₦airaland Forum

qualityGod:
Through my window I saw this pretty creature waiting for prey but I just took a shot ,life if indeed beautiful

Please Stop animal cruelty.

You deserve a big hug! enough of the Animal cruelty we see everyday. Animal cruelty is sickening.

Mires:
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Have you seen them healed? Lame walking, blind seeing, etc

I visited the Church in Kubwa, Abuja with my Wife cos we wanted to see the Pastor. We were visited on a Sunday, only to be told that if we must see the Pastor, we must check into the Church-owned Hotel on a Friday and the man of God would see us on Monday morning in our Hotel room. That sounded weird and fishy. We asked how much that would cost and we were told it was 250k. 200k for the Hotel room and feeding and then 50k for the pool of Bethesda. 250k to see Pastor? we had to bounce. No be Life and Death matter. I don't know if anyone has ever gotten their healing there.

eni4real:
They are doing VIP too?? Like AY show?? Ayiii

I'm telling you the truth.

newsynews:
A Twitter user has revealed that a Church in Abuja which has a miracle swimming pool charges people N50k before they can have a swim in it.

Read below.

https://wotzup.ng/church-in-abuja-where-pastor-charges-n50k-to-swim-in-miracle-swimming-pool/

Kelvin Odanz @MrOdanz


https://mobile.twitter.com/MrOdanz/status/1192358481661169665

It just doesn't stop there. The Church would have you lodge In their hotel on a Friday so you could see the Pastor on Sunday evening, one on one in your hotel room and the hotel is owned by that Church. The "complete package" amount in N250k. 200k for you to have a one on one meeting with the Pastor and 50k for you to be allowed to step Into the pool. The influx of people there is so mind-blowing.

Trybes:
He seems to be devoid of knowledge. What right has he to abort pregnancy. People like this ought to be arrested. Regarding the second pregnancy make sure you don't touch that child. Go celibate or compel yourselves to start using condoms.

I feel so mad at the guy. One can only imagine what his Wife goes through.

MzTunechi:
you can refer your Uncle and his wife to "thepeoplesdoctor" on instagram if they won't mind. You can also check out her page before referring them. I believe they will celebrate soon. All the best

Thank you very much. I checked it out myself and was quite impressed. I have told my Uncle about it and I await his response. Thank you so much.

gabazin080:
My wife and I don't like condom and we are both very sexually active. to avoid stories that touch we did family planning but it failed in May and my twin girls are just a year old then, so we decided that we can't keep the pregnancy.

After clearing that mess she went back to the hospital to complain and was given another injection and some drugs that she should come back for the injection every 6 months.

Now she is pregnant again after just 4 months. family planning has failed again, what can we do to prevent another pregnancy because we are not going to keep this also and we planned not to have kids again till maybe after 10 years.


Please help with any local or natural method of family planning.

You both are married and young and you keep aborting your babies? It isn't like it is health-related. You asked for our advice and our advice you'd get; keep your. hands off of each other. Go celibate for ten years, get back together and then have another baby. I have an Uncle who's been married since 1998. He and his Wife have been working hard to get pregnant all to no avail and there you are with your WIFE not your girlfriend but WIFE, busy aborting pregnancies. Really, it is different strokes for different folks.

This man is a Globetrotter. He only wants to make sure he travels the World in his lifetime and here's the opportunity to achieve his lifelong dream.

Palace32:
Hello fellow Nairalanders.

I have a very strong issue bothering my mind, there is this lady I'm in love with, the love is very mutual as she is also madly in love with me too. She's everything I want in a woman and I am planning on getting married and settling down with her next year.

The issue is that, I am Igbo but my girlfriend Yoruba. Personally, I have no issue with that, she doesn't too but my parent does. This past week, mum overheard me speaking to her on the phone in Yoruba language and with the way I sounded over the phone, she knew we were dating. Immediately I ended the call with my girlfriend, my mum asked if that was my gf I just finished speaking yoruba to on the phone, I nodded in affirmation, mum said it's over her dead body will I marry a Yoruba girl, she was warning me when my Dad entered, my Dad being a Pastor, I thought he would reason with me and see reason from my perspective, but instead, he supported my mother.

They both gave me reasons why the idea of me marrying my Yoruba gf is dead on arrival. One of it is how my gf will cope anytime we travel to our home town and she's invited to the Igbo women meetings, will she be hired an interpreter to interprete bits by bits whatsoever they are saying? Or will she forced them to speak English instead of the official igbo language being spoken at meeting?

