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this elosela or what you must be mindful of your words okay.if i sound like a first class Arrow,then you are a first class Arrow in the highest order.it takes a Arrow to know a Arrow.anyway let's not begin the year on this note okay girl
let's be good girls now.

am so sorry to know this is going on in my sweet country 9ja.just take it easy okay.i cant remember the last time i experienced darkness without turning out the lights myself.
it will be okay.just chill alright.seun has given a good suggestion.

all the best,may the GOOD LORD help our beloved home land

@ last poster

it's pure fiction now that's so funny.am glad to know that my darling husband is out of this world.
i dont have to convince you my dear,i did not put this story here to make you believe it or not.i had a little problem and i talked about it,i got suggestions,tried them out and got unbelieveable results, and you tell me it's fiction.i'm not jobless my dear,i have just gotmyself a good job,in addtion to the fact that i have two lovely kids,a home and a husband to take care of.so you may think i have the time you have on your hands to post fiction here.
you better be a good husband-just like mine if you are a guy or better yet, a wonderful wife like my humble self if you are a lady, and stop thinking everyone thinks up lies.

hello dear,i'm not a single mom,i'm married to the dad of my kids,but this post caught my attention.you cant bring up a child without the help of THE ALMIGHTY.you can do it by being on your knees at all times.even if you had a hubby,you will still need HIS help.do ur best for your precious baby,and leave the rest to HIM.



good luck

pls someone should kindly tell me what kind of inferiority complex this elo whatever is suffering fromis she okay. this is a sapele girl from what i can see.
my dear,it does not matter where you were born.when people want to trace your ancestors,they will never start from london or US.be proud of your homeland okay.if it's the uk i have been in for 4yrs you are talikng about,then it reminds me often times of my dear nigeria.
you be careful let me tell you o dont make me laugh at your small mind anymore like i've just done now. you are sooooo pathetic,i dont believe this-you scare me.

igbo kwenu!!!! rie nu!!!!! kwezuo nu ooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'm so proud to be from amaigbo,imo state.umu nne m n'umu nna m,ka afo a n'abia wuru afo anuri,anyi g'ahu ihe g'eme anyi kpoo isi n'ala si Chukwu i meela---n'aha onye nwe anyi, amen.

@ last poster

it does not matter if a lady is a virgin or not.the crucial thing is to get someone who is all you want.virginity should be the last factor in determining who a good wife would be. to answer your question,i do not go about asking my friends if they are virgins or not,so i do not know.
just pray you get a good wife like me .i'll keep you in my prayers.
as for the english teacher, i did not even dignify that post with a reply.the poster only suceeded in making a big fool of him/herself.some things are better left ignored.
if you have any problems-i mean whatever kind it is,you may think of opening up a little here.i had no one to run to,and i'm not one to go telling friends or relatives the goings on in my home.so i thought-these nairaland guys dont know me they dont see my face,so i'll share my thoughts with them.that was all i needed to do.there are good,kind and compassionate people here you know.i love you all.have a merry christmas and a happy new year.

as for acrobatics,it's not difficult.just do your best,be creative in whatever you do with your man.it does not have to be froma book or a movie.i cant be graphic here for the sake of decency.try out all kind s of positions,and you'll be amazed at the result.
your man will treat you like a princess when he knows you have never done 'it'.am not saying he'll treat you like trash if you have,but you'll see in his eyes that he really loves and respects you.marriage is a wonderful thing especially if you both love yourselves.you will derail a bit from time to time,but what makes you a good wife is ur ability to spot these things and correct them.i spotted mine a bit,but was so wrapped up in my feelings that i had planned a get away for a few weeks with my kids,but a problem shared is a problem solved.i shared with wonderfulpple on this forum and they gave wonderful tips.i gave it a shot, and believe me,i'm the better for it now.these guys like being treated like babies sha.i fed my husband last nite as someone suggested here.he was so happy,he kept looking at me.when he got to work today,he sent me a text saying he enjoyed every bit of the feeding.i'm learning new ways to put sparks into it.
as for problems-my dear, you'll get them-infact they may be too much to handle.but when you remember the love you share with this man,and with patience,you can get by them.there are rough times in marriage,but patience works wonders o!!!.i would have been in a mess now if i had not listened.there are really good pple here,who have alot of grey matter bw their ears.i'm not saying discuss ur family issues,but when you cry out,you'll never be letf without help.i've learnt that communication is a virtue.
good luck.

