falconey:


I'm fascinated by your objectivity but find the "you wasted one year of her life screwing her for fun" preposterous considering she was doing the same when she was cheating on him. moreover screwing her was a mutual agreement.

hypothetically, do you consider wasting years of guys in friend zone?

It was a mutual agreement with an ulterior motive. Letting her go on the ground of cheating early enough could have taught her a lesson and brought her back to her senses thus, making her a better person.

Why do we always choose the option of helping people spoil their lives more cos they choose that path?

I don't friend zone guys neither do I believe in the long game of chasing. If I will date you, I'd date you and if I won't, I'd let you know by making it very clear.

Yes, I consider it wasting of years.

Some guys however, are way to obstinate that they walk into the friend zone themselves. Lucky enough for them still, I don't know how to keep friends...I'd say I almost do not have any. I could start on a fantastic note with someone and before you know it, I'm back into my shell. They won't last long enough in the zone

Greenbullet:
the reason you speak like this is because you are a lady and you weren't the one cheated on,you don't know how it feels,the pain,the anger,the disappointment, made me almost go crazy but I wanted to revenge and this vengeance was beautiful, I loved it,my ex was bleeping around, and planning to settle down with me while still bleeping, DO YOU EXPECT ME TO PLAY THE FOOL? ,I just considered myself one of her bleepers and did it for close to one year .FINISH,my new bae always understood, she even liked the lesson given to the ex,she said that's the attitude of most girls ,they think they can play smart by hoping to one dick to another and having one mumu somewhere who will take them like that.

Issorite.

Even though you did not answer my question.

I hope she has the courage to tell you whatever you have done wrong to your face and not 'always understand'

It's your boat.

Greenbullet:

am not callous,i she just got served,I told my new gf after and we laughed it off because she knew who she was dating.

The picture is clear now. She actually laughed at the kind of treatment meted out to a fellow lady...speaks a lot.

I want to believe you+your girlfriend have never cheated in any of your relationships.


One good year!

Diiverexii:
proudly MFM!!!

I rep my church

I thought it should 'proudly christian'
'I rep Christ'


I thought wrong.

My father wee just disown me

Greenbullet:
the truth is ladies will always cheat but it takes a smart guy to catch her,I caught one of my bae like that cheating,I didn't tell her,I just went to get a good and better bar,I kept gbenshing her for up to one year,I hardly gave her any money,and then she asked me ,why I ain't giving her any money like before,I told her I had a new bar since up to 1 year,she wanted to form hurt,na I just show the slut evidence, she be wan beg ,I just told her ,sorry,I love my new bar,the break up no be here oooo,d gal even attacked my new bar with her friends, kept disturbing she will kill me and herself but at the end of the day,WHO SHE HELP.

That's callous of you.

It's not a taboo if you quietly left her alone the moment you caught her cheating. You wasted one year of her life screwing her for fun.

She cheated on you, you got someone else and kept screwing her. What makes you different for her? You also cheated on your new found love and let's assume she caught you as well and decided to keep giving you hope while she plans her marriage to another dude, would you still be feeling fly?

It all depend on some things.

1. Where is his location? You can't be living in places like Abuja and expect to survive on 50k. It's almost not enough for one person in a month. But for places like Jos, you'd even save if you are prudent enough

2. How much would he be spending on transport fare

3. Do I also have a source of income? Even if it's just 20k minus transport fare

At least, 50+20 = 70

4. Is he ready to work hard/smart? Can we grow together? Will he keep pulling me down while I try to go further? Some people are comfortable with managing. (I need to see prospect, determination, ambition and readiness)

What will I do?

The shoe is too big for me, it doesn't fit

tosyne2much:
With due respect, your comment is faulted ma... To be very candid, what do women really want after native, customary, constitutional and constitutional laws were made to protect women from harm and assault in the society .. . Also, in the place of work, women enjoy certain rights and privileges for having kitty-cats which men will never have the privilege to enjoy

The reason behind this myopic fight for equality is selective because most women naturally can't withstand the amount of strength, power and perseverance needed to attain greatness yet they want to attain the same height with just little effort. Things don't work that way

You want equality whereby women will be allowed to go to the war front to wrestle with boko haram shey? You must be a joker

The laws are there but they are ineffective. The laws only protect the interest of the men in the women... Privileges in places of work? You talk as if u don't know what they do to earn them most times

How comes war front is all you guys use as a point? Ladies have been signing up for the armed forces, so if she's willing to go fight, by all means.

