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There is a great need for inculcation of International Humanitarian Law in the military personnel. More efforts should be made towards this.

I have seen several Nigerians mounting Israeli National Flags in their cars. Are they really patriotic to the state of Israel or could this mean something else?

Hi folks, I just checked on the internet and it seems its just Arik that travels from Ebugu to Abuja. Could you help me with others. Thanks

INFIDELITY CAN BE IN YOUR GENES
Cheating may run in the family, specifically your genes. Women with certain mutations of a receptor gene for vasopressin — a hormone that is synthesized in the hypothalamus and stored in the posterior pituitary — are more likely to be infidels, according to a recent study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior. Vasopressin affects trust and empathy levels, which play an important role in bonding, social behavior, and sexual motivation. This suggests there are biological underpinnings to this risky sexual behavior.

At a young age, society trains our psyche to expect to meet the one, get married, have kids, and grow old together. Playground songs like “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage!” make love and relationships seem one-dimensional. Although in monogamous relationships commitment means no playing around, sometimes the inevitable happens — infidelity. Cheating is a common occurrence in monogamous relationships. According to a study from the University of Chicago, 22 percent of married men and 15 percent of married women have cheated at least once. This all depends on one’s definition of cheating, but the majority does consider sexual intercourse or MouthAction to be cheating, while other behaviors like kissing or sexual Webcamming fall into gray areas. Infidelity can occur at any time in a relationship, with problems in the relationship being the main reason people cheat. However, it’s not always a sign that something is wrong in a relationship. Holly LaBarbera, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Fremont, Calif., told Medical Daily in an email, “Sometimes one partner meets someone with whom they fall in love. Sometimes one partner is unhappy themselves and a new relationship makes them feel alive and special in a way they haven't felt in a long time. Sometimes cheating has nothing to do with the other partner.” Read on for surprising facts about infidelity that every person in a relationship should know.

MOST MEN ARE STILL IN LOVE WHEN THEY CHEAT
Contrary to popular belief, men who cheat actually claim to be happy in their marriages. A study by Rutgers University found that 56 percent of men and 34 percent of women who had extramarital affairs claimed to be happy or very happy in their marriages. In fact, many of these spouses claimed to still be in love with their wives when they cheated.April Masini, relationship expert and author, believes the main reason that people in happy marriages cheat is because one of them doesn't feel the way they want to in the marriage. "Whether it's successful, heroic, or sexual — the husband or wife isn't getting these feelings from a spouse, and either looks for those feelings elsewhere, or is susceptible to cheating because they get those feelings elsewhere, without seeking them out," she told Medical Daily in an email.

INFIDELITY IS NOT THE LEADING CAUSE OF DIVORCE
Cheating can be grounds for a marriage ending, but it's not the main cause of divorce. The reason why couples divorce is because they fall out of love, according to a 2011 survey conducted by Grant Thornton UK LLP. Infidelity ranked second on the list, followed by unreasonable behavior, midlife crisis, and emotional/physical abuse. This suggests couples are willing to work through infidelity than rekindle the flame in a loveless relationship."A single instance of infidelity may not lead to divorce, especially if the couple uses it as a wake-up call and fix the underlying problems," Dr. Tina B. Tessina, a psychotherapist in Long Beach, Calif., and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, told Medical Daily in an email. It is the repeated instances of cheating that usually lead to divorce, "unless the couple has another reason for staying together, such as a shared business or children," according to Tessina.

WOMEN THINK MEN WITH DEEP VOICES ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT
Women find men who sound like Barry White more attractive, but only for short-term relationships, because they're more likely to cheat. In a 2013 study published in the journal Behavioral Ecology, researchers found when women listened to men's voices to determine which guys were more inclined to cheat, and which they were most attracted to for long- and short-term, deep-voiced men got the shorter end of the stick. They were considered to be more suitable for a fling, where fidelity was not a concern.

WOMEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT IF A MAN HAS BIG TESTICLES
Bigger isn't always better, men, especially when it comes to cheating. The bigger a man's Instruments, the more likely a woman will cheat, according to a study at the University of Oslo. In the study, the female partners of primates, specifically bonobos with large testicles, were more likely to have other sexual relationships. In context, human testicles are one-and-a-half times larger than those of gorillas.

