₦airaland Forum

Nukilia:
MDAs and parastatals are truly the engine room of corruption in this nation. Guess what, the citizens will pay for their corruption one way or the other

You just told the truth as it is! Can you imagine the level of corruption going on unchecked in this Country? Between January 2019 and October 2019, well over N300,000,000,000 (Three Hundred Billion Naira) unaccounted for. Yet they act like we owe them a "Thank You".

Stalwert:
Erase it so that all the debtors will escape repaying their loans? No find something else to say.

If you knew the level of corruption in that Agency, you would think differently. Are you aware of the corruption that has domiciled and even given birth at most of the Ministries, Departments, Agencies and Parastatals? This is a public forum so I'd hold my horses.

Jokers. AMCON is another Agency that needs to be scrutinized or even completely erased.

dannyla:
Thanks and I'm sorry about your mum

Thank you so much. Please make your choice and take your stand. Domestic violence is not a hoax or a joke.

CAPSLOCKED:
TO BE HONEST THESE GUYS ARE THE MOST USELESSLY CLUELESS ENTITIES ON THIS EARTH.

IF YOU ASK ME, THESE NIGERIAN KINGS ARE VERY IRRELEVANT. ALL OF THEM FROM THE SULTAN IN THE NORTH TO THE OBA IN THE SOUTH ARE ALL USELESS.

WHAT ARE THEIR CONTRIBUTIONS TO THIS COUNTRY APART FROM MARRYING MULTIPLE WIVES AND SUPPORTING EVERY GOVERNMENT ADMINISTRATION AS LONG AS IT PAYS THEM WELL, IRRESPECTIVE OF HOW THE CITIZENS OF THIS COUNTRY ARE TREATED BY THE GOVERNMENT?

YET, POOR AND STRUGGLING NIGERIAN YOUTHS PRAISE THEM AND KILL AND DIE FOR THEM THE SAME WAY THEY DO FOR OUR USELESS POLITICIANS.

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You deserve a Presidential Honour. For once, let the truth come to the front burner.

Ecne:
I really wish both of you are dating now... you're a Star Bro.
Wish you well

Bro, it didn't work between us as she was defiant. I begged but she wouldn't give in so I had to let go. I'm happily married to the love of my life and so blessed to have her in my life.

funmisticqueen:
odor free is a big stretch especially because some men don't know basic peri-anal hygiene, they don't wash after peeing, especially the non muslin ones and don't wipe their asses properly. Also vaginal secretions whether normal or not have a slight odor.

i will still say that urology and O&G are my worst postings

the truth is that many men actually don't know how to do the do, that's why we have lesbians. Women craving sex? is that the lie you tell yourself nowadays?

When it comes to the issue of hygiene, it is a two-way thing. I've met women who are hygiene- conscious just I've met women who some street mad people are cleaner than. There are men who couldn't care less about their hygiene as they even let drops of the urine touch their boxers as is with some women too who don't clean up after peeing and they be reeking of pee stench. Now about females and sex, there are women love sex more than the very air they breathe. A woman towing the path of lesbianism and blaming it on men not being able to satisfy her or not knowing how to do the do is a big joke. I once asked a lady out some 8 years ago and she said she was a full-blown lesbian. I asked her why she took to lesbianism and she said men had broken her heart beyond repairs but that females were better lovers. I laughed at her ignorance and naivety. If I in particular had reacted to rejections from women, heartbreaks, lies, et al from women, Bobrisky and Elton John would have been my protégés. Hygiene is for all as good sex is everyone's right. I know of some ladies that are very lazy in bed why just drop like logs of wood and expect the man to explore and satisfy them in bed.

funmisticqueen:
but the male organ is trully irritating to look at.

just imagine that nonsense going in and out of your honeypot while he is grunting like a dying pig and sweating on top of you, and then you have to be affirming the sheer stpidity by moaning and faking enthusiasm and orgasms. Ewwww! *spits*

I have told myself that if he isn't doing it right, or practicing pornographic content on me, i will voice my displeasure and discontinue immediately instead of pretending. In fact, celibacy is the way.

