST SAM ADEYEMI (DAY STAR CHRISTIAN CENTER) AND MR FELA DUROTOYE

Oboma1:
My Dear, you do not know me, and who I am.
I have not seen this man before, talkless of benefitting from him.
If I have benefitted, my Dear, I will not be here.
Please mind the use of words here. I just felt it that is all.
Go and price that car, and you will know what went on flame!.

Oboma1:
Indeed, but as a man with emotions, you will still show sympathy. It does not stop him owning up to his actions.

magana:
E. A. Adeboye, Bro W.F. Kumuyi

iice:
[color=#9900ff]How did she move from her gorgeous apartment to a face me face you apartment? [/color]

oludashmi:
You are right but from the story, this isnt there first time of eating the meal and if the ewedu is the prob, why didnt it affect the entire family of 16?

oludashmi:
This is very pathetic. May God comfort the mother especially as she is yet to know she has lost five children. But how did it affect 5 out of the 16 who ate the food?

he family is made up of the father, two wives and 12 children.

The senior wife, Peju, who is expecting her eighth child, lost five children.

The names of the dead children are Iyabo, Rotimi, Pelumi, Abigail and Ade.

"The ewedu soup was prepared by Peju, who is my first wife. The lafun was prepared by Iyabo around 8pm.

"We all ate, but about 4am the following day, Peju started vomiting.

Abigail, the junior wife, was also receiving treatment at the hospital.

Deep Soul:
Pls check my baby sister's result
06283650DD

I tire for that Jamb website sef

princekevo:
Is the above comment out of, hatred for Christianity, jealousy for his unexpected success, or foolishness?
We see people on a daily bases giving credit to their ability, family, connections, wisdom, gods, etc, for their success. What is wrong in this young man who saw the bitter of Nigeria attributing his success and victory to his God?

amirize:
but thank God all was working for my own good. God had plan B for me, a better plan that what I thought.

Avantage:
Hello Nairaland,

I am in a BIG trouble
Few days ago my boyfriend of 4 months called me in the morning to say hello. he asked how i slept.
I told him I had a dream about a stranger, who gazed at me.  I was running down the stairs and the stranger continued to looking at me.
My b/f asked if I was attracted, and if something else happened between us in the dream (!)
I thought he was joking, but unfortunately he was serious about my dream. he said that my subconscious was cheating.
I was shocked!!!!
My day begins with thoughts about my BF and the day ends with thinking about him!!
how could he think that my subconscious is thinking about someone else?

i need your advice
what should i do ?

He is not calling. not answering my messages

peelovee:
Hi, to all NL.

After my company sent me out for a training at Edinburg in UK, i returned suceessfully puting a smell on everybodies face.

My boss who is married with four kids abroad want me to start dating him, giving me his reasons.
1. It was because i have interest in you that was why i insisted that the company sent you for a course at UK.
2. I LOVE you and might marry you.
3. I will promote you and increase you salary.
after all his reasons I refused, three days latter he called me i went to his office lo and behold he ask me if i have finally made up my mind to date him i said i cant't date him because he is my father,instantly he ask me to get out from his office and my manager called me to his office and gave me a LETTER OF TERMINATION OF APPOINTMENT.

I was not scared, i only took the letter in good faith and left.

Now he haeard that i have gotten a new job, AS AN ADMIN OFFICER still maintaining the position i held in his company, tho, the pay is not big i accepted it so that i dont stay at home idle.

I was told they want to bid for the a contract, but no one to bid for it, because no admin officer to pass instruction to the secretary to prepare a wining bid, everyone is saying how they wish she was still working with us.three days ago my ex boss, manager, boss wife, secretary, and the cleark , they have been calling me pleading me to come back and work with them.

NL, I am confuse should i go back or continue with my new job.

please advise.

peelovee:
Hello to all,

Please i need an advise now, as I am totally confused.

I am now in love with my cousin's Ex-guy. We have been in love for the past six months.
He broke up the relationship with my cousin about 1year and 6month today.

This is how it happen,
My counsin befriend this guy for a year, when the going was good, and they both loved each other, the guy was so caring, so loving to my counsin and i. After some month the guy lost hIS job, the next step was for my counsin was to start complaining that the guy is not taking good care of her and so on and so forth, that she is quiting, so i asked her just like that?, it is because he is no longer working?, she never say a word to me.