MEN WHO CHEAT ARE MORE LIKELY TO HAVE HEART ATTACKS
Affairs can literally break hearts. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found men who cheat on their wives are more likely to suffer "sudden coital death" when having sex with their mistresses in an unknown place, compared to when they're having sex with their wives at home. Although the precise reasons for the increase in heart attack death are unclear, researchers suggest it can be a guilty conscience, stress from keeping the affair a secret, and even the stress of wining, dining, and satisfying a woman who is likely to be younger than the man's wife.

INFIDELITY INCREASES A MAN’S CHANCE OF A BROKEN PENIS
Cheating is risky business and it could cost men their penis, too. A 2011 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found out of 16 cases of penile fracture between 2007 and 2011 that required surgery, half of the patients admitted to fracturing their joysticks during an extramarital affair. The tear happens when the tunica albuginea — the fibrous membrane that surrounds the tissue in the center of the penis — is torn while an erect penis is bent or buckled. These men were not only engaging in extramarital affairs when they were injured, but they were also having sex in unusual locations that were outside the bedroom.

http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/love-sex/once-a-cheater-always-a-cheater-7-surprising-facts-about-infidelity/ss-BBkYWqY?ocid=UP97DHP#image=7

I BORROWED MONEY TO PAY FOR MY NOMINATION FORM TO CONTEST THE OFFICE OF THE PRESIDENCY BECAUSE AM A POOR RETIRED ARMY GENERAL. Hmmmmmm this man can lieeeeee oooooh. PLS BE THE JUDGE

Buhari and his asset: REVEALED.

•Cash in Bank PHB (KEYSTONE)N43,702,892.43

•Family Quarters N105,000,000.00

•Multi-storey in Abuja N212,000,000.00

•Duplex in Kaduna N120,000,000.090

•7-bedroom duplex N90,000,000.00

•Abuja Plot N50,000,000.00

•2 farms in Katsina N25,000,000.00

•29 new cars N174,700,000.00

•Honda Accord car N350,000.00

•Mercedes Benz Car N6,500,000.00

•Bank PHB shares 2,000,000 units

•Unity Bank shares 100,000

•Muradi Hotel shares 100,000 units

FIRST LADY'S ASSETS
•3 Local houses N1,500,000.00
•Twin Bungalow N15,000,000.00
•3 vacant plots N2,500,000.00
•Furniture N3,000,000.00 — with Nigeria Transparency Initiative, Nigerdelta Welfare, Abada Saviou and 39 others.

Buhari still carries short gun. See his pocket

Being likable is entirely under your control. All it takes is the ability to pick up a few key social skills that build emotional intelligence (EQ).

To help you out, we sifted through the Quora thread, "What are useful social skills that can be picked up quickly?" and highlighted our favorite answers.

Here are seven simple ways to start crafting a "million-dollar personality" and be the most likable person in the room:

1. Make eye contact.

"It is an idiotically simple thing, but it remains one of the most impactful life hacks around," writes Quora user Brad Porter. "The most attractive quality in a person is confidence. But 'be confident' is not very good advice. Instead, find the best proxy for confidence, in terms of interactive behavior. And that's eye contact."

Start this habit immediately, says Porter. It requires no practice or special skill; just the commitment to meet someone's gaze and look them in the eye while conversing.
And keep it there until your conversation or meeting is over. Basil Chiasson puts it simply: "Pay attention. Look at them. Stop what you're doing. No interruptions."

This is another simple, yet effective, habit that can be executed immediately and does not require any effort or skill.

3. Call people by name.

The next time someone greets you by name or uses your name mid-conversation, remember how great that feels.

If you have trouble putting names to faces, try different strategies, such as writing them down or using imagery or rhymes associated with the name. Quora user Howard Lee suggests repeating their name verbally when you're first introduced, and then twice more in your head.

Don't underestimate the power of smiling.

Additionally, laugh and tell jokes, recommends Quora user Craig Fraser. People unconsciously mirror the body language of the person they're talking to; if you want to be likable, use positive body language and people will naturally return the favor.

5. Give a firm handshake.

"Not too hard, certainly not limp and soft, and with no dominance play," writes Tony Vincent.

Research shows that people decide whether or not they like you within seconds of meeting you. A firm handshake contributes largely to that first impression, as do strong posture and positive body language.

Listen more than you speak, says Quora user Mark Bridgeman: "You have two ears, only one mouth. That's the ratio you should use them with."

