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Culture › Re: Alawe Reports Alaafin To Seyi Makinde, Calls Him An Interlopper by AreaFada2: 12:32pm On Mar 15, 2020

salford1:
Oh boy
The Alawe slammed the Alaafin. He told him to gbe-ko and mind his business. These Ekiti/Ijesha parapo (Eastern Yoruba) folks don't take nonsense at all. Season of gbas gbos

Ooni Sijuwade would have used this opportunity to slam the Alaafin if he was still here.

Nor be small thing.

Quite funny that Monarchs with local influence like neighbours Olowo & Deji were not involved by Alaafin to see how they can influence the situation.

As important as the Awujale, Alake, Ooni and others are, people close to ground often understand the dynamics.

At the moment in SW, too many royal cases in court, too many disputes and rancour. Like Ibadan were new obas were created last time or where Alaafin cannot lead Oyo State monarchs. Oba Sijuade and Oba Adeyemi never used to see eye to eye. Despite splitting of Oyo State and not belonging to same TC.

Education › Re: National Open University Of Nigeria (NOUN) Students by AreaFada2: 4:53am On Mar 15, 2020

OK.

Politics › Re: Uzodinma: PDP Behind Plot To Humiliate Oshiomhole Out Of Office by AreaFada2: 3:08am On Mar 15, 2020

Odosa1:
This is what I have been waiting to hear from APC, because they will always blame PDP for everything apart from when are looting the people's money.

They must take a daily fix of PDP-Blamingquine. Alternated with GEJ-Blamingquine. They are junkies of these drugs. grin

Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 3:01am On Mar 15, 2020

My lesson from this thread is that many people are still looking for who to blame for own failings. Sure, it makes us feel good about ourselves.

We all fail in different ways. It can't just be not taking signs of things ahead seriously. Being naive or failing to see things from different perspectives before committing ourselves.

People can either tell you the bitter truth as they see it or hypocritically deceive you. Those who deceive don't love you more. They just make it more difficult for you to own your mistakes, poor decisions and fate graciously. We must own our mistakes and failures, not just our successes.

In life, nobody owes us anything once our parents have raised us. Even marriage guarantees nothing these days. Not the type our parents and grandparents had. It's every man for himself. Limit the number of kids you have. Do not rush into marriage. Consider your economic situation and talk finances before marriage.

Nothing should be left un-discussed.

Nobody owes you anything. Not friends, not relatives, not in-laws. Not even those you have helped in the past. Let any help come as a bonus or surprise.

Insure yourself and your family if feasible where you reside. To cover your family if the unthinkable happens.

Be positive. Be conciliatory.

Waiting to hear music to your ears may sound nice but ultimately of no help. Many will come with messages. You cannot attack every messenger. Take the message that address your situation. Discard those that don't.

Good luck.

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Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 9:45pm On Mar 14, 2020

CeterisXVII:
You keep changing your mouth, when confronted with facts. Now, it is billionaire daughters you are looking at? Was that what you said the last time? No!

Can a woman have two kids for a man, and can absolutely have no contact with that man or his family...it is NOT strange.

If the family was not in support of their union from the beginning, it is quite possible for them to turn their backs on her. Did the man make any effort to get in touch with her? No.

She has said when she lived with them, she was maltreated. So she had to leave.

Did they look for her or even show any interest in the kids, knowing fully well that those kids belonged to their brother?

They didn't. So why should she maintain contact with people, who clearly resent her? That family is clearly bad..... there is a proverb that a person must not have bad in-laws, even if he/she has a bad spouse.

Some of you Naija men have twisted brains. The man who travelled to Italy and never asked for his kids or made efforts to get in touch all through the years, is a wicked soul.

Yet, the woman is still hanging in there and standing by her kids. Now she wants to be a mother to her son, people like you are spewing out derogatory remarks in her direction. May God punish all the children of wickedness that are doing so.....

