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I am not a Doctor but I can assure you that the cramps are nothing at all. Most women always have cramps once in a while. some women had waists cramps, some others could be in their thighs. There are even the ones that there's could be pains in the breast or nipples and even changes in the areola. cramps aren't always associated with menstrual flows as some women experience them before, during and even immediately after ovulation. You don't need to nurse any fear as to whether or not she can get pregnant in the future because of the cramps. It is perfectly normal for a woman to have cramps.

you need to quickly go run some medical tests. There's no best time to go for tests than now. Don't live in fear or assumptions. I'd advice you don't confront the said lady. you should do the right thing now which is to go seek medical help. Nairaland isn't the best place to get medical help. you should go to a hospital right about now. stay strong my dear brother.

Assuming that to be truly his wedding card, didn't he proofread the writeup before the cards were printed? why would he give people his wedding card with so many misspellings? even if the person(s) that designed the card didn't know what and how to write, shouldn't he had gotten someone intelligent to go through the write-ups before distributing the cards to the whole World?

Sorry I meant to type "good" and not goof. Thank you very much. it was a typographical error.

You might wanna change your mind on the said lady. you are a goof man for even thinking of getting married to her haven known her supposed affairs both in past (your school days) and in the present (with the Pastor). yes you want to get married to her because of your daughter that you both have together, but do you think that singular reason can keep the marriage moving if you married her? She obviously doesn't want to let go of the Pastor and I kind of wonder why you can't read in between the lines. she sees herself doing you a favour by marrying you and not cos she loves you. My advice? look for a wife somewhere else and ensure you make close friends with her and your daughter. in my opinion, I don't see you and her having a faithful marriage. if your story is completely true, then let her be but support her in every way possible to raise that girl and give her the best education you can afford.

Money2000:
I have been keeping this situation within me for more months to unleash, but can't take it any longer.

I made my first million at 19, bought a car in university days, met lots of friends both male and female.
Most of my female colleagues want piece of my money, and always ready to sleep with me... (Well. I'm very and maybe too handsome for a man, as people usually compliment me.)

Fast forward to after school days, i stopped getting the attention i used to, from Ladies, so i ventured into masturbating.

I masturbate a lot because i am a sex addict...

My ex gf left me because i always make love to her twice daily, morning and night. She said she can't cope anymore!

I can masturbate like 3 times in a day, that is, any chance i get.

I became abstinent from sex, and kept masturbating alot to porn.

Just two weeks ago, i got a new GF, and we decided to have sex yesterday night... My d*ck refused to get erected.

She gave me a mouthjob, still same thing, no erection.
Now, she is saying she cant date an impotent, which really hurt me.
I love this girl so much i dont want to lose her.

I tried making love to her this morning, but no erection still. I ran to the bathroom, opened a porn site and started watching, gradually my d*ck erected...

I don't know what to do or maybe something is wrong. And i dont want to start taking all this viagra because i easily get addicted to things.

can we chat privately, please?

Excel70:
Yes i am on whatsapp

please I'd like for us to chat privately

Excel70:
Hello annford how can one recover from effects of masturbation after stopping it

can we chat privately? are you on WhatsApp?

Mcy56:
They are humans and deserved to be loved.
Just saying reality here. In order to reduce the rate at which they are born, couples, especially intending ones should choose wisely and medically.

Yeah, right! these things happen when we least expect them. Going for Medical tests before marriage is goof but sometimes, we could be blinded by love and then, boom! I once dated a Lady with Sickle Cell Anemia and I can tell you, they aren't as weak as people generally believe they are. I support your motion anyway but sometimes, love happens.

with all pleasure and honour. aren't they humans?

You need to always engage your mind. Think positive thoughts and carry out positive activities. Disadvantages of self-service are just too many. Some of them include but not limited to; Terrible weight loss, insufficient sleep, restlessness of the mind, constant headaches, disfiguring of the male organ, possibility of becoming infertile, mood swings, sexual aggression, looking older than one's age, premature ejaculation for a man or even unnecessary delayed ejaculation, constant need to ejaculate, anger issues and so much more. Masturbation isn't a thing anyone ( male or female) should engage in. Sex is a feeling'. feelings come and they go. you need to stop it now so you don't find yourself running to Doctors or Fertility Clinics when you're married cos that thing has rendered a lot of men incapable of fathering children.

yeah, yeah! just like Linda Ikeji " fell pregnant ".

That is not a dog but a fox. If this is true, I suggest the matter be properly looked into.

GrammarNazi1:
...WhatsApp...replies...end...

You forget ' advices'.

Chi59:
Sent it?

Yes, Ma'am.

Chi59:
It's OK. I sent you another mail. Same account.

yes I've seen and have replied it. I've done the needful. thank you.

[quote author=GadgetHunter post=76470991]real recognize real sir. No games !!!
Goodluck, not Jonathan [/quote

Hmm this is deep. I appreciate strongly.

Chi59:
I sent you a message at midnight. The mail address starts from "Ab****@gmail. com"

oh wow! my sincerest apology. I got the mail but never knew it came from you. I just replied it. I'm so sorry.

Chi59:
annford, do reply my pm
GadgetHunter, yeah

Chi59, please do not get mad at me. I've checked my mail and could find any message(s) from you. I'm worried but calm. I wrote out my number for you yesterday. I do not know if you ever saw it. I really need to speak with you.

GadgetHunter:
toast on baba.
Chi59 give this guy a chance, ain’t u seeing the logic, u guys should plan on a date girl, good luck

Lol man! easy, Sir. you just made me laugh so loud and hard. thanks man.

