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Why all this talk about sex,sex,sex up and down? Shouldn't this be moved to the sexuality section? You people should not come and corrupt us(me) here oh. .

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=589763.msg7572195#msg7572195 date=1295557169]Hey baby! How was school today?[/quote]Hi Mama Chike! How's Chike and Uncle Chima? Hehe. No school today-Uni's not yet resumed. I live in a bottomless pit of unending boredom. How was your day?

OP i understand exactly how you feel. I mean it's very easy to say don't give in to peer pressure but when you actually face it it's a different thing entirely. I'm younger than you are,but i've been there/still am there sometimes. It's like wherever you look,everyone's paired up and you feel this powerful urge to be part of that unit called a couple. I totally know how that feels like,but another thing i also know is that peer pressure is surmountable. I think the fact that you've been in two serious r/ships already is kinda disturbing(but that's just me). You have to figure out whether you're ready for a r/ship now or not. It shouldn't be because you want to fit in or because you wanna say 'oh there's my boyfriend'. You need to figure out what you want,and you need to be convinced about it. Convinction/truly believeing in what you're doing is very important,IMO. If you're convinced that staying single is the best thing for you right now,then dealing with peer pressure will be much easier. If you're convinced that you're ready to be with someone,then go for it. The point is,you have to know what you want/need,and you have to do what's best for you.

I honestly thought OP was Mobo. . Anyway i'm sure he'll sniff this thread out sooner or later.

Firearm:
^^^

Please stop making fun of this.
We need to treat this poster's issue
Someone suggested flogging her the Aladura way
You mite need to go purchase your horse whip now

@ Romeo Delta (ragdollz)

a very poor advice from you
you can do better

Guilty as charged! I really think the Aladura way might work,too. I've already given her my serious advice. At least it's better than all the swears/curses she's been collecting.

Ujujoan:
I think you got it a bit wrong, the men are her brothers-in-law, not her brothers . . .  so technically, this it NOT inbreeding!

As for the abuse aspect, she didn't start doing it until she was 20 so I don't think that counts. Besides by her own admission, she only slept with the older man because he was always buying her gifts . . . .  

What you need is deliverance . . .  

I know technically it isn't inbreeding,but it's sick and wrong. If there's no abuse involved,i think she's a very,very sick person. I think she needs deliverance. 5 days of fasting and prayer with all those Aladura people would do the trick. Bet they could flog the sickness out of her,and then she can see a shrink or something. Personally,i'm more in favore of the Aladura option. I have sisters,and what she's doing to hers is just wrong on soo many levels. I wouldn't mind flogging her meself.

3triangle:
Like some of you have suggested, I have tot of the option of leaving my sister's house, but were will I go to?

Don't you have parents?

When i first opened this topic,i was ready to call down fire and brimstone on the OP. I was ready to lay curses on her for the abomination she's commiting. But then it hit me-Inbreeding is sick and wrong. No normal person will do what she has done,which begs the question,is she really normal? Psychologically/Mentally i mean? I then went to re-read the whole thing and then i saw the part where she said her elder sister's husband seduced her with drinks when she was 20,and that he still sleeps with her every now and then against her will. Isn't that rape? She said she'd been living with them since she was 17 and then i asked myself,what if the guy had been abusing her or something? We don't know for a fact that he did abuse her,but if he did then i can see how that would make her amenable to the idea of sleeping with another brother-in-law. My advice would be to get out of their house(s) ASAP. Try and convince your sisters to rent a place for you near school. Next,if you're a religious person,go to GOd for delliverance. If not,see a therapist. There is something seriously wrong with you,psychologically speaking. At least you've made the first step-you've realised that what you're doing is abominable and you want to stop. You may be telling yourself that you're in love with the second brother-inlaw just to make the situation more excusable. Even if you truly love(and i use that phrase in the loosest possible way),consider this. Can you love a man who is not only cheating on his wife,but doing it with her sister? Is that honestly the kind of man you want to be with? What kind of future do you have with him? What would your family say if they found out? How would your nieces/nephews treat you if this abomination comes to light? How would your sisters react? Would they scream,cry,break down? Will you be able to live with yourself? You need help,OP. And i hope you get it.

