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A lot of home coming queens here. Welcome mamas. My DD on top the malaria now have sore throat and that's what is causing the fever after all. She's now on new antibiotics. She cannot swallow and hates to take formula,so we are back to only breastfeeding at 9months. Is there anything I can do to ease her pain?

Had waited for long to make a change,it's time we start reporting and addressing this issues without waiting only for God judgement.

Liftedhands:
Have her do a blood work to know exactly what the problem is and start the right treatment asap. My son had fever some time back and I was doing home treatment with pcm and tepid bath only for us to find ourselves In the emergency ward late one night! Test confirmed a viral infection and he got better few days after the right medication started. Please do so before it escalates! Hugs to her.

Thanks dear. We did a blood test this morning and she had malaria ++. We've started treatment. Imagine we just treated malaria 2weeks ago.

Mama's please I need ur help. My baby is having high fever mostly at night. She's 9 months and teething. Doc said teething only cause low grade fever. Also she have moderate cough. We have treated malaria and now on the second antibiotic but the fever is stil there. Doc said she may be having throat infection. Please help with suggestions.

Praising God in all situations

Its well with him.

smartty68:
There's no need sharing the chores equally. The man gets to do the chores at will and not by force.

I agree. Nothing is as sweet as doing things from the heart. Even God loves a cheerful giver.

Man not normal

RIP to the dead. Blaming her wont solve any problem,she's now facing judgment.

To my dear TTC women,just hang in there. Where there is life,there's hope. May God wipe your tears soonest. You will conceive,carry and delivers your own babies according to your heart desires because the Lord said so.

TTC is a tough journey and this is a wake up call for us to Support all our TTC families. What they pass through is hell. Is it the money they spent oooooooooooooo. All IZ well

Bought white garri for 1000@Oil mill PH last Wed

Played

This country is gradually shutting down. Everyday we will be praying for it to get better but it never did.

Nice lovely pictures of kids around the world. This world is so deep

dragonking3:
Don't forget to add nepa bills, security bills, baby items and clothes, fuel for gen and car, garri, bread, beverages, cooking items and oil, washing items, water, school fees and books, parent upkeep, tithe, waste bill, health and miscellaneous.

Now add all these to the list you mentioned and do the maths.

Na so,his bill don high naaa. Na to cut them coat according to size.

Thats what we call trademark,Timi carry go.

You don know if that's his good luck charm

dragonking3:
If he gives the wife 50k salary, how much do you think he can save at the end of the month?

He earns 175k abi?

Make them sit down calculate,items;quantity price
Rice=
Beans=
Plantain=
Baby Food=
Call Card=
Transport=
Provision= etc
And arrive at a workable budget thats i said like 50k. He gives her at the end of the month and she go dey run the house chikina. Thats wat the bros did.

dragonking3:
The OP is not earning the same with that guy. The guy might be earning N1m, so it is a different game. What if the OP looses his job. What will the wife do then?

You too dey serious. Before nko i know. Every shoe get size. What i mean is he should work with the guy's experience chikena. in his own case he should give wifey say 50k and bone up. Even that 50k sef na somebody's salary.

Watching in 3D. Someone just killed a young boy,another persons child and future.

Intra:
Dear Op,
I don't usually post on this forum, but yours is an interesting scenario.
I am in a similar position and I'd like to share with you how I was able to handle the situation. While I earn significantly more than you and therefore what I make available to my wife is more than yours, the principles are the same so I believe this might be helpful.

I make available 125k available to my wife every month, then a further 80k for the home needs (we have just 2 kids ages 3yrs and 1yr) in addition to the housemaid's salary, DSTV, fuel etc. but despite this, I still get tagged ''irresponsible'' by her and by the 19th or thereabouts she is already on the war path asking for more funds. She is a lawyer but she doesn't work so I quite understand that she doesn't have an independent source of income (I assume the same is the case with yours too).

Initially, I used to get quite resentful especially when her folks start calling me to ask why I'm depriving her of money when I know she doesn't work.
I got tired of explaining that I fork out minimum 250k every month on so-called upkeep.
So how did I solve this problem.
I sat her down and asked her to let us work out a monthly budget for the house....including her own allowance.

We wrote down everything needed for the month and the cost. We argued robustly on this until we were able to agree at a fixed sum. Then I made it clear to her that no matter what happens, by the 28th of every month, I will transfer this sum to her account. Even if I have to beg, steal or borrow it. And on her own part, she has to administer that money judiciously because no matter what happens, one extra naira will not come before the next allowance is due.
I stopped interfering in what she buys for the house, when she buys it and all those details. My own is that there must be no lack in the house once I've fulfilled my own part of the agreement.

The first month was funny because she attempted to ask for more, but I was resolute. it was kinda tough but she got the message. So she learnt 'Home Economics' by force. Maybe it helped that I have health insurance that covered the whole family from the office and I don't have so many friends or family around me so there are really no unexpected expenses during the month.

