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Is either you work hard to get what you want or you forgot about him and find another. I was like you, got hitched to an unambitious man, wasting my time supporting my man to get to his feet. I wasted money I didn't have for him to do courses which he never completed. I did none for myself. My silly thought was he will get a better job,probably a side biz and I can resign my yeye job like other women in my company then and do masters. You don't make that kind of plan for a man,the man makes it with you. Finally he shut me out for disturbing him. He later lost his job and we both crashed. Now I have a lot of regrets for not taking opportunities to groom myself. Babe your man is a good man but may not give you a good life. That's his DNA. Some people are not just cut out to achieve greatness. If you want a good life with him,go all out and be successful. However greatness can be thrust upon him. Miracles exists.

Just stay alive. Keep living,keep breathing.
Once there's life,there's hope.

Evil and wicked people. God punish all of you.

I thank God for your life. Good to have you back.

tunmiluabi My issue with your wife is cheating on you and not appreciating your little effort to provide. Giving you heat was necessary for you to sit up. Someone already said she's from SE/SS,i need the answer to debunk stereotypes. That said,the place of money cannot be neglected in marriage if you are a man strive to provide. If your wife has to chop shit because of you,she will feed you shit. Frustration can turn an Angel to devil. Hustle men do not allow a woman to feed you. To be a man is not easy.

Congratulations Sir. Full recovery for other members of your family

Good job. This is what Nigeria couldn't do. Cutting off the spread is the best way to deal with this virus. You can then drink chilled coke while watching others sweat it out.

It's a pity

I thought everybody has rejected the Bill Gates vaccine. Why should we care if China stole it. If they steal is it not them that will die again. What's our interest in vaccine ,what happened to Madagascar tonic? Is the vaccine not the anti Christ with 666 chip? Hia Chai See what conspiracy theories have caused.

China produced the Virus,now China wants to steal the vaccine. So they produced the Virus but did not have a medication to benefit from. What then is their motive? A lot of questions. The world is paranoid.

Ryocaj:
So u didn't know this b4 d pandemic

I knew vaccine is for prevention (primary school things) but i first heard the term therapeutics in a webminar I attended during this pandemic. And I learnt about procedure for drugs trials. I'm not medical inclined by the way.

OnyeOfenmanu:
No, its Ebadam

Onye obi akpo

mistacoco2:
yes

WOW. Thanks. I didn't know Owerri is this beautiful. You can never appreciate the beautiful of something you are too familiar with.

Maadoo:
Ok last one... back to work.

Is this Owerri?

I learnt the principles of drug trials during this pandemic. Drugs are tried for safety and efficacy before they can be approved. Trials are monitored and controlled. Patients involved in trials have to give consent. Trials are done for various categories of patients etc. So it's not because you are African but because your drug has to undergo trials. Nigeria and South Africa can collaborate with Madagascar and do the trials. We have the expertise. Only then can it be approved. About 100 drugs are undergoing trials world wide and Nobody is crying that theirs was not approved because of their Skin color or shape of their noses. Let's Follow the procedure. If it pass no one can stop the party. Nigerians have also made some herbal medicine,Ewu monastery and co. Let the trials begin.

Vaccine is for prevention,therapeutics is for cure. I have learnt a lot from this pandemic. Na money I no make from am. Well done OP.

Work - Something you do that pays the bills
Career- A professional expertise that you grow in
Calling- Your purpose on earth that gives you fulfilment.
Sometimes they are all interwoven. Balance work and family life,create time for personal life and for God. It's for both men and women.

More wisdom to all stakeholders providing solution to this deadly outbreak

maishai:
For everything we say, we should know that there are a million and one thing that could be implied..... God knows how much this man is suffering to protect a stupid ego, you need not say much but I can tell you that It is better being ridiculed as childless than being rediculed fathering another mans child in this society

In my culture those days,i know families whose first daughter has to stay back to bear sons for her father's name, wife marry wife,women coerced to sleep with other men to get pregnant, wife married for only son as a child when he knows nothing about erection and she has to produce children for his name,wife married for a dead son. Many of that has been abolished. However i can categorically say that most men do not prefer to be ridiculed by childlessness trust me. Do you want them to say you are not a man. That's why most people looking for the fruit of the womb blamed the woman but the man maybe the problem. It's never heard or discussed. Getting another man to do the do is mostly a top secret taken to the grave. The sperm donor has to be somebody that cannot trace you and you cannot trace. Not contact whatsoever. So who will even know to ridicule you. If not for a DNA test will this oga ever know?

