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Heartbender:
You are already on the right path of self realisation. The only advice I can give is now that you have found you need help have you considered Jesus Christ? Pray, meditate and take your mind off sex. No one is born gay...society only influences you. Like you, you are a victim. Now be the victor

this is the best advice you can find anywhere. it will bring permanent and stress free solution

please don't take her to court just throw her into prison for 3 weeks

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Bros you are on the right path by refusing to sell your land for a car. your father's house is a family house so if you love yourself, life, children and posterity you need to leave your father's house and make your own path about the car issue you have used 3 cars before that are no more she now believe buying another car is important which it is but by advising you to sell your land for it. remember that a car has no resale value while a land has. a car is a liability while a land when utilized rightly is an asset talk her out of it but if she insists then let her know your decision

Lexusgs430:
If una born unwanted pickin and husband like to come inside and watch it flow out like a BOSS......

Nah religion go train the pickin.......

guy your brain no go rotten lailai

this is taking religion too far ahead condom use between married couple is a sin na wa for African holiness. why did God give man a brain in the first instance is it for decoration? or to occupy space? abeg make somebody explain to me do we just keep on deceiving ourselves? this is disgusting

abeg who are these bunch of advisers accepted the guy messed up by using their daughter for pali abeg what of those ones who used whites for pali the whites no be person born dem abegi make una park somewhere this is the case of 2 people who are in love tell the old man to quickly write the authorities about the issue and he will be disappointed that his daughter will throway the case in an instant this over important feeling is what makes many FIL to lose their respect before their SIL. the guy has made a mistake he needs to just sit the guy down and make him realize the gravity of what he did and the guy will apologize and importantly the guy will have total respect and honor for the man but since he has chosen to follow this path he should change church with immediate alacrity and double his hustle let your success speak for you by then the man will be the one to respect you he has treated you like shit turn your back and claim what you deserve don't be rude to him or any member of your wife's family but carry yourself with respect demand it by your actions don't turn yourself into a slave if you go a begging you will feel the pain later on this is from my experience damn anyone's consequences forget about culture whatever yes it's Yoruba culture but that doesn't mean you should be a pushover I prostrate for my in laws but you try to mess me up I won't talk I just create my gap that's it. the ball is in your court

no no don't think that your failure now are temporal please pray well and God will fight for you

not interested in where you met but the truth is that your husband is not fit to be married he is still psychologically and emotionally immature I am sorry if it sounds insulting but that's the truth you need to call your parents together and sit them down then ask them which one do they prefer your death or been alive. I know what their response will be then tell them you need to take a break cos this could potentially claim your life cos in the event I don't pray it end up so infact I rebuke it in Jesus name if what happened to the first baby happen again it becomes an Express way into serious depression which will not end well so explain to them and stay with your mom please don't go to his mother stay with your mom and after the safe delivery of your baby the family needs to sit down and discuss at length it is well with you and your family

feminism is not your problem and sex is not though you will be so good in fantasizing about sex and if you get married or in a relationship you are willing to have sex wella. you will like to read and also moved by words especially of knowledge like you said about poem and any genre of music you fall in love with you tend to be swayed by the lyrics which should be deep. you look at people and just by hearing them talk for minutes you can easily predict what they will be and can do you are easily pissed by someone who lacks knowledge and infact it's one of your yardstick in determining who to date and if you are married to someone who is not that brilliant he go hear winnn. you know and easily identify business opportunities but the will to take action is not there cos you are looking for the perfect scenario abeg make I stop talking about you but give the advice wet I get. how do I know this much because I suffer from the same problem so how do I go about it. I believe humans will always be humans it is only God that is perfect definitely I tend to keep people at arm's length I still have 1 or 2 people I open up to actually not all my problems I share but still fairly open up and whenever I am interacting with people I only share what I know if they expose I won't feel so down. I have come to accept my wife for who she is but before na real war the secret sincerely is Jesus. I let Him lead me on and I tend to study the scripture more and He has been able to help me so I will advise that you also need Him and more importantly meditate on the word and try to mirror your life according to the word meanwhile be careful not to make yourself a slave of pastor you need a church where the word in the real sense of it is shared where you will be free but still responsible to God by living a holy life try this and most importantly study and try to improve yourself on wherever you take note you are weak then no prob you are also not perfect accept who you are after all God sef accept you as you are

what else are you looking for. the handwriting is on the wall. you are just meant to keep his bed warm and in the event that you become pregnant you are either wife number two or thirteen cos such a guy is a Playboy to the core. you don't need any advice but the will to take your stand so it's left to you the ball is in your court

please tell me you are joking. abegi now. aahh that is the sign of serious captivity. their wives are in serious trouble

TonyeBarcanista:
Honestly, I don old o

shey you no know before?