So, OP...you might try this approach. Instead of burdening yourself with trying to run the home and being billed for expenses as they come, agree a total monthly budget with her, and make that available every month, consistently, without any excuse. I want to believe that if she sees that consistency in the amount and timing....she herself will work to fit in with your financial planning.

Cheers and best of luck.

Over 200kpm,thats good money for upkeep lol. skypeme experience just spoke to you.

This got me very angry. You have made it @ OP. Keep living but you need to enjoy your life. Make new friends.

I believe that one day,you will be vindicated. You need to do radical prayers for this wicked soul of a woman to be exposed.

When you were 6 ur sis was 3,so you are older with just 3years. Now that you don turn Grandpapa at 70,She don became Grandmama before you sef at 67. Meanwhile I'm just bored not sharp.

Catholic Study Bible

John 3:14-21

14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of man be lifted up,
15 that whoever believes in him may have eternal life."
16 For God so loved the world that he gave his only-begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
17 For God sent the Son into the world, not to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.
18 He who believes in him is not condemned; he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only-begotten Son of God.
19 And this is the judgment, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
20 For every one who does evil hates the light, and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.
21 But he who does what is true comes to the light, that it may be clearly seen that his deeds have been wrought in God.

I will remain with this sweet abuser.

Let her be adequately punish.

I can see some people crucifying the woman. It's important that she responded to the useless man for a while in case her husband come across the chat. If she didn't respond at all any third party may assume they took the chat to another platform or phone calls.

Cutie welcome to the world.

Children are gifts from God. That baby is precious Biko. My only concern is your job;pray for your employer to understand and if possible exceed your KPIs. Peace

luvmijeje:
God bless you ma. I now see that my mistake is generalising it.

God bless you too. Keep up the faith in Christ Jesus.

KINGMAKER001:
With all sincerity I think the governor of Benue state is as useless as the p psychology.... what happened to the oath he sworn to protect the lives and property of the good people of Benue state?why not take the necessary steps to checkmate and curb this menace....the other time after the military action that left some dead,he couldn't say anything rather than as the community to provide those that were involved....Such a weakling!

I use to think same of this man unto I heard him speak of this menace in Tiv Tor coronation. He talked extensively including on why we need to adopt modern ranching. No more free grazing. Even On TV I can feel his anger. I guess he's peaceful by nature and want to follow the rule of law. Benue needs a hot head as Governor.

luvmijeje:
You're also worth breaking my promises over. Agreed that everyone will faces temptation at one point or the other. James 2:26 says
26 For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.

Faith is believing in God but working out your faith is doing things that pleases God. As human being we should know our limit. We should know when to flee from sin.

I'll give you an instance, you know you always have the urge of taking things that's not of yours. As a born again Christian, You belong to a cooperative society and they are looking for someone to be holding the money, will you raise up your hands? Working out your faiths is you not raising up your hands.

As I said, I'm only addressing this to the people who know their God.

Yeh dear I understand what you mean. No all are strong enough to resist. Then in that case it's an individual thing. I for one knows my weakness and will flee from anything that will challenge me on that level.

Sinkills:
They are not exactly the same sir. In the case of sexual sin, you do not need to commit the actual act to be guilty (Matthew 5:27-30). There are professions that are dangerous to the spiritual and eternal welfare of a Christian and I think being a practising gynaecologist is one of them.

I'm not a Sir but a Ma. Thank you.

luvmijeje:
You've talk from experience. I'm going to share my experience with you all.

When I was 15, I went for breast examination. My doctor was a female. And she has a male doctor attach to her. I observed that anytime the female goes out, the other will start examining my breasts. He didn't jump on me. Then I felt something was wrong but I couldn't pinpoint it.

You are still missing the point. You're describing professionalism. You are still talking from the point of work ethics.

I'm talking from the point of spirituality. Just because I saw an unclad male doesn't mean I will have sex with him. It doesn't mean I will jump on him. But will I still think of it? That's where sins comes in. You're describing issues where I won't think about it because the body is going through treatment.

The question still is as a believer who know is God, will my heart not go into fornication if I see a body attractive enough?

I am not a doc but an engineer by profession. The doc you spoke about would have waited for his colleagues so something was wrong. He may be guilty or may just be an amateur. Temptation is not sin,Christ was tempted but he did not sin instead he rebuked the devil Matt 4. Every profession come with temptations. The power of the Holy Spirit is there to strength us to resist temptation. Avoiding occasions of sin does not mean not living. Should Christians not be doctors,lecturers,bankers,politicians,business men,lawyers,judges,Engineers,nurses,scientists,actors,musicians, even pastors because we want to avoid occasions of sin? Even in your room,without seeing any naked male/female you can have sexu..al urge. This urge is inbuilt in man,it was our Creator who put it there. Having it is not a sin,where sin comes is dwelling on it(not resisting) and carrying out the fornication.
As we grow spiritually and in maturity we have more power to resist even the most beautiful body. That's another reason why God kept the beautiful institution of marriage so that we will not be consumed by passion.