7. Don't just listen — actively listen.

Simply hearing words doesn't cut it. Likable people truly listen to the person they're talking to.

Active listening requires four steps, writes Chiasson: Hearing, interpreting, evaluating, and responding.

Step one requires dropping what you're doing and paying attention. Next, "paraphrase what you've heard and ask clarifying questions," she suggests. Evaluating means steering clear of quick judgment and jumping to conclusions: "Make sure you have all the pertinent information before forming or expressing an opinion." Finally, "give feedback to let the speaker know that you heard them," she writes.

http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/smart-living/7-simple-social-skills-that-will-make-you-more-likable/ar-BBkQcIF?ocid=UP97DHP#page=1

I was shocked watching this video where the president criticized seeking foreign aid in fight against Boko Haram calling it "shameful".

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The name of this group when juxtaposed with the piece of advise they gave to the president is called anachronism in English Language

I was wondering if this is not her daughter's picture

I been dey expect to see picture of the suicide bomber; no picture for this thread

people are still waiting but i think the fuel scarcity affected a whole lot of things

Ifeoba:
Has anyone gotten invitation for the second round Interview since the last one we had on the 6th of May at VSF office in Abuja? Anybody with useful information about whether they have completed recruitment or not should please update this forum. I was interviewed for the position of Programme Assistant. What about you?

faces of bribery. mchew

I try my legs on dancing showky

Kai, these men have tasted bliss

Please which road did he pass from Awka to Enugu or did he go in a chopper? just asking

That could pay my PhD tuition in the US instead of lying idle on that wrist.

For the followers of Christ, do not be troubled for as is written in the Books, in the last days, the love of many will wax cold.

First there's #HowOldRobot— the app that tells you how old you look (come on, we know you tried it). Now there's a calculator that predicts how old you might live. But unlike Microsoft's app, the Living to 100 Calculator is based on actual science, and Thomas Perls, M.D., a geriatrician at Boston Medical Center and professor at Boston University School of Medicine, created it so you can easily guesstimate your lifespan. Of course, your odds of becoming a centenarian are partly based on your genes, but there are a few helpful habits the app proves you can pick up even if you don't hit the genetic jackpot. Learn 'em now and who knows—maybe you'll be blowing out 100 candles on your b-day cake.

YOU'RE MORE PHOEBE THAN MONICA.
That is, you do your best not to be neurotic like the ultra-competitive chef on Friends, According to findings from Boston University's 20-year-long centenarian study, those who live longest don't dwell on things, and they tend to let their feelings be known when something bothers them. "Internalizing stress can translate into a range of diseases, like hypertension and cardiovascular disease," which could obviously lead to an earlier death, says Dr. Perls. So if you're typically wound tighter than a Slinky, channel your inner Phoebes and try meditating, running freely through the park, or maybe even belting out your best rendition of Smelly Cat.

YOU HAVE LOTS OF FRIENDS.
And not just Facebook friends. A review of 70 studies with more than 3.4 million participants found that people who were socially isolated were at a 29 percent higher risk for early death. And those who simply felt lonely—even if they had friends—were at a 26 percent higher risk. Translation: quit viewing time with pals as negotiable. Brunch with your bestie or book club with your girlfriends is just what the doctor ordered.

YOU JOG—SLOWLY.
Next time you feel guilty about casually running along while a marathoner blazes by, pat yourself on the back—you're likely to live longer (and, let's be honest, feel a lot less pain when you get home). A 12-year study of healthy joggers and non-joggers found that 1 to 2.4 hours of jogging per week at about a 12-minute mile pace netted the lowest mortality rate. Shockingly, the fastest joggers had about the same risk of death as the couch potatoes, possibly because very strenuous cardio over decades could affect the heart. Now, we're not saying that you're better off being sedentary, but the old adage may be true: slow and steady really does win the race.

YOU'RE A GO-GETTER.
Out of the following two statements, think about which you agree with more: "Some people wander aimlessly through life, but I am not one of them" and "I sometimes feel as if I've done all there is to do in life." If you lean toward the former, you likely have a greater sense of purpose, and researchers found that that typically means you'll live longer. The takeaway: Setting goals is good for your lifespan, and no, you don't have to aspire to be president like Mellie Grant. Things like "read one new book a month," "register for a 5K," or "take a sewing class" are equally as beneficial.

