Do not try to date her or any thing of that nature. You guys are young, you should not be thinking about such now. Focus on better things like your education there would be many more babes to come as you grow older. A relationship now will just be useless, you would look back some day and laugh especially the girl, she might be hurt forever. Avoid her to help herself. You might say am old school o! i do not care, just talking from experience.

Being poor is definately not an excuse to be dirty. Its ridiculous, i dont care if the conductor has only two shirts, he should practice wash and wear. Transporters make enough money. They can afford to buy water. If they cant then , they shouldnt bother with the job. They should think about the comfort of their customers first.

@jenny2007, babes i feel you. Am on my way to Abuja definately. If i spend a year in this town i probably might contact something. I went to surulere sometime last week and the whole place was stinking, over flowing cutters!!! its so terrible i cant live there, God help me. In abuja its totally different thats if you stay in town o! dunno about the satellite towns though.I love that city!!! its the place to be in Naija. You get good quality life. But like El-Rufai (minister of Abuja) says, "if you are not gainfully employed, Abuja is not the place for you". You have to plan well before you move there.

A friend just sent this mail to me. Thought it would be nice to share. I think its true though men do change, i have always wondered why, is that they get bored or they just stop loving you? really do not know.


HOW MEN CHANGE


The Love Word:
After 6 weeks: I looo-ve you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: GOD, if I didn't love you, then why did I marry you?

Back from Work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
After 6 months: I'm BACK!!
After 6 years: Have you cooked yet?

Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
After 6 months: Here, it's for you.
After 6 years: ANSWER THE PHONE DAM*T!!

Cooking:
After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
After 6 months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
After 6 years: EBA AGAIN??

New Dress:

After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
After 6 months: You bought a new dress again?
After 6 years: How much did THAT cost me?

TV:
After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
After 6 months: I like this movie.
After 6 years: I'm going to watch MAN U play, if you're not in the
mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself!

Making LOVE:
After 6 weeks: Baby, I want you tonight?
After 6 months: Let’s make another baby, my mother just called!!!
After 6 years: Please MOVE over to your side, I'm suffocating here!!!!

Babes, 6guys! are you sure? why are you worried then i think they are more or you probably slept with the 6 at the same time. Get real babes!!

Just kidding!!! you will find love definately, the more experienced you are in that field the more your chances of finding true love (spoken like our dear wa do mi)

@aisha2, will never mess with you men!!!!devious!!!!

If they are both in love, there is no big deal they should get married but if otherwise, please she should not bother. Like was rightly said above after getting the security and stability from this older guy, then what? she would probably get bored and then start looking for something or someone else. She should try and date this man first for a while before jumping off to marry him, she should visit him in the states get to know what he does for a living, how he lives his life, what happened between him and his ex etc. The states with all its glory can be a very God forsaken place too. She should think hard, when you are with the wrong man everything shuts down completely. She should use her HEAD.

@puker,

When and how did i call u mugu?? except you are the friend waxxy was talking about then. Are you?

You dont want to leave her, then you have to forgive her and yourself and forget the whole thing by thinking of her good parts only. You are both guilty of the same sin, she has confessed and asked for forgiveness, you havent so who is more repentant here?? We all sin everyday and we ask God for forgiveness and he does immediately. Why then cant you forgive a fellow being? If you donot forgive, God cannot forgive you too. Thats the way it works. Love holds no grudge, if you truely love her, then you know what to do.

Just take your time and work it out. People have gone through worse things. Your love can survive the test of time if only you both try and work at it. Good luck mate!!!

@Waxxy, i had been dealt with severally before this nice guy came around(read through the thread). I guess i was already hardened by the time he came. That was payback to the male folk for me. This mate of yours, he has to share this treat to my end o! i think i deserve that kind of Alhaji Bringy-Bringy now o! to make up for all that i have lost to men.


Just remembered the most stupid of all the things i ever did, remember my ex Boyfriend (the one that was out of job and broke:read thru thread) he came to me after awhile and asked if he could use my addy for one dodgy credit card thingy, being the Mumu that i was, i agreed o! the deal went through and he got some thousands of pounds and guess what, he didnt give me a PENNY and I NEVER ASKED. MY ADDRESS got BLACKLISTED. How stupid can one be!!!!!!!! people sell their addy for such dodgy deals for large sums of money but i gave mine free of charge all for LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Men! guys can take advantage,

@Waxxy,

A guy(a very good guy) did exactly that(what you did) for me once when i was in school. I really felt sorry for him in his own case, he didnt get over me that easy. Thank God he is married now. I really tried to love him but i just couldnt. Shit happens!