Ah! Y'all should not blame the lady.
Only her knows what she is passing through.

She shouldn't bleach her skin, though. She should learn to love and accept herself before first.

YorubaDemon:
you talked about inheritance not your own money, if its your own its your own but your fathers money cant fall into the hands of the in-laws, thats why the male kids are prioritized, from kings to even normal human beings all over the world thats the way

i was expecting that, you feminist like berlynn are always running to issues of rape and human trafficking as the core purposes meanwhile we both know that both men and women are raped and trafficked

in the bible why wasn't samuel sent to anoint a female queen why is there no female profhet? or why are women banned from entering the temple where The tabernacle is kept?

we are not equal , we were never made to be equals

This is the hypocrisy of we mortals.
Can we leave the Bible out of this?
You said male child should be priotized over me because I'm a female and whatever given to me would fall into the hands of my in-laws, right?

But it's right for my family to collect from my in laws, it's okay for them to call me and bug me over their kids school fees, it's cruel if my husband decides not to help any of them when his help is needed. Abi? I'm the only link and I'm not that valuable to them.

Why did God tear the cloth used to cover the temple when he died?

Yes both male and females get raped. Males get rapped more by men these days. Females get rapped by then. Innocent young girls are being kidnapped daily and sold into prostitution, they are being forced into marriage, parents use them as way out of poverty

Truth is arguing with you over this is a futile effort, your reasoning is shocking and alarming. Where do I even start from?

YorubaDemon:


even in the bible men were valued more than women my dear thats the order of life forget that line, its like a goat saying that he wants to eat meat

my dear there is a good reason why inheritance isn't given to women and thats because it will fall into the hands of her husband who is from another family

those are the weak men that bbmpin was talking about, no man will want a woman to run his home for him

if you read about the idea of feminism, its about women wanting to be equal with men generally thats the idea

I'm stunned!

But if I work and earn my money, my family can accept it. They can take gifts from my husband.

Did u just mention that the Bible value men more than women? I'm sure you'd back up the issue of rape including marital rape, human trafficking and domestic abuse with the Bible as well.

I know the idea. I understand the concept. It's equality! You are human so am I.

olaric:


Alright I throw in the towel!

Thanchuu

Gasu:


lol.. J-town respect..
Actually telemundo is fun to watch if u follow up the programs..
Nice dp..

Yes, boss. Respect!
Thanks!

It's no fun for me. I watched one out of boredom and I almost sank into depression. Jeez! They can cry like no tomorrow. No suspense, extremely dull, story line is often the same and painfully unrealistic no humour. Even when they try to infuse action, it's still the dull, slow and programmed kind of action.

Just tears and love

Give me movies like person of interest, crack, elementary, the mentalist, house of cards, fast and furious, annimation, I love me some black american movies, I can go on and on

thesuave10:


Telemundo deceiving couples since 1894

It's hard enough to find love. I don't want ideas and dreams that do not exist.

I want to have peace of mind in the simple love I sincererity I get from a hrt that truly beats for me. Not constant heartache of what he 'ought' to do if I behave in a particular manner. I mean expecting him to kiss me after I yelled at him... Unrealistic expectations

YorubaDemon:
Beamborla what do you have to say about feminism?

What do I have to say about feminism.

...feminism wouldn't be a problem today if women have not been repressed back to back from time immemorial. Feminism seek to liberate women from the yoke placed on them by the society... Yes, women are part of the problem.

I can go on and on but one thing I have to say is that any man who is not a misogyn or a potential one wouldn't feel threatened by the movement.

Women are not asking to be the head, they are simply asking to be treated equally. Since the society won't take equity as an option. Don't deny me a job because of my virgina, don't deny me a promotion I deserve because men would be under my control... don't place limitations on me because of my gender. Don't count me out of my inheritance because I'm a lady, don't think of me as less a child because I don't own a dick.