Look, I have a family friend who is a highly qualified professional. She has refused her ex-man seeing their kids. She still cannot point out what this man did wrong. Everyone sought to reconcile them but no way. This guy has tried to remain in touch but she has used her status to frustrate his efforts. He paid mostly for her training. We all saw it. And of course no contact with the ex-hubby's family. She thinks giving material stuff to the kids is all that matters. Even in diaspora.

Many of us here are not kids. We can draw on decades of experience, either professionally or in private life or both.

Women can be very vindictive when they break up. When some parents are against marriage and they go ahead anyway, the couple tend to do a lot to stick together. They work even harder on their marriage.

No way the entire family can resent a new woman in the family. She must be able to connect with at least one or two. We do not live in a vacuum, we live real lives, with real families and in-laws.

I am not changing my mouth. I insist that the vast majority of women marry up. Most only manage whoever comes along if no choice. On NL, many SE ladies unashamedly tell us that a poor man should forget marriage or erection. I like their honesty.

Let's not pretend that women do not preferentially seek rich guys. They do. Why do so many women have sugar daddies? Even some married women?
Fact remains same however much you do pocket lawyer.

The hubby doesn't want to bring in the troublesome son of another man. Instead of condemning him here one day for hitting and killing his step-son.
He's an honest man. Do not start what what could to lead to a tragedy.

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Career › Re: Penjamin Franklin: I Refused My Female Boss Sex & She Sacked Me by AreaFada2: 9:32pm On Mar 14, 2020

ursullalinda:
Alot of men are abused but the attention is on women.....even as kids alot of boys were abused but the teaching is always about girl child.....the society needs to balance the awareness and men should stop forming hard and speak up .....Abuse is abuse either way not minding the gender.

God bless you. Ignorance on this matter is appalling. Sadly lots of women think a man cannot be abused. That a man must enjoy it. Such mindset is abominable in men today, but why do many women still hold that view?

Women raise the kids the most and observe kids more closely. With such mindset, they cannot suspect or spot it even if the little boys are abused right under their noses. Lots of abused little boys grow up to become abusers. Believing women always want sex.

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Celebrities › Re: What Celebrities Wore To AMVCA 2020 Awards (photos) by AreaFada2: 9:24pm On Mar 14, 2020

Slimsly100:
I only dey see: Bolanle Ninolowo, Ebuka Ochendu, and Ik Ogbonna. I nor Sabi d rest

My dear, I bow o. I only know one guy there. I think he's an Igbo actor.

I was expecting to see Funke, Omosexy, Ebube, Stephanie Linus, Ramsey Nouah, etc. But na lie.

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Politics › Re: Uzodinma: PDP Behind Plot To Humiliate Oshiomhole Out Of Office by AreaFada2: 9:16pm On Mar 14, 2020

Racoon:
Even their own iberiberism is still being caused by another person.The paranoid delusion will never allow crooks in this coven to reason responsibility.

Why APC still behaves like opposition after almost 5 years in office is beyond me.
You absorb those people who enjoyed 8 years and more political office under PDP. PDP gave them the platform to become known nationally and elected. They scattered PDP and came to your party. With money they looted. So you think those people and the questionable strange bedfellows that make up APC will suddenly behave like saints? shocked

APC only had plan to form a parallel government. To disrupt the country, fund Boko to cause maximum damage. Not to run FG. Surprisingly the got the power. 5 years on, they still have no plan. Only scheming, infighting, bitching, bad belle, god-fatherism, thuggery and looting.

What you have is an APC far worse and more toxic than PDP at the height of its power. And that really takes some doing.

Politics › Re: APC Crisis: Giadom Has Resigned From NWC - Nabena by AreaFada2: 9:08pm On Mar 14, 2020

Deejaygold:
H

Cool.

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Politics › Re: APC Crisis: Giadom Has Resigned From NWC - Nabena by AreaFada2: 9:05pm On Mar 14, 2020

PapaBaby:
By the time Obaseki finish with Oshiomhole, even KOWA won't recommend him for ward chairman.

KOWA ko, WAKO ni.

Chai, Oshortman devil has offended many people o. grin

From that "Go & Die" period, if na serious country, dem suppose consign that man to one leaky thatch roof hut at Iyamho. Where he will be hunting for rabbit.