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I've also heard from some men, how that they find the female sexual organ too irritating to lick or suck, considering the stuffs that come out of there and the smell too, but I always wonder where that mentality emanated from. God who made both the female and male sexual organs, proved himself a Master-designer. I find none of the two irritating as long the owner keeps it clean, shaved and odour-free. Now about faking orgasm, why is it that a lot of women claim to fake orgasm when having sex? Does it mean that men don't know how to do the do? Most women pretend about sex but deep down, crave it like the camel craves waters in the desert. I think it is time we called a spade a spade. No one is doing anyone any favour by having sex with them otherwise, we'd all be celibate and rest.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

You're dating a Man-Child! How in the World are you still with someone who disrespects you and your family at will, calls you names, has insecurity problems, doesn't trust you, knocks you on the head? My dear, if you told the story as it is, you better leave that guy else one day, just one day, you just might lose your sanity or worse, your life. It was bad marriage that killed my mum. My Mum endured the terrible treatments she got from my Dad for 38 solid years and later died in his hands. I am married and cannot even imagine laying a finger on my Wife! Do not think you can change him for you are not God that changes a Man's heart and behavior. Do not stay in that relationship or go into marriage with him to prove a point to anybody not even to yourself. Run now while you still can.

doraozuruonye:
in the world today many are carrying sex on their head, some will even go as far as sleeping with hundred's of men or women, why the world have made sex as a second food that nourishes the body as many claims and there are those who don't even care about those things, i hate some things but the one i hate most is to see men's sexual organ it irritates me more than any other thing in world, not to talk of coming close to touch me with it, left for me i have no reason why i should have sex with a man if not for child birth.

If you're a female, then I strongly advise you do a thorough soul-searching and find out your sexuality. How and why in the World would you say the sight of the male organ irritates you? Are you a lesbian or an aspiring lesbian? Do you think sex is all about procreation? There's more to sex than procreation. Sex brings about bond, trust, love and oneness unless of course of it is casual sex. My dear, you need to completely do away with that thought so you don't end up struggling in your relationship or even marriage.

Eife:
Saw this on my way to work at maraba Abuja keffi Road, 8am this morning.

Some people get mind oh. Guess he is high on drugs but maybe he is tired. Drugs or hustle. This is really dangerous

Where Davido dey?

Someone should tell him this is Risky

When we were much younger, on trucks were the inscriptions "No Standing". Maybe they should add " No Sleeping" to the inscriptions.

Victoronah1:
Hello, please I will make it brief.
We have been dating for 2 years however I was in a private school, I just finished. She always tells me she is a virgin, anytime we romance. I said okay fine. I endured for 2 years, so we planned on how to have sex this year, cause she said she will do it with me that she loves me enough. So I brought out 15k huge money this Buhari regime, booked hotel just a night. And used the other 5k for ice creams, she came and after some romance, we tried having sex and she was screaming, her legs where vibrating. At a time I had to stop.But she insisted I continue, but after my dick entered, I did not see any blood at all. I don't know if it was tight cause she didn't want to spread her legs properly,claiming she is having pain, infact this is a lady I really want to marry, but I noticed 2 things
She didn't bleed even till today and it's still getting me scared, I know not all girls bleed, that's why this one is not really shaking me, but the 2 option is
2: I noticed she was very lazy in bed, she can't spread her legs, complaint of pain, she can't do doggy, claiming she is scared. We only had sex yesterday. Now I feel I have been used,lied and betrayed. She has gone to work but I haven't called her yet. I will be frank I love sex, and I don't want to lack sex in my marriage at all. One mind is telling me to still stick to her and try to have sex again and see since she is complaining of pain. But the other is just telling me to quit cause she may be faking everything,the pain and virginity stuff. Also she kept on postponing the sex yesterday, even when she said at night after we go out, we came back and she went to sleep immediately even after spending money to buy Spanish fly, this girl drank it and slept. Please matured guys who have dated or been in this type of relationship please advice me.

