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OneKinGuy:
Yes
https://pahe.li/you-season-1-complete-web-hd-720p/

nani667:
Time to finish this ⬇️⬇️⬇️

OneKinGuy:
Stranger things Season 4 part 1
https://mega.nz/folder/VfkXFYQK#74PWUzH34YERa46XmSkYUQ

Gidah:
If you like breaking bad it would really interest you in watching better call saul it would make you appreciate the genius or Vince Gilligan and Peter Gould.it tells all the story before Walter white start cooking and how Jimmy become saul

NLElder:
First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.

I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.

The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no.

The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.

We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .

All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.

After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.

I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills.

So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.

So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it.

I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."

After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..

All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.

She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again.

So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.

The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything.

We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.

Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace.

Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.

Foreigna2:
The South East PDP is fool of cowards and politically dumb leaders.
Say what you will about Rochas, he will never pull out.

KingKO22:
Peter Obi is a coward, shameless and a man with zero integrity . from APGA to PDP to where now

His miscreants supporters are the most pathetic dimwits ever to engage online.

Reno has said it all.


If Obi witness half of what Tinubu has faces and overcomed in politics he would have decamped to over 20 political parties by now.



Respect to Tinubu for maintaining only a political structure since inception. He is truly a leader with principles not all this baby desperate politicians

tayo60:
Breast cancer no dey happen to men. Na woman d thing dey do most

Xwizard:
I no mind self

Nebulax:
Imagine oo. The annoying part is some of them have kissed goodbye to Living in SE. I have many of them as friends.

When Ipob have destroyed where to call home. Even before Ipob self, there must be one wicked village Aunties or uncles which they believe would slow down their progress in life

VictorUSA:
This was the message I sent to my uncle who lives in America and he sent me just N30,000.

"Good morning uncle...I first of all appreciate your previous assistance.But I want to tell you that it's not enough.I'm 19 and jobless, but I really need money.I would appreciate anything that comes from you."

Helpannonymous:
This man style of politics is different , single handedly lead a new party and will surely charge percentage per candidate. 4 years o, He will end up earning than PDP Party chairman because this is a one on one deal, Very smart man.

BabaIbo:
Hmmm, thank you for the info anyway.

Are you a Catholic?

lizychimamanda:
yea, my man is 5f8 and I am 6f3, I'm very cool with it.

BabaIbo:
But there prayers worked for me when I was a member.
Although I was a bit skeptical about them, but I had it in mind that everything I'm doing is between me and God and I ensure I understood every words in their prayer book before I say it.

The only issue I have with the group is the timing of their prayer, which is midnight when someone is supposed to be sleeping/resting for another day.

naheem8307:
This topic just reminisces my thought of worries over my girl friend whom I have at heart to become my life partner.. At the beginning of our relationship, she actually did opened up to me of her past relationship that she has had just a man in her life and she only had conjugal with him twice which was the same guy who deflowered her regrettably, but that was never an issue anyways. I did the same by opening up to her too "Vice Versa" since we are engaged and about to get married anytime soon.
To cut the story short, recently she happens to visit me at my place and one way or the other, we slipped from the vow we had together not to mate until after marriage but the obvious happened. To my greatest surprise, I realized the "V" was too widen and not tighten as supposed, I was confused and she immediately saw the picture of disaffection of the outcome glaring on my face, I couldn't held it but to ask her several questions about the statement of her past sexual life as narrated sometime ago if indeed it was the real account of her past or am being framed into a deceitful story tale, but she insisted it was the true story. I can remember she sworn with the holy book on two occasion in order to buttress her confession, though that was done at own will..

So the question here is and this is mainly to the medical expert on this forum for more enlightenment and advice, what could be the cause of such a change in her body ? or was there something she is hiding about her past " may be she is a kind of wayward type unknowingly to me which imply to her current status ? Or could there be anything like "V" tear or cut as align with the topic ? despite the fact she has never giving birth before.

A very good response will really help a brother because our relationship has never remain the same afterwas and to be frank I am thinking of other options lately.

BabaIbo:
If I may ask, why did you say that?

Gspotlicker:
where were you 20 years ago when your partner bought it for ₦3

Slynation:
Yea I should have, But I wasn't in Ifite then, I don't have first hand information about it...

Gottiii:
I still can’t believe my elder brother is planning to send me a Es330 (2006) from the United States.

I have told him several times i can’t drive such car, I am already imagining the look of people when they see me. I mean people wey dey my area. People for area know say I be big boy.

I don tell am several times say I no need car wey dey less than yr 2017. The money dey but very stingy. I sure say na the wife dey give am wrong advice.

The car clean sha, full option but below my level. I go just sell am.

Abeg, make una advice me.

Slynation:
It is well...And some idiots will still come out to say it's Fulani herdsmen/DSS, keep applauding evil until a bullet drop on your dump skull...A once peaceful state has been turned into a war zone

I was even surprised there was no report on the bloody deadly attack on what happened in Ifite Awka last week on NL...

JONSYN7154:
Am from Benue and I married an Igbo Lady and I can confidently tell you that they are awesomely GOOD.

Samakus:
Christ Holy Church International.


Normal member

BabaIbo:
Catholic, a worshipper...
I used to be a legionary, divine mercy member, precious blood of Jesus Christ member, onetime usher and chorister but now I'm just a worshiper(laity member).

Seek for salvation the way you can genuinely without committing sin or going astray.

Pharaohny:
Yourr PAPA NAAAAH