But he continued with his viagra in vain to impregnate that imported mammy water from Cape Verde. While frittering away stolen Edo billions of cash at his Bush Neverland Home at Iyamho, Benin-City, Abuja, Cabo Verde and elsewhere.

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Food › Re: FG Closes Haufei Restaurant & Mall, Chinese Restaurant In Lagos by AreaFada2: 7:28pm On Mar 14, 2020

Perfecttouchade:
Which Nigerian still dey find food enter Chinese restaurant ahaha , e wo ni ijekuje na.. these Chinese people too dey oppress Nigerians inside our own country

Why their restaurants are still open is the mystery of it all. With all the Corona deep mess they have plunged the world into? We have been tolerating their racism, so they just got bolder.

If Corona came from Nigeria, China would have quarantined all Nigerians in China by now.

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Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 7:15pm On Mar 14, 2020*

CeterisXVII:
The way you men are always so quick to blame women for everything, is pathetic. Because she runs her own business, you have now labelled her as bossy.

If she didn't have her own shop, you would call her a gold digger or a scrounger who wants to live off the man.

She picks up a huge chunk of the house bills. Again, that is an offence in your eyes. She is damned if she does, and still damned if she doesn't.

You claim 90% of women marry up. Re-ea-ally? Maybe in the past, but not anymore. In this Naija of today? A woman is still waiting for a rich man? When all her mates are hitting 30 and 40 years in age? Na lie, o!

Many women marry guys that are not as rich as them, as long as they are fully convinced that such men have sincere love for them. I have seen countless versions of such relationships.

The girl or lady is often willing to defy her family, just to get the man she loves. Sometimes, she even gets pregnant so that her family is left with no choice, but to agree to her wedding plans.

In some cases, such relationships stand the test of time, and matures into something truly wonderful.

In some other cases, such relationships fall apart, because after the guy becomes successful, he now starts hunting for younger, beautiful and more psychedelic specimens of womanhood, to suit his new status.

That is when you start hearing ridiculous complaints from the man, about the same woman who struggled to help him get to the top.

Naija men need deliverance.... I swear!

Lol. Our women have been too used to blaming men and feeling they are always right that they cannot take responsibility for their bad decisions, poor attitude or take criticism.

If women truly want equality, they must begin accepting the blame they have been dishing out at men.
Most ladies I dated years back earned more than me. Yes, they began their careers young in their own country. It was never an issue. I was even still at school in some cases.

It's the way 9ja women suddenly look down on their men once they financially contribute more. This is real, not self esteem issues. That's where those Caucasian ladies I dated cannot be ever compared to 9ja women.

Fact is if a woman has two kids for a man and can absolutely have no contact with that man or his family, it's strange. You have to look carefully at the personality of someone who could not ingratiate herself even a single person in the ex-man's family. Not a single one.

The new poor hubby cannot afford to embark on a thankless job. The knows it from from his wife's attitude by now.

Tell me how many billionaire daughters are married to very poor guys? Women always married up. We even have more gold diggers now.

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Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 5:53pm On Mar 14, 2020

CeterisXVII:
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You lie....! The man did NOT fund her shop. There' are many opportunistic men around these days, who latch on to women that are financially independent, in order to use them as a stepping stone for success. The woman also pays for the flat they live in...please go back and read through the preceding pages, before rushing in to comment. This is what she said:

Even clearer why the lady is bossy. After all na my mother open the shop for me.

Look, what is wrong with a woman bringing something into a marriage? When person nor go hear word?

99% of women marry up. Only very few rich girls will marry poor guys. In fact oyindidi and crew here don't expect poor men to even have an erection.

The answer is simple. Let her divorce the man and move on. No difference if moved on from one man or two men

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Culture › Re: The main reasons Yoruba not enlisted as a tribe in Edo state by AreaFada2: 12:15pm On Mar 14, 2020

ghostwon:
Look at this time traveller telling us stories with no dates and no proofs and which didn't take place before his eyes.