YOU LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE.
If "It's not about the years in your life, but the life in your years" is a mantra you live by, well, you're likely to hang around a lot longer. A small study found that centenarians tend to be optimistic and consider laughter an important part of life, while another revealed that the majority of 100-year-olds think laughing and having a sense of humor is crucial for healthy aging. But listen, we get it—sometimes your day just isn't going in a glass-half-full direction. When that happens, do your best to incorporate more giggles into your day. A weekly date with The Tonight Show or a queue of funny cat videos could be just what you need to reach those golden years.

YOU GET THOSE QUALITY ZZZ'S.
Forget "I can sleep when I'm dead." A United Healthcare survey revealed that super agers make bedtime a priority, with 79 percent of 'em regularly logging eight or more hours each night. "Sleep is exceptionally important for healthy aging," says Dr. Perls. When you rest, your body gets to work on vital functions and your cells and tissues recover from the stresses of daily life. Not to mention studies have linked too few zzz's to obesity, diabetes, heart disease, hypertension and a weakened immune system. To reap the rewards, try to go to bed and wake up at consistent times (yes, even on the weekends), avoid caffeine in the afternoon, and use your bed primarily for sleep and sex (not TV, phone calls, or work).

YOU GO ON VACATION.
Consider this yet another reason to book that beach getaway. A study in Psychosomatic Medicine found that men who took an annual vacation were 19 percent less likely to die, and an earlier study found that women who vacayed at least twice a year had a significantly lower risk of heart disease than those who only got away every six years or less. "It's possible that people who take regular vacations prioritize time off and down-time, and this provides protection from disease," says study author Brooks B. Gumps, Ph.D., a public health professor at Syracuse University.

YOU EAT LIKE THE ITALIANS.
We're not talking about Olive Garden and Sbarro—we mean the diet found in the olive-growing regions of Mediterranean countries. Researchers in Italy looked at the eating habits of people in western Sicily (an area that has six times as many centenarians as the rest of the country) and, sure enough, the older folks ate a typical Mediterranean diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats from olive oils, nuts, and seeds, while avoiding red meat, refined carbs, and sweets. Snack on fruit or nuts, eat fish at least twice a week, and flavor your food with herbs and spices to mimic the lifestyle

YOU HAVE KIDS LATER.
Gone are the days of having kids in your early 20s, and now science says it's cool if you want to make your career the priority for a while. Many centenarian women have a history of bearing children after 35; one study even found that women who gave birth after the age of 40 (without fertility assistance) increased their odds of reaching 100 four-fold. "It's not that becoming a mom later in life promotes longevity," says Dr. Perls. "Rather, it's an indicator that a woman's reproductive system is aging slowly and the rest of her body likely is as well."

YOUR DENTIST LOVES YOU.
Taking care of your pearly whites goes hand in hand with longevity, according to research published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society. Dr. Perls and his team of researchers discovered that people who lived to 100 were unlikely to use dentures, and most of their own teeth were still in tact. "This makes sense because gum disease is associated with inflammation and heart disease," says Dr. Perls. Time to bust out the floss again, and this time actually use it.

http://www.msn.com/en-us/health/agingwell/10-surprising-signs-youre-going-to-live-to-100/ss-BBklrwS?ocid=UP97DHP#image=11

I no no but malam go always look malam to me no matter how they look and dress

Some fat envelopes

I'm actually humbled by this rare act of the new Nigerian President. Bravo!

Write up needs some editing to ease stress free perusal

Never seen people like Nigerians . what's wrong with a couple displaying some unique regalia ? Don't they look amazing in those attires . Are you guys this crude and back minded. Goshhhhh!!! Why the abuses on the couple.

That must be somewhere in northern Nigeria where everything is taken as the will of God, even when you are not being precautious .

Can metro work without steady power. Hope someone is not starting an inpending disastar. First thing first . Nigeria is the most ridiculous place I have ever seen

This is a dumb move. Constitution guarantees them free movement except there are subsisting cases against them. This is the reason American type of democracy is the bane of Africa's development. Africa needs a special rule where such guarantee could be managed. In any case, there is judicial cooperation especially with country that have extradition treaty with Nigeria. And what if they are smart to avoid going to such countries ? These are monumental issues.