It is not every woman (virgin) that bleeds when they have their first sex. The way there are different sizes of penis, so there are different sizes of hymen. Did you know some females are born without hymen? Some women have slim hymen, some have big hymen, some have small hymen while others are not born with hymen. As a woman grows older, the size of her hymen changes too. Some women rupture their hymen while carrying out exercises which include but not limited to cycling, horse riding, sprinting, and so many other sporting activities. Your girlfriend may have actually been deflowered by you.

This is great. What's that in between the first Model's legs? Just curious.

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

I have some questions for you and I need you not to take any offence. Firstly, why would/should you and your wife have separate rooms as a couple? Secondly, you turn down your Wife's sexual demands/overtures? Would you rather another man pleases your Wife sexually? You and your Wife need to straighten things up. Couples might have issues but keeping malice and acting/living like strangers in the same house is downright childish and unacceptable. Whenever my Wife and I have an issue, we must have it resolved before we go to bed and we both must apologize to each other and never bring the matter up for discussion again. My house is a 4 bedroom apartment and my Wife and I share the same room! Never ever have separate rooms as couple for it tears the family apart. Our Parents had/have separate rooms. I will never advise anyone to have separate rooms from their spouse. As a man, you must always lead your family aright. It is not a crime/sin for you to apologize to your Wife when you both have issues.

qualityGod:
Through my window I saw this pretty creature waiting for prey but I just took a shot ,life if indeed beautiful

Please Stop animal cruelty.

You deserve a big hug! enough of the Animal cruelty we see everyday. Animal cruelty is sickening.

Mires:
¡

Have you seen them healed? Lame walking, blind seeing, etc

I visited the Church in Kubwa, Abuja with my Wife cos we wanted to see the Pastor. We were visited on a Sunday, only to be told that if we must see the Pastor, we must check into the Church-owned Hotel on a Friday and the man of God would see us on Monday morning in our Hotel room. That sounded weird and fishy. We asked how much that would cost and we were told it was 250k. 200k for the Hotel room and feeding and then 50k for the pool of Bethesda. 250k to see Pastor? we had to bounce. No be Life and Death matter. I don't know if anyone has ever gotten their healing there.

eni4real:
They are doing VIP too?? Like AY show?? Ayiii

I'm telling you the truth.

newsynews:
A Twitter user has revealed that a Church in Abuja which has a miracle swimming pool charges people N50k before they can have a swim in it.

Read below.

https://wotzup.ng/church-in-abuja-where-pastor-charges-n50k-to-swim-in-miracle-swimming-pool/

Kelvin Odanz @MrOdanz


https://mobile.twitter.com/MrOdanz/status/1192358481661169665

It just doesn't stop there. The Church would have you lodge In their hotel on a Friday so you could see the Pastor on Sunday evening, one on one in your hotel room and the hotel is owned by that Church. The "complete package" amount in N250k. 200k for you to have a one on one meeting with the Pastor and 50k for you to be allowed to step Into the pool. The influx of people there is so mind-blowing.

Trybes:
He seems to be devoid of knowledge. What right has he to abort pregnancy. People like this ought to be arrested. Regarding the second pregnancy make sure you don't touch that child. Go celibate or compel yourselves to start using condoms.

I feel so mad at the guy. One can only imagine what his Wife goes through.

MzTunechi:
you can refer your Uncle and his wife to "thepeoplesdoctor" on instagram if they won't mind. You can also check out her page before referring them. I believe they will celebrate soon. All the best

Thank you very much. I checked it out myself and was quite impressed. I have told my Uncle about it and I await his response. Thank you so much.

gabazin080:
My wife and I don't like condom and we are both very sexually active. to avoid stories that touch we did family planning but it failed in May and my twin girls are just a year old then, so we decided that we can't keep the pregnancy.

