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Another sound advise here!

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

It isn't an issue of capability but one of clouded judgment.
Some women give advise from clouded judgments.
For example, women will always want a man to spend on a girl but would be angry when their brothers decide to spend on a random girl (except their bosom friend).

Romanoff:
So women aren't capable of good advice?

Abi?

This is dicey:

1. If you decide to keep struggling and train them in the best way that you can, you would have done well. However, there's always the chance that the kids might grow up and learn that their real dad is a wealthy man. If you are not wealthy by then, they may decide to leave you and go be with him.
If this happens, they may choose to see you as the bad man who stole their mum away from their dad and in so doing, deprived them of a comfortable life with the wealthy biological dad.

2. I don't know your wife, but she may later go on to reconcile with that rich man if things turn out really bad. Of course, this chance is tiny; but it is possible. If this happens, she might give the usual line of 'I didn't ask you to do all that you did'

3. You can train them and all will turn out well. They will always see you as the man who was there for them.


In the end, I think you should pray and seek for God's direction.


Lastly, if you can, please don't marry single mothers except those who are widows, or who have grown-up children, or who have a legal agreement to get child support, or who you know are just victims of life.

You can go ahead if you're financially capable, or you don't mind working your ass off to keep the family.

Either way, your choice.

Boss! �
God bless you!

If the option is possible, I would!

malali:
How old are you ?
Do you want to study nursing outside the country ?

I think you're taking this the wrong way. He never said he got a 2.2 because he didn't struggle or study more. There are challenges that are beyond your control. I had a friend, a close friend, who came out with a 2.2 simply because the department made serious mistakes in the final year result by recording some of his courses as carry overs and assigning a D to the courses (as the re-written exams, which he didn't even know about). That thing threw his cgpa to 3.45.

What would you say about that? Shouldn't he be proud of his 2.2?

Please, mind how you criticize people. Some situations are out of our control.

Dpaulie:
Sorry... who told u that he's not going to have challenges again in life? Lift is full of challenges therefore the survival of the fittest..is he the first person to ever hustle before he gets the tuition fee No... and he can never be the last.. I studied micro from oau and graduated with 2.1.. then I would have to go to Ibadan on every Friday so as to hawk men's underwear's in other to survive for the following week.. this was how I spent the four years in the university... I didn't only hustle for tuition fee but for all round surviving... taking challenges as an excuse makes u a failure already... this is why u children of this day are not employable.. proud of 2.2 u said I laugh.. continue "prouding" of ur mediocrity

It is well! I've searched for jobs with that saving goal in mind, but nothing! It is well.

Angelacruz:
At your age,school of nursing is d best.Try working n save.U wont regret it...u can start from UK after graduation.My school where i currently gotten admission pay close to 300k.If u can pay ur first yr school fees,yr two n three wont be expensive...

Nice

Can I dm you?

monfizzy:
Good idea but unfortunately can’t help as it’s Naija. I did studied microbiology in Naija and later studied nursing when I moved to the U.K.

Being a nurse would open better doors for you in terms of migrating to countries like the U.K. US, Canada and Australia. I don’t know why many Nigerians don’t study nursing and other healthcare courses that can easily pave way for them to move abroad.

Haba!

khiaa:
If this is true then cops should be buried 20 feet underground with their heads decapitated. between their legs.

Hello, sir healthserve

Nice

If only you knew!

Randerl:
Glory be to God for giving us President CYRUS M. Buhari and Kicking out AHAB Ebele Jonathan.

Yes. I'd still dm

Kandeed:
Lol like say me sef go even get time come Nairaland. You wanna ask bout the process?

It is so easy blame the north for these things. But I've stayed in the north and the average northerner is only concerned about religion, family, and business.

Never forget that the southern leaders sold the region out. Right from the pre- and poet-independence period, southern leaders have never bee united in a common cause.

Besides, who are those in charge of the NDDC? Northerners?

When Shell, Chevron, and other oil companies paid huge billions to communities as settlement plans, who diverted the money? Northerners or the community leaders?

What is bad is bad; the northerners can hold sway today because it is their way of life to help their brothers and sisters into positions.
But a southerner will rather pull his brother down.

In the end, southerners have to work together to make their region great!

Once you get there, Lala will ban you from accessing Nairaland
How can you move to a place without snakes? Lala will be incensed!

Jokes aside, can I dm you?

Kandeed:
I'm just few months away from relocating there and the most amazing thing bout that city which interest me the most is the non existence of snake, you can't find snakes either in the vicinity or in the bush. very quiet place with good people and a scarce record of violence. but as you know in Life you really cannot have it all, it's one of the most expensive country to live in that staying up to a month or two without job would really frustrate you

How did you decide the criteria for being better?

Security? Sweden is waaaaaaaay secure than Nigeria.

Education? Primary and secondary schools are free. Tertiary institutions give scholarships and tuition is affordable.

Social development? Parents and guardians are paid per child until they turn 18. Social amenities are top-quality.

