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Well, he thinks that is the way he can curb the girl, children of this days, it is better you tell them reasons for not doing something and giving them solid example as backup up than using superpower to command them not to do what you don't want them to do. I think you know what oppression can cause? Oppression can make one fall easily for peer pressure, and as a girl that she is she will not want to be left behind. Teach your children to apply wisdom in everything they do, i think that is better.

Thank you all for your comments, i am very happy you took your time and data for this thread, without you there will be no bamisepeters.

You people should chill now, no name announced yet.

heykims, joey150, Big4wig, megareal, Ekakamba,
eezeribe, skywalker240, starboyflight thank you for your comments, i am grateful you all read and took your time to reply just the same way i took my time to reply iyanya.

With due respect, you shouldn't have taken this post personal, i never wrote something bad about him which i will never do to bring someone down. I just wish you could all understand i was playing with this post as i thought you will just laugh it off, i am sure even if iyanya sees this he will just laugh and that is even if he sees it.

We cannot be serious always. And to the person who said i want to copy LIB, well, copy and pasting is what you know 97% bloggers for as they are about the money, i have been running mine 2yrs+ doing my write-ups and events posts myself and i am not tired. I toil around to get topics and i only did this because it falls in my niche if not i swear i wouldn't.

Seriously, i appreciate your comments, i don't expect favorable comments all day because the ones not favourable are the ones that makes me want to do more to make those with the unfavorable comments to know i can also win them and more people to my side. The essence of blogging is to be viewed, i cannot publish a post and keep it to myself, nairaland is one big tool for any nigerian which i will forever be grateful to seun for creating this platform, lalasticlala and co for great moderation.

Your comments might look unfavorable but i sincerely cherish them, visiting this thread is your business as i will not be happy without your comment, many look forward to just one kind of this comment and they couldn't get it.

I believe in originality, trust me i will never write to pull someone down, i will never copy and paste because i started blogging with the aim of making people happy in their relationship through my counseling and to share in happiness, not for the money many are rushing into blogging for.

Your comments good or otherwise means a whole lot to me, i cherish you poeople, thank you for taking your time and data my bosses. I remain loyal... #proudwriter #proudcounsellor.

starboyflight:
This bamise peters na fool. Go to the village and act like nobody. Are we acting nollywood here? Wetin concern am self?

lol, thank you for calling me a fool, if that will solve his problem he should just try it. Thank you for your comment anyways, it mean much.

eezeribe:
bamisepeters, Drinking another person's panadol.

Minding your own Business requires no capital, just start it.

Aproko fan, you are the type that started blogging(sorry copying and pasting) because you heard about LIB.

you can check, i never copy nor paste, i can pick on anybody and write it is my business, i wouldn't say it is my post and not your business to read because i need people like you, in fact your comment means alot to me. Thank you much much.

From https://www.nairaland.com/3440998/iyanya-regret-not-getting-married

Dear Iyanya,

This is a response to the interview you granted the net posted on Dailypost.ng - Iyanya: I Regret Not Getting Married Before Becoming Famous.

I am one of your unknown fans right from the days of project fame and i always wish you more success in the music industry.

However, your statements in the above link got me seriously thinking of what you are saying as i am not really getting it.

... “I’m just trying to be patient and take my time and it’s even harder now that I’m famous because it’s really hard to find someone that truly cares for you when you are famous".

I admit it is not easy adding career to marriage. To some extent also, i agree with the fact that you "may" not get someone with the real intention.

If you had said you needed more time to enjoy bachelorhood, it is very understandable, but saying it will be an herculean task to get a lady that will truly care is just an excuse to paint women with different colours.

If you think you might not find a lady who will really care maybe in the city you are well known, you can go into the villages where you are not known and act like nobody if you are sure to be ready for marriage and don't want to fall into the hand of someone who knows who you are that may want to feast on your fame.

You as a man is claiming you need to watch very well as your fame could be the reason for a lady loving you. A popular female blogger i look up to is also still single just because she is afraid she might fall into the hand of gold digger, this is to show you that as there are bad eggs among women we also have rotten chickens among men.