My cousin just end up the relationship like that without expressing her feeling to Him why she is quiting the relationship, she just told him it was over between them. Since he was in love with her, He called me that i should help him beg on his behalf. I had to tell my counsin to give him a chance, but she refused.

fortunately enough for her she met a new guy who promise marrying her and she started a relationship with her new guy.

This guy came asking me out after a year of his broke-up with my counsin, though it was easy for me to say yes, after two months of much pressure i decided to say yes, which made him get back to himself.

My cousin is aware of our relationship and have haeard that we loved ourselves, and the guy just got a new job with SPDC and she goes around painting my name with a black paint on a white wall.

The fact remains that the person who promise marrying her has disappointed her, and now she is angry with me because i am now i her position. She said she really wants to come back to him, which is not possible.

Please should i countinue with this relationship? or should i quit it. i really need and advise.

Because as it stands now my cousin hates me, calls me cheat, and even tell people that i came in with my beauty to snatch her guy from her by putting a smile on my face, i am afraid she might decide one day to kill me because of this very issue, ple!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ase i need advise(s)

peelovee:
I cought my guy with his ex-girl on bed, as early as 5:30am when he never expected i will be there. I bang the door and left with anoyance and heart break.

Now he came begging for forgiveness, that he did not have an affair with her, I dont believe what he said,but i have decided to never to give him a second chance in my life.

Please I need avise.

AntKenny:
I understand where all of you are coming from especially @pro01.

Im not trying to be unreasonable or stubborn.

, my boyfriend is naturally possessive and I dont mind that because as far as im concerned no guy could compete with him.

But I think he is really feeling insecure, for no good reason. Most of my male friends are either engaged or in long lasting relationships.

I going to talk to him and see how that goes.

pro01:
Any girl who wants to quit singlehood must put its ways behind and tell herself the common-sensical truth. Fooling around with 'male friends' (like me) would most definitely cause your boyfriend/husband grief. . .that is if he ever finds out the real deal. And when he boots you out I definitely won't replace him in your life (I like the milk free, thanks. Why maintain the whole cow?).

emorse:
I totally agree with jaidey. The OP said she's had her male friends for about 15 years. Her fiance is only feeling insecure which is quite normal. She only needs to reassure him and all will be well (if he's reasonable enough to understand).

pro01:
^^
lol. Nice response. Dem no dey hear word.

@ Post.

The concept of 'male friends' has always been very funny and rightly so (especially when you have a serious bf or husband). It's like saying that a goat can be friends with a yam, or a monkey with a banana. The one would ravenously devour the other at the first opportunity - whether it takes ten minutes or ten years is irrelevant, it is only waiting to happen.

The truth is that ALL so-called male friends (me inclusive) would slam-dunk their jimmies into the girl's honeypot at the slightest opportunity, forget all the 'just friends, just friend' bull.s**t. Besides there is no doubt that you may reveal stuff about your man or your relationship issues to the so-called close male friends; believe me they may take advantage of that info and slyly hint that you deserve more - all in the attempt to seduce you in the most subtle way. Before you know it you'd gradually 'notice' that your friend is more generous, more attentive/caring, and has a bigger 'bulge' than your boyfriend who has "been annoying of late". Next thing one thing leads to another and your hapless boyfriend is cuckolded. In any case, what would a girl be discussing about with a 'male friend' behind closed doors sef? About Mutallab? Or the earthquake in Haiti? Don't make me laugh abeg.

Whatever happened to friends of your own gender? It's funny when I see some deluded boyfriends acting 'secure' about the fact that their babes keep 'close' male friends. I've been in the latter category a few times and I did the silly boyfriends no favours at all (if you catch the drift).

Any girl who wants to quit singlehood must put its ways behind and tell herself the common-sensical truth. Fooling around with 'male friends' (like me) would most definitely cause your boyfriend/husband grief. . .that is if he ever finds out the real deal. And when he boots you out I definitely won't replace him in your life (I like the milk free, thanks. Why maintain the whole cow?).

evil666:
“Besides, it will amount to betrayal of Ibori if we had kept quiet and allowed the police to pick him just like that. Ibori is our hero and we are very proud of him. If not for Ibori, Oghara would not have known development. Come to Oghara and see what I’m talking about.
“Today, Oghara has a stadium, a well-equipped general hospital, polytechnic, college of education and other social amenities. It was during the Ibori administration that the road to Oghara was dualised with street light. At night, people say Oghara is small London. Do you now want us to abandon such a person at a time like this because of an allegation that has not been proved? Oghara people are ready to die for Ibori and we mean it,” the elder said.