Economy? One of the best in Europe.
Scientific advancement? Their scholarship schemes are bringing some of the best scientific minds to Sweden. They are growing rapidly.

Corruption index? Far lower than Nigeria's.

Tell me again, is Nigeria (in her current state) better than Sweden?

Abeg, sir, try to be happy for people.

P.S: that roasted plantain will cost more than the one we eat in Nigeria. Yet, the cost won't affect them. Higher living standard!

starbn:
Sweden is not better than Nigeria.
Some of you that run away or on a journey of no return always picture things as if our dear country is not wealthy.
See how you are eating roasted plantain and condo in a black wooden table with all the money and risk you take get there.
My brother we have world class universities here in Nigeria.

I understand you quite well! I also hate that thing. In fact, there's a girl I liked but refused to date her because of that. I dislike it.

However, she's not your woman so be careful of how you handle it so that you don't lose a friend and business partner.

Simply tell her you don't want to appear in the pictures or videos for privacy reasons.

Damnn nigarrrrr
You never begin bomb by this time ba?

It is well with you bros!

slawomir:
Aunty

For Egor local government in Edo state.
We never see the money o

Na only 8000 when them share the night to the day of gubernatorial and state House of assembly elections

Then plus the 4500 for training allowance
Even the training allowance now
Most people never still get the alert
Me as i dey type so never still get the training allowance

This their matter don tire me o

Anything make them short list me for next year governorship election for Edo state again ehnnnnn
Na rigg i want just go rigg election. Na full time rigging

You as a man, would you allow your sister to marry a man and move into this room with him?

See, forget these questions. It isn't always about the beauty or decoration but space!

A one-bedroom flat (bedroom and living room/parlour/lounge) is better than this. A man ready for marriage should save up, add the money to the next year's rent then get a one-bedroom flat before marriage. It is a matter of convenience.
The flat may not be well-furnished but your sleeping place is removed from your kitchen!

Wait a bit, if you as the guy go to visit your sister and her husband, will you sleep in that room with them?

Abi dem go lay wrapper or mat ontop ground for you to sleep
Na kpakpakpakpa go wake you for night


I'm not despising small beginnings; if the girl is okay with it, fine. But guys we can do better.
Just save a bit more, reduce wedding expenses and get a better living space.

Price?

Whatever you do, don't join a cult because you want to stop being shy! Don't, please!

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

I hope you've found some respite?
Man, life is full of these things. You have to be stronger than them or you'll throw it will away...

Congratulations to him!

Meanwhile, if it was our beloved Nollywood

He would later be released and appointed prison superintendent.

Don't mind them!
Your guy, a known smoker, died from respiratory issues and you're saying Jesus why him? Who should smoking-induced respiratory issues kill, a non-smoker?

All for clout abeg! Let the dead rest if he can! Let the living amend their ways cos within 100 years we're all going the same 6ft.

Akakanfirstclass:
Clout chasing...

Nigga is probably smoking on weed as he typed those words "I ain't smoking no more"..
Next time, he will say..

" this is my last time "

Las las he will say
" if I die, I die, shebi something must kill a man"..

Believe me. I know what I'm saying..

It takes grace to get over an addiction..
And in other to be effectively over with any addiction, replace the habit with a new and interesting one..

Notice how they are all unmarried and under 30?

When you marry you'll realize that a friend of the opposite sex cannot be your best friend. Your spouse should.

How does eSport work?

Seniorwriter:
Anyways next year is the world cup year in Qatar and I'm planning to be there Live hence all my Online Earning means related to sport & e-sport earnings should see to that.

If you have access to Internet + browsing gadgets without earning a dime but just posting and chatting for nothing then you are not acting wise if you yet have financial freedom to enjoy your life!
There are thousands of ease2access online earning means anyone can plug into if you have any or all of the following:
# Online / Digital Skill(s).
# Product or Service that are needed.
# Capital.
# IT/ Tech Skills.
Do you know that you can convert your offline skills to online and start earning daily, weekly or monthly with the right mentorship and open mind no matter your age or location.

Reach out to the facebook Id on my profile's personal text if you want to secure your financial freedom by creating an online stream(s) of income means.

Proactivity Leads To Productivity!

@Seniorwriter

Nice! Following!

Bring two who will bring two.

All Ponzi!
Smart Contract is still Ponzi. The only difference is that no particular person is in charge. All na the same.

Before you argue answer the following:

1. Are you trading to make profits?

2. If no, how do people make 'profits' then?

3. What happens to those who can't bring in 2? Why is it compulsory to bring 2 if it isn't a Ponzi?

4. What will happen to those unfortunate '2s' who will join shortly before the system crashes or stops paying? Who refunds them eh?


Abeeeegi. You might as well create a WhatsApp group and run the Ponzi manually.

Is that you on your dp? You look strikingly familiar! Anyway, no need for slaps man. Abeg I don't want you to break my jaw

johnlegend01:
Please where can we meet? I feel like gifting you 999 wonderful slaps