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Enemyofpeace:
na who say make you no get money? It served you right. Next time you go hustle well well and be rich like us



Prettygirl200 go like big boys with big plantains

You think some people hustle that much before they make it big? There are people who hustle so much throughout their lifetime but can't even build a bungalow. Most times, connection to the right people helps

This is so rampant in the south Eastern part of Nigeria. Everyone feels like oppressing and then parents aren't helping matters. Even when you as a man earns a decent salary, they'll be pointing to emeka that is raking in millions monthly. Poverty has eaten deep into that part of Nigeria so much. Some families there are good sha

I grew up in Lagos and I can say for a fact that most lagosians are very impatient. They rush to do everything and the results are usually fatal. Waiting for few minutes would not kill you. Once they see you doing things in a careful manner, they'll tag you as mumu. Same thing that killed many people during that Ikeja bomblast years ago

NapoleonHill:
That girl who wanted to break up with her boyfriend for being a violent Arsenal fan go chop beating today if she never break up.

Exactly what I was thinking maximum vawulence

Nonsense!

Nothing would happen

See plenty mommy's boys chai! Many NL guys are actually senseless. See them. They'll never openly appreciate their fathers. They'll be talking about how emeka Ike is a simp. One day these girlfriends would become mothers. That's how every mother started! When you get married, take care of your home and your mom separately. You don't have to put yourself in a position to choose. Women are very competitive. You can't put your mom and wife in the same house!

soccerlite:
Is it that your mum didn't see traits you are accusing the girl of having before insisting you marry her?

Ugly, smelly, unmanner, uneducated


No mother would want her son to marry such woman

Your story is hard to believe

You don't know how African mothers behave at all especially Igbo mothers.

egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.

You are not a man as far as I'm concerned. No matter the mind games your mom tries to play, you should be able to maintain your no. You said your mom sold her jewelries to take care of you. It's what mothers do for their children. Fathers also sacrifice a lot for their children. It doesn't mean when you're an independent adult, you can't choose what you want. You put yourself in the mess cos you want to please your mom. Finish what you started. You don't deserve to marry another woman because you would allow your mom to maltreat her and not do anything about it. When you are ready to stand on your word as a man do let us know.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Firstly, for you to achieve peace, you have to be at peace with yourself. Things I discovered according to your write-up

1) you are a control freak. Be a friend to your spouse.
2) you were desperate otherwise you wouldn't bring in a liability and accept to become her father. Don't be desperate. How can you be forcing a woman to call her parents or family members to speak about marriage plans? A woman who is ready for marriage would never wait for you to start telling her family about you.
3) she doesn't need any training from you. She's an adult. Don't date someone hoping to train her. It's wrong!
4) when she called her ex to come pack her things and then the neighbor came to settle, why did you accept her back?
5) you saw your ex and ran to meet her. You are not a serious person and it is very much obvious. You did that and you expect that lady to keep calm. You're not ready for marriage. You still have some growing up to do. Both of you are not ready.

The way forward is : sit her down and speak to her. Tell her to be honest with you and say her mind even if it would hurt. Be ready to listen. If she is not interested in you, you'll see the signs. Once you see those signs, let her go. If both of you can't let go of your exes then you better part ways

FeliciaOja:
I meet him July this year, everything about him is cool. My only worry is his fanatical support for arsenal which I consider the worst club on earth.

He keeps disturbing me of how his club will win the league, but whenever they lose he becomes super depressed and aggressive.

We have talked about this many times and he has sworn to change.
But this night he came back very late and was making so much noise, shouting and yelling
Then I googled scores and saw that his club lost today

I can't take it anymore
He is not the first guy I have dated that loved football. His own is that when his club loss it affects him very bad.

I have even suggested he should stop supporting arsenal but he won't listen.
After this night rubbish he just displayed I'm thinking of calling it quits.

Am I overreacting??

Please break up with him ASAP. The guy is just an overgrown baby. This time around don't listen to his plea. Just let him go

What's happening with the free train ride now? I heard there's a lot of irregularities. Our politicians are not the problem of this country. Na the ordinary Nigerian be the problem. Everything must involve corruption

Update: I tried to book a ride early this morning and even with the free seats, I can see "maximum 0 seats". Those guys at the backend are working with the other staff to sneak passengers in. They have set it in a way that one can't register. Nigerians are too corrupt. Even when the government does something good, the people would still use it to extort themselves. Chai!

Wow mother in-law issues. If this is the case then his wife went through a lot. Why are Nigerian men fond of allowing mothers destroy their homes? Once you get married, stop allowing family members meddle in your affairs everytime. Take charge of your home and stop being mommy's boys! Emeka Ike why naaa?