Moreover, guys these days want a woman who is independent, support the family financially, massage his ego, run the home seamlessly without a voice of her own...kolewerk. You can't eat your cake and still have it.

If you can't give equality, give equity.

I however do not have to agree with all of their ideologies to identify with them.

Presh900:
I admire ur intelligent arguments

I hope your signature is detached from your statement.

Thank you

olaric:


Only ladies watch it just like Telemundo

Oh com'on!

This is just like a sitcom... Don't ruin the fun, pls.
I don't do telemundos myself... they irritate the living out of me

'You like'

Originalsly:
You should've asked him why... and listen to the ignorance he would be spitting! Shouldn't feel bad about such comments... it just showed how shallow he is. That's the type of guy that travels abroad and proudly marry those lazy sloppy worn out monsters White or close to White women!

Feel bad? Far from it!

I just find it funny that my skin is better when it's getting lighter. He's not the first to make such comments... I've seen and heard people(both male and female) make such comments to other ladies.

All these goes a long way to show that the society favours the light skin over dark skin. Hence, the desire to fit in and be accepted push ladies into bleaching their skin.

Miggs:
Look at this one.TACKLE THE PERFECT POINTS I MADE IN MY POST AND QUIT THE DIVERTIONARY TACTICS.IT WONT WORK ON ME.In your earlier posts on this thread,you were trying to give the impression Nigerian men were the root cause of Nigerian women bleaching their skins and i quickly corrected your deeply flawed assertions.I can see your arrogance will never let you admit your wrong.Afterall,this is a public forum were individuals posts are readily challenged.Think about that before pulling facts out of your ass_ next time

And you are accusing me of arrogance, very funny.

You called your point perfect?
You are still asking me to tackle it, read my reply again.

I guess you expect me to be rude just like your are, sorry, I've got manners. I don't go about insulting people to prove a 'perfect' point.

Yes, Nigerian men are part of the problem. Majority of them prefer light skin to dark skin.

You reffered to me as this one, pls, stay off my mention.

Originalsly:
Not contradicting! Too many men (doesn't mean most men) prefer light skin .... natural light skin.... not bleached skin...for a long term relationship. If most men were into bleached skin then most of the bleached women would've been already married. Bleached out single women are more likely not to be married than dark women. On health issues... most of the women do not care... preaching h in one ear it goes out the other until it is too late. E.g... they always... always want to find the cream/lotion that stops their face from breaking out... when the root of that problem is the poisons in the bleaching creams that the body is forcing out thru the pores of the face. Women who are proud of themselves... have self confidence... do not bleach...they are comfortable in the skin they were born with...and that is the root of the bleaching problem.... too many women lacking self esteem.

You've spoken well and yes you have a point. I do understand your point of view. I'm more particular about what makes them bleach. And yes, if the benefit does not outweigh the negative effect, bleaching wouldn't be as common as it is today.

Mind you, I'm dark skinned with two fair skin sisters. Yet, I love my skin I wouldn't trade it for a fair skin...ever. My skin has been used to insult me, albeit jokingly and it has earned me praises as well.

That said, let me share my most recent experience with you. Just this evening, a friend saw me and was like Kaduna weather is good for u. I asked how, He said your skin looks lighter so I asked if my skin getting lighter is a good thing and he replied 'yes'.

I've had many of this conversation. Any time I travel out of Kaduna, I get lots and lots of such comment

Miggs:
BULLSHHHIIITT!!When will women ever take responsibility for their actions?.Now,get this into your skull:MEN's CONCEPT OF BEAUTY DEPENDS ON WHATEVER FORM OF LOOK WOMEN DECIDE TO PRESENT TO MEN.FAIR O,DARK O,SHORT HAIR O,LONG HAIR,BLACK HAIR,BLONDE HAIR,BLUE HAIR,RED HAIR,LONG NAILS,SHORT NAILS ETC.MEN HAVE NO POWER ON HOW WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO LOOK.THAT IS THE SOLE PRESERVE OF WOMEN.WOMEN ARE THE ONES WHO PRESSURE OTHER WOMEN TO BLEACH THEIR SKINS.WOMEN POSSESS THE POWER AND CONTROL OVER OTHER WOMEN.THESAME WAY THEY PRESSURE OTHER WOMEN TO WEAR WEAVES,SHAVE THEIR LEGS,WEAR CERTAIN CLOTHES,SHOES ETC.No woman wants to be ostracized from their social group so they usually fall in line with what other women desire.Women,quit blaming men for your insecurities and deficiencies.Enough is enough