no vuitton it's not.cheating is very rampant,but i have not been a victim.if you cheat on your partner,you should also expect the same-that's karma like you rightly said.the lady who'll be true to you is there somewhere,just waiting for the right time to surface.you try and stop your cheating ways.it only brings heart breaks in its wake.there is no trust,and that is the basis of a relationship.so you be trustworthyand then everything will fall in place.
goodluck

yes of course,put alot of hot pepper,ginger,salt ,tomatoes,knorr cubes and some vegetable oil and it will be such a spicy xmas.any guys that go near will be seriously burnt in the turkey neck. .
wish you a spicy xmas dear.

What a great thing.
Though i'm not married but i think d prob with most relationships is that we don't discuss our grieviances with d person who has aggrieved us or we tend to discuss it in a wrong manner. If we take our time to discuss issues with our spouses, they are sensible and humane enough to reason with us and adjust. Aftreall, they were not animal when we started with them.
Wish everyone here that is married a very happy home.
Asking about us too? Well i wish those of us who are yet 2 marry a very very happy home too



you are so right there ceecee.if i had not discussed itwith him like you guys sugessted,i'd have taken off with my children by the xmas.talking is my weak point.i am not so good at opening heart or wearing my heart on my sleeve.so my husband knew this and took what i had to tell him seriously.i hardly have come across a situation where i had to call my hubby,sit him down and talk to him.i've done that just 2ce in four years of marriage.1st was when his mom was on my neck for not coming to them with my 3wk old baby,and the second time was when i thiought he was not as excited as i was when i discovered i was pregnant with our 1st child.i  just felt some horrible emotions and did  not bother to lay the cards on the table till nairalanders suggested it;and i was like okay,this is not my strong point,but i can try.and i did and the results were wonderful.he was here for break-my son was in school,daughther was asleep,so we did a bit of smooching-----and em---you know what . he hardly ever comes home for break.!!!!.

as for schevshenko,i was a real virgin when i met my husband.he deflowered me and i'm happy to have given him that gift.he did not know i was a virgin till the moment it happened.he could not believe it but the bleeding was the evidence.i was 20yrs old.a few months later,he proposed to me and the rest as they say is history.when you love ur wife,you love her to the end-virgin or not.now,i had my 2nd baby and it was a horrible experience for me.my husband was by my side all thru the ordeal and he cried with me,and saw all i went thru to give him his longed for baby girl who he will fashi all football matches for.it is only a wicked man who will be unkind to his wife after seeing all that.i can tell you with authority,that meant alot to him and this made us fall in love with each other more.that's why i was so hurt when i thot he was not paying attention to me anymore.during my baby's birth,i had a problem with my hip.it was too small as i'm a slim fellow.by the time they knew it it was already too late,so i had to continue.now 7mths after,the pain is still there.infact 2mths after the baby,i did not let my husband touch me.it was a real pain for me.so my dear,when you get married if you are not married yet,learn to be sensitive to your woman's feelings.

tell the person to tie it to a tree or better still let himtie it to a wheel barrow

pls what is liarer i cant understand this,seun you no just try at all sha.cant you do anything about such posts?. .shevschenko you are soo funny-a good one there.

siena how are you?i like you eventhough we have not met.you have alot inbetween youe ears.are you male or female?