I wouldn't have written this if you had followed the footstep of a don in the Nigeria music industry, a 33-year old, who said in an interview that “It’s not like I don’t know I am getting old but it will happen. You guys should not let me rush into it and rush out.

“I hardly have time. I will either have to concentrate on my family or work but hopefully next year.

That statement above shows he respects women and marriage not just by saying it like you did but being conspicuous through his words, no wonder he is a don.

Don't allow your new brother in the industry to shift the question "you want to discover mungo park?" to you before you realize you are on your own.

I know if you want to get married today you can as you cannot tell us you don't have a lady you hide under when it is cold apart from those we see you with in the news.

Don't sound as if there are no good women out there who can still make you more famous or add more money to your money if you don't want the ones from not-rich background who your money and fame can give you power over and someone you can also control.

I didn't write all i wrote above because i hate you, i am one of your best fans who want you to be greater than the "fame" you have achieved, but i cannot just wait to hear you say to her that day "they don't know how much i feel about you, i truly love you..." rather than you making us to start imagining how long it will take you to take a woman to the altar.

Well, we are ready to wait for you to make your choice, don't think we are in haste to see you marry as that is what those statements you said in the interview portrays.

Yours' Sincerely,
Bamisepeters.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/11/open-letter-to-iyanya-stop-giving.html

shumuel:
Op God bless you, and its so spot on that i have not much to say, i was just thinking of this last week and honestly its disheartening to hear ladies say such while they are all also praying to be mothers to boys; which would also make them MILs in future, mtcheeeew! May our ladies receive sense.

i am happy i am saying minds, but happier my write-ups are making frontpage, if not seun who made this forum possible and his subordinates lalasticlala and co i may not be able to speak to thousands of you. @ all, thank you for your comments, those comments means a lot to my growth, don't stop following me. #proudwriter

I often hear some ladies pray their mother-in-law or mother-in-law to-be should just die even before she is being legally married into the house.

Yes, i understand the fact that mother-in-laws are often the toughest rival to any woman due to the fact that they will be over protective of their child because women knows themselves, they know what they are capable of doing to their husband.

She will not want any woman from another home to come from no where to change the face of what she has built and even still building.

Because of many stories of mother-in-laws you have heard or your current experience, you then think your own will also be like that or your mother-in-law will always be like that forgetting humans are never the same and change is constant.

If humans were the same then you will also be like that to your son-in-law.

You are wishing them death forgetting the pains, stress, hardship, labour they went through, not just on the day of delivery but the ones done to get him to the point of you finding him attractive and man enough for you.

One thing i will love you to about think about is, will you be happy if another lady that is to be the woman of your brother pray such prayer towards your mother? If yes, you can continue.

Another thing is that, if you pray to have female children all through or you don't want any child whatsoever you are free, but if you will have a male child, will you be happy if your son's wife-to-be prays for your death before your son marries her?

Oh! You are thinking of just today not giving regards to the future?

Good for you, know that you will only enjoy the reward of your prayer only if she dies according to your prayer, if and only if she is not also begging God to dissolve the relationship with his son and any woman that may want to cause separation between her and her son or her children whatever the case may be.

She is never your rival until you start seeing her as one.

Yes, some women are bad, they make some ladies go through hell if they are lucky to be a mother-in-law, but why can't you pray instead for a mother-in-law that will love you like her daughter and not wife? Why not just pray for a change of heart if you are experiencing a tough moment with her already? Why not wish for the mother-in-law that will guide you to a successful relationship even before she departs from world?


If you can wish for evil to come to past not minding the emptiness this will cause in the life of the person you claim to love, then there is large possibility for you to pray for the positive one to also come to reality.

It is the wish of every good mother to reap the fruit of her labour. If your prayer is against that wish and if by chance it comes to reality you have just thrown a stone which will wait for you miles away.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/ladies-for-those-who-wish-their-mother.html

INTROVERT:

No local league player.

no be local technical adviser na.

M2, since 2years ago i have not changed anything and the battery is still better than the whole of iphone7.

elpedro:
Define @Bolded...

you don't need to hear more than you understand now.

Kingbuhari:
buhari is cowardice.... Tufiakwa

buhari loves cow and rice or what are you saying sir?

