₦airaland Forum

onegig:
Why do you sound like someone from Nairaland's past?

It's good you have these long lists.

However, you know why we most times have challenges in today's marriages? It is because we take offence at the slightest things that doesn't go with our rule book.

When we were courting he never had a used singlet on, never wore the same dress twice agreed his mum would never stay with us for a single day, I can't cook fresh meals, she has to always look se.xy, his breath was always lovely and so on but now the opposite is the case...These little things that doesn't tally with our ideals amounts to bigger things that shreds up the marriage in the end.


You don't want a family that you would greet in english and they would take offence? I know it's an example but what if they consider greeting them in English that disrespectful? And it's not like they are being stoic and archaic but they just feel that way? What would you do? Stick to your guns or call it quits?

Truth is compromise goes a long way. Yeah, there are certain things that are truly not acceptable like a man cheating and so on but I can assure you, he would "bleeping" (i used the f word) go against many of those things you listed up there unconsciously and you would definitely do things he considers unacceptable. Humans aren't robots and even machines do fail. For me not to annoy or piss you off sometimes would be boring as hell in a marriage.

Do you have an heart to close your eyes to such minor things and learn to just forgive every second and move on ?

Wait , did i just read gym? Chai. Daily living in Nigeria is enough, i don't know how those who are a bit overweight manage it. And you want to add to those rigours?

But in all, a girl can dream and imagine. Wish you get all those qualities


As for reviving the thread. It is all good but peeps say we talked too much without taking actual steps to achieve all those noble ideas. I can assure you that less than 10% of all those who made "mouth" on this thread few years back are married( yeah we know it's destiny and God's time) but nonetheless if you bring them back today, they still have lots of excuses and their ever changing lists of qualities to give e.g. Mr busar up there



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Rashduct4luv:
Alhamdulillah, that Allah has placed the light of Islam in your heart and we hope you will continue to increase in this light in shaa Allah.

For your question on who to meet, you can contact the nearest mosque to you wherever they based their rulings on the Qur'an and authentic traditions of the Prophet Salallahu alayhi wasalam. You should make sound Muslims your best friends as our friends may influence us.

On how to break the news to your Parent, its clear they would find out sooner or later but you have to increase in your goodness to them. Islam emphasises being extremely good to our parents even if they are non-Muslims. The only time when we are permitted to disobey them is when they want us to go against Allah and His Prophet. And this disobedience must be done constructively not destructively.

You need to increase in your supplication for them. Allah would soften their heart.

Islam is about knowledge. You learn and learn.... So you need to have a place to learn the religion. May Allah guide you and all who walk in the path of Islam till the day of Resurrection. Aamin

brojoshua:
First he seems to be a comedian and secondly, each tribe has its own peculiar sins and crimes and even also each person. But I say that if the sin of a tribe and even a person is just one, then let the tribe repent from it and stop committing the sin and truly shame will also stop to be the portion of that tribe (or do not have shame?) and they will receive glory. So whether the person who pointed this out or his own tribe or the other tribes, let every wicked person or people or tribe turn away from the path of wickedness and evil unto the good path and then they shall be blessed

InvertedHammer:
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Oyibo knows how to play Africans like ludo.

Even in conflicts, they sell weapons to both sides and watch brothers decimate themselves while they smile to the bank.

The saddest part is that they can repeat this game cycle as many times as they like. Only in rare cases do they show face. USA, UK, Soviet Union, Algeria, Egypt, Syria and Bulgaria clandestinely beat the Biafrans black and blue to secure oil fields in Nigeria but openly presented Nigerian troops as winner. Everyone knew that it was the hands of Essau but the voice of Jacob. Left at their own expertise, Nigerian troops cannot even defeat Boko Haram. They again looked up to their masters who gave them the middle finger because there is no oil in the North and the masters now have oil in their backyards.

I give it to oyibo people. African leaders brains are like specimens in their labs. I hope they swapped those cars for bugs.


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numericalguy:
Borno people are just coconut heads.. Common sense is a not their Virture.
Where were they when the coconut head Ndume was making baseless accusations at other distinguished senators. You must have proof of anything you allege, otherwise you will pay for it.

My advice to those mumu coconut head demonstrating Borno people is to advice their mumu senator Ndume to always have facts before making allegations.

alizma:
why should we blame them? of all the monicas in the world, you choose free woman. and it is written in the book of wisdom that from the abundance of the heart "are things we hear from you".
wise words from Ebira, if you don't take your chicken to the market for sale, no one will come and ask you how much are you selling it.

mmsen:
Islam entrenches poverty.

Especially with the way it is practiced and the laws are enforced in the north.

These guys are sent to school as soon as possible. Meanwhile the girls of poor families are told that formal education is haram and that they should prepare for marriage at 13.

Truth234:
Dr. Okechukwu Enelamah is actually one of our finest brains. But I don't know what happened since he became the minister of industry, trade and investment he has not lived up to his own standard and was fingered in MTN $13 billion transfer. So I don't really know.

Truth234:
True but first our gov have to know their own strength and the team have to be global trades/economies rich.

sweerychick:
Lol, no wonder yesterday I saw two guys harassing an Indian here in Abuja, one of them slapped him and the other almost beat the hell outta the guy. The indian man was pleading with them for mercy

NovusHomo:
No, not him.

Jaydee009:
The Northern part of Nigeria was beautiful until Islam came and destroyed it.

The 1804 Uthman Dan Jihad that forced Islam down the throat of Northerners was similar to giving injecting someone with Ebola virus and promising that his life will be better. It was all lies and deceit.

It can never get better for a religion that teaches absolute hatred for non-Muslims to children as young as 3 years...

Anything Islam touches turns to rubble and dust. If you doubt check Afghanistan, Pakistan, Syria, Iraq, and obviously Northern Nigeria.

I do not pity the Northerners. They will continue to suffer for centuries for allowing Mohammed deceive then with his numerous lies and atrocities...

Those who choose to embrace darkness should not complain when they stumble, fall and break their leg.

madridguy:
Syrian, Libyan and Iraqi are mourning too day by day.

madridguy:
So since you know this why do you have to wait for me to kick start you? Park well jare