Another reason they both gave me is that, no one in our lineage has married to anyone who is not igbo, both from my Paternal or Maternal side and I won't be the first. My Dad once said that if eventually I marry my Yoruba gf, I will forget my roots, I won't be coming home regularly and with time, she will force me not to come home at all.. and so on and so forth.

It's so glaring that my parent are TRIBALISTIC. There is no two ways about it.

I really love this girl, she's very decent. Her mum is aware we are dating and it seems there won't be any problem or issue from my gf's family side. I really want to marry her as she's my ideal type of woman, however, leaving her can be mentally and emotionally damaging to us.

How do I cope with my tribalistic parent? How do I convince them that my love for her knows no boundaries, tribe or race? Is there anything my parent are seeing that is still blind to me?

I'm in dire need for mature minded advice.

Thanks in anticipation

Baba, if you love the said Lady, then go ahead and marry her. Your parents aren't the ones marrying the Lady so do not let parental influence stand in your way. I am Igbo and my Wife is from Edo State. My Wife doesn't really understand the Igbo Language so I have to interpret to her whenever the need arises. My Wife is fluent in the Yoruba Language, while I'm not, so she interprets to me when the need arises. My Wife attends no Village meetings and that because I have no connection with my roots. Do not let anyone stand in the way of your happiness in life. Cheers.

9jaBloke:




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Seun please can you do something about these grammatical errors? The grammar on FP was near perfect when you were still very involved. I know that no one is above mistake but it's becoming too frequent.

"In a cold hands"..."Below IS SOME of the reactions"

Akinbahm:
Bro, I concur with u here because they r weird in nature thus it takes a real gee to denote them that's why I advised ops not to ask her out yet but to take things gently/slowly with her to know each other stand...

Well, the "weird in nature" part, I do not know about but in all, it rests with the guy to what his heart asks him to do. I've a friend with a similar case.

Akinbahm:
Going with the business orientation u brought in how long do u wait for a commodity with a lesser profit to a good commodity with a higher profit. Going philosophical with u a woman with high value knows what she want in a man thus such woman access the man right on the first date then conclude whether to give him a try or not pending on scale d said guy weighed, likewise a guy with high value knows what she want from a girl which compelled him to start running towards her and to be patient with her...

Women are slower and more careful than Men when it comes to decision-making. Women are usually quick in making decisions when it comes to looks and fashion but slower in other areas. A Woman might see a man and likes his qualities and might even give him signs of interest but she still would want the man to make the move and she does the running. Bro, when a Woman is interested in a Man, she usually either starts seducing him or she gifts him items that shows she's interested in him. Even if a Woman sees a Man as having the qualities she desires her Man to have, She, in most cases would expect the man to chase after her. Woman are wired that way.

Akinbahm:
Going with the business orientation u brought in how long do u wait for a commodity with a lesser profit to a good commodity with a higher profit. Going philosophical with u howv

First of all, I never get interested in anything that isn't worth my time nor would better my life. Second, I always knew what I wanted In a Woman when I was still in the "dating game". Third, my aim of asking any Lady out was never to " bed" her. There's more to life than sex. When I was much younger, I was strongly attracted to beauty but as I grew older, I began to understand that beauty is good but character is better. The woman in my story is my Wife. I was patient with her the whole time because I knew she was the only one to complete me. I had other Women who were throwing themselves at me but I just stuck to what I wanted. I'm a happy with what I got? 100% emphatic!

Akinbahm:
Don't u think guys deserve some accolades for asking girls out, guy it's not just easy to carry courage go woo a lady and then she tries acting stupidly with one yanga shakara guy aren't u tired of running after a chick for months Its weird... Brotherly some even term it as I don't want to be seen cheap, what I count as cheap is a girl jumping from a dick for a dick and absolutely to a dick as a pure cheap....

"Most" good women aren't easy to get. I never got tired of chasing after her and wooing her cos I already knew what stuff she was made of and what I wanted in a woman. I am a businessman and if you're into business, you'd know that there are deals or sales take time and patience to get through. You don't expect a Woman to immediately say yes to daring you. Do you say yes to all the requests made to you? Bro, a woman who knows her worth would want you to know and understand that she places a high value on herself. Women aren't "Properties" that we can acquire easily. Women are meant to be loved, respected, nurtured and encouraged.

Akinbahm:
The moment u woo a lady she turns d table around even if she loves u initially...