That i have to give her an ultimatum: Tell someone or i will. Just thinking about it leaves a bitter taste in my mouth. I guess on some level i've always known it would come to this-i just didn't want to tell on her. Everybody here(especially chaircover) has been really helpful,kinda reminding me of what i'd always known i would have to do. We have to tell someone-and if she can't do it,i will. I know it's what's best and i know she shouldn't even have put me in this position,but it still feels like c.rap.

zayhal:
Don't you guys communicate through phone?

We do,though not that much. There've been network problems all over the place. I've called at least once every day snce she left-just to see how things are. Even when we do talk,she definitely didn't tell me she's having/might be having an abortion. I've made a decision,though.

Well kissing,infact,not just kissing-having a 'full make-out session' with someone on the first date does seem somehow. The fact that he's a bad boy doesn't necessarily mean he's playing her. After all,reformed rakes make the best boyfriends,no? I think she should just keep things flirty for now,hold out a little longer-if she really wants them to start something. If he wants them to start something too then at some point he'll make a move.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=585913.msg7563351#msg7563351 date=1295449678]@agitator
Folk like you die of envy quickly. Even when there's nothing to envy your depraved mind has to manufacture something. I pity you.[/quote]Don't mind him. Seriously,it's not worth the effort. P.s-I mailed you like an hour ago. Have you seen it? You can send the book in .pdf format.

SA Lady:
@Atreides and @Lord_Reid guys I dont know how you kept this up!!!

Matter of fact,i don't know how i kept it up either! Don't  worry;i have seen the light. I shall engageth him in discussion no more.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=585913.msg7562533#msg7562533 date=1295441551]@tensor777
You neither respond to issues raised intelligently or coherently and you are too uncouth for me to discuss with so this is the last time I'll respond to you until you are ready to discuss maturely.

Till then Adios Amigo.
@Atreides
On my profile? Anyway here: darthmaximusreed@yahoo.com. The books come in .txt, .pdf and .doc formats.
School's not in yet?[/quote]Okay. . I'll go with .pdf. I have microsoft office/quickword on my phone-can it open the .doc file? And nah,Uniben hasn't resumed. Current 100 level jus started exams so it looks like i'll have to wait a bit before they call us for clearance. Lemme go mail you now.

I'm okay. Pretty bored but okay. . Your email's hidden on your profile. So how we gon' do it? P.s-are your copies in .pdf or .jar format?

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=585913.msg7561955#msg7561955 date=1295435317]@Atreides
Hey lil sis just leave the kid to his delusions don't get yourself in a tizzy over someone who clearly has no interest in truth or wisdom.[/quote]Hey. . How ya doin? I think i'll ignore him now. P.s-i can't find the second dune book anymore. The site that had it took it off because of copyright infringement or something and i can't find it anywhere else. Any ideas?

Druss:
The reason why I said I aint ever gonna argue is simple

- At 17 to 20, the human child feels they know everything. They have read wide, they have seen some of the world. They are getting to the adult age.
- It is hard enough arguing with a woman but with a 17 yr old one!! GOD FORBID!! I am almost twice that age, I have a wife and lawd knows high blood pressure is real and is a biaatcch!!
- I would rather wait till you experience more of life then this would make more sense. Till then , I aint gonna yarn nada!!

Lwkmd. . Funny guy. . High blood pressure ehn? Oh well. You know what they say-Never argue with a girl cos she'll always win. . P.s-I like how even though you obviously don't agree with me,you weren't rude about it. And don't worry,you don't need to say nuthin. Better safe than sorry,eh?

@Druss,i don't want to argue with you either! Matter of fact,i don't want to argue with anyone-it's just there are some things you can't ignore. And i like the fact that you said 'doesn't mean a girl should date a poor guy'. And i also agree that she shouldn't be with him more because of the money than because of the guy himself,because at the end of the day money can't buy happiness.

tensor777:
It does as a matter of fact. How does a school girl get to know about all these things if she has not been playing way way out of her league. From your male classmates?
Don't make me laugh.
The fact is those players you are going after are extremely unlikely to be satisfied with merely holding your hands.