I don't know how you do it, but writing in caps gives the impression that you are yelling at me. That said, I didn't force my opinion on you hence, you shouldn't do that to me so telling me to get whatever you've written into my skull then switching to all CAPs is rude, mister. We are not quarreling.

We have different views, Fine! I'm sure you can present it like a 21st century being.

I didn't hinge it on men alone, I included the society. You've got a point but what you yelled at me up there is often 'mere words of mouth' just like the cliche 'black is beautiful'.

The bullshit is not necessary as well.

Bizibi:
abeg,I am one of those men that don't fancy gals that whiten their skin.you write as if it is all men that love fair ladies.

Sir, I didn't say anything about all men liking fair skin ladies. A good number of them do.

I mentioned the society as well

Yes, men don't like women who bleach their skin but majority would choose a fair skin over a dark skin.

Originalsly:
I am fair to the ones bleaching to be fair! Inferiority complex because they think their dark skin is unattractive to men.... and light skin would make them more acceptable to a good number of men and the society. For short time purposes... yes.. bleaching can be an advantage... especially for short term relationships when men dive in in the dark of nite and dash out before sunrise!

You mentioned earlier that the society and too many men prefer light skin, now you are saying that they bleach bleach because they think their skin is unattractive to men and light skin would make them more acceptable to a good number of men and the society. Ain't you contradicting yourself.

Considering the health implication, yet, 4 out of 10 dark skin ladies bleach their skin, it shows that bleaching their skin actually work for them way beyond what you wrote above.

If we want to curb the art of bleaching, I don't think attacking those who engage in the act would solve the problem. We should rather treat the issue from the root... this I however doubt if it can be achieved.

idu1:




And i am still looking for my very dark skin future wife.

I like light skin girls not those that bleach.

I hate them.

'I like light skin girls' this is one of the reasons why ladies bleach.

I hope you are aware that bleaching can be so impeccably done that you wouldn't even see any tracer of bleaching.

Originalsly:
I do agree that in our society that too many men in reality go for fair skin.... but natural fair skin..... not bleached skin. Bleached girls may have the edge as strippers, hookers or side chicks..... but most men would not introduce a bleached out woman to their family. Too many women suffer from inferiority complex.... bleach and bleach away their beauty and chances of attracting husband material.

Lol...you do agree that our society and too many men go for the fair skin, yet you blame ladies who bleach for wanting to fall in the accepted category?

You call it inferiority complex because they just want to met the standard of a good number of the opposite sex and the society?

You sir, are not being fair. You mean once a lady bleaches, she's only good as a hooker, stripper, side chick and the rest of them

If the society didn't place so much preference over a particular skin color, the need to bleach might not even arise in the first place.

CAPSLOCKED:





AFRICANS ARE HYPOCRITES... TODAY, YESTERDAY, AND ALWAYS.

It's sad!
It pains me more that we always refuse to admit it.

We insult people who bleach while we drool over fair skin when we are aware that in our part of the world, the god of melanie is highly pleased with us.

At least, we should stop castigating people who bleach their skin. They are very much aware of the health implications attached to it yet, majority of ladies are killing the melanie in their skin. Simply means, there is more to it.

Beauty in our part of the world is somewhat synonymous to a fair skin even though our words of mouth differs

Lsofdk:

i don't agree with the bolded. you can't speak for majority of the male folks.

I'm not speaking for them. It's my observation.

It's not a flawed one

They bleach because black is beautiful only in words and not action. People, society and majority of men have a painful affinity for the fair skin.

Acceptance is one of the basic and important pshycological needs of humans which can not be overlooked.

H

steppin:

Molesting someone made your day? Nairaland get weirdos walahi.

What would you have me do?

Mourn for the thieves or curse karma?
They went looking for what they got.

This just made my day