You don't expect a Lady to immediately agree to dating you even if she was already madly in love with you. Mine did "Shakara" for 5 weeks and 3 days before saying yes to me. It is the nature of Women to do "shakara" before agreeing to date a man. Women want to be sure the man isn't being led by his feelings or her body or even her money. The two are already good friends and it should be easy for him to make his intentions known to her.

enesi009:
d greatest mistake u do is to ask her out.. Just start acting like d boyfriend... Neva u ask her out and make her invest in u by making luv to her dats d greatest investment ment to own her

He should just "start acting" like the "boyfriend"? Hmmm I've a problem with that. A couple of years ago, a girl " assumed" she and I were dating. This girl went about telling everyone she and I were a pair. I never knew I was in a "relationship" with her until the day she asked why I was making things difficult and making our "relationship" not to work. I never gave her any green lights nor at any point hinted her in her. We were just neighbours. She later confessed to being in love with me but felt it was awkward asking me out since it was supposed to be the other way round. My point is that the man should man up and ask the said Lady out. It is either a yes or a no.

KingErnesto:
Hmm... I feel like i would be on the hot seat that day. I'll try.

No need to fret or fidget. That day must come. If you are serious about making her your babe, then waste no time doing that. But be sure you aren't being led by your emotions and not reasoning. Be the best man she'd ever have!

Ask her out already or watch some other guy take her away from you. Every request in life has a "yes" or "no" answer. The devil wouldn't repent if she said "yes", neither would it snow in Nigeria if she said " no". My take on this? Go ahead and make your feelings for her known to her and then see how it goes.

Sunnyshinylight:
Sometimes you will never know you are the one to apologize to your lovely wife until the time is gone and you will be judged as you represented love in your family. You are the model in your home pastor Chris!


Heaven is in your home. Show the world how God Almighty has loved you. That's marriage.


If you can't. Keep quiet pastor Chris.

Why don't you shut your mouth and mind your business. If your parents are still together, do you think it is by their power or might? What business do you have judging other people? Are you married? What do you know about marriage? You must be delusional to start discussing someone's marriage online. You always right as though you're a Christian. My advice to you is be careful what you say and write about Men of God. Do not bring God's judgement upon yourself, home and generation. If you know nothing about someone, just keep your mouth shut and mind your business. How often do you pray for people who are going through challenges? You just come online and start typing rubbish just because of "likes" and "comments".

supercase1:
Yes sir........ I am madly in love with this lady even if it to help me break central bank.....I no send oo!!!infact I fit jump into river Zambezi because of this woman

And her asking you to buy her a phone you cannot afford at the moment is her own unique way of expressing love, right? I hope your relationship lasts and you don't end up regretting your naivety if/when you guys breakup. I hope you've bought same exact phone or an even more expensive one(s) for your Earthly Mother. Don't go doing stuffs you'd end up regretting just because of a relationship that you aren't even sure would lead to marriage. Can she do same for you? Do you have a car? Why not ask her to buy you a car as a proof of her love for you. Doesn't one good turn deserve another anymore?

supercase1:
Dear nairalanders,my girlfriend says that for me to prove just love for her,I should get help an iPhone 11,I don't have such huge amount to purchase this gadget for her and I really love her.pls what do you advice or how can u be of help me.your assistance would be highly valued by me and God would see u all the point of your needs
Thank you!!!.....

Assuming what you wrote up there up there is true, just assuming, do you now expect that monies be contributed in your favour so you could buy an iPhone 11 for your girlfriend? Are you using iPhone 11 yourself? What investments have you made for yourself? How much do you have in your savings? You're asking that monies be contributed so you can buy an iPhone 11 for your girlfriend. After the iPhone 11 has been bought, what next? We then contribute for a Ferrari and then a trip to Dubai and after that we then contribute so you can buy her a Yacht and then a private jet. Bro, date women you can easily afford to take care of. Don't make dating change your name to "Anayo" ( Let's continue begging).