After clearing that mess she went back to the hospital to complain and was given another injection and some drugs that she should come back for the injection every 6 months.

Now she is pregnant again after just 4 months. family planning has failed again, what can we do to prevent another pregnancy because we are not going to keep this also and we planned not to have kids again till maybe after 10 years.


Please help with any local or natural method of family planning.

You both are married and young and you keep aborting your babies? It isn't like it is health-related. You asked for our advice and our advice you'd get; keep your. hands off of each other. Go celibate for ten years, get back together and then have another baby. I have an Uncle who's been married since 1998. He and his Wife have been working hard to get pregnant all to no avail and there you are with your WIFE not your girlfriend but WIFE, busy aborting pregnancies. Really, it is different strokes for different folks.

This man is a Globetrotter. He only wants to make sure he travels the World in his lifetime and here's the opportunity to achieve his lifelong dream.

Palace32:
Hello fellow Nairalanders.

I have a very strong issue bothering my mind, there is this lady I'm in love with, the love is very mutual as she is also madly in love with me too. She's everything I want in a woman and I am planning on getting married and settling down with her next year.

The issue is that, I am Igbo but my girlfriend Yoruba. Personally, I have no issue with that, she doesn't too but my parent does. This past week, mum overheard me speaking to her on the phone in Yoruba language and with the way I sounded over the phone, she knew we were dating. Immediately I ended the call with my girlfriend, my mum asked if that was my gf I just finished speaking yoruba to on the phone, I nodded in affirmation, mum said it's over her dead body will I marry a Yoruba girl, she was warning me when my Dad entered, my Dad being a Pastor, I thought he would reason with me and see reason from my perspective, but instead, he supported my mother.

They both gave me reasons why the idea of me marrying my Yoruba gf is dead on arrival. One of it is how my gf will cope anytime we travel to our home town and she's invited to the Igbo women meetings, will she be hired an interpreter to interprete bits by bits whatsoever they are saying? Or will she forced them to speak English instead of the official igbo language being spoken at meeting?

Another reason they both gave me is that, no one in our lineage has married to anyone who is not igbo, both from my Paternal or Maternal side and I won't be the first. My Dad once said that if eventually I marry my Yoruba gf, I will forget my roots, I won't be coming home regularly and with time, she will force me not to come home at all.. and so on and so forth.

It's so glaring that my parent are TRIBALISTIC. There is no two ways about it.

I really love this girl, she's very decent. Her mum is aware we are dating and it seems there won't be any problem or issue from my gf's family side. I really want to marry her as she's my ideal type of woman, however, leaving her can be mentally and emotionally damaging to us.

How do I cope with my tribalistic parent? How do I convince them that my love for her knows no boundaries, tribe or race? Is there anything my parent are seeing that is still blind to me?

I'm in dire need for mature minded advice.

Thanks in anticipation

Baba, if you love the said Lady, then go ahead and marry her. Your parents aren't the ones marrying the Lady so do not let parental influence stand in your way. I am Igbo and my Wife is from Edo State. My Wife doesn't really understand the Igbo Language so I have to interpret to her whenever the need arises. My Wife is fluent in the Yoruba Language, while I'm not, so she interprets to me when the need arises. My Wife attends no Village meetings and that because I have no connection with my roots. Do not let anyone stand in the way of your happiness in life. Cheers.

9jaBloke:




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Seun please can you do something about these grammatical errors? The grammar on FP was near perfect when you were still very involved. I know that no one is above mistake but it's becoming too frequent.

"In a cold hands"..."Below IS SOME of the reactions"

Akinbahm:
Bro, I concur with u here because they r weird in nature thus it takes a real gee to denote them that's why I advised ops not to ask her out yet but to take things gently/slowly with her to know each other stand...

Well, the "weird in nature" part, I do not know about but in all, it rests with the guy to what his heart asks him to do. I've a friend with a similar case.

