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curiousmind11:
If this is true, why do most women kill (physically or otherwise ) when the relationship doesn't end at the alter?
Most guys will cry and move one. But women, even if they were the reason for the breakup will fight dirty, and may even make it a generational fight.

Some women have to learn this and learn fast!!

it is never easy to move on, especially when you love that person but we just have to when the occasion calls. Thank you for the comment.

prettysolid:
It is not as easy as you write. The heart wants what it wants. But still a good advice.

thank you for getting it, it is not easy to just go on.

BabaRamota1980:
Naturally, women are exhibitionists! Women initiate contacts with the opposite gender, and they do so by bending our senses.

The essense of manhood is given meaning through the notion of uprightness. Because everything in creation is paired and opposite, a force must counter the uprightness in man. This counter force is a secret energy hidden in the word OM.

A woman senses and is aware of the presence of a man before he has become aware of her physical presence. He is blind to a lot of things in the environment, things that naturally are in recognition to her higher octave senses. So she must help him to see and so he can keep his uprightness together.

Part of what he must see is her body. Her body contains OM. It is potent and very adaptive. It is so potent that at high spectrum she can feel herself and her own sensuality and be able to look at her own body and acknowledge the beauty. In that state, no man who lays eyes on her body can escape the charm. Quite scandalous if left untamed!

Social morals therefore are in place to guide and protect women in the interest of social values. Her nud1ty is part of the protection. A woman can express the choice to waive protection for herself. This creates risks on many levels. Her essense, the OM, looses its virtue.

A woman without virtue ends up in circumstances that similarly lacks virtue. A woman of no virtue is undesirable to the man struggling to uphold his uprightness and so he keeps an alertness against any commitment or devotion to her. In other words, he wants her but doesn't have any need for her.

I think I talked too much. Enough..!!



Where is my bae?
#teamchidinma....

i wish you could continue...

NuFarma:
You entitlement crazy females keep proving that men are nothing to you than objects of comfort and status elevation.

...
All these wahala on how to please the genders


If men can realise that women have nothing to offer than their looks and the "almighty" vagina, the world would be a better place.

People are saying that women are unpredictable. Let me break it to you: they are.

As a man, just focus on yourself, work hard and make your money and watch these bitches fall at your feet...offering to have your babies.

But it's unfortunate that majority of modern men are pussy worshippers. That's why females use this to their advantage....

you cannot change something that is natural. God has given them that for men to ask for. Please those two you mentioned are not just what women offer. If you have a good woman you will understand what i mean, that is very harsh.

apatheticme:
Trust me u read this wrong, never said beating a woman was a good thing and I detest it, I only meant that not everyone interprets keeping quiet as a sign of submission. Where should I say dis before Inside? Since the day they have been trying to settle their disputes saying it's a family issue has it helped? I watch her slipping into depression everyday and I am not happy, the least I could do is speak my mind on the issue I see close to me, don't know why u're attacking. If u can't interpret people's train of thought try asking them first before becoming judgmental

no, i am not attacking you, i just needed you to clarify the thoughts in me which you have done. I understood all you said.

apatheticme:
Not always true. My sister's husband beats her black and blue if she keeps quiet during an argument no matter how simple. He believes they should both be exchanging words and explain themselves and takes her silence as consent to haven done whatever he's accusing her of. It took my sister a long time to understand this, by then the damage was already done. Family meetings every time to settle quarrel. Abeg marriage na die, u do problem, u no do head ache. Pple are different, what works for A does not necessarily work for B, all these rules na wash.

sorry to say this, and you are happy to say this outside? And your sister is enjoying it, i am asking because the way you replied is as if beating a woman is normal.

darealez:
I doubt the efficacy as well as the potency of this but I sure believe it'll work abroad but here in Nigeria response to this'll be quite low depending on how angry the man is. For extremist like me I don't wanna hear anything o until baba God cool me down by himself GBAM!

please are you married?

Lawlahdey:
Thank you, my brother. . You really understood me!
I love you, I swear... Infact i'm following you now now

this deserve a follow back too as you have written what many copy and paste bloggers will feast on not knowing what you went through before combining all together to make sense.

Lawlahdey you did well, in short, men are the cause of women's predicaments, yet we still condemn you for trying to impress us... Such is life.

aalangel:
A thread that won't hold water. Women are unreadable and unpredictable.

coming from a F, full stop.

aalangel:
Are you married?

i know i will still be asked this question. Well, i am not yet, i am a relationship blogger who also counsel married couples and youths, therefore, i read around, ask around and compile all findings before i post so as not to go blank when i get this kind of question. And with little experience from my 8years+ relationship and still blazing which will be sealed any moment. I hope i answered and i hope it is not that what i wrote is wrong? I will be glad if you talk as i am much more learning, if you criticise, it will make me write better ones.