Rapmoney:
@Op, you are wasting your time.

Why don't you try talking to walls or stones? You would need lesser energy to do so

one thing i have come to realise is that despite the fact that many will not listen to a gospel, it is capable of changing just one life that will in turn change some others.

Sugarhugs:
We aff hear u sir.
On behalf of NAONL.

medal received. Thanks for listening.

bitchcrafts:
Well, we grow to learn and learn to grow

thank you for this, i always learn too, this is why i love it when i get criticised, it makes me better. #proudwriter

TroubleMaker47:
Oloshos would be like

you are indeed a troublemaker loool..

bitchcrafts:
Personally op, I think first with my dikc; youre not attractive until i have a peep into your package, then will i chase... After my dikc is noe satisfied, the brain cells take action to scrutinze the woman in the mirror. Eventually, it strikes me that the apparel a lady decides to rock doesnt usually spell out the personality... For Ive heard of whorish Muslim girls always rocking the Jilbab , plenty of them, me and my brothas mock many of them theyve caught in their nets and tossed around in our private talks . Personally, plenty moderate girls partly clad too. So,this law youre pasting aint Universal,what you see is not always what it is. Life has thought me to look beyond the packaging,You should too. Most of these girls posting semiclad pics actually do that to mock guys and their sheepish flapper when they start worshipping em like roman gods; you wont sniff their pants; They got bfs and working relationships, live a good life too. ..Not debunking the fact that oloshos and lowlifers abound among these lots tho. I hope u get my drift?

thank God you said life though "you" to look beyond appearance, many will have fallen before thinking the way you have stated it, i hope you know that?

Essentials1:
so you have a blog.... very interesting... Wouldn't you like to share ideas

Although you have not edited and made the blog design very well

Jesus! A blogger since 2014...i would love to share ideas, a tree doesn't make a forest.

A man who knows he can put another woman in the damily way will say this"

ayobase:
Loving someone conditionally at first might not necessarily mean the love will wax cold if the conditions eventually "wear out", because time, love and fun shared over the period would have shadowed the supposed conditions.

"

A woman who believes money can do anything will say this"

Laveda:
I don't know what you're trying to say, but from what I could point out.
You mean I shouldn't get attracted to a man due to certain Xteristics? How does that even work?

"

And a man who knows the truth and will always love to turn table around, always want to tell the woman he is in charge will say this "

Oahray:
Don't even try to contrast 'natural love' (whatever that means) and 'conditional love'.
Every form of love in the universe is conditional, whether it is selfish or selfless, real or imagined, loyal or fickle, natural or artificial, divine or human. There's always a reason, a condition either for it's birth or sustenance or both.
In reality, there's no such thing as unconditional love.

"

Dharniel:
pls tell them...

i always pray they hear, small time boys go dey disturb them which can even make their current good boy become jealous and cause problems...

Some men often wonder why they post pictures on their social networks and are not getting much likes like they desire, but if a lady post pictures exposing her neck alone she gets plenty likes let alone a sensitive part of her body.

Naturally, women are magnet, they attract men's attention. Check it, most of the likes they have gotten is from the men.

You post almost naked picture of yourself and you expect to be attracted to someone that will love you for the rest of your life.

First, often in this case, your appearance shows the kind of person you are and you will only attract the opposite sex of your kind, those who will only enter into you and come out without looking back.

Those who will tell you sweet things because that is what you want, deceit.
Those that have a responsible woman at home but wish to explore other ladies who are meant for experiments like the one you are portraying yourself to be.

Naturally, you are beautiful, you do not necessarily need to go naked before you are noticed, you are wonderfully made for a good and responsible man but you desire to look extravagant for someone else that will only make you feel useless after he had done what you called him to do through your unclothedness.

There are ways you still dress and you will look more than sexy, yet reserved that no one dear say nonsense to you.

It pays to be responsible and reserved, good life is beyond social media.

You will only be addressed the way you appear, and only those that looks like what your appearance speaks will target you to prey upon.

Stop deceiving yourself to get good men when your appearance is attracting the irresponsible ones.

It pays to look responsible and reserved.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/ladies-dont-make-yourself-target.html

juman:
Yoruba says king that was on the throne and there was peace, harmony and prosperity, that kind of king would never be forgotten. An example of great king.