okay poster back to you.so sorry for what u are passing through now.all girls are not like that,i can assure you.just be cool okay.in my candid opinion,pls get on with life and leave this girl alone okay.face ur books pass ur degree exams,you have a bright future.
on a lighter note-you get pepper sha o.a whole 3k.undergraduate like you.abeg fling some come my side you hear. good luck

thank you all so much.tonib you bet i wont relent.anyway,i'm also a nice fellow-a very wamr person. so pple like me deserve such a wonderful man.it's never so rosy for anyone.but when you put your heart to it,you get the best as a result.i now know never to neglect my man for my babies.i never knew i was doing that.my kids are quite young-3yrs and 7mth respectively.
thank you everybody-from seun to soundmind,tonib lola4eva etc.love you loads.
what's the next topiclet's gist.

this is the situation report you all i'm grinning so widely now.i'm so very grateful people.soundmind,seun and all.you will be richly blessed.

i spoke to my husband yesterday.put the kids in bed.and called him up for a 'little talk'.he was wondering what the problem was.i sat on his laps and poured out my heart to him.he was looking into my eyes all along.i told him as best as i could how i felt.first he hugged and kissed me,and said he felt a bit left out at some point,and thought the children were taking a toll on me,so he decided to give more time to myself.

my hubby is not one to say his mind at all times.you have to know him to know how he feels often times.but,honestly,this one slipped by me.i felt so bad inside and dropped some tears.he held me close and said he was sorry.he wants the children to know he loves them too and not just their mom.he went further to say that he tells me he loves me,but the kids wont understand that if he said it to them,so he thought action will spaek louder.

i confessed i had wanted to take some time off with the children.he begged me never to do that and that it was always better to talk things over.i then went on to ask why he was putting alot into his work.he said he had more responsibilities now.its not like i did not know that but somehow,it was really getting to me.we talked for over 2 hrs.i asked him the things i was doing wrong and if there was anything he missed in me.he was honest and said he missed our acrobatics in bed,but that he understands that it's because of the baby's birth.the doctor said it would get better with time anyway.i still try to satisfy him,but it gets quite painful if i try too hard. .i used to give him a pedicure,but that died off too.i'll make out time for that.cooking was still good from what he said.we are expatriates in this country,the company provides domestic staff.i still do his cooking despite the fact that i have a cook.he commended me for that.

he was so sorry i felt that way and promised to show more attention.he was just staring at me and then asked'what have i done to deserve you?'tears rolled down my cheeks.he said'i don't know what i'll do if i lost you'.i started crying like a baby-more out of shame than anithing else.he just carried me to the bed and you all know what followed. we had a bath together-he gave me a bath. i woke up to see a love note under my pillow.he's off to work now and has called me 6 times already.he didn't call me till break time before now.

thank you so much people.it really pays to talk things over.i have a really good husband-i must say,but often times we tend to derail.i never ever realised that i was giving so much time to the children.i do things for my kids myself,even though they have some one to do those things.i am so scared of people hurting them i don't know why.my husband pointed that out to me last night too.

anyway,i've learnt my lesson.i don't know what i'll do if i loose him too.my nighties are all out now-the ones i used to wear before i had my 2nd baby.so we'll 'dig it out' tonight-if you know what i mean.

thank you every one.i'll have just been in a big mess if i had taken time out as i threatened.learn from me,it pays to talk things over. i love you all-my good friends.

i have come to realise that nigerians are looked at in a funny way in most countries in africa.i've been to about 12 african countries and it's the same story.i met someone who thought we were a loud bunch,a few others think we like to show off alot.there are yet more who have a xenophobia.here,in ghana,it's a love hate relationship with nigerians.i know from experience that nigerians here are seen as superior.at the same time,they sometimes loathe nigerians for what they can achieve.i went to a wedding of a nigerian couple a few weeks bk.trust people,they were spraying naira,and dollars and even the new ghc.that was so alarming to the ghanians,and this sparked off a kind of katakata where i was sitting. the people felt 'unsafe' as someone put it,and was like'these nigerians have come here to show off again.let them go to their country and do that'.my question is-is that really who nigerians are?
in the market some days ago,a nigerian lady dealt with a ghanian orange seller in the market for insulting her.i heard them say'these nigerians any way they go it's trouble'.i'll like to know why this is so.in south africa,it's not a different story.
i hope someone can come up with some kind of explanation to this.i'd have gone on and on,but time will not permit.