Myths and other fictions are not history. You call me revisionist and then proceed to tell stories with no proof.

Facts: ife was a small village when the British arrived and took over without a single shot.

Benin was an empire and fought against the British.
Precolonial map of Benin below.
The people rewriting history are the guys who fed you all these lies which you repeated as your gospel.

Oh boy you still dey waste time with that guy?
His pain is so much.
I wonder how pained he feels when during History of Africa on BBC, Egypt, Benin, Ethiopia, Mali and Ashanti is what it's all about. grin

Without Oba of Benin gallivanting to Caribbean, Americas or anywhere to sell the history first.

Even in UK, by the age of 8, most kids have already covered history of Benin.
Simple reason is Oyinbo have details of the empire in their books and archives. Some over 500 years old.

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Romance › Re: Can A Man Say No To Sex? Ladies React (Video) by AreaFada2: 11:42am On Mar 14, 2020

shogsmania:
If only they'll treat our cases like the women's, I myself had my fair share of child abuse when I was a kid ,female neighbours and their friends making me strip while they touch my parts and they were laughing while doing it,this crap still sickens me till today.

Good that you have spoken up here. Otherwise some ladies would come and call me a liar.
Not surprising because it's common. Most hurt guys never speak up.

But women think only them can be victims of sexual abuse. For that reason most women won't protect their sons. Pure ingnorance due to sexism.

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Politics › Re: Sani Ibrahim ‘Unseats’ Emmanuel Ibediro As National Organizing Secretary by AreaFada2: 11:37am On Mar 14, 2020

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Romance › Re: Can A Man Say No To Sex? Ladies React (Video) by AreaFada2: 11:30am On Mar 14, 2020

Fortuna2:
No, men enjoy rape!

Very wrong impression.

Lots of men fear being labelled weak if they complain. The myth is that a guy should enjoy it.

Please some ladies do not turn a guy on sexually. Nothing to do with beauty.

I rejected romantic advances from many girls as a secondary school. There was one like that with massive ass and massive boobs my friend was dying for.

I work colleague I turned down never greeted me again. I have mentioned it in old posts here years back.

Maybe it's this impression that a guy never refuses that make them so annoyed when politely rejected.

I was disgusted the day I was talking with friends. Many narrated how they were sexually abused by "aunties" as little boys. Around age 5 to 14. These were respected female neighbors, inlaws, family friends, etc . Terrible.

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Family › Re: Woman Caught With Another Man In Husband's Home Tells Her Story (Video) by AreaFada2: 1:33am On Mar 14, 2020

Well, well, well.

Some amebor neighbours don alert her inlaws long ago about her overnight visitors.

She had no idea she was under surveillance.

If the relationship with Americana was dead, why would the inlaws and man raise dust?

Her argument should simply be that she owes no-one no apology as a free woman. Be it a platonic or romantic friendship with the night visitor.

Politics › Re: Is Ganduje A Fulani Or Hausa Man? by AreaFada2: 1:10am On Mar 14, 2020

oyatz:
I think Ganduje is a mixed Hausa-Fulani. However Shekarau is neither Hausa nor Fulani but Barbur originally from Borno State but was born and raised in Kano.

Many Southerners don't even know that Gen Sani Abacha was neither Hausa nor Fulani but a Kanuri man.

All Northern minority tribes also settle down in Kano and they can claim Indigenes in as much as they are Muslims and can speak Hausa fluently.

Haba! Almost everyone knew he was Kanuri. Even his facial marks were very visible. We know Adamawa and Gombe have very many other tribes for example.

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Politics › Re: Is Ganduje A Fulani Or Hausa Man? by AreaFada2: 1:09am On Mar 14, 2020

oyatz:
I think Ganduje is a mixed Hausa-Fulani. However Shekarau is neither Hausa nor Fulani but Barbur originally from Borno State but was born and raised in Kano.

Many Southerners don't even know that Gen Sani Abacha was neither Hausa nor Fulani but a Kanuri man.

All Northern minority tribes also settle down in Kano and they can claim Indigenes in as much as they are Muslims and can speak Hausa fluently.