But a king that during his time as king people became poorer, suffering pervaded everywhere, the birds are not sounding like birds, the rats are not sounding like rats, that kind of king would always be remembered as ordinary and bad king.

Most super kings of today are such class of bad and ordinary kings.

so it is now the obas fault that you killed all the birds and rats in your house abi? You just continue...

dadee007:
If you have a different view or explanation to this phenomenon, you can share here please. This is a forum for educated people...mostly.
I take this all back. I just saw your profile and I can see your prominence in the gaming and dating sections. It can only mean one thing- You probably are Juvenile...or young at heart. Your tirade is accepted.

Don't judge those that are prominent in those categories based on his comment, his own case is just like that,and bet me, he will soon understand.

If i get this amount of people visiting my blog per day, adsense is in trouble...

Many of us are attracted to so many things before entering into a relationship with someone.

Some of us by the appearance(which is common), some because of a particular part of the body and some are attracted to a particular behavior of that opposite gender.

I have heard so many people saying their partner must be extremely good looking (their definition of good looking, i don't know) yet, at the end of the day, you will be disappointed when you see that partner.

Well, beauty is in the hands of the beholder. I use to say there is a man for every woman no matter the condition of the physical appearance.

You need to set good standard for yourself. Good standard is not conditional when it comes to relationship. What is good for one goose might be bad for another goose in a relationship.

What drives someone else's boat may sink another person's boat in a relationship.

Natural love is better and last longer than conditional love.

If you love because of money, because of appearance, because of qualification, character or anything, just remember nothing last on earth.

If those things vanishes what will you fall back to?

It is good to wish for some qualities in your partner though, but don't raise too much expectations on them.

Remember, apart from relationship, there are so many of our dreams that don't come to reality no matter how hard we try, we take those ones that comes as fate and make good use of it.

What you wish for might not be the best for you, let nature decides when it comes to love.

What ever is yours naturally will look good to just you no matter the condition even when others are seeing something contrary.

If you say your friends' spouse are very good looking and you want yours to beat them, trust me, if yours didn't come naturally, the chances of having a great relationship with that partner is 50-50.

Remember, if you are either enjoying your relationship or otherwise it is you alone, it is no other person's business. They don't even want to know because you don't know what the experience is with their's.

Love "because of" leads to displeasure, discomfort etc. at the long run for many.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/conditional-love-diminish.html

To many men of this century no woman is loyal, not even the one in their home who they always say to that they trust, this keeps me wondering how they trusted their mother to be loyal to just their father(please no offense meant, think about it too).

Check it out, most men saying this are those who keep jumping from one woman to another, leaving their wife at home wanting.

Because a stranger allowed you to sleep with her now means all women are also like that, isn't it?

You should be ashamed of yourself to have slept with someone you barely know, and to have jumped to that hasty conclusion simply because one allowed you to lust in her.

Many women knows their man is cheating, yet, they keep it low pretending to know nothing.

The truth is, men cannot tolerate half of what woman are tolerating. Most of them while having you as their only man they still have it at the back of their mind you can wake up one day and start begging for forgiveness to have put another woman in the family way.

They might fight against it at the beginning but they just have to accept their fate. Meanwhile, you must not catch your woman being kissed on the hand by another man.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/if-you-think-no-woman-is-loyal-you-need.html

The funniest part is that, it is those men that are disloyal that will be looking for virgin to marry after they have entered all sizes and shapes.

Even after they disflowered the virgin girl all hopes of loyalty is lost immediately because they know what they do with other women.

I am not saying some woman don't cheat. As we have those that cheat, we have many that are 100% loyal. It is unfair to term all women disloyal.

The problem many men have this days is that they judge every woman base on appearance forgetting the greatest deceit comes from judging a book just by its cover.

If you still keep saying all women aren't loyal then you yourself should be checked, you get what you see because that is what you are. You can not be disloyal and expect a loyal woman when there are loyal men who deserved that good woman.

Chimaritoponcho:
apparently am not among d whitelisted customers
damn tin said am not qualified

apologies, thank you for choosing Airtel.