Stop obsessing over sex. I know this is prolly pretty hard for you to grasp,but not everybody's doing it. In any case,no matter what i say,you'll still see what you want to see and you'll still believe what you wanna believe. So here's a newsflash-believe what you want to believe,kay? You have my permission to think what you like-i honestly don't care. Just please,in the name of everything that makes sense in this world,please stop Nl stalking me. Abeg,fi mi le. Just stop Nl stalking me. I know it's hard,but please try ehn?

fstranger1:
T^^^

The young girl say make una leave her alone

You be pedo-phile?

I really really wanted to be angry but when i saw 'evil linkage' i just had to laugh. . His life must be seriously devoid of anything fun/exciting for him to get his kicks from stalking me up and down. At first i shrugged it off but now it's getting kinda creepy. P.s-How be? How ya doin my baaad yoruba boi? Wait lemme not call you bad boy again oh,since apparently liking bad boys/thinking they're fun means i sleep around. Double P.s-Have you seen I.d lately?

tensor777:
This is a quote from a schoolgirl that seemingly has already started sleeping around and appears fascinated with bad guys not knowing that this fascination was caused by the evil linkage which came about when she gave up her virginity to a player.
It happens all the time in Lagos as a matter of fact.

Dude you must be smoking the wrong weed. . How does me saying i like bad boys equal sleeping around? Seriously? Smh. .  Y'know i wanted to pissed by your mule-headedness,the way you keep on seeing only what you want to see,but then i went through your post and i just had to laugh. 'fascinated with bad boys'? 'Evil linkage?' That one cracked me up real good. . Stop Nl stalking me dude.

Mygoldie:
You don't get it,do you?
is it wrong for a man to take care of his girl's needs?

It is only a poverty striken greedy man,who would go ''my girl is a goldigger'' after all they've gone through,whilst in the relationship.

Loool. . He's not gonna get it so don't bother. Trust me,i tried. Lmao @ "poverty stricken man". . Hehe

koolchicco:
Umm, I shouldn't be on this thread since am still a V[i]ir[/i]gin!

Eziokwu? Tell me some more. . P.s-Weren't you claiming bad boy that time?

Speak for yourself. Not all black brothers are incapable of staying faithful.

maclatunji:
Where did you get this from your Hardley Chase Novels or your teenage friends?

And what do novels or friends have to with me believing that marriage is a serious commitment? Excuse me for thinking it's wrong to just walk out on a commitment you made just because you don't feel like it anymore.

hasyak:
She has said she is not happy, she has made mistake, so you want her to die for it? the world is not perfect and we have such a short time to live so if she is not happy let her leave.

Well my own opinion is that she should honor the commitment she's made. As long as he's not abusing her in any way and he's a good guy,i think she shoould try harder.

People need to stop viewing marriage as transitory,something they can walk out of whenever they feel like it. Marriage is a sacred bond of union,and she needs to respect it. As long as the man isn't abusing her in any way or being unfaithful,then she cannot just get up and say oh i'm tired after barely two months of being with him. She knew she wasn't in love with him before she married him. She knew what she was going into when she married him and now she just wants to up and leave the guy? A guy who has married her and is trying to build his home,a guy who probably loves her a great deal-she just wants to destroy his happiness because she's tired of making an effort after barely 2 months? That's not just selfish-it's cruel. She needs to realize that she must live up to her responsibilities and do the right thing. She has made her bed and so she must lie on it.

kadman:
Alive or dead ?

Dead - Humphrey Bogart (agreed by many)

Alive - Richard Gere (very underrated in my opinion)

Oi i totally agree with ya-Humphrey Bogart was A-mazing. . Casablanca still blows me away.

@Topic,hells yeah. Am i not the one who'll remain married to the guy for the rest of my life? Although i would seek their advice before making such an important decision.

@stranger,ok. . It's night here sha. @MDS,be careful oh. Verra soon some people will start attacking you.

fstranger1:
Touche!


The hunted has become the hunter

Lool. . I don't want to get into one of those huge Nl brawls. I just wish he'd leave me alone. P.s-Stranger is this really you? Why'd you dissappear in the afternoon? I know-it was those girls,I.d and Miss Jamo. . She said you don't like her. .

tensor777:
^^^Probably Atreides just probably.

Again,believe worreva you wanna believe. Whatever helps you sleep at night bro. And kindly stop Nl stalking me,k? Biko,leave me alone,aight?