They should swap shirts cos she should be his "ROCK" while he, her "Peace"

carlyfrank68:
[color=#000000][/color]Op, please help me bring this to the front page as I urgently need guidiance.
I've grown to love this girl so tenderly till of recent I noticed a particular comment that always pops up on all her posts on Facebook as ASAM(my beauty), at first, I took it as nothing. But as time went on, I noticed it was becoming more consistent, then I had to take a closer look at the username, though at first, I found nothing that serious, but after a deeper background check, I found out he was a priest. this got me bothered cos I've heard of so many cases of Catholic priests sleeping with young girls. I called her attention to it and she denied it, saying he was just a family friend. I trusted her and we moved on.
Travelled down to the east for an event, called my girlfriend to meet me up in owerri town so that we could go to somewhere since she was schooling in one of the university in Imo state, she agreed, and told me to wait for her by ten, which I agreed upon cos I didn't travel with my car and then, I would have enough time to dress and get to town before the agreed time. But to my greatest surprise, the same lady that told me she was in her room in school was dropped off at the junction by that same priest whom she claimed was just a family friend. I couldn't believe it. I walked up to her in the cab she boarded and was waiting for take off. She couldn't believe it. I wanted to end it there for lieing to me, but on a second thought, she was already crying on the main road. I forgave her, we checked into a hotel, she wanted to break her sim card, I stopped her, she promised never to go back to her old ways of telling me lies.
A day to the day I was supposed to go back to Lagos,she pleaded she wanted us to stay together which I didn't object to, we checked into a hotel in town, it was fun, she told me that night that she wanted to go to aba to see her aunt, little did I know she went straight down to the priests house and spent 6 good days. All the while she was with the priest, she claimed she had no data and hardly picked my calls. This made me pry into her Facebook account after she had left the priests house, lo and behold, the chats I saw between them got me shedding tears. I could not believe it. She even sent him nudes. I confronted her, and she accepted it and cried and pleaded for a second chance, she went online, blocked him on Facebook, and changed her sim card. And has since then been begging for me to forgive, I have forgiven as a human being. But the problem I'm facing now is this, I can't seem to forget it and I'm finding very hard to trust her again. Please house, advice me, what do I do?

She sent her nude pictures to the Priest. If/when God makes you a billionaire in the future, can you stand your wife's nude pictures flying around the internet without harbouring hatred for her? If you can answer that question, then you know what exactly to do. A woman who doesn't even feel bad sleeping with a Priest and who obviously has no shame and doesn't think of her future, marriage and kids if/when they see those pictures or learn of her wayward ways shouldn't be a part of you.

The love Infiniti vehicles have for gearbox and fuel pump problems, even the best courts cannot separate them. Infiniti and their unending wahala. FX35 and Murano, as beautiful as they both look almost wrecked my account.

Rajman45:
Thanks a lot.... But am still seriously hoping for a better solution to it

Only God has the solution to it.

Please my dear brother, do not go ahead and marry her. You wouldn't want to watch your child(ren) live in perpetual pain and have frequent visits to Doctors, would you? It is painful leaving someone you love but it is necessary you do so for the sake of your unborn children. No matter how strong your love for each other might be, there wouldn't be joy in your home because of the ill-health of your kids. My 2 cents.

MarjieJ98354:
I would like to commend you on not hating women after what you have been through in your life.

I too was raped as a child by a close family member. Although there are many many reasons whey I became a feminist, childhood rape is the most devastating thing a person has to go through. I'm convinced that many feminists, MGTOWs and many people claiming homosexuality have been created because of childhood rape and other abuse traumas.

At times you don't even know why you practice certain behaviors until you experience a PTSD flashback. Or you wake up 30 years later still thinking you're 16; only to realized you have NOTHING/No One in your life. At that point it's almost too late to hope for something better.

Abuse isn't something that should be taken loosely. Many People go through one abuse or the other and come out with so much pain, hate, rebellion and evil intentions. I was broken, messed up and withdrawn but I carefully chose to let go of all pains and hate I had developed over the years. I've spoken with some feminists and I've discovered that a whole lot of them had had very terrible experiences with men. We choose our paths in life. My heart goes out to you at such a time as this and pray you get your complete healing and forgive your offender cos let's be frank, it is never easy to heal when raped nor forgive one's rapist.

orble:
Read very well, that's not what the young man is saying.

There is no way you'll understand except your are a man whose ancestry was from an indigent background, there you understand female on male oppression is worse.

The worse thing I wish the worst enemies

My dear brother, I understood perfectly well what he wrote and I also understand and respect your view and his too but I'd like for you to understand and appreciate the fact that that we cannot live without women. I know some women are bad just like some of their male counterparts but their are tons of very wonderful women out there. As a young boy, I was repeatedly raped by four different girls for 7 years. The first rape experience I had was when I was 4! A lot of people who experienced what I experienced ended up hating women and turning to homosexuality and some even decided to take revenge on women but I chose still, to love, respect and honour women. I've met very terrible women just as I've met very nice women.

orble:
Lucky you... my own mother is hell on earth to say the least. She make the other young women in life to be regardless of me... But I'm fine with that.