Haba! Almost everyone knew he was Kanuri. Even his facial marks were very visible. We know Adamawa and Gombe have very many other tribes for example.

Crime › Re: Man Stabs Brother To Death For Bringing Parrots Into Their Home In Ogun. PHOTOS by AreaFada2: 12:48am On Mar 14, 2020

deebrain:
Point of correction, Nigerian Police.

When a suspect is paraded, the item's displayed are either the things used to perpetuate the crime or recovered (previously stolen) from the given suspect.

What is the set of parrots doing in front of the suspect?

Abeg nor make pesin laff. Na serious matter dey ground so.

So, if they were fighting over a girl who lives in their street, would they have gone to bring the girl from her house to parade like they brought these parrots? shocked

These NPF people just dey fall pesin leg anyhow.

Romance › Re: He Gives Me Anything I Want, Calls Me Frequently But Has Never Asked Me Out by AreaFada2: 12:36am On Mar 14, 2020

Naughtysite:
She can't express her desire, but she is busy collecting money.

Kikikikiki grin

Collection is easier than expression na.
They keep saying ask him to define the relationship.

Define the relationship: This relationship is one in which a God fearing church brotherly is helping a sisterly probably in need at times.

See this life ehn. Women keep accusing men that they only help to get "something" from a lady.

Here a guy is helping without asking for even a "Deeper Life" hug. Now na still wahala for not asking. Soon some will call him gay. shocked

Oh girl he probably doesn't want to take advantage of you. But if you dey go gaga over him, give him very bright green light. You are a lady. It can't be too hard, can it?

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Politics › Re: Fati Ajimobi Hails Father, Ganduje For Dethroning Emir Sanusi by AreaFada2: 6:15pm On Mar 13, 2020

Idiots everywhere.

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Family › Re: Woman Caught With Another Man In Husband's Home Tells Her Story (Video) by AreaFada2: 6:13pm On Mar 13, 2020

lol

Business › Re: Dollar Sells For N420, Naira Crashes In Value by AreaFada2: 2:32pm On Mar 13, 2020

You cannot have an oil-junkie economy and be surprised by this news.

Our economy is one stumble away from going over the precipice.

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Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 2:26pm On Mar 13, 2020

xendra:
but if it was the mans child, your wide mouth will open to call women evil and unwilling to accept their husbands child as their own. Iranu

Well, my cute sexy mouth will always say what is fair. kiss

We know there are far more evil step-mums out there than there evil step-dads. History, literature and folklore attest to it.

In another thread by King Satan, I clearly stated that both men and women should carefully consider if they need step kids.

Growing up I know of women who starved step-kids in my area. But no step-dad refused to pay school fees, buy clothes or deny fatherly responsibilities. But in old age, the step-kids they used their youth to raise and educate were mostly ingrates. Their never-do-well biological dads suddenly came on the scene when most had graduated from uni. Back in the day jobs were not scarce.

I talk from what I saw happening.

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Family › Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by AreaFada2: 2:18pm On Mar 13, 2020

Both men and women should consider carefully whether they need step-kids. It's a difficult thing.

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Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 2:12pm On Mar 13, 2020

Davash222:
I do this, I do that... abeg make we hear word.
Take the boy to his dad!

Lol. Don't be surprised if it was the man who funded the shop from which she says she pays 70% of the bill. grin

Women are just not cut out to contribute more to the household financially. If you like pay for her education, train, open shop for her, same thing.

To bring a difficult child you do not have the freedom to discipline like your own biological son is a nightmare. For any self-respecting man. I saw it around my neighbourhood growing up.

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Family › Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AreaFada2: 2:01pm On Mar 13, 2020

Belafonte:
You do not have the contact of the father of your children, but you think the problem is your new husband. I comment my reserve Biko.

Look, I always warn men to beware of marrying a woman with kids already. It's a BIG and Thankless job. Just loving kids is not enough. Especially young kids. Worse if the woman is divorced. Even if widowed, still difficult.

From 90% of such families I saw growing up. it's not encouraging at the end.