Originalsly:
Hmmm... women... just been talking about packging her irresistible figure.. now saying was figure of speech... I just can't figure women. I give up.

please don't. Lol.

Yewandequeen:
I Dont get

i mean not just on point.

AdisaOwala:
Counter thread loading

this is a counter thread

Yewandequeen:
On point

understatement.

Ekeke1:
Make una no win first

and dem go see wetin you go do dem.

MyGeneration:
All dz bad belle bloggers

how?

gypsey:
Every body has become a so called blogger, telling us or criticizing us on how to live our lives, as if they care, only all they care about is their blogg. Rubbish!

By the way what does blogg or blogging means? I can bet my ass all these so called bloggers does not even know what blogg means.

you don't need to go too far to know the meaning of blogging, read my posts and you will have the full insight. Those you have been seeing with copy and past news are those once that may not know what blogging means. I do all posts on my blog myself as it is my opinion which i want people to read and possibly share their experiences with me, criticise me or agree with me. And FYI i care about you and my keen readers because i don't blog for the money but the passion to make your relationship great, if i do it for money maybe since almost 3years i have been blogging i will have switched to what other bloggers are known for.

thelish:
My dear, u really have time to answer some kind people oo.

as in, the response alone is enough for a post.

shollyblingzy:
some men still dont get tame with these ooo, jst lets pry to have a good one with a simple heart, you would enjoy the relationship with those simple ones, but regret it if you end up with the hard guys.. good luck ladies

yes, you are right.

What you will say within your mind immediately you see the topic of this post will be "i know already, i have seen many".

This goes beyond that as many needs to see positive reasons beyond separation or breakup.

I wouldn't like to bring destiny into my write up, but as a philosopher, even if i don't want to, i would have done it before realising i don't want to.

No matter how hard we try, some relationship will not last to reach the altar because no one can cheat destiny.

At times, we cry when someone we love dearly break our heart and to get the emotion and psychological effects back to shape takes time.

During that trial period many will say i am not sure i will do this again, meanwhile it only takes few moment and you are in another one before you know it.

It is not easy for me to say this too, but for a relationship that is at the verge of reaching the final destination which could not, lessons from the relationship can go a long way to make your next relationship a success as your last relationship has built you for the person you are now or to still be with.

If you are in any relationship now please don't feel bad about this as it is reality and i am not saying something will happen to your relationship in case you are determined to seal it with that person.

It is not easy though but the truth is, we must still forge ahead as break up is not the end of the world.

One thing i always say to those in relationship is that "if anything will lead to your break-up try not be the subject, that even if the deaf hears the reason, the other person will be blamed"...

..." and not because you are not the subject, you must now announce from house-to-house your ex caused it". Just let the sleeping dog lie and move on as a better being.

Later, that person who is at fault of the break-up will regret and learn from that mistake which will make him or her better in his/her new relationship while you are also cautious in your new relationship not to make that same mistake your ex made because it can go either ways, and this will make you better also.

And if you both separate on a mutual ground, then, the lesson you both learnt from the experiment will be too good to be neglected in your new relationship.

A bad boyfriend/girlfriend to so many people are now good husband/wife and mother to their spouse and kids now, so forget your heart was broken by someone, the fact is just that you were made to meet each other to learn for you to be the best in your real home.

I wouldn't say you should not cry in case it happens, please cry, but your errors in that past relationship should go out with the tears.

Many great homes you see today, the couple once dated someone else before meeting the one they are now calling their husband/wife and some pretty pet names you never knew existed.

Break-up is not easy, and to get over it might be an herculean task, however, while in a relationship do have it at the back of your mind that not all relationship ends in marriage, but you have to see the positives in the break-up which should help your future relationship instead of dwelling on the past and expect the restoration miracle.

Life is a lesson, the more you live the more you learn and the wiser you become.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/11/not-all-relationships-end-in-marriage.html

toyeem:
Now I wish every man was this simple

most are that simple.

herzern:
Not everyone is a beqqar like yhu....

see you, so all you did was just picture? Are you aware once it leaves frontpage that is all? Maybe you are made already sha.

nnamdibig:
Men are mostly easy going unlike the women that requires you to press lots of Botton.

they will not like to hear it but it is the truth.