Lol at ruining a marriage when you are already living with high BP. Fact check most Nigeria women are living with high BP because of their unhappy marriages. The marriage already ruin you,all you need is to survive and not die. I can relate with sacrificing, cutting your hair to avoid spending on hairdo,borrowing money from friends, siblings,pensioneer parents and even enemies just to survive. Mine is also about to ruin my business i wanted to open a thread on Nairaland about that but advise has been replace by insults here . A friend taught me not to carry husband matter for head and that what has been helping me. If you die you die for nothing. Its time to gather heart and live your fantasy in the movies. Mine is better that he shows appreciation sometimes and don't shout or quarrel talk-less of fight. He still hold on to God and his faith all the same. The frustration surface here and then. Poverty will frustrate your life. Can turn a sweet soul into a demon. Hope is not lost. All the best.

meetme01:
Not men. The society we live is the bane of these paternity fraud. Alot of men are sterile, they fail to accept. They put the blame on women who is handicapped but just have to find a way out. It's really sad how we stigmatize women who are yet to birth. Both parties are guilty.

Until we change our mindset and accept children are from God, paternity fraud has come to stay in our society.

For all the children not to be his then its clear that this man was sterile. To protect his ego wife has to go and get pregnant elsewhere to save his name and keep his lineage. This was very common in the 80s. Mother in law will even threaten her if she exposes her son to ridicule by telling the truth. Thus the man may not know.
These days most wives will not agree to that pact at least not without husbands consent. I have a friend with such experience. She walked out of the marriage when MIL proposed she get pregnant for another man for her son. May God bless families seeking for the fruit of the womb.

It was mad ooo. You can't even maintain social distancing. The pushing and shoving and rush no be here. God help us.

Rest in peace. May your family and loved ones be consoled.

Thank God. Congratulations welcome home

That death toll is unbelievable. I was following the model when they reviewed from 100,000 to 60,000 but unfortunately they have crossed 60. However they have fought and are still fighting. By Monday Remdesvir will be deployed and I pray things improve. I read about a couple that lost an 8th year old daughter they had after some years of marriage and my heart broke. May the dead rest and loved ones consoled.

knowhowk:
. Oga there is no Competition in this , which one have worked out of our own ,Just tell us ,It's not about any country who produces this or that abeg ,It's about what works faster .So leave all that Sentiments ,what does USA got to do with this ,Inferiority complex ,Must USA use it before we believe it's works ,Rubbish .Madagascar has not recorded any Death ,That is the real Deal ,What can save lives is what Matters Now .Abeg Health Minister bring in this Madagascar drug abeg

I thought we were having a discussion until I saw insult. Let me keep my Rubbish. Good day.

Three or Four Nigerians have offered their own herbal drugs instead of talking of Madagascar try use our own. If our own works is it not better than going to import from Madagascar. Whatever they have is still under trial. IS USA using Madagascar Drug? What the west is huzzling for is a standard treatment. So for now use whatever you can since there is no cure yet.

customizedme:
Dear,just go to a lab,tell them u want to do hormonal profile,they will tell u which day of ur cycle to come back.Try to check tomorrow so u don't miss this cycle.

Okay i will do just that. Thanks.

Bunny19:
. No matter the length of ur cycle hormonal profile is always done day3 and day21 for progesterone.

Okay,

Like today period arrived. 25days cycle. I don't even know which day to do hormonal profile. I know 28 days cycle is day 3'

Government assistance from 1999 till date even from OBJ and GEJ that wasn't from his region. Is that not a miracle. Now he's building the biggest refinery. I can't help but love Dangote. He has a good will he sustains. Many Nigerians does not have the character to sustain such good will.

Dezeani Madueke got Bayelsa slot. Just know that what you are complaining about is not unusual. In many states daughters are getting federal employment from their home state because husband state will not even consider them. Our Igbo people are the only ones doing otherwise leaving our people with no jobs. Hisses.

Check NCDC post it ends with#Take Responsibility. Government is washing off there hands even though they have not put in reasonable effort. All man for himself