I love people's opinion about the lady being at fault but some men are just something else. I know someone who will rant that his mother inlaw is possessed and his wife should not visit her while he believes his mother is clean and could come stay with them. do you know this type of thing before marriage? no. my advice is that she needs to also make her stand but needs to be cautious cos such men could resort to violence but if she is willing to damn the consequences she can go all ahead. but the guy is egocentric and they take a lot of pride in showing their superiority over others to change such a person she will need to shut her eyes and ears totally to what 'PEOPLE' will say

Bros you be man now even if you have to do what you did to survive over there that doesn't make you a pushover in life. my advice change church and create the much needed gap then focus on your career and life so that when he sees you in 2 years time he will not in respect. I'm also a Yoruba still in Nigeria but where will my father in law expect me to prostrate flat for him anywhere in the world na queen im pikin be? guy create that gap sharp sharp and fire your life forward he will eat his words in a short time

my advice is simply that you beg for now and when the temporary peace reigns you need to work seriously on knowing the PIN code for your husband. I'm a man and know that all men have PIN code so it's your duty to try and identify them. please there are more than one but it will take you time to identify them. why I am advising you to look for more than one is that when you overindulge the one you know then the guy simply become aware of your trick and then you are back to square one. so prayerfully and studiously look for ways to command the interest of your husband. you need not fight his sisters but you need to pray seriously and study how to gain your husband attention and interest then they will say you have ro efo fun je just don't mind them na me you for ro efo fun je before? so work on yourself and pray sister that's the way to go

shugaboy6102:
This is my story and I will appreciate if the mods can push it to front page so that others can read and learn from me, and I also need your honest comments and advice because you could be saving a drowning man.

I Am 29 years of age, a civil engineer by profession and a sanguine by temperament. Before my youth service @ age 24 I got my girl friend pregnant and I was scared of abortion so we decided to keep the baby with the full support of my mother and she agreed because I was an only son. After that, we proceeded to see her people with my mum and relatives to my girl friends village and we paid something on her head but didn't complete the whole traditional right, but this was not even the traditional wedding proper.

After that we saw ourselves as husbands and wife and we were living fine for sometime. After sometime, the relationship took a different turn as we were always fighting and didn't agree on even the slightest matter. I remember vividly one occasion we fought over a female colleague @ work who sent me a whatsapp message and why we fought was that she came to my work place and fought the young lady openly embarrassing me in the process in front of everyone.

There were times I would try to reconcile but she would blatantly refused, sometimes she will tell me she is fed up of this thing we call marriage and that she's looking for someone that I too should look for someone else.

Fast-forward I met a lady and one thing led to another and I started picking interest in her. It was never my intention to be with another woman but I don't have peace of mind and I feel I am loosing my mind.

Note: I haven't wedded in a church before or done a full traditional marriage. Here comes the question: would it be considered a divorce if I quit this union and marry this new lady?

I am full of unhappiness and pain and I don't want to live a life of endurance and pity. Pls nobody should pressure you into getting married, marriage is not a license to live a happy life. If you are single, I envy you.

why don't you wait till you drop dead from hypertension before you know what to do. look I don't believe in living an unhappy life infact God himself don't want you to live such so if there is anything that's will change God's plan for your life it is best that you cut it off that's my advice

remember them well well but please where are these people today? just wondering like the op

Preciousgirl:
Because he found out I sent my picture to a male friend
He has ordered me to delete social media entirely before peace will prevail.

I told my dad and he is very upset about it. My dad has warned that I remain on social media. Please advise.

do you read what you wrote? you sent your picture to a male friend. your husband is weak I would have sent you to that male friend. to now add salt to injury your father is commanding that you remain on social media that means your husband is not the Head of his home

no problem now wait till you die or he render you useless before knowing what to do but alas it's tooooo late already. all those advising you to be patient will not be the ones to feel the heat infact 80% of them will say when you knew how he treated you before marriage you ought not to marry him but then it will be tooooo late and you will be alone regretting the day you met him and blaming yourself for not ending the relationship early but it will be tooooo late. sis abeg use your brain now God didn't give you that for decoration

Nigeria get better with the present structure? that's an abomination TOTALLY IMPOSSIBLE

CloneTerminator:
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