Onlytruth:
Nope! Arrest him and others like him across all ethnic lines who actually stole money. We Nigerians know ALL of them. Why do cherry picking? Arrest all. It is possible. Only then can we take the war seriously. 

Onlytruth:
Simple and honest answer is that our leaders have stolen much much more these days than before. Yet, we have people claiming to fight corruption in Nigeria, but all they are really doing is hounding political opponents all over the place.
If we are serious about fighting corruption, then, people like Obasanjo should be in jail today, because he presided over a period of the greatest oil boom in Nigeria since independence 1999 -2007. Yet, today we have people living like rodents inside dumps! Sheds more tears. . 

Sky Spirit:
Try to be friendly with his mistress, he will run from
her, I assure you!

AjanleKoko:
^^
Back in school we used to joke that Nigerians/Africans have progressively travelled down this pyramid, since we were colonized, and even more since the end of colonization.

One thing that bothers me most about Nigerians (me and you are all guilty) is our abhorrence of anything relating to physical or mental labour, and our clinging to white-collar symbols - multiple degrees, as well as jobs that involve very little actual skill.

Not that we are mentally deficient - to pack multiple degrees you need some significant brainpower - but our society's total rejection of actual hands-on skills for paper qualifications and tons of irrelevant book knowledge is only going to do us a lot of harm in the long run.

There is zero existence of actual skilled manpower in Nigeria, while there is a deluge of men and women holding meaningless certificates.

Let me even ask a funny question: Are we aware that these certificates actually work in other countries? I know many people, Nigerians abroad, who have advanced technical degrees, and are actually putting these degrees to work out there. However, oftentimes I get resumes from people who are looking for jobs in Nigerian telecoms, and they have Phds in telecom engineering! I always wonder, what would such a person be expecting to do in Nigeria?

Omalichanwa:
@ agitator, i didn't force myself on him.

Radiant:
Some men are good at spending on a woman but that doesn't equal respect.

Radiant:
Some of them do it just to shield your mind from his wicked acts.

Radiant:
Anyway, let me ask you. Could you say you were happy with this man before this incident? Can you proudly testify that you've found happiness and not just a man to shelter and feed you?

haronky7:
@ Aro Akigbo
You've been watching too many movies o!

Anyway, your mental picture not bad.

The money just disappeared as if it was a pin, I'm convinced it was this new minute naira notes, much smaller than a pin

Has someone told them to check under the table?

Nigeria we hail thee!

twinkle87:
Hi everyone,
i dont know if its just me or does anyone else think a 10 year difference between a guy and a lady is rather to wide?
I am 23 and i have this friend who wants to settle down with me. However he is 33, 10 years older than i am, and am a bit unconfortable with this.
though he said he plans to settle down dis year.
I am yet to formally update my parents on this but most other people that know this say there is nothing wrong with the age thing, 
However i am not in a hurry to tie the not soon as am currently undergoing my masters and i wish to lay a foundation for a career soon after.,
I need to hear from neutral sources,
thanks everyone

jennykadry:
are you minding her? she didnt even allow me land before crucifying me, all these insults she has been throwing at me, i just over looked it cos if i decide to reply back, the thread will be locked as usual

Look at these single women in their 30's, does she really think they r happy? 99% of them lost their missing rib all in the name of wanting to pursue a career , look at genevieve our actress,she laid a good foundation in her career, but which man wants her now that shes established herself?, look at kanu nwankwo, after dating all the doctors, lawyers and models, who did he end up with? a young girl who completed her studies in his home, why do you think omotola and her husband are together, you think it does not give her husband so much joy to know that his wife made her money in his house?look at our men now, they all run for women still in school, like my grand ma used to say,any woman dat does not get married or meet smone serious while she's still studying, will find it difficult to get one after studying

The truth is alot of these men dont wanna feel inferior or have a woman who looks like shes going to choose her career over family for a wife and when they meet a woman who is so career orientated, they are so scared of settling down with her,cos they think, shes going to be a dictator and not the follower

But who i'm i to advice her anways,she sees me as some silly lady with  no educational background, since shes got a good academic background, why is she asking for help here? she should be very intelligent and know how to deal with issues

webb jamie:
@jennykadry;just leave twinkle alone.she has set her priorities, which i think are in the right order.If she wants to continue her education that's fine cos i for one like my women educated and i believe my preference reflects that of a significant number of males across the globe.The brightest flower attracts the best insects,she will surely get a man.Besides,marryin @23 won't ensure a successful marriage.