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

I tried several times but the cursor wouldn't get activated. well, I've put up my number so we can chat anytime you want.

[quote author=Chi59 post=76438829]Send me a PM[/quote

I'm so sorry but I really do not know how that works. but I don't mind displaying my number here in the open.....07011192588.

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

can I chat with you on WhatsApp, privately?

Chi59:
That's sad. Maybe there's another reason she didn't hint you on. Because as far as I know, it's extremely rare for AA and AS to have kids with sickle cell.
I don't think there's a possibility of AA and SS having kids with sickle cell.

Thing is, she lacked confidence in herself. I tried times without numbers to correct her mindset but she was held spellbound by it. I even had to get my family involved when she called it quits but hey, she said she didn't want to bring children into this world for them to 'suffer I'll health'. I had to throw in the towel when I noticed she wouldn't change her mind. I loved her so much but what do I know?

Chi59:
Thanks. Pardon my curiosity.
Why did she feel that you were risking your lives?

You're not being curious at all. well, she was always digging up stuffs online.....got misled and all. I'm AA while she's SS. we went to 3 different hospitals for tests and I always came out AA. she felt something might happen and then, boom! we'd have kids with SS. Stuffs like that don't bother me as long as the one I love is truly happy.

lying to someone just so they can stay, isn't a good thing. if you need to lie and dwell in lies so a guy would like you and stay with you, then there's a problem. I once fell in love with a lady who was SS but she left cos she felt we were risking our lives. my advice is that you tell the guy the truth and if he chooses to bounce, well, it's his loss and not yours. I would advice you be yourself and be in charge of your emotions. I wouldn't mind dating an SS lady again. peace.

seekingop:
Good evening house, please I need your honest opinion on this issue.

There's this guy who has been my friend for a long time. He asked me out recently. He has very good qualities.

The issue is, he lacks confidence whenever he's talking to me thereby making him boring.
I'm thinking of turning down his request because I can't imagine myself living a boring life or are there ways I can help him improve on that?

Thanks

it is perfectly normal for a guy to "have low self esteem" when he's with or even talking to the lady/woman he's in love with. The guy might even stutter, fidget and sweat profusely when around the woman he's into but give him some weeks after the relationship has begun and you'd be shocked how the Lion in him springs out. The way most ladies get shy and withdrawn around the guy they crush on or even a guy that's asking them out, is also the way some guys get all shy and "boring". if you like him and would want to go into a relationship with him, then waste no time at all for as you guys progress, you'd be amazed how bold and daring he is, naturally. Done properly, relationships can be exciting.

Ilamina:
Is it their way of releasing stress of life during se.x

The whole house used to vibrate when this my Ghanaian female housemate is screwing

Are you normal? you always troll one ethnic group or another. you should have a shrink and a psychiatrist check you out. your grammar is appalling too. you use ' used to' when referring to something that was happening but no longer happens. How could you use 'used to' and is in the same sentence? Ilamina, stop asking stupid questions about tribes and tongues and just go get a life.

Earthbound:
Delay is not deny.



Finish school, she no gree. See the result.

Never LOOSE hope. O God! must everyone type in English?

Adekunle550:
Hello everyone, I'm 19 years old.
I made a post few weeks back about dating my brother's ex; well if you didn't follow, let me explain the post: I met this girl at our shop, not too perfect but I fell in love with her.. I loved her so much but I found out from her that she was my brother's ex.
I brought the matter to nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/4910024/im-love-brothers-ex and I didn't get a positive reply from anyone. They were all saying I should not go ahead with the relationship and that I should not do anything that will affect brotherhood.
On new year's day, I found courage, with tears in my eyes, I told her that I can't continue with the relationship anymore. Behold nairalanders, she told me that she's ready to take my brother back and that she'll behave well to win his heart and make up for marriage. She was saying this with tears in her eyes and also saying she loved me more than life. I felt so bad at the moment but she came back begging me to forgive her.
I told her that I cannot let love ruin family.
I'm feeling really bad guys, I can't even speak with anyone at the moment. The thought of suicide came but I told myself, if I wanted family over love, I should be alive to witness my family's happiness.
Please everyone I'll need your advice on what to do next and please don't criticise anyone, I understand their decisions.

what's with Nigerians and suicide these days? has it become the norm and latest trend? are we now to start celebrating and tolerating suicide? has suicide proven to be the best option and way of escape? my Bro, nothing in this World is worth dying for - not the fame, not the wealth, not the impressive lifestyle, not men or women- nothing at all is worth dying for. you want to kill yourself over a woman? have you really thought about your family and the unnecessary mourning you want to throw them into? I've been through a lot in life and have always won! why? you might wanna ask, well, I've got this self- confidence that I won every battle even before they came. see every challenge as a walkover and shrug off negativism be it thoughts, actions, people, words or environment. I'd say that again,, reject any form of negativism. stay blessed, my Bro.

gift2xl:
HMM I WANT TO RELOCATE NO RICH DUDE DAUGHTER AROUND MY AREA. D IC I HAVE ARE GIFT BUY ME RECHARGE CARD, GIFT MY BIRTHDAY IS 2MORO, BUY ME SOMETHING CHARMING, EH GIFT TAKE ME TO THE CINIMA, EH GIFT PLS LET ME JOIN U, DROP ME AT THAT JUNCTION. DUDE I DON MACIATE

LOL, Bro.....why are you complaining? is your name not gift anymore? keep gifting them gifts......the year just just begun and they need "gifts".... Goodluck with that, Bro!