Lets not forget that there are some guys out there who are always demanding from their babes. Its not just a BABE thing. Guys do it too. I have met a couple, and they have perfected the act of asking. Bunch of shameless loosers!!! not a single male pride.

Some girls just expect certain standards from their men and nothing else.e.g they donot see any reason why their man will not pay for their cab fare when she comes to see him, take her to the cinema sometimes, eat out and the like. Those i think are some essential things to spice up the relationship. Recharge card could come up occasionally but when it becomes an everyday thing, then its a problem. Men should learn to be MEN take responsibilities not Looking for NICE GALZ that wont accept your gift or take anything from you.CHEAPSKATE!!

@puker, contact you, why? for what? explain better then maybe i would ok.

@Waxxy, keep us posted on this guy o! e be like say na state mugu e be O!!! haba some of us done wise up now, why has he not learnt from his mistakes.

@sonye, why were you doing those things? thats weird! really crazy. I hope you never ever do them again. It was so crude and cruel.

oh yeah!!!!! Tell me about it.

I donot think telling lies to your partner is a good thing no matter the situation. I used to do that but now, i think am matured enough to know better. Tell the truth always. thats my best quality according to my boyfriend and other friends. No matter what, i will speak my mind. Say you go out with anorther guy/babe for a drink and your boyfriend/galfriend calls, asking where you are, why lie? i believe you only lie when you have bad motives. if he/she cannot trust you, then you should not be together. I know some just lie simply because they cannot really express themselves. @Poster, i would say, make her comfortable to tell you anything and everything. Beign economical with the truth is non disclosure which is also, not telling the whole truth. Once she is comfortable with you, you will be better friends.

@lobinoxese(What a Name), same goes for you. It seems you are just marking time with this gal, u seemed resigned to fate. If you are not happy in a relationship try to sort things out or you let go ok. Its not MARRIAGE!!!

I would say it brings abouth both.( LOVE AND LUST). Infact in this world that we live in BEAUTY IS EVERYTHING. People treat beautiful people differently. They are more respected, when it comes to getting favours, beauty comes to play too. Infact i cant give an example where it does not. Yeah, ONLY IN THE SIGHT OF GOD ALMIGHTY WHO MADE US ALL IN HIS OWN IMAGE AND LIKENESS. With human beigns, no luck u have to be beautiful for doors to open for you.

@dremoney,

You have been quiet. Did you go somewhere? WELCOME BACK!!!! Licking pussy na some boys food for naija, really!!!! are you one of those? just curious

Am not falling in love with waxxy's friend o! but e for nor bad to get that kind treat, who nor like beta thing.

Maybe she is hiding something maybe she is not. You just have to talk to her about how her lies are affecting you thats all. If she sees the damage she is doing to her relationship she just might stop. As for calling you, you did say she is a student right!!!! Where do you expect her to get the money from? Keep doing the calling, it doesnt really matter who calls, the most important thing is that you communicate regularly. there are cheaper ways of communicating, e-mails. Try that. hook up on line and chat. One hour maybe 100 naira.
Am sure by the time she leaves school she would know how it is to be left with the burden of making all the calls. Give her time.

Sorry for my mistake above, "ITS NOT A MOVIE, ITS IN SERIES"

Does anyone here watch ROME? its not a movies its in series. I need to know if there is a season three. I have seen 1 & 2. I so love it. Pls if its out or yet to be i need to know. my days are boring without Rome. If you do not watch it, pls do. Old roman history told in a different way from our history books.

My guy, licking her pussy is not unafrican what do you mean

@Waxxy, who be dis friend o! very lucky gal. Dunno why boys like that end up with foolish girls. No thank you, after all that gift. Thats a shame. If i were him i would have collected my gifts back LOL

I think she likes you too. She just wants time to clear other issues. Give her time dont stop visiting, just carry on like she has said yes, she will come around sooner or later.

"Without the stress indeed." Never knew being a boyfriend was stressful. You sound like one who prefers being a "lover" just chop and clean mouth no hassles!!!!!!!!!!!

MR. Man,

she only wants to be sure you are man enough to take care of a family just in case the relationship leads there thats all. Dont be scared she is a sensible one. Take it easy ok.

NOPE!!!!!!!!!!! not a chance.

A boy friend is a male that is a friend. You hang out with, gist and generally have a laugh. While a lover means someone male/female that you are having sexual relations with.