Unlike the female counterpart, it is easier to cool an angry husband, you don't need to go on 50days dry fasting because the weapon to cool them lies within you the wife.

Men are just one funny being created to make life easier for women. If you want to cool him just do one or all of these:

1. Prepare to tell him how much he means to you:

Women love sweet words, so as men. No matter how angry a man can be a woman can make him come back to who he used to be through making him know how important his happiness means to her and his home. 

You must be ready to treat him like a child especially if you are the cause of the anger. You need to allow him be alone for a while before you go to him with mindset to restore life into him, of course, if you cannot make him happy, who will? 

2. Prepare the table with his best meal:

To win a man you must be ready to make his stomach yarn for the produce of your hands from the kitchen.

Even if he doesn't like heavy food, once you known the best of what he loves to eat you have nailed him.

If it is a serious issue that caused the anger, once you have prepared the table with what he loves to eat, if you are not there he will quickly taste out of that which you have prepared behind you not minding if you have poisoned it.

3. Prepare the bed to satisfy his sexual desires

After satistfying his stomach the bed is already feeling the heat as it will be the battle field to put a complete full stop to whatever anger that might be waging third-world-war inside him.

If the food fails, this will not fail if you really know how to seduce your man.

The funny part of this is that even if he is tired that on a normal day he will give you that "i am tired" attitude, the strength will come from no where because men loves the wife to be submisive and it gives them sense of responsibility.

I am just afraid you(the woman) will bare the brunt as you will feel him more than you have ever felt him, that his where he feels he can use the rode to correct you not to make that mistake again, in this case, no sparing the rode to spoil any child, sorry, no room as immediate correction is necessary.

You can see men are very easy to handle unlike women, you need million theories to understand them.

With men; Life is good!


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/11/to-cool-angry-husband-takes-no-stress.html

Codes151:
Place your bets Now!!! Cause this match will end 2 - 2

this is how you plan to feast on our money abi? God is watching you

aameyah:
My bros, It's almost impossible not to wrong someone. Even someone you mean to pamper....

i overstand, it is not easy though.

goingape2:
to cool an angry wife is to be an angry man itself!


beat the crab out of her and she will cool her anger and know that yours is more terrifying than her.

dont do all this the opt said!

most you be admitting that you are wrong all the time

show her that you are a man and beat the black out of her!


the more you pamper naija women the more them will see you as less of a man and do whatever them feel like.

you dont pamper a dog when it does wrong, you beat the dog and show the animal what he did wrong. the same principle apply to women too.

and some people like this? Haba! Life isn't as ruthless as you have just painted it to be, there are cool better options.

aameyah:
To calm down an angry woman, just admit your wrong sincerely and tell her you are sorry.

most times it takes beyond this o, no be women? The best is not to get them angry, they are to be pampered the best way we can.

Before you read, know that it is not only behind every successful man lies a woman, this goes either ways.

One thing i have always love people to do is to be thankful to those responsible for who they have become because it makes them feel important and want to do more.

At one point when you were single, there were some things you couldn't be bold of doing or owning, but the moment your spouse steps into your life things started turning around for good.

You started dressing nicely, you started buying jewelries, you started eating good food at the right time, you started making more money, you started speaking expensive English, people started seeing you as a responsible man/woman and not what you were before marriage, and so on.

If you think deeply, you will understand there is something that has changed in you ever since you got married even different from the ones i listed above, it might be small but has earned you change of level and the way people see you.

It is good to tell it to your spouse these things once in a while and be thankful to them as without them you might not have been what you have become.

Let them feel very important and special, let them feel the feeling you are feeling is just because they accepted to be with you till death do you apart.

If there is any home that is going through difficulty and you don't know how to start the reconciliation, just try any means you can to let your spouse know how important he/she is to you through expressing the rigorous transitions in your life because of his/her appearance in your life. This can settle any grudges couple may be having towards each other.

No matter how small or big, let them know and thank them for whatever it is, don't think what has changed in you is the limit they can cause in your life; being thankful can make them go even extra mile.

Being thankful can make great greater, don't ever overlook its enormous importance.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/11/tell-your-spouse-how-they-make-you.html

Just fill the space by being there for her, keep her company and make her feel at home with you. Don't jump to tell her your mind so fast, you wouldn't know when you will say it and you will be surprised at how she will grab your offer with her two hands and legs.

Congratulations!

This can only be achieved if you are not blogging just because of the money but passion, money will come at its own time.