Akinbahm:
Going with the business orientation u brought in how long do u wait for a commodity with a lesser profit to a good commodity with a higher profit. Going philosophical with u a woman with high value knows what she want in a man thus such woman access the man right on the first date then conclude whether to give him a try or not pending on scale d said guy weighed, likewise a guy with high value knows what she want from a girl which compelled him to start running towards her and to be patient with her...

Women are slower and more careful than Men when it comes to decision-making. Women are usually quick in making decisions when it comes to looks and fashion but slower in other areas. A Woman might see a man and likes his qualities and might even give him signs of interest but she still would want the man to make the move and she does the running. Bro, when a Woman is interested in a Man, she usually either starts seducing him or she gifts him items that shows she's interested in him. Even if a Woman sees a Man as having the qualities she desires her Man to have, She, in most cases would expect the man to chase after her. Woman are wired that way.

Akinbahm:
Going with the business orientation u brought in how long do u wait for a commodity with a lesser profit to a good commodity with a higher profit. Going philosophical with u howv

First of all, I never get interested in anything that isn't worth my time nor would better my life. Second, I always knew what I wanted In a Woman when I was still in the "dating game". Third, my aim of asking any Lady out was never to " bed" her. There's more to life than sex. When I was much younger, I was strongly attracted to beauty but as I grew older, I began to understand that beauty is good but character is better. The woman in my story is my Wife. I was patient with her the whole time because I knew she was the only one to complete me. I had other Women who were throwing themselves at me but I just stuck to what I wanted. I'm a happy with what I got? 100% emphatic!

Akinbahm:
Don't u think guys deserve some accolades for asking girls out, guy it's not just easy to carry courage go woo a lady and then she tries acting stupidly with one yanga shakara guy aren't u tired of running after a chick for months Its weird... Brotherly some even term it as I don't want to be seen cheap, what I count as cheap is a girl jumping from a dick for a dick and absolutely to a dick as a pure cheap....

"Most" good women aren't easy to get. I never got tired of chasing after her and wooing her cos I already knew what stuff she was made of and what I wanted in a woman. I am a businessman and if you're into business, you'd know that there are deals or sales take time and patience to get through. You don't expect a Woman to immediately say yes to daring you. Do you say yes to all the requests made to you? Bro, a woman who knows her worth would want you to know and understand that she places a high value on herself. Women aren't "Properties" that we can acquire easily. Women are meant to be loved, respected, nurtured and encouraged.

Akinbahm:
The moment u woo a lady she turns d table around even if she loves u initially...

You don't expect a Lady to immediately agree to dating you even if she was already madly in love with you. Mine did "Shakara" for 5 weeks and 3 days before saying yes to me. It is the nature of Women to do "shakara" before agreeing to date a man. Women want to be sure the man isn't being led by his feelings or her body or even her money. The two are already good friends and it should be easy for him to make his intentions known to her.

enesi009:
d greatest mistake u do is to ask her out.. Just start acting like d boyfriend... Neva u ask her out and make her invest in u by making luv to her dats d greatest investment ment to own her

He should just "start acting" like the "boyfriend"? Hmmm I've a problem with that. A couple of years ago, a girl " assumed" she and I were dating. This girl went about telling everyone she and I were a pair. I never knew I was in a "relationship" with her until the day she asked why I was making things difficult and making our "relationship" not to work. I never gave her any green lights nor at any point hinted her in her. We were just neighbours. She later confessed to being in love with me but felt it was awkward asking me out since it was supposed to be the other way round. My point is that the man should man up and ask the said Lady out. It is either a yes or a no.

KingErnesto:
Hmm... I feel like i would be on the hot seat that day. I'll try.

No need to fret or fidget. That day must come. If you are serious about making her your babe, then waste no time doing that. But be sure you aren't being led by your emotions and not reasoning. Be the best man she'd ever have!

Ask her out already or watch some other guy take her away from you. Every request in life has a "yes" or "no" answer. The devil wouldn't repent if she said "yes", neither would it snow in Nigeria if she said " no". My take on this? Go ahead and make your feelings for her known to her and then see how it goes.