@OSEREKA

Them dey beat but i sure say people wey like themselves nor dey beat. For eaxample you leave with your partner in the same house when you beat her finish and she calls the cop, who them go send out in the cold to make peace, na you. If she decides to press charges nko, na u go take your head carry all those unnecesary stress ba! unlike for Abuja wey u dey, when you beat her finish you go throw her out and there is nothing she can do about it. You go even go report her to her parents say she nor get respect and them go join you scold her, no be so!

My irrelevant point being, "its a WOMANS' world out there, but a MANS' world in our beloveth Africa."

But that not withstanding domestic voilence (against women or men) should not be encouraged anywhere in the world.

cant you guys take a little slap for love eh!!! hot blooded naija men

@hype am not worried at all. Its just for laughs. Like you rightly said missing my company or for sake whichever way its fine.

nothing wrong, as long as they are both of age and perfectly understand one another.

WILL DEFINATELY SLAP HIM BACK.

@B-BOY,

You go beat her for UK abi you go wait to come naija first? which one? if you catch my drift!

baby gal,

So sorry for your pain. I dont think its a naija thing. There are men in naija here who show emotions, love and miss their wives. Where in devil's name did he come up with such CULTURE. Your husband am afraid is a very sad person. He did not get a lot of love growing up hence he cannot give nor receive love which he knows absolutely nothing about.

Call me a story teller or not, i dated a guy like him once in london. He was just too stonecold! at first we had a lot of fun, very fun loving guy until later. I left his sorry ass and that was when he broke down he wept like a baby, infact i was too shocked, could not believe my eyes. MR. STONECOLD. He begged me for almost a year. I didnt go back cuz i know he wouldnt change, he needed HELP.

In your case babes, you are married, leaving him is not an option cuz you took an oath "for better for worse" i believe and you have kids to consider. He must love you somewhere and somehow in his heart. He just cannot express himself and you cannot really blame him. The damage had been done before he ever met you. He needs to see a psychologist to help him deal with this feelings. Its deeper than you think trust me. My ex has been seeeing one for a while now.

If you beleive in Jesus Christ, Call on him on this issue ok, you need to help your man and save your marriage. Pray hard. Good luck sis!

@OSEREKA, haba! a bottle of malt in Abuja?? or generally? i beg broda gve Abj galz more credit now haba!!!!! i definately do not agree with you on this o! ABJ GALZ are not that cheap, that i can tell you cuz i have met serious babes in that town and its not malt they are drinking but crystal LOL

Cant imagine a guy telling me that i would definately leave him for that statement. Thats too much info!!!!!!!!!!!! we all dont get settled with the love of our lives though but you dare not mention such rubbish.

well if you put it like that. Just trying to help a brother here. I cant believe he is yet to meet decent naija gals in london. A thousand and one of those decent galz are out there saying they are no decent guys in london. Wish i could do some match making!!!!

@Dremoney, who made you the judge thats his own stupid thing he did for love!!!!! dont see how stupid it is anyway if you catch my drift.

I give Kuddos to Dora Akinyuli NAFDAC chair person in Naija. She has done well at least compared to those that were in that office before her. I still think there is more to be done. Do you guys know what i saw yesterday, God am so irritated! i saw people carrying meat into the boot of a car, unwrapped, uncovered, these men are butchers going to the market to sell the meat for christ sake. There were these lot standing around them too carrying the meat like babies in their arms, running after moving vehicles in the street hawking. Dirty looking men. I was too shocked to speak honestly. I wish NAFDAC can come hard on these butchers and the resturants around Lagos. They would probably buy these kind of meat cuz it would be cheaper for them. NAFDAC should not concentrate only on drugs and water. We need help fast.

@topetope,

If you are not intimate with her yet, then whats the biggie? from what you said above its like you are still asking her out. Fine, just dont bother with her again now that you know her type. Dont go through with it and later you wouldnt be able to cope. iTs just the way some girls are there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

@Reverend,

I personally think East london is like those gals u described above. Even the white galz around there are like that. Its a way of life there so i guess the naija galz there blended well. I stayed in south east for some years, and i must tell you i met the opposite of what you just described. I have very decent naija gal friends in North and even west london. Try those areas am sure you will meet the decent ones. Dont get me wrong, am not saying Naija galz are otherwise am just pointing you to the right direction.

@OBY,

Nicely put.

The shaving bit, is that considered romantic?? i do that too, never thought otherwise!!! that means am romantic too then