This is like the worst song I've heard from Rema. It's crap

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

Premier league go definitely reject am

Who nor know say epl teams are overrated

If they should combine all leagues in Europe

No clubs from England will make top 8

Keep deceiving yourself. Man City and Liverpool would win the league every year. There's no club those two can't thrash in this world

There's nothing stunning here. Don't make money because of women. If you use money to win a woman over, you're on your own because if she doesn't love you and the money is gone, you're a goner. Take a look at wealthy men who suffered marital issues. If a woman loves you, she loves you. Using money to win a woman over is a sign of low self esteem and she knows that. It's not always about money. If a lady can't love you when you're hustling then you don't need her in your life. All that money you make don't need to go to gold diggers. What about friends and family that supported you along the way? I've always said it that it is very tough for a wealthy man to find a woman who truly loves him. Never ever use money to win ladies over. You'll only succeed in attracting criminals

I want to get a Xiaomi phone in January and I was talking to my friend about it. He claims the Poco is a better option but I haven't really seen people using them here. I discovered that the Poco m5 with helio g99 scored higher than Redmi note 12 with snapdragon 4 gen 1. Pls gurus in the house, tell me your experience with Xiaomi poco. What do you think about the performance, camera, e.t.c. should I stick with the Redmi note? Pls help push to frontpage dragnet
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observanc1:
when asked if he had a wife and children, he said yes, an American. Down the line started talking about his 'Nigerian' wife. He was married here with 2 children, abandoned them and moved to UK. Rather than inviting them to UK, he moved to US and married americana. And that one has abandoned him.

Karma came for him. His irresponsible lifestyle caught up with him. Nobody jazzed him.

Nawa for this man o. You left your wife and children in Nigeria to suffer. You then went ahead to marry again abroad. instead of bringing your wife and kids to join you. Now I see where the problems came from

The phone uses mediatek dimensity 6080. This is huge!!! Where are the itel haters?

jumokeadele:
dj splash, i followed the guy's story , nairamarley used that guy . The guy lost all his senses after he left the record label and everything was fetish. If this is a sane country naira marlay should be in jail.

Instead of Nigerians to support Iyabo Ojo who happened to be the only one that has stood up for dj splash case , see the comment above . I'm sorry for this country , its obviously not the politicians , its the masses that have problem.

You're correct 💯. Nigerians are the problems of Nigeria. I used to blast the politicians before but I later discovered that most Nigerian citizens don't have sense. They'd rather support evil because it's from their tribe or religion than to support something good from elsewhere. Don't pity Nigerians. They hardly pity themselves. When you do good, they'll call you mumu but when you do bad, they'll call you a sharp guy or sharp girl. Most Nigerians are mentally unstable and myopic in their thinking. A society that openly glorifies internet fraud cannot progress.

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

Hmm i hope it's not sex or her curvy body that is making you think this way? Time would tell. Na battle you dey enter so o if her baby daddy is still alive. I won't discourage you if you feel this is what you want. Just be vigilant and don't rush to marry her. I know say konji dey disturb but with time, you would decide

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

Sit him down and let him know how you feel. If he doesn't retrace his steps, let him be and go enjoy yourself. You can even divorce him. Marriage is not a do or die affair. Let him have a taste of his own medicine. He is an irresponsible man. If you don't have kids for him yet, you better Japa. Make friends and from there you'll get someone who would appreciate you. You sef, next time look for a responsible man. Avoid all these active clubbers. Most of them are overgrown babies

temitope23:
Stellas app has this function where you can make a transfer and the receiver won't find any details about you. I've used it many times.

Wow this is nice. I need this. In this ghost mode, can I put another name while sending?

Wizkid wants to engage in politics

My fear is that when the 33Billion gets to the villagers, Bandits would come for them. If they love themselves, after getting the money, they should leave that village for good.

mcdon024:
Mature advice only please.
I will keep this very short.
There is this her colleague she talks about almost all the time. He is also married. I became curious and decided to go through her WhatsApp chats with this guy. I saw in thier chats selfie pics she sends to him (normal selfie pics), and the one that really got to me is the part he invited my wife to come over and "lets make babies" according to him. But her reply was "No I can't, your hands are full"....Please who can decode this her reply to him?....I confronted her but she denied ever having anything to do with him beside been colleagues. But my worry is why chat flirty chats with a guy and what would give him the mind to ask her to come over and .......... Please I need mature advice only

She's definitely cheating on you but the way I see it ehn, they're friends with benefits. It would be difficult to separate both of them. She'll still be claiming they're just friends. Sadly it seems they've had s*x. You need to sit her down and have a long heart to heart talk cos the truth is there is a crack in your home and it needs patching. If she evades the discussion, involve her family and let them know that if you still see her with that guy, you may be forced to let her go. A married woman is supposed to set boundaries with other men. Be careful sha. Don't start telling people around. Some men would even use it as an opportunity to tap current. It's really sad. If your wife truly loves you, she would listen. If you don't have kids yet, it's never too late to leave and start over. You might have lost your wife. She is there physically but her mind may be far

There's nothing wrong. You just want her to be looking serious all the time. You wanna kill her? I watch animation a lot too. Those japanese anime especially Attack on Titan ❤️ and death note. Her kids would be so close to her and that makes parenting easier. You're lucky bro. She is not a grumpy wife

Ewooo no be person liver be that? Jeez

Kudos to United. They played proper attacking football tonight and it paid off. They held on to the ball better but the midfield was so porous. McTominay is a striker! Anthony was fantastic, I just love reguilion. The guy is very good on the ball. Garnacho tormented Chelsea's defence. Luke shaw is a speedster with so much technique but he needs to be careful in big games.

Chelsea might break the jinx tonight. United are not usually sharp on the ball and they would get punished if they play what they played against Newcastle. If they lose this game, Ten hag would be sacked. They need to wake up and play football. Hold on to the ball better, create chances and finish them. Sancho should be recalled. United need all the legs they can use right now. Martial is not a footballer, Rashford is off, Hojlund is not seeing enough time on the ball due to lack of creativity. Sancho can create for him

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