If you don't mind, I'd like to have your phone number. I'd like to be friends with you.

bigpriik:
The fact that you couldn't even remember her name means she did nothing...

My brother, have read about Queen Amina of Zaria and how that she led men to war and conquered territories? Have you read about Mrs. Margaret Thatcher (Iron Lady)? Have you read about Mary Slessor and how that she singlehandedly stopped the killing of twins in Nigeria? Who was the first Nurse in the World? The first Nurse in the World, Florence Nightingale, a woman, nursed wounded soldiers and gave hope hope to dying soldiers. We celebrate America today. Read about the American Presidents and the roles their wives played/play in their lives and governance. My mother, (God rest her soul), singlehandedly raised five children with her stipends as a government primary school Teacher! My mom trained all her kids to Masters Degree Level without any help from my Dad or anyone for that matter. I have a wife who sacrificed all for me for five years. I was in a very bad financial state when I met my Wife and she nursed, encouraged, prayed, gave, supported and help build me to who I am today. You need to know one thing- Women aren't "additions" to men. Women are more powerful than you know. Read your Bible. Deborah was a woman and the only person in the history of the World who the sun, time, moon and stars stood still for until she won her battle while in the battlefield. I have never dated a nonentity. You should take time to choose who you date. Just because you have probably been having bad experiences with some women doesn't mean we all have. I miss my late Mother everyday and God consoled me by giving me a Wife who has same traits and character as my late mum. I will respect and always respect women. You were given birth to by a woman, doesn't she deserve accolades? My dear brother, I'd encourage you to change your view and position on the issue of women.

bigpriik:
The society has brainwashed us the men into treating women like queens and babies while they treat us men like trash even though they depend on us for survival.I usually shake my head when I hear people say respect women,respect women my foot! you respect people who do not mind embarrassing you in public,people who add to your depression by calling you broke when you refuse to give in to their financial demands,people who cannot assist you financially in general people who do not care about your emotions people who do not mind disgracing or embarrassing you in public wat the f*****

I was really ashamed of my self yesterday when my friend ask me how much my babe has contributed to my life men absolutely nothing just sex time wasting.

In summary we men deserve whatever women throw to us while they deserve to the pampered
I keep saying women should be treated like adult human beings not like babies ...Ask yourself this question and be truthful do women respect men?why are you afraid of approaching a girl down the street?its because you fear being embarrassed by her which is very likely to human I have seen a guy being slapped just because he said hello to a lady,imagine if it was vice versa will the guy slap the lady answer that ,when a woman dumps a man nobody will question her rather they will blame the man but if a man dumps a lady they will call him playboy,they say he he used her to satisfy his sexual urge..bla bla bla...,if you embarrass a lady in public for stalking you,everybody will come for your throat both male and female but if its a lady they will all laugh inside life

sometimes I just think women are more of a punishment from nature than a helper I wish the world was all male with no penizz,I wish we could just reproduce like amoeva without sex
call me a misogynist I don't give a hoot.

swallows the red pill......

My brother, if you think women don't deserve our 100% respect, then it is a shame! you talked about women not going to war, have you extensively studied and read about Florence Nightingale? Florence Nightingale was the first Nurse in the World! (male and female) Have you read about Queen Amina of Zaria and how she led men to war and conquered? Have you read about the landslide achievements of Mrs. Margaret Thatcher? Have you read about Mary Slessor and how she stopped the killing of twins in Nigeria? Name one great man you know who wasn't given birth to by a woman, I dare you! That your girlfriends haven't been contributing to your growth and development doesn't me it is the same experience we have. I have never dated a woman who never made one contribution or the other for me to get where I am today. I had a great mother who singlehandedly trained all her five children and other people's kids in the face of poverty and penury (God rest my mum's soul). If you want to have a great marriage, you must learn to love, honour, cherish, respect and adore your wife. A woman doesn't have to be decent in character or appearance before she earns your respect. For God's sake, you were given birth to by a woman. Respecting women doesn't make you weak or foolish. PS My wife is the best thing that has ever happens to me. My wife's help, advice, prayers, love, encouragement, money and sacrifices help bring us to where we are today. I lobe my wife more than anything in this world (including myself)!