President elect, Buhari expressed reservations over claims by the government of subsidizing the petroleum sector. He spoke on how during his time as Military leader, they were able to make fuel available at all times. Below are excerpts of what he said in the interview
One burning issue is fuel subsidy. I believe you are aware of the queues in major cities like Lagos and Abuja. The fuel importers say they are unsure of the direction of the new government in this area. Have you considered maintaining or withdrawing this subsidy or are you questioning whether it didn’t exist at all?
One of the problems I have, other than the military, is the petroleum industry where I served for three and a half years under General Obasanjo. When people start talking about this subsidy I honestly get confused. I will tell you this, and I hope it will answer what you want to know. Back then we had a refinery in Port Harcourt, which was refining 30,000 barrels a day of Nigerian crude. Later, it was upgraded to refine 100,000 barrels a day.

Another refinery was built in Port Harcourt to refine 150,000 barrels per day of Nigerian crude. So, Port Harcourt alone had the capacity to refine 250,000 barrels per day of Nigerian crude. But when I found myself as the Minister of Petroleum I set up another refinery in Warri for 100, 000 barrels per day of Nigerian crude and the Kaduna refinery a 100, 000 barrels per day. So Nigeria built capacity to refine 450,000 a day. Four Hundred thousands of which is purely Nigerian crude, but 50,000 was imported. The type of crude could be Venezuelan, which could be a bit heavier. But the lighter ones - kerosene, aviation fuel, diesel, PMS of different grades could be produced from our crude because Nigerian crude is about the best in the world. If you could recall, after finishing as Minister of Petroleum, I subsequently became Head of State.

You remember, I appointed Professor Tam David West as the Minister of Petroleum. When we rounded up bunkers, collected their illegal jetties and allowed jetties for only big firms which were doing production and development in the country, we were shocked that we had too much fuel. We had to begin to export 100,000 barrels per day. Don’t forget that we didn’t stop at building refineries, we built more than 20 depots during my time, from Port Harcourt to Ilorin, Makurdi, Suleija, Maiduguri and Kano. More than 3,000 pipelines were laid to connect them. A number of stations were also built to take the trailers off the road, save lives and the infrastructure on the road. It is more economical because each trailer uses fuel.

We did all that in this country and we didn’t borrow any money as far as I know. It’s Nigerian money. From each Nigerian crude, whether Akwa Ibom, Bonny Light or whatever it is, you can work out how much products it will give you; how much petrol it will give you; how much diesel it will give you if you want to produce diesel. We could tell how much Nigerian crude cost, the cost of transportation from there to the refinery, the cost of refining, the cost of transportation to the pump stations and maybe 5 per cent go for overhead. I can understand if Nigerians pay for those cost but somebody is saying he is subsidizing Nigerians. Who is subsidizing who?

But they argue that the price should not be the same in Lagos and Daura, for example? 
It has to be the same because it is the Nigerian crude.

But they consider the cost of transportation? 
Why didn’t it make any difference when we were around? Why did we build the network of pipelines? Why did we build the network of depots? What can Nigerians benefit from the God-given gift of petroleum? No refinery is built unless there is an in-depth research that there is enough reserve of up to six layers to be produced.

The argument I have heard is that refineries are aged. Mostly, they are performing at less than half of their capacity…?
You can’t defend these corrupt and incompetent people. You can’t defend them. There used to be what they call turn-around-maintenance. You close the refinery in order to overhaul and clean it. What we did: we asked our producers, we need various refined products of this type at this time when the refineries are being cleaned. Take this type of Nigerian crude and bring us the refined products. What we don’t need, we will calculate and pay you as fees for refining and transportation. If it is more than what the crude can handle, then we take it from the treasury. But you are trying to justify all these frauds by saying the refineries are aged.

Of course, they are actually aged? 
They said the refineries are aged. The pipelines are leaking. There is vandalisation. Who ordered the vandalisation?

Does it suggest that you don’t believe in the subsidy? So, you are not going to agree to its continuation in anyway?
I would like to be on ground and find out what really has been going wrong. Why is it that people are doing round-tripping with the Nigerian products and take money from the treasury? Some people are still in court. You know about it. So, I’m not taking anything for granted. But I will try and find out what went wrong.

Read the rest of the interview on Daily Trust

Na real defender which year is this geep?

The on going energy crises to say the least might be a ploy to cause a military take overbefore may 29-date for hand over to the next president of Nigeria. I wonder if someone is reading the handwriting on the wall.