The man ends up losing out. Do 99% of fatherly responsibility, the 1% you didn't do they will blame you for. Even if their biological dad could never have done 25% of it for them.

A woman has two kids for a man and she has no contact with their dad. What kind of people have two kids together and do not communicate? A combination of a careless/irresponsible person and a vindictive person?

Also beware of the emotional damage people previously suffered. It can be a baggage they are coming with. You are not a psychologist or therapist to heal them. It ruin your carefree life. "Love" is not enough when push comes to shove.

Suddenly, people like Oyendidi are blaming a guy who's concerned about the friction that 12 years old boy could cause in his household. That's the truth even though he cannot tell his wife so. At some point if he tries to correct that boy more harshly, it will be thrown at him that it's because the boy is not his son.

This man is not a hypocrite to grudgingly accept the boy while unhappy about it.

OP should honestly try to know his fear. Can they take him to a boarding school for now? Any other way out?

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Politics › Re: How Oshiomhole Incurred Tinubu’s Wrath Over Ajimobi’s Nomination by AreaFada2: 11:28am On Mar 13, 2020

ORIENTATION101:
come out of ur shell. I know u cant move from the fact that apc led by tinubu and osho dispose ur Hero GEJ.
Sorry ur favorite party pdp is not coming back topower soon

Lol. I support no PDP. If anything all relatives with political positions are in APC. Some began way back in Action Group, UPN, PDP, AC, ACN and so on.
If you know when and where Action Group was launched, my people were inevitably going to be linked with it.

I am not one of those who support something because I benefit somehow (because relatives do). I vote in another country very far away and therefore I have no party political ties.

In fact, I believed SW propaganda against GEJ until I saw something different on ground.

The final straw was oil subsidy. SW/APC were vehemently against the most economically sensible thing to do. You deprive subsidy scammers by removing subsidy altogether. Because the corrupt system would always find a way to connive and scam if any subsidy at all. You save when oil prices are high. Also the governors all rejected saving ECA.

With money saved we can repair refineries and won't need to import or pay subsidy any more. A few years of paying higher prices for fuel was worth it. Ghana, Benin Republic, Cameroon and others already pay higher prices at the pump for decades.

Even now petrol subsidy comes at the cost of neglecting healthcare, education, infrastructure, etc.

So many were just opposed to every sound fiscal policy GEJ came up with. A sensible person doesn't just follow the herd like a cow. You analyse as you go along. But zombies just stick to bigotry forever.

Also look at how Northerners including Buhari opposed fighting Boko under GEJ. Fighting Boko is fighting the North said Buhari.

Tribal and party political sentiments are ok, but not the cost of honesty and objectivity.

Politics › Re: How Oshiomhole Incurred Tinubu’s Wrath Over Ajimobi’s Nomination by AreaFada2: 10:43am On Mar 13, 2020

ORIENTATION101:
I know u will be here , at least u will be happy Tinubu and osho re fighting in pages of newspaper. Tinubu is not in war with oshomole.he was only angry he didn't inaugurate the new NWC.
Besides the court order that stop anti oshomole from gathering at NEC was pro-cured in lagos ,by lagos apc chairman.

Whether they fight or romance each other, have they all not looted enough to go and rest? Is it not only the masses that will keep losing out?

The technicalities of absurd Nigerian political parties interest me not one jot.

Fact is the cane used to batter Iyale will soon be used to pepper Iyawo.

He who benefited from lies and propaganda will sooner be peppered by same. Sanusi Lamido is a very good example.

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Politics › Re: How Oshiomhole Incurred Tinubu’s Wrath Over Ajimobi’s Nomination by AreaFada2: 10:22am On Mar 13, 2020

comos:
Tinubu just betray Oshiomole

Oshiomhole would be foolish not to have expected it. What did he think happened to Oyegun?

To unite and manage a party of strange bedfellows ACN. CPC, PDM, the other Igbo party and PDP defectors was never gonna be easy. Oyegun did it fairly well balancing these groups but he wasn't taking orders enough from Tinubu. So he had to go.

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