goodbobo,who said it's not a problem? my dear poster,i'm sorry for your wife.this means that she will be pregnant every 9mths.pls look for a solution to it sharp sharp before or else the woman is in trouble.

oh my goodness am so happy and shocked at the same time.i joined this forum just on sunday and i'm getting all this support thank you everyone.these are really great things you have suggested,and i promise to try them all out starting from tonight. soundmind,thanks a bunch.i'll do all these and more.i know things will get better with all the advice i've received.
i have alot of friends in you guys am so so so happy.


thank you all.

seun,thank you soooooooooooooo much.okay,as for food and all that,it's good-at least to the best of my knowledge.he does not complain. as for the other one well,twas good till i had my baby.the birth was traumatic,and i had a little problem with my hip after that,so that has affected our'plays' a bit.the acrobatic has kind of reduced sha.but is that why?
thank you soooo much.i stroke his ego to the extent that he does not even listen anymore.na wa sha,but i thank you so much.the drama will be put on hold-or even cancelled.we'll talk tonight-when we can hear just ourselves,the babies are asleep,and it's just us.
be blessed

toks dam thanks a lot my dear, that set me thinking. if you are married,i wish you all the best,and if you are not----may the best man come your way.i'll try out all your tips too.it's not easy for me anyway,seeing him playing with the kids and all,but when i come along he's tired just how does that make a woman feel and to know that this guy was all over me bfore the kids came.-dont get me wrong,i love my kids alot.but some time should be spared for me too.he used to admire me alot-i'm quite pretty but that does not happen anymore,he stares in to his children's eyes,and all that.that should be for me.my 7mth old daughter,almost leaps out of my arms when she sees her daddy.he's a good man-honestly-he take's good care of the family and is alive to all his responsibilities, but i need more tlc than i'm getting.the looks into the children's eye's should be mine
toksdam you are my friend.thank you so much.

My Husband Won't Listen

how can i get my husband to listen to me?


as the days go by,i see that my darling hubby is more into his work than anything else.h plays with the kids,love them with all his heart, but hardly ever has time for me.we used to have saturday mornings to ourselves, but lately, that has been taken away from me too. He always says he needs time to himself. I'm going to threaten to go on a long break with the kids. That will probably awaken him.

He is a good dad and a good hubby too. He is alive to all his duties, but i really feel left out.

i dont get what's happening pls.what's all this for?who is a scammer?-dumb question moment.how do i post a thread.ijust joined yesterdaypls dont ignore this question.seun my dear brother,pls help.

o!!!!!!! wat a pity.this ben guy just met the wrong person.if it were a woman like me,that guy would have been on exile by now.i tell u ladies out there.no matter what,never let anyone treat you this way,once you have the slightest inkling that a guy can be this beastly,you just fashi him fast fast.and if you decide to put up with it like this lady has done for 20yrs then you can put up with it for life.

o my goodness.these guys will never stoplet's all contribute money and dash him to go and dash thse thieves at computer village.
sorry dear,once beaten twice shy.

okay,look out for calabar girls.i mean the real efik ones.i'm ibo but my husband is from there.i f u are not careful.you'll be in trouble.

na wa for some of us sha .this is just a sugar mama here.pls madam,dont spoil the little boy for his parents o.a whole over 10yrs your junior.am on my knees,leave the poor boy alone.haba.all who are encouraging this should line up for two strokes of my koboko.

please,i'm a nigerian cross bearer in ghana.i hope it's not against the law to post lectures of the message in such a forum.it does not sit too well with me.let us not begin to do things which we are not sure of here. okay everyone-pilgrim,hnd holder,nwakwo and all,be good